Are you really ready to be married, seriously?

[HoneySkin 0]

Hey K1 guys. This may sound serious and i hate drama sometimes, but are you guys really ready to be married as in seriously? How can you say that you are ready to be married? This will be my first time to be married and honestly, i am scared and nervous to death..do you feel the same?

[PingLocalHostess 1]

I thought about that a million times. I do have fears and they arent unfounded. But i dont fear the idea of getting married to my fiance, i was ready the moment i said Yes. Otherwise, i wouldnt have agreed to marry him. I came to realize its the changes and complications that will come after marriage that makes me nervous. Plus, i have to go halfway around the world to be with him makes it even more scary. But Im up for the challenge.

*sigh* I have to learn how to cook.... wash my clothes (his too).... wash the dishes...... CHORES . There are so many things i take for granted in here.

[adiiann 163]

Hey K1 guys. This may sound serious and i hate drama sometimes, but are you guys really ready to be married as in seriously? How can you say that you are ready to be married? This will be my first time to be married and honestly, i am scared and nervous to death..do you feel the same?

You will not let your self get engage in the first place if you are not ready. Being ready means you accept not just the better but also the worst scenario of married life. There are several reasons why a person wanted to get married. Two major reasons are love and money. Why do you feel scared and nervous to death if your reason to get married is love, unless otherwise is the other one.

[HoneySkin 0]

I thought about that a million times. I do have fears and they arent unfounded. But i dont fear the idea of getting married to my fiance, i was ready the moment i said Yes. Otherwise, i wouldnt have agreed to marry him. I came to realize its the changes and complications that will come after marriage that makes me nervous. Plus, i have to go halfway around the world to be with him makes it even more scary. But Im up for the challenge.

*sigh* I have to learn how to cook.... wash my clothes (his too).... wash the dishes...... CHORES . There are so many things i take for granted in here.

Hi Ping, thanks for sharing your thoughts. I am used to doing household stuff and can manage on that. but the more delicate part is caring for the man and getting along with his family plus cultural differences. We were raised up in the same church but have really different personalities he is quite liberal and i am conservative, how should one handle that??

[PingLocalHostess 1]

Like the cliche opposites attract. Whatever brazenness he has, you can pacify it with your conservative personality. We can always learn to adapt to each others personality. Its the willingness to do so thats important. If not, the marriage would fail. Then all THIS would have gone in vain.

[HoneySkin 0]

Like the cliche opposites attract. Whatever brazenness he has, you can pacify it with your conservative personality. We can always learn to adapt to each others personality. Its the willingness to do so thats important. If not, the marriage would fail. Then all THIS would have gone in vain.

I wont chicken out of course money is nice but wont marry for that. Been self-sufficient and indepedent for quite a while, i mean i have just enough and comfortable with what i have. i know this is what i want just afraid sometimes of really wanting what i want...you know what i mean? I will just have to go with a lot of faith on this - compromise, sacrifice and commit. Hope every couple clicks...

[rheanick 42]

Hi HoneySkin,

Marriage for me is a decision. A decision that I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy. Since i'm the other half on the marriage, I should conciously decide that i shuold give efforts to make it work.

I asked my married friends before the same question you are asking in this thread. One friend asked me three questions.

1. Do I love him?

2. His face (husband) would be the last thing i would see in the evening and the first thing i would see in the

morning, can i accept that?

3. Am i willing to give more and expect less?

And if ready to say yes with doubts those three questions then I'm ready to get married. I guess you already know my response since im also undergoing K1 process.

Everyone will not agree when i mentioned that marriage is a decision. Deciding to get married is not purely emotional coz once the honeymoon phase is over and you come back to reality... the one thing that is left is your decision to stick with this guy and make the marriage work.

If youhave other questions, PM me.

Hey K1 guys. This may sound serious and i hate drama sometimes, but are you guys really ready to be married as in seriously? How can you say that you are ready to be married? This will be my first time to be married and honestly, i am scared and nervous to death..do you feel the same?

[rheanick 42]

A typo error on my response... it shoud be

And if ready to say yes without doubts to those three questions, then I'm ready to get married. I guess you already know my response since im also undergoing K1 process.

Hi HoneySkin,

Marriage for me is a decision. A decision that I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy. Since i'm the other half on the marriage, I should conciously decide that i shuold give efforts to make it work.

I asked my married friends before the same question you are asking in this thread. One friend asked me three questions.

1. Do I love him?

2. His face (husband) would be the last thing i would see in the evening and the first thing i would see in the

morning, can i accept that?

3. Am i willing to give more and expect less?

And if ready to say yes with doubts those three questions then I'm ready to get married. I guess you already know my response since im also undergoing K1 process.

Everyone will not agree when i mentioned that marriage is a decision. Deciding to get married is not purely emotional coz once the honeymoon phase is over and you come back to reality... the one thing that is left is your decision to stick with this guy and make the marriage work.

If youhave other questions, PM me.

Hey K1 guys. This may sound serious and i hate drama sometimes, but are you guys really ready to be married as in seriously? How can you say that you are ready to be married? This will be my first time to be married and honestly, i am scared and nervous to death..do you feel the same?

[HoneySkin 0]

Thanks guys agree with all your thoughts..another day is almost over...i wish you all well over the weekend...and may love grow everyday is my prayer even if various types of chaos is going on around the world...let's keep love alive...take care and see you next week...

