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How many singles have chosen to remain part of VJ?

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How many singles have chosen to remain part of VJ?  

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  1. 1. Since your break-up, are you still active on VJ?

    • Yes, I'm as active as I used to be
      8
    • Yes, but I only check in once and a while
      4
    • No, I don't visit VJ anymore ;-)
      2
    • Other
      9

  2. 2. How do you feel about remaining on VJ?

    • VJ is part of my family, I need their support
      10
    • VJ reminds me of what used to be, and that's ok
      7
    • VJ reminds me of what used to be, and it hurts
      5

  3. 3. My relationship is fine, but if I were to break up with my so:

    • I would remain active on VJ
      8
    • I would check in once and a while
      8
    • I would stop visiting VJ altogether
      3

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JenT Experienced

JenT   0

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Hi Everyone,

I've posted in the 'Effects' forum about the fact that David and I are divorcing. I'm not sure how active I'll be in VJ once he's gone and my life has settled down... I've made some good friends here and I'd like to think that I'll still be active but I wonder how hurtful of a reminder it might be....

I just wondered, for those of you whose relationships have not survived, how active you are on VJ and why.... I probably didn't ask the right questions or offer the right answer choices, but I thought I'd start the dialogue to see what people think.

Even if you ARE in a happy relationship with your SO... feel free to post your thoughts. I'm interested to hear what people think about this.

Jen

8-30-05 Met David at a restaurant in Germany

3-28-06 David 'officially' proposed

4-26-06 I-129F mailed

9-25-06 Interview: APPROVED!

10-16-06 Flt to US, POE Detroit

11-5-06 Married

7-2-07 Green card received

9-12-08 Filed for divorce

12-5-08 Court hearing - divorce final

A great marriage is not when the "perfect couple" comes together.

It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.

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Lili   3

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I would honestly still come here.

I love the people here. It is like a big family: we fight, cry and laugh together. I have frequented many forums in the post and I honestly love coming here.

You should stick around...Maybe just visit the off topic forum for a while, it might not be as hard for you.

I hope the pain eases a bit with time! (((hugs again)))

AOS Approved on 10-17-08 (details in profile)

Removal of Conditions on 07-19-10

In this tedious process, we tend to forget that this is all worth it.

I love my hubby beyond anything in this world.

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i hope my sweet sister jen sticks around.....she my buddy and i adore her...dean

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I've made some good friends here and I'd like to think that I'll still be active but I wonder how hurtful of a reminder it might be....

Jen

Jen, it's not bad, really. You came here for support/questions, etc, and you should stay for the same support from the friends you've made here.

It's actually more comforting than a hurtful reminder. I hope you stay :luv:

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Ban Hammer   13,345

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i hope my sweet sister jen sticks around.....she my buddy and i adore her...dean

agreed :thumbs:

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bora bora   1

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There are people who stick around so I hope it's not too hurtful for you. Good luck in the future.

11/2004 - Met in Brazil

09/2006 - Apply for K1

03/2007 - K1 approved

04/2007 - Apply for AOS & EAD

07/2007 - EAD approved

01/2008 - Conditional Residency approved

11/2009 - Apply to remove conditions

02/2010 - Permanent Residency approved

11/2010 - Apply for Citizenship

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Firsty Jen I am very sorry for your break up

I would like to think that people who have broken up would still visit here and give advise, as all of us just starting out on this process are so greatfull for the help that we receive, and a saying that I often use is that there is no greater gift than giving. That is as long as it does not cause you any additional hurt.

I for one would like to give you my support if you need it, for all of the support that you have given to other members on this site

I wish you much happiness in your future

Shaz

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i hope my sweet sister jen sticks around.....she my buddy and i adore her...dean

agreed :thumbs:

Aw, you guys... :blush: thanks for making me feel better. I can always count on you.

