k1 visa expired and married to someone else

[boyage 1]

Dear Everybody,

Hello all,may the Lord God bless us and to this column.

I am new to this site and I am so glad to find this because it helps me a lot with my problems.And now ,I am hoping you all to advice me what is the best thing to do.And in order to understand my situation,here is my story.

I arrived here in the US last August 15,2007.On my first day here,I already noticed something is wrong with my fiance.I feel like he just brought me here in order to have a servant in his kids and pets.He got 2 kids.But I don't complain about that.Because for me,it's my obligation as his wife to be because that is what I expect hence he brought me as his fiancee.What I don't understand, is ,why he has no plan about marrying me?He is aware that he should marry me b4 90 days so that I will not be sent back home.I did not ask him a marriage and I just wait because for me as a filipina ,we have no rights to ask for a marriage.I just wait and wait until I decided to ask him if is he having second thoughts of marrying me.He said no,he doesn't.He just told me that he just need a enough time to ask a vacation leave from his work.So,I listened until the date comes that he promise to marry me. It was Nov.5, and my visa will be expired on Nov. 13,see how difficult it is for me.I feel like I am climbing on a very thin thread.I hurts but I can do nothing.He has the ace.My reputation is already been damaged.For me,if I go back home,it would be a very big issue.People will talk about me.Judging me badly.I hope you understand what I mean.So,I take it all.I just cry and pray.But the worse thing was when Nov. 5 comes,it was morning,I thought, we will go to the court but, I was surprised when he handed me a pre-marital agreement.Everything that is bad for me is in there.He said if I won't sign it,there's no marriage will be happen between us.He is welling to buy me a ticket for me to go back home.But,it states there,that he has no obligation on me,if I die,he has no obligation about my burial expenses,if he divorce me , I would just have to sign the divorce paper without any complain.I have no rights in everything that he owns.For me,on that moment,the first thing that comes up to my mind is why is he doing this to me.He is the 1st man in my life and he knows that.I am a virgin (sorry for my word but it hurts me so really bad)when he got me.I am a descent woman and I did everything to be a descent and good wife.I never complain if he wakes me up at 1 am just to take his dog outside to pee.I get up 1st before him just to pack his lunch and prepare his b-fast.He has no tv.He worked 5 days a week.He leave at 5 and get home at sometimes almost 11 pm.I never complain that.So, in short,what I did ,is I said..wait....I talked to my sister and brother in law.I was seeking for advice what do I need to do.Should I sign it or not? I know I won't be happy because for me I don't deserve it because all I want is a respect.So, he said,ok,but he is smart..He get a marriage license.We get it together and I agree because I thought his mind will be changed.But, then,I know that,that is why he get it so that he could used in order to clean his self.He called the USCIS and said,that t is my fault that we will not be able to get married and it makes me mad.He is a nurse and he works in ICU and I am pretty sure that they will favor of him because he is educated.They believe in him because he have that charisma.So,I already know that there's no marriage happen between us because he said that I already disagree to sign the agreement.So,I said,before I go back to my country,I have to see my sister and nephews.I ask him and he drive me to my sister's place.And after 3 days I went back to his house,my brother in law send me back because I was a stupid,I was in love with him.So, i just stay and he said,I could stay with him illegally because I said to him that I love him.My sister got so upset on me and her friend who is the president of filipina association.My sister said that I should go back home so that I will not be on the black list and I did not listen so she called police in order to get me out from my fiance and it happened.But, what really happen is, my fiance make a nice statement to the police w/c I think is his friend,he said,that my sister is crazy and he said that he has already a ticket for me.So the police said,ok...So,in the morning,as what I have expected,he already packed my things, and he said,that I have already a ticket.I was crying because I don't want to leave him because I was very in love with him.But he was mad, he said go...Even if I don't want to,I was forced,so I ride in plane going to Texas and then because it was my 1st international flight,I got lost.The airport is so big and I miss my flight.Maybe it's because,I was crying and I keep going back to the bathroom because I was ashamed that people were looking at me.So,then I called him and told him,I miss my flight.He said,it's your fault,I have no more obligation with you.So,i called my sister and told him,I am stranded.I got only 100$ on my pocket.That's all I have.he only gave me 100$ and that's why I just stay in the airport.My family were all worries about me.So,my brother in law ask me if I am welling to stay with them for a couple of days until I have someone to go with back to philippines.Because,they have heard that there is a filipina who is also planning to go home to philippines.So,that's why I said,yes..So,they bought me a plane ticket.And I took it .And,then, when I was with my sister's family,I was still keep thinking of my fiance.Then,I cheated my sister,I e-mailed my fiance and told him I am with my sister.after, he knew it,he said,that he still love me and I believe, so,when my sister left me at his friend's house, I sneak and called my fiance and then my fiance get me from there.My sister and her friend were so mad of me because I am stupid and they said they were trying to help me and I did not help myself.So,in short,I was with him again.I keep waiting waiting as usual if he's gonna marry me.But,still nothing is changed.In fact,I saw his videos making sex with another woman who is his co-worker,a nurse also..It hurts me a lot.I don't know what to do.I comfront him once and he cannot say anything because it is true.I copied it and it here with me now .I put it on the dvd disc.But,I am still not discouraged,I still waited and waited maybe because I feel like I can't live without him.Until,time come,it was March 10 2008,that he said,he is going to bring me to his mom's house and hide me there because he said nobody knows me there.Like I will just travel thro and fro so that the INS cannot locate me.It's stupid.Then,I wake up and face the truth that he doesn't love me.I called my friend and ask her for help.She was a little bit mad of me because I already cheat on her.My sister is afraid to help me concerning I am already an illegal.I talked to my fiance,I said to him ,I can't go with you.He was very mad and I don't listen to my heart anymore.I left.He did not give me even a peny.

