help help please!!!!!!

[pushbrk 13,073]

Well I don't know if its the same person, its just the same story. I don't understand how some people come here to marry one person and then marry someone else.

I understand if a relationship doesn't work out. Go home. Don't stick around and marry someone else.

At least you're not out of status like the previous woman.

It's not the same story but similar. Both are from the PI but the US arrivals are nearly a year apart.

[*JG* 2]

Well I don't know if its the same person, its just the same story. I don't understand how some people come here to marry one person and then marry someone else.

I understand if a relationship doesn't work out. Go home. Don't stick around and marry someone else.

At least you're not out of status like the previous woman.

It's not the same story but similar. Both are from the PI but the US arrivals are nearly a year apart.

Sooner or later someone is going to complain about the process from PI and I am going to say something to the effect that "the fools before who play games ruin it for everyone who follows." These stories will be 2 examples IMO.

[john_and_marlene 162]

Well I don't know if its the same person, its just the same story. I don't understand how some people come here to marry one person and then marry someone else.

I understand if a relationship doesn't work out. Go home. Don't stick around and marry someone else.

At least you're not out of status like the previous woman.

It's not the same story but similar. Both are from the PI but the US arrivals are nearly a year apart.

Sooner or later someone is going to complain about the process from PI and I am going to say something to the effect that "the fools before who play games ruin it for everyone who follows." These stories will be 2 examples IMO.

High-fraud countries earn their label because of the actions of their citizens. Don't blame the embassies for the difficulty--blame your ancestors and relatives.

[*JG* 2]

Well I don't know if its the same person, its just the same story. I don't understand how some people come here to marry one person and then marry someone else.

I understand if a relationship doesn't work out. Go home. Don't stick around and marry someone else.

At least you're not out of status like the previous woman.

It's not the same story but similar. Both are from the PI but the US arrivals are nearly a year apart.

Sooner or later someone is going to complain about the process from PI and I am going to say something to the effect that "the fools before who play games ruin it for everyone who follows." These stories will be 2 examples IMO.

High-fraud countries earn their label because of the actions of their citizens. Don't blame the embassies for the difficulty--blame your ancestors and relatives.

Yep. I say that same all the time in the Yardies (Jamaica) threads.

[Jim♥Michelle 0]

It so sad for us who is innocent with this kind of foolishness,.. need to suffer...

It's unfair!

Well I don't know if its the same person, its just the same story. I don't understand how some people come here to marry one person and then marry someone else.

I understand if a relationship doesn't work out. Go home. Don't stick around and marry someone else.

At least you're not out of status like the previous woman.

It's not the same story but similar. Both are from the PI but the US arrivals are nearly a year apart.

Sooner or later someone is going to complain about the process from PI and I am going to say something to the effect that "the fools before who play games ruin it for everyone who follows." These stories will be 2 examples IMO.

High-fraud countries earn their label because of the actions of their citizens. Don't blame the embassies for the difficulty--blame your ancestors and relatives.

Yep. I say that same all the time in the Yardies (Jamaica) threads.

[john_and_marlene 162]

It so sad for us who is innocent with this kind of foolishness,.. need to suffer...

It's unfair!

Well I don't know if its the same person, its just the same story. I don't understand how some people come here to marry one person and then marry someone else.

I understand if a relationship doesn't work out. Go home. Don't stick around and marry someone else.

At least you're not out of status like the previous woman.

It's not the same story but similar. Both are from the PI but the US arrivals are nearly a year apart.

Sooner or later someone is going to complain about the process from PI and I am going to say something to the effect that "the fools before who play games ruin it for everyone who follows." These stories will be 2 examples IMO.

High-fraud countries earn their label because of the actions of their citizens. Don't blame the embassies for the difficulty--blame your ancestors and relatives.

Yep. I say that same all the time in the Yardies (Jamaica) threads.

Life is filled with inequities that will never be resolved.

[Sprailenes 47]

Whats sad is someone else is waiting for the their journey to be over and to be with the ones they love and this person and the other woman in the semi-same situation have just gone above everyones heads and married someone else. It's dishonest and unreal.

I have no sympathy for people like this. Especially when there are thousands and thousands of others who are honest waiting behind them for their name to be called.

I try to be understanding in most situations but stories like these get old really fast.

[GiGii 4]

I try to be understanding in most situations but stories like these get old really fast.

I think its odd that you can come to a country with a heart full of love for one person, that took a long time to build. Then the relationship goes downhill, and boom another mate just pops up in 1 week you are married. Hmm, doesn't sound like a possible fraud relationship at all.

I don't have sympathy for these folks when they have an interview at home, cause they are going to get what is coming. Being from a country high in fraud, and then explaining a situation like this should be fun to see.

Maybe they think everyone is stupid. VJ - for thinking if you switch your member name, people will not recognize the story. The IO - for thinking love pops in right before the I-94 expires and a marriage takes place.

Its folks like these who mess it up not only for people from their country, but for immigrants in general.

[morocco4ever 63]

Deja Vu.

Come on people, stop trying to convince us of your sincerity. People don't fall out of love and back into love within what, a week? This reeks of premeditated fraud. Move on, you won't get illegal advice from us. My husband was denied a visa, and it took him an additional 15 months for us to fight and win the system. This is because of people such as yourself that makes it hard for bonafide relationships to prove their sincerity.