Jen (F)

8-30-05 Met David at a restaurant in Germany

3-28-06 David 'officially' proposed

4-26-06 I-129F mailed

9-25-06 Interview: APPROVED!

10-16-06 Flt to US, POE Detroit

11-5-06 Married

7-2-07 Green card received

9-12-08 Filed for divorce

12-5-08 Court hearing - divorce final

A great marriage is not when the "perfect couple" comes together.

It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.

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Firsty Jen I am very sorry for your break up

I would like to think that people who have broken up would still visit here and give advise, as all of us just starting out on this process are so greatfull for the help that we receive, and a saying that I often use is that there is no greater gift than giving. That is as long as it does not cause you any additional hurt.

I for one would like to give you my support if you need it, for all of the support that you have given to other members on this site

I wish you much happiness in your future

Shaz

Thanks so much Shaz... I'm not sure how much I can contribute to people's actual process in the future, but I suppose that keeping up with the inevitable USCIS changes through through this board can help...

Given all of the kindness and support that has been offered to me here over the last couple of weeks, I would be a fool to turn my back on such wonderful people.

Jen

8-30-05 Met David at a restaurant in Germany

3-28-06 David 'officially' proposed

4-26-06 I-129F mailed

9-25-06 Interview: APPROVED!

10-16-06 Flt to US, POE Detroit

11-5-06 Married

7-2-07 Green card received

9-12-08 Filed for divorce

12-5-08 Court hearing - divorce final

A great marriage is not when the "perfect couple" comes together.

It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.

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I've made some good friends here and I'd like to think that I'll still be active but I wonder how hurtful of a reminder it might be....

Jen

Jen, it's not bad, really. You came here for support/questions, etc, and you should stay for the same support from the friends you've made here.

It's actually more comforting than a hurtful reminder. I hope you stay :luv:

Thanks Lori... I've come to that same conclusion over the last few days.... everyone has been very patient and tolerant of my ramblings (no one has flamed me yet!) and I'd like to think that something I have posted will help someone else.

8-30-05 Met David at a restaurant in Germany

3-28-06 David 'officially' proposed

4-26-06 I-129F mailed

9-25-06 Interview: APPROVED!

10-16-06 Flt to US, POE Detroit

11-5-06 Married

7-2-07 Green card received

9-12-08 Filed for divorce

12-5-08 Court hearing - divorce final

A great marriage is not when the "perfect couple" comes together.

It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.

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Firsty Jen I am very sorry for your break up

I would like to think that people who have broken up would still visit here and give advise, as all of us just starting out on this process are so greatfull for the help that we receive, and a saying that I often use is that there is no greater gift than giving. That is as long as it does not cause you any additional hurt.

I for one would like to give you my support if you need it, for all of the support that you have given to other members on this site

I wish you much happiness in your future

Shaz

Thanks so much Shaz... I'm not sure how much I can contribute to people's actual process in the future, but I suppose that keeping up with the inevitable USCIS changes through through this board can help...

Given all of the kindness and support that has been offered to me here over the last couple of weeks, I would be a fool to turn my back on such wonderful people.

Jen

Whatever you decide, do what is right for you........

We will all be here whenever you want us

Take care of yourself

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i hope my sweet sister jen sticks around.....she my buddy and i adore her...dean

agreed :thumbs:

Aw, you guys... :blush: thanks for making me feel better. I can always count on you.

Jen (F)

besides keeping the mods busy, we do have other purposes :P

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Honestly I couldn't tell you what I would do...

I very much respect and admire people who post about their failed relationships in a mature, classy way (like Jen) and think it would be a shame if those experiences are not shared.

I think everybody stands to benefit from other people's relationship struggles and issues and I personally like to read about the USC's perspective on these issues. It's so easy to be wrapped up in our own problems and lose sight of the bigger picture.

Conditional Permanent Resident since September 20, 2006

Conditions removed February 23, 2009

I am extraordinarily patient,

provided I get my own way in the end!

Margaret Thatcher

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