When,I was at my friend's house, she let me use the computer.You just don't know how it's hard for me.There's no nights that I don't cry.They see me and felt pity on me.She sometimes brought me to her school so that I will be entertained.And,then,one time,when I log on my computer,i saw a message from a man, which is now my husband.He said,he is welling to marry me and starts family with me.I agree with him w/o any hesitation.We got married after 2 weeks of conversation.He came to my friend's house and ask my hand from them.My friends were trying to disagree about it because they said it's too quick.But I don't listen because for me,I believe that these is all God's plan.This man is for me.He comes on the right time.He marry me without any hassle.No premarital agreement.He put me on his bank account and everything and then he filed me a I-130 to the USCIS.And he also work in the hospital and he is more specialize than the other guy.He is also more responsible than him.And now,my heart is change.How can I not love him if he loves me more than I thought?I am completely in love with him now.I don't know,my feelings from the other man is just vanish completely especially everytime I think what e have done to me .

Now,I am just waiting for the approval.I don't know if they gonna approve it or what.I hope they will..They already sent us a reciept on May 29,2008....that's all i need to know about..if someone out here who has the same situation of me,please share and tell me if I am doing the right thing.I also need to know,if i should go back home,while my application is pending so that I will not face the banning.Just share..thanks for reading.God be with us all~

[payxibka 10,045]

There is no adjustment of status ability from K-1 unless the marriage was to the original petitioner... without a trip home and a new petition is filed.

Edited September 24, 2008 by payxibka

[Eric-Pris 1,606]

Yes, the guy is a dirtbag for not mentioning the pre-nup beforehand. It could have save them both some heaches. But...

If a woman is that offended by a pre-nup, she has other plans for the guy's money. Like she says, this new guy put her on his bank accounts and all is good in golddiggerland. It's amazing how she was so madly in love with the first guy and then gets an email out of the blue from some guy who wants to marry her, and she falls in love with him instantly and marries him.

Edited September 24, 2008 by kid brooklyn

[bhajishah 4]

YOU CANT DO THATH NO MATTER WHAT THe ECSCUSES!!!!!

[Chica Yeyé 41]

#######?

you entered on a K-1 visa to marry man #1. You can only adjust status based on that marriage. End of story.

