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[sarah and hicham 3]

I am one of those people who has a little bit of trouble moving on and letting things like that go. I would constantly be thinking about it, and I would surely be extremely angry at him everyday which would just make our marriage worse so I'd say see ya later.

[rebeccajo 14]

I put I don't know what I would do. Even though my ex was a cheater.

I - unfortunately - have something that MOST of you in this community don't have. I'm older than many of you (48) and was married the first time for 26 years.

Marriage is for life - and in a lifetime people change. Thirty years from now you will be amazed at the course of your life. At what your life experiences have shown you and how they have shaped you. And you will see differences in your spouse. And then there's that old ####### called LIFE - it causes things to happen out of your control that some people handle better than others. It tests and it molds.

If you are blessed, the changes will be for the good and both of you will be healthier, wiser, wealthier, and more in love than you are today.

For me I try and stay flexible. Cause I know that 'never' is a long way off.

[Ban Hammer 13,333]

IF my husband cheated on me he would be DEAD. I would kill him.

and for some reason i believe shon would

[Nessa 23]

Cheating is a big no no

[Welshcookie 17]

I voted I don't know what I would do.....I would want to forgive and move on but I think the relationship would not survive the infidelity in the end.

[triaxiom 0]

Obvious who's poll inspired this.

No... it's taken a long while to get over previous problems, (and I'm not even entirely sure they're over completely) to give up on a mistake, provided it was a mistake, but it would hurt a lot, and be s**t hard to not resent.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

No idea.

[*Robert* 2]

Been there... done that. Life is too short to spend it with someone who can't be faithful. Without trust, which is destroyed after something like that happens, there is no relationship. If you have to start over with a bad relationship, why not start over with a new one? Could it happen again with the new one? ... sure... but it has already been proven to happen in the old one!

[allynella 0]

I've been cheated on before, and even though we worked through it, the trust was gone. Every time he was late, it was at the back of my mind... wondering... and eventually there came the break-up. So, no - he cheats, then he needs to get to stepping .

[wherezdabearz 0]

I've been cheated on in the past but for the first time I'm with a man I trust completely. However, I do believe that people can make mistakes and I think one incident could be forgiven (but not forgotten!), not easily, but I think it could be worked through. A second time would mean goodbye.

[luvaLimey 0]

took a long time to think about this poll.

I voted that I'm not sure what I'd do. If it was one mistake, one moment of indiscretion, I think I might be able to forgive it. It would probably hurt like hell, and i'm not sure I'd be able to "forgive and forget" but it's possible it might be something that could be worked past.

I know if that happened it would take a long time for the trust to return. As it is now, I do trust him, completely. It would be hard to lose that.

If it was an ongoing affair, not just a "I'm sorry, I was drunk" moment, then I might have a harder time with it. A one-night indiscretion is just sex, but an ongoing affair is generally more: it's a relationship. To me, that would be more of a betrayal. Giving the love he had kept for me to someone else.

And still; I don't know what I would do in that situation. I pray I never am in it. Because wouldn't I be the fool to stay with a man who kept cheating on me, lying to me, again and again. But then I remember the look he saves just for me, and I think I really would be the fool happily if it meant I could still be with him.

[babybunny 2]

all I have to say is he better not go to sleep!

[Ban Hammer 13,333]

all I have to say is he better not go to sleep!

ooo000oooo chainsaw shon - run for your life!

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

IF my husband cheated on me he would be DEAD. I would kill him.

What, exactly, would that accomplish?

[Mandi+Ryan 1]

hmm... i think it depends on the situation, that is, is this a repeated offense.etc..working it out is the best possible step but in allot of cases once trust is lost, it is hard to get back

I agree with almaty, it's very hard to gain that trust once it has been broken, BUT I know the feeling, and no matter what, "stay and work it out". We've been down that road, not too fun, BUT I'm VERY pleased with my decision.