Inspired by another poll

[CarolineM 0]

Just curious.

I'm voting for "Id stay and work it out.."

It would NEVER happen but if it did, I love him too much and have too much invested in our marriage to just leave.

[aussiewench 9]

I voted 'stay and work it out'. I dont give up easy on a relationship, especially this marriage with someone I love so dearly. I believe in my marriage and Im a stayer. Dan would NEVER cheat anyways so its not something I think about.

Edited May 28, 2006 by aussiewench

[almaty 19]

hmm... i think it depends on the situation, that is, is this a repeated offense.etc..working it out is the best possible step but in allot of cases once trust is lost, it is hard to get back

[iceyspots 0]

un for give a ble

[usarandyo 0]

tried the whole forgiveness thing when I got burnt in the past.... NO WAY will that EVER happen again. I made it clear to my SO. I will never cheat on you so do not do it to me and expect forgivenees. Ain't gonna happen!

My thoughts are if someone cheats then they are obviously unhappy about something in the realtionship. That being the case then suck it up and move on. Don't be a scoundrel about it.

Oh and for those people I see write "NEVER" would happen..... Never say never my friends. Believe me! Been there... done that!

[babybunny 2]

IF my husband cheated on me he would be DEAD. I would kill him.

[aussiewench 9]

tried the whole forgiveness thing when I got burnt in the past.... NO WAY will that EVER happen again. I made it clear to my SO. I will never cheat on you so do not do it to me and expect forgivenees. Ain't gonna happen!

My thoughts are if someone cheats then they are obviously unhappy about something in the realtionship. That being the case then suck it up and move on. Don't be a scoundrel about it.

Oh and for those people I see write "NEVER" would happen..... Never say never my friends. Believe me! Been there... done that!

My first 2 husbands cheated. I stayed in my first marriage for 16 years. I always had that gut feeling with them so it really didnt surprise me when I found out for sure that they had cheated. I dont have those same gut feelings, nor inner voices this time....plus for reasons I wont go on about, I trust 100% this time and can say 'NEVER'

[irishgirl73 0]

I voted that I don't know what I would do................I have been cheated on in the past but I don't even think about that in my current relationship. I trust him wholeheartedly.

I agree with Aussie-you know in your gut when someone is cheating-I don't have that feeling with Gav. I didn't really know what trust was until I met him. It is a great feeling when you are in a trusting relationship-I can't believe I went so long without one.

Edited May 28, 2006 by irishgirl73

[alexil74 0]

I voted "I'm not sure what i'd do"

[no one 0]

Oh and for those people I see write "NEVER" would happen..... Never say never my friends. Believe me! Been there... done that!

It really would never happen. People cheat when they're dissatisfied with their relationships, and/or when they feel they can't communicate with their partners honestly.

My fiancé and I tell each other everything and have a policy of never going to bed upset -- we nip problems in the bud. If our relationship DOES go stale (I won't say this will NEVER happen, since *this* is possible, but hopefully it'll never happen), we'd try to work things out... and if that doesn't work, we'd part ways before searching for someone new. Cheating is not the way to go, because it'll hurt everyone involved and that's a stupid way of handling relationships.

[almaty 19]

IF my husband cheated on me he would be DEAD. I would kill him.

sister shon, i like your style

[MPGGPM 0]

Just curious.

I'm voting for "Id stay and work it out.."

It would NEVER happen but if it did, I love him too much and have too much invested in our marriage to just leave.

Besides love, "trust" is the most important thing in a relationship. It's almost all 2 people have which is one reason why they marry. When that is gone...sure you could "try" to stay with them, and make things work out.....but once the "doubt" begins...it would always be there, and would continually interfere with the relatonship. I can imagine many arguments being started because of bitter feelings over this. It would always be there and never end.

I have yet to see a marriage last when cheating has taken place.

[chocolaterie 0]

i agree with mpggpm,

i have yet to see a couple argue and never bring up past events. it's human nature. I'm sure there are some couples that can work it out after one has been unfaithful.

my husband and I have a mutual understanding. if either of us has thoughts of cheating, we need to talk and see a marriage counselor. if that doesn't work, and cheating occurs, we will go our separate ways. people waste too much time bickering.

[almaty 19]

i disagree, i ahve seen quite a few realtionships last when there was a cheating among one of the partners..through therapy..

[MichelleandCraig 1]

I also have known couples where one has cheated and the relationship lasted..but I know it must take an awful long time for that trust to be there. That is one of the MANY things I love about Craig...I never worry about that, whether he's a mile down the road or 4000 miles from me...I know it's something he would NEVER do, and nor would I. If either of us felt like that, we would get a divorce...it's the right thing to do..not go behind the other's back. We both had deep moral feelings on this long before we met, and I'm not worried. I chose, I would stay and fix things; too much love there. M.