Your petition with man #2 will very likely be denied; as you entered the country to marry man #1. Not cool.

[Sprailenes 47]

This man is for me.He comes on the right time.He marry me without any hassle.No premarital agreement.He put me on his bank account and everything and then he filed me a I-130 to the USCIS.And he also work in the hospital and he is more specialize than the other guy.

Oh really?

And you were upset that your ex wanted a prenup?

You overstayed your K1 visa and then within weeks of breaking up with your "fiance" you married someone else? Noo this isn't going to raise any flags...not at all.

[Mrs.J06 4]

This man is for me.He comes on the right time.He marry me without any hassle.No premarital agreement.He put me on his bank account and everything and then he filed me a I-130 to the USCIS.And he also work in the hospital and he is more specialize than the other guy.

Oh really?

And you were upset that your ex wanted a prenup?

You overstayed your K1 visa and then within weeks of breaking up with your "fiance" you married someone else? Noo this isn't going to raise any flags...not at all.

No kidding. Guess the ex had his ducks in a row.

But then, the new guy is more specialised than the old one and probably makes better money! Seriously, reading about these cases makes me wonder why the US government even still provides K1/K3 visas...

[belovedbyme 0]

Dear Everybody,

Hello all,may the Lord God bless us and to this column.

I am new to this site and I am so glad to find this because it helps me a lot with my problems.And now ,I am hoping you all to advice me what is the best thing to do.And in order to understand my situation,here is my story.

