"Happily ever after"

[Amby 490]

I think if you're with the person who is your "other half" they help make you a better version of you. A happier, more optimistic, more caring, more loving, more giving, more ambitious, more driven, etc version of what you already are and it happens without you even seeing it or wanting it to happen.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I think if you're with the person who is your "other half" they help make you a better version of you. A happier, more optimistic, more caring, more loving, more giving, more ambitious, more driven, etc version of what you already are and it happens without you even seeing it or wanting it to happen.

I don't know if make is the right word...it sounds like you're placing your emotional state of being on your spouse.

[Amby 490]

I think if you're with the person who is your "other half" they help make you a better version of you. A happier, more optimistic, more caring, more loving, more giving, more ambitious, more driven, etc version of what you already are and it happens without you even seeing it or wanting it to happen.

I don't know if make is the right word...it sounds like you're placing your emotional state of being on your spouse.

I hate my spouse and I'm happy as can be so nope

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I think if you're with the person who is your "other half" they help make you a better version of you. A happier, more optimistic, more caring, more loving, more giving, more ambitious, more driven, etc version of what you already are and it happens without you even seeing it or wanting it to happen.

I don't know if make is the right word...it sounds like you're placing your emotional state of being on your spouse.

I hate my spouse and I'm happy as can be so nope

Poor guy.

[Mononoke28 135]

There is a difference between love and being "in love." Much of love is action, not emotion. It's sometimes hard work, and it isn't always neat and pretty, yet it's the most beautiful thing in the world. I think one problem comes when people lose that warm-fuzzy "in-love" emotion for a time and mistakenly believe the love itself has died. Another mistake can be believing the "in-love" feeling will never return. I think if both partners resolve to work hard at loving each other, wanting the best for each other and working for that, staying steadfast and trustworthy, even if there are times they frankly don't like each other very much, there's no reason why that "in-love" feeling can't ebb and flow throughout their married life.

That's a very good point. The "being in-love" feeling goes away and at times it comes back, but loving your spouse should never go away. That's why it's so important to marry someone you get along way (for the most part), a good friend you can rely on and talk to. Because if you don't at least have that at home, you're screwed.

Diana

[Amby 490]

I think if you're with the person who is your "other half" they help make you a better version of you. A happier, more optimistic, more caring, more loving, more giving, more ambitious, more driven, etc version of what you already are and it happens without you even seeing it or wanting it to happen.

I don't know if make is the right word...it sounds like you're placing your emotional state of being on your spouse.

I hate my spouse and I'm happy as can be so nope

Poor guy.

not poor guy. he knows why and knows what has to change. he chooses not to make those changes so it's his own fault.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

There is a difference between love and being "in love." Much of love is action, not emotion. It's sometimes hard work, and it isn't always neat and pretty, yet it's the most beautiful thing in the world. I think one problem comes when people lose that warm-fuzzy "in-love" emotion for a time and mistakenly believe the love itself has died. Another mistake can be believing the "in-love" feeling will never return. I think if both partners resolve to work hard at loving each other, wanting the best for each other and working for that, staying steadfast and trustworthy, even if there are times they frankly don't like each other very much, there's no reason why that "in-love" feeling can't ebb and flow throughout their married life.

That's a very good point. The "being in-love" feeling goes away and at times it comes back, but loving your spouse should never go away. That's why it's so important to marry someone you get along way (for the most part), a good friend you can rely on and talk to. Because if you don't at least have that at home, you're screwed.

Diana

I agree to a point, but your spouse cannot be everything to you...otherwise they are bound to disappoint you.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

No it doesn't exist because 'ever after' implies till the end of time.

You will die before that.

And also, time doesn't end.

[Mononoke28 135]

There is a difference between love and being "in love." Much of love is action, not emotion. It's sometimes hard work, and it isn't always neat and pretty, yet it's the most beautiful thing in the world. I think one problem comes when people lose that warm-fuzzy "in-love" emotion for a time and mistakenly believe the love itself has died. Another mistake can be believing the "in-love" feeling will never return. I think if both partners resolve to work hard at loving each other, wanting the best for each other and working for that, staying steadfast and trustworthy, even if there are times they frankly don't like each other very much, there's no reason why that "in-love" feeling can't ebb and flow throughout their married life.

That's a very good point. The "being in-love" feeling goes away and at times it comes back, but loving your spouse should never go away. That's why it's so important to marry someone you get along way (for the most part), a good friend you can rely on and talk to. Because if you don't at least have that at home, you're screwed.

Diana

I agree to a point, but your spouse cannot be everything to you...otherwise they are bound to disappoint you.

I didn't say that. I said the best thing would be to marry a good friend who's there for you. And yes, if you think your spouse is your everything, then you need to get a life which is also important.

Diana

[one...two...tree 2,762]

There is a difference between love and being "in love." Much of love is action, not emotion. It's sometimes hard work, and it isn't always neat and pretty, yet it's the most beautiful thing in the world. I think one problem comes when people lose that warm-fuzzy "in-love" emotion for a time and mistakenly believe the love itself has died. Another mistake can be believing the "in-love" feeling will never return. I think if both partners resolve to work hard at loving each other, wanting the best for each other and working for that, staying steadfast and trustworthy, even if there are times they frankly don't like each other very much, there's no reason why that "in-love" feeling can't ebb and flow throughout their married life.

That's a very good point. The "being in-love" feeling goes away and at times it comes back, but loving your spouse should never go away. That's why it's so important to marry someone you get along way (for the most part), a good friend you can rely on and talk to. Because if you don't at least have that at home, you're screwed.

Diana

I agree to a point, but your spouse cannot be everything to you...otherwise they are bound to disappoint you.

I didn't say that. I said the best thing would be to marry a good friend who's there for you. And yes, if you think your spouse is your everything, then you need to get a life which is also important.

Diana

Got ya...sorry...I hit post before proof reading what I had typed.

[Niels Bohr 72]

We get into arguments because of disagreements. However, I learned to forgive and forget. I don't usually sulk as much when spots my mistakes or when I spots her. We learned to adapt and accept each other.

[Nessa 23]

Marriage is like an unfunny version of Everybody Loves Raymond, but it doesn't just last 20 minutes... it lasts forever

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

We get into arguments because of disagreements. However, I learned to forgive and forget. I don't usually sulk as much when spots my mistakes or when I spots her. We learned to adapt and accept each other.

You make mistakes?

[Empress of Groovy 373]

I'd say that "happily ever after" is a fantasy more than a myth.

I guess my view of relationships is practical. I don't believe in the concept of a lifelong soul mate, for example (then again, I don't believe in fate or souls either. Hmm...).

The idea that a marriage should be based on love and compatibility is a relatively recent development, which explains away the high divorce rate pretty well. For many couples, a relationship is an experience that runs a course; fall in love, have great years together, grow apart, relationship ends. Start over with someone else. Somtimes it's worth it for both parties to keep it together, and sometimes it isn't.

Any number of things can drive people apart, and keep them together. There are so many variables.

I'm not really a romantic in the dictionary definition sense of the word.

[Niels Bohr 72]

We get into arguments because of disagreements. However, I learned to forgive and forget. I don't usually sulk as much when spots my mistakes or when I spots her. We learned to adapt and accept each other.

You make mistakes?

Not a relationship mistake. I meant planning activities, or when she's in the mood to be together at a restaurant or whatever.