[justashooter 430]

funny that we all post on here about love, and yet, forget that love is different for each person. the more education and power a person has, the more difficult it is to find. people from simple economies don't expect much of love. they define love as a willingness to take care of their basic needs. persons in more developed economies can already do that, themselves, and need something more.

could be this poster came in with a plan to dump the petitioner and join her family in their own little "manila west". could be she came in with pie in the sky hopes and no understanding of what she was actually going to get, then bailed to something that "looks like home". the petitioner looses his investment on all scales, and the beneficiary now wants us to take her in.

in either case, stories like this make me think that internet marriages should not be allowed. too often they bring people together who would never connect in the "real world". the disparity frequently causes mutual indifference, disrespect, dissapointment, or abuse by the petitioner, or the beneficiary. abuse comes in many forms, so don't think it's a one way street.

visa officers get ####### from people for denying visa on basis of lack of genuine relationship. IMHO, they do not declare this often enough. i married a chinese girl i had lived with for 3 years in china, and adapting her to the US has been difficult enough. what hell it must be for people who start a relationship in US without benefit of the years we had in developing trust. and don't tell me sending each other e-mail is a trust building exercise. it is a fantasy building exercise. facing the world together day by day is a trust building exercise in the best of cases. anything less just doesn't count.

[Ban Hammer 13,491]

Life is filled with inequities that will never be resolved.

very true

Deja Vu.

Come on people, stop trying to convince us of your sincerity. People don't fall out of love and back into love within what, a week? This reeks of premeditated fraud. Move on, you won't get illegal advice from us. My husband was denied a visa, and it took him an additional 15 months for us to fight and win the system. This is because of people such as yourself that makes it hard for bonafide relationships to prove their sincerity.

i used to do that at topless bars

[pushbrk 13,073]

funny that we all post on here about love, and yet, forget that love is different for each person. the more education and power a person has, the more difficult it is to find. people from simple economies don't expect much of love. they define love as a willingness to take care of their basic needs. persons in more developed economies can already do that, themselves, and need something more.

could be this poster came in with a plan to dump the petitioner and join her family in their own little "manila west". could be she came in with pie in the sky hopes and no understanding of what she was actually going to get, then bailed to something that "looks like home". the petitioner looses his investment on all scales, and the beneficiary now wants us to take her in.

in either case, stories like this make me think that internet marriages should not be allowed. too often they bring people together who would never connect in the "real world". the disparity frequently causes mutual indifference, disrespect, dissapointment, or abuse by the petitioner, or the beneficiary. abuse comes in many forms, so don't think it's a one way street.

visa officers get ####### from people for denying visa on basis of lack of genuine relationship. IMHO, they do not declare this often enough. i married a chinese girl i had lived with for 3 years in china, and adapting her to the US has been difficult enough. what hell it must be for people who start a relationship in US without benefit of the years we had in developing trust. and don't tell me sending each other e-mail is a trust building exercise. it is a fantasy building exercise. facing the world together day by day is a trust building exercise in the best of cases. anything less just doesn't count.

Are you really suggesting the US Federal Government enact laws requiring couples' courtships conform to some universal standard before a State can allow them to marry and/or that that the Fed's enact laws forbidding the States from recognizing the marriages of couples married abroad based on those same universal standards?

Perhaps you grew up in the USSR?

[GiGii 4]

in either case, stories like this make me think that internet marriages should not be allowed. too often they bring people together who would never connect in the "real world". the disparity frequently causes mutual indifference, disrespect, dissapointment, or abuse by the petitioner, or the beneficiary. abuse comes in many forms, so don't think it's a one way street.

What a load of #######! If international marriages (meeting through the net) should be banned, then so should be immigration altogether!!! Everything you mentioned could happen not only in marriages for people that met through the internet, but for any immigrant marriage (regardless how they met).

The real world starts when the immigrant gets to the US. So the life you had with your chinese girl in China is VERY different from the one you can/will have in the US. Change brings in room for disaapointment and many other things due to adjustment. These are issues with immigration altogether, not just by meeting online.

Is having a long distance relationship hard as hell? Umm yeah, I think all of us on VJ can agree. But its not a fantasy, its the test of time and struggling through the hardship.

[tracymike 0]

Life is filled with inequities that will never be resolved.

very true

Deja Vu.

Come on people, stop trying to convince us of your sincerity. People don't fall out of love and back into love within what, a week? This reeks of premeditated fraud. Move on, you won't get illegal advice from us. My husband was denied a visa, and it took him an additional 15 months for us to fight and win the system. This is because of people such as yourself that makes it hard for bonafide relationships to prove their sincerity.

i used to do that at topless bars

Charles! You never fail at lightening the moment. You are too funny!!!

[Ban Hammer 13,491]

Life is filled with inequities that will never be resolved.

very true

Deja Vu.

Come on people, stop trying to convince us of your sincerity. People don't fall out of love and back into love within what, a week? This reeks of premeditated fraud. Move on, you won't get illegal advice from us. My husband was denied a visa, and it took him an additional 15 months for us to fight and win the system. This is because of people such as yourself that makes it hard for bonafide relationships to prove their sincerity.

i used to do that at topless bars

Charles! You never fail at lightening the moment. You are too funny!!!

that must be why ewok keeps me around.