I arrived here in the US last August 15,2007.On my first day here,I already noticed something is wrong with my fiance.I feel like he just brought me here in order to have a servant in his kids and pets.He got 2 kids.But I don't complain about that.Because for me,it's my obligation as his wife to be because that is what I expect hence he brought me as his fiancee.What I don't understand, is ,why he has no plan about marrying me?He is aware that he should marry me b4 90 days so that I will not be sent back home.I did not ask him a marriage and I just wait because for me as a filipina ,we have no rights to ask for a marriage.I just wait and wait until I decided to ask him if is he having second thoughts of marrying me.He said no,he doesn't.He just told me that he just need a enough time to ask a vacation leave from his work.So,I listened until the date comes that he promise to marry me. It was Nov.5, and my visa will be expired on Nov. 13,see how difficult it is for me.I feel like I am climbing on a very thin thread.I hurts but I can do nothing.He has the ace.My reputation is already been damaged.For me,if I go back home,it would be a very big issue.People will talk about me.Judging me badly.I hope you understand what I mean.So,I take it all.I just cry and pray.But the worse thing was when Nov. 5 comes,it was morning,I thought, we will go to the court but, I was surprised when he handed me a pre-marital agreement.Everything that is bad for me is in there.He said if I won't sign it,there's no marriage will be happen between us.He is welling to buy me a ticket for me to go back home.But,it states there,that he has no obligation on me,if I die,he has no obligation about my burial expenses,if he divorce me , I would just have to sign the divorce paper without any complain.I have no rights in everything that he owns.For me,on that moment,the first thing that comes up to my mind is why is he doing this to me.He is the 1st man in my life and he knows that.I am a virgin (sorry for my word but it hurts me so really bad)when he got me.I am a descent woman and I did everything to be a descent and good wife.I never complain if he wakes me up at 1 am just to take his dog outside to pee.I get up 1st before him just to pack his lunch and prepare his b-fast.He has no tv.He worked 5 days a week.He leave at 5 and get home at sometimes almost 11 pm.I never complain that.So, in short,what I did ,is I said..wait....I talked to my sister and brother in law.I was seeking for advice what do I need to do.Should I sign it or not? I know I won't be happy because for me I don't deserve it because all I want is a respect.So, he said,ok,but he is smart..He get a marriage license.We get it together and I agree because I thought his mind will be changed.But, then,I know that,that is why he get it so that he could used in order to clean his self.He called the USCIS and said,that t is my fault that we will not be able to get married and it makes me mad.He is a nurse and he works in ICU and I am pretty sure that they will favor of him because he is educated.They believe in him because he have that charisma.So,I already know that there's no marriage happen between us because he said that I already disagree to sign the agreement.So,I said,before I go back to my country,I have to see my sister and nephews.I ask him and he drive me to my sister's place.And after 3 days I went back to his house,my brother in law send me back because I was a stupid,I was in love with him.So, i just stay and he said,I could stay with him illegally because I said to him that I love him.My sister got so upset on me and her friend who is the president of filipina association.My sister said that I should go back home so that I will not be on the black list and I did not listen so she called police in order to get me out from my fiance and it happened.But, what really happen is, my fiance make a nice statement to the police w/c I think is his friend,he said,that my sister is crazy and he said that he has already a ticket for me.So the police said,ok...So,in the morning,as what I have expected,he already packed my things, and he said,that I have already a ticket.I was crying because I don't want to leave him because I was very in love with him.But he was mad, he said go...Even if I don't want to,I was forced,so I ride in plane going to Texas and then because it was my 1st international flight,I got lost.The airport is so big and I miss my flight.Maybe it's because,I was crying and I keep going back to the bathroom because I was ashamed that people were looking at me.So,then I called him and told him,I miss my flight.He said,it's your fault,I have no more obligation with you.So,i called my sister and told him,I am stranded.I got only 100$ on my pocket.That's all I have.he only gave me 100$ and that's why I just stay in the airport.My family were all worries about me.So,my brother in law ask me if I am welling to stay with them for a couple of days until I have someone to go with back to philippines.Because,they have heard that there is a filipina who is also planning to go home to philippines.So,that's why I said,yes..So,they bought me a plane ticket.And I took it .And,then, when I was with my sister's family,I was still keep thinking of my fiance.Then,I cheated my sister,I e-mailed my fiance and told him I am with my sister.after, he knew it,he said,that he still love me and I believe, so,when my sister left me at his friend's house, I sneak and called my fiance and then my fiance get me from there.My sister and her friend were so mad of me because I am stupid and they said they were trying to help me and I did not help myself.So,in short,I was with him again.I keep waiting waiting as usual if he's gonna marry me.But,still nothing is changed.In fact,I saw his videos making sex with another woman who is his co-worker,a nurse also..It hurts me a lot.I don't know what to do.I comfront him once and he cannot say anything because it is true.I copied it and it here with me now .I put it on the dvd disc.But,I am still not discouraged,I still waited and waited maybe because I feel like I can't live without him.Until,time come,it was March 10 2008,that he said,he is going to bring me to his mom's house and hide me there because he said nobody knows me there.Like I will just travel thro and fro so that the INS cannot locate me.It's stupid.Then,I wake up and face the truth that he doesn't love me.I called my friend and ask her for help.She was a little bit mad of me because I already cheat on her.My sister is afraid to help me concerning I am already an illegal.I talked to my fiance,I said to him ,I can't go with you.He was very mad and I don't listen to my heart anymore.I left.He did not give me even a peny.

When,I was at my friend's house, she let me use the computer.You just don't know how it's hard for me.There's no nights that I don't cry.They see me and felt pity on me.She sometimes brought me to her school so that I will be entertained.And,then,one time,when I log on my computer,i saw a message from a man, which is now my husband.He said,he is welling to marry me and starts family with me.I agree with him w/o any hesitation.We got married after 2 weeks of conversation.He came to my friend's house and ask my hand from them.My friends were trying to disagree about it because they said it's too quick.But I don't listen because for me,I believe that these is all God's plan.This man is for me.He comes on the right time.He marry me without any hassle.No premarital agreement.He put me on his bank account and everything and then he filed me a I-130 to the USCIS.And he also work in the hospital and he is more specialize than the other guy.He is also more responsible than him.And now,my heart is change.How can I not love him if he loves me more than I thought?I am completely in love with him now.I don't know,my feelings from the other man is just vanish completely especially everytime I think what e have done to me .