[o0pink0o 3]

honestly, marrying my husband ( my fiance before) is the easiest decision i made in my whole life

i didn't think twice when he asked me if i want to be his wife caz there are gazillions of reasons why i love him

[ladyinpink 1]

Hey K1 guys. This may sound serious and i hate drama sometimes, but are you guys really ready to be married as in seriously? How can you say that you are ready to be married? This will be my first time to be married and honestly, i am scared and nervous to death..do you feel the same?

Hello Honey Skin,

Marriage is lifetime a commitment before you say the big YESSSSSSSSSSSSSS.....

You need to think about it a million times if you are really serious and committed to him for better or worse and if you see your self spending the rest of your life with him and growing older together and you are willing to accept all the responsibility of having a family. Well you are not nervous because true love is that you accept him and love him without doubt the culture doesn't matter and marriage other side of the planet if your love is real.........

The married is life is not bed of rose's its take two people to tango and working together as one team and support to each other if one of you are fire it must be they other one is water....

Married relationship is give and take..........

IF YOU ARE READY EMOTIONALLY AND MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY AND PSYCHOLOGICALLY AND LOOKING FORWARD THE RESPONSIBILITY AS A WIFE AND MOTHER WELL YOU ARE NOT NERVOUS BECAUSE YOU LOVE THE PERSON THAT YOU WELL MARRIED AND LIVING WITH HIM 7 DAYS IN 24 HOURS UNTIL THE GOLDEN YEARS OF YOUR LIFE

NO REGRETS AT ALL BECAUSE OF THE POWER OF LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[jom 4]

Being there and done that I have to say it was the best decision I made in my life but it also entailed a lot of sacrifices like leaving home and my family. I talked to my then fiance online for 4 months then he went to the Philippines to visit me. I knew he was the one when I saw him in the airport.

My then fiance visited the Philippines only once before I arrived here, which means we were together for two weeks before joining him here. That was my greatest concern because as they say it takes a lifetime to really know your partner and there I was , leaving my work, home and family to marry someone I was with physically for only two weeks. So my husband made me promise that I wouldn't work until after the first year of our marriage so we could be together 24/7 during that period. My husband works 50% from home and travels 50%. Our arrangement really worked well for us. We have never been apart since I arrived here and that helped us establish our bond as husband and wife. My husband is not perfect and because of cultural and upbringing differences we had to adjust to each others personalities.

When you come here, don't expect that everything will be great because the differences will always be there and its just a matter of accepting each others strenghts and weaknesses.

It has been a year and 7 days since I arrived here and I can honestly say I love my husband more and more. I will start school soon to take a 6 week refresher course and hopefully will start working start of next year as we have agreed. I have worked all my life and this is by far my longest vacation but I am thankful I listened to him because indeed, being with my husband 24/7 for a year now helped me to know him more, learn about him and accept him for everything he is, his faults and strenghts, and vice versa.

One advice though. . . never go to sleep with a disagreement and always tell him what you feel and your concerns. We Filipinas are known for being shy and likes to keep quiet even if we are boiling inside, don't do that. Americans are very open people and unless you don't communicate with them what you feel, they won't understand.

Goodluck on your journey and be happy.

Myla

Edited October 10, 2008 by jom

[bevs 0]

Hey K1 guys. This may sound serious and i hate drama sometimes, but are you guys really ready to be married as in seriously? How can you say that you are ready to be married? This will be my first time to be married and honestly, i am scared and nervous to death..do you feel the same?

i also thank GOD for guiding me and giving me the right path, or else i will get married to a man that will only give me more pain and less happiness. but yet i also thank my EX FIANCE for hurting me which lead me to have the man i wanted for the rest of my life, my present. my past made me the strong woman i am right now.

why im seriously ready to get married? many reasons:

first: cuz we already have the fruit of our love our son JAMES ANGELO who give us more joy and who make our relationship so strong and firm.

second: i believe that Alex is the man that will love me and wont hurt me. and his the man that i want to live for the rest of my life and create more wonderful kiddos with him i just simple wanna say that his the man that i'ved been looking for. His not rich, but his rich with love for me and for our son. we can be together thru thick and thin, thru riches and poorer, till death do us part , sickness and health. his just totaly a GOD's GIFT to me.

third: his family treat me best which i never expect to happened. his family are addtional blessing to my life.

this just few strong reasons why i know im seriously ready to get married.

my FAMILY MAKES ME COMPLETE AnD HAPPY and their are my life.

[blondprincess 0]

Hey K1 guys. This may sound serious and i hate drama sometimes, but are you guys really ready to be married as in seriously? How can you say that you are ready to be married? This will be my first time to be married and honestly, i am scared and nervous to death..do you feel the same?

Married Life is a serious thing, which you must have a tough decision.. This thought I also ask my self, if I'm ready to the next chapter of my life? But, when I first saw my fiance in the airport I thought I will feel uncomfortable, but guess what, I felt that we where met last 10 years ago, because I'm very comfortable with him. And I could not imagine that this year i will engaged to him, but I said Yes to Him, because I really feel that he is the one I want to be with for the rest of my life. I love him so much..

[RICHIE07 0]

I'm very thankful to God for answering all my prayers and for giving me a wonderful husband. Back then, we always talk about our future together, and what's ahead of us, until now.

What made me decide to marry him was right from the start, I have a strong feeling that his my soulmate. I never doubted my decision when I married my husband. And I can't imagine life without him.

Marriage life is a serious thing and has lots of ups and downs but never give up.