Now,I am just waiting for the approval.I don't know if they gonna approve it or what.I hope they will..They already sent us a reciept on May 29,2008....that's all i need to know about..if someone out here who has the same situation of me,please share and tell me if I am doing the right thing.I also need to know,if i should go back home,while my application is pending so that I will not face the banning.Just share..thanks for reading.God be with us all~

Oh dear!! Sorry to hear about it but you overstay. You should have gone back to your country before your visa expired. Under the k-1 visa you are only allowed to marry the 'petitioner' so u can adjust status in the US. I've read it somewhere in this forum under waiver where a filipina overstayed as well. I will refer you to this site www.fianceevisas.com your husband can call and ask for advice. It's free consultation so no money will be spent. Read more on that website before you give a call.. Good luck!!

[belovedbyme 0]

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=151129 please read this thread..hope it helps..

chief

[belovedbyme 0]

Dear Everybody,

Hello all,may the Lord God bless us and to this column.

I am new to this site and I am so glad to find this because it helps me a lot with my problems.And now ,I am hoping you all to advice me what is the best thing to do.And in order to understand my situation,here is my story.

I arrived here in the US last August 15,2007.On my first day here,I already noticed something is wrong with my fiance.I feel like he just brought me here in order to have a servant in his kids and pets.He got 2 kids.But I don't complain about that.Because for me,it's my obligation as his wife to be because that is what I expect hence he brought me as his fiancee.What I don't understand, is ,why he has no plan about marrying me?He is aware that he should marry me b4 90 days so that I will not be sent back home.I did not ask him a marriage and I just wait because for me as a filipina ,we have no rights to ask for a marriage.I just wait and wait until I decided to ask him if is he having second thoughts of marrying me.He said no,he doesn't.He just told me that he just need a enough time to ask a vacation leave from his work.So,I listened until the date comes that he promise to marry me. It was Nov.5, and my visa will be expired on Nov. 13,see how difficult it is for me.I feel like I am climbing on a very thin thread.I hurts but I can do nothing.He has the ace.My reputation is already been damaged.For me,if I go back home,it would be a very big issue.People will talk about me.Judging me badly.I hope you understand what I mean.So,I take it all.I just cry and pray.But the worse thing was when Nov. 5 comes,it was morning,I thought, we will go to the court but, I was surprised when he handed me a pre-marital agreement.Everything that is bad for me is in there.He said if I won't sign it,there's no marriage will be happen between us.He is welling to buy me a ticket for me to go back home.But,it states there,that he has no obligation on me,if I die,he has no obligation about my burial expenses,if he divorce me , I would just have to sign the divorce paper without any complain.I have no rights in everything that he owns.For me,on that moment,the first thing that comes up to my mind is why is he doing this to me.He is the 1st man in my life and he knows that.I am a virgin (sorry for my word but it hurts me so really bad)when he got me.I am a descent woman and I did everything to be a descent and good wife.I never complain if he wakes me up at 1 am just to take his dog outside to pee.I get up 1st before him just to pack his lunch and prepare his b-fast.He has no tv.He worked 5 days a week.He leave at 5 and get home at sometimes almost 11 pm.I never complain that.So, in short,what I did ,is I said..wait....I talked to my sister and brother in law.I was seeking for advice what do I need to do.Should I sign it or not? I know I won't be happy because for me I don't deserve it because all I want is a respect.So, he said,ok,but he is smart..He get a marriage license.We get it together and I agree because I thought his mind will be changed.But, then,I know that,that is why he get it so that he could used in order to clean his self.He called the USCIS and said,that t is my fault that we will not be able to get married and it makes me mad.He is a nurse and he works in ICU and I am pretty sure that they will favor of him because he is educated.They believe in him because he have that charisma.So,I already know that there's no marriage happen between us because he said that I already disagree to sign the agreement.So,I said,before I go back to my country,I have to see my sister and nephews.I ask him and he drive me to my sister's place.And after 3 days I went back to his house,my brother in law send me back because I was a stupid,I was in love with him.So, i just stay and he said,I could stay with him illegally because I said to him that I love him.My sister got so upset on me and her friend who is the president of filipina association.My sister said that I should go back home so that I will not be on the black list and I did not listen so she called police in order to get me out from my fiance and it happened.But, what really happen is, my fiance make a nice statement to the police w/c I think is his friend,he said,that my sister is crazy and he said that he has already a ticket for me.So the police said,ok...So,in the morning,as what I have expected,he already packed my things, and he said,that I have already a ticket.I was crying because I don't want to leave him because I was very in love with him.But he was mad, he said go...Even if I don't want to,I was forced,so I ride in plane going to Texas and then because it was my 1st international flight,I got lost.The airport is so big and I miss my flight.Maybe it's because,I was crying and I keep going back to the bathroom because I was ashamed that people were looking at me.So,then I called him and told him,I miss my flight.He said,it's your fault,I have no more obligation with you.So,i called my sister and told him,I am stranded.I got only 100$ on my pocket.That's all I have.he only gave me 100$ and that's why I just stay in the airport.My family were all worries about me.So,my brother in law ask me if I am welling to stay with them for a couple of days until I have someone to go with back to philippines.Because,they have heard that there is a filipina who is also planning to go home to philippines.So,that's why I said,yes..So,they bought me a plane ticket.And I took it .And,then, when I was with my sister's family,I was still keep thinking of my fiance.Then,I cheated my sister,I e-mailed my fiance and told him I am with my sister.after, he knew it,he said,that he still love me and I believe, so,when my sister left me at his friend's house, I sneak and called my fiance and then my fiance get me from there.My sister and her friend were so mad of me because I am stupid and they said they were trying to help me and I did not help myself.So,in short,I was with him again.I keep waiting waiting as usual if he's gonna marry me.But,still nothing is changed.In fact,I saw his videos making sex with another woman who is his co-worker,a nurse also..It hurts me a lot.I don't know what to do.I comfront him once and he cannot say anything because it is true.I copied it and it here with me now .I put it on the dvd disc.But,I am still not discouraged,I still waited and waited maybe because I feel like I can't live without him.Until,time come,it was March 10 2008,that he said,he is going to bring me to his mom's house and hide me there because he said nobody knows me there.Like I will just travel thro and fro so that the INS cannot locate me.It's stupid.Then,I wake up and face the truth that he doesn't love me.I called my friend and ask her for help.She was a little bit mad of me because I already cheat on her.My sister is afraid to help me concerning I am already an illegal.I talked to my fiance,I said to him ,I can't go with you.He was very mad and I don't listen to my heart anymore.I left.He did not give me even a peny.

When,I was at my friend's house, she let me use the computer.You just don't know how it's hard for me.There's no nights that I don't cry.They see me and felt pity on me.She sometimes brought me to her school so that I will be entertained.And,then,one time,when I log on my computer,i saw a message from a man, which is now my husband.He said,he is welling to marry me and starts family with me.I agree with him w/o any hesitation.We got married after 2 weeks of conversation.He came to my friend's house and ask my hand from them.My friends were trying to disagree about it because they said it's too quick.But I don't listen because for me,I believe that these is all God's plan.This man is for me.He comes on the right time.He marry me without any hassle.No premarital agreement.He put me on his bank account and everything and then he filed me a I-130 to the USCIS.And he also work in the hospital and he is more specialize than the other guy.He is also more responsible than him.And now,my heart is change.How can I not love him if he loves me more than I thought?I am completely in love with him now.I don't know,my feelings from the other man is just vanish completely especially everytime I think what e have done to me .

Now,I am just waiting for the approval.I don't know if they gonna approve it or what.I hope they will..They already sent us a reciept on May 29,2008....that's all i need to know about..if someone out here who has the same situation of me,please share and tell me if I am doing the right thing.I also need to know,if i should go back home,while my application is pending so that I will not face the banning.Just share..thanks for reading.God be with us all~

another thread for you to read..this has more advice.. http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=150183

[boyage 1]

Hi,thanks for the reply.I am glad that you understand my situation.I don't know why some other people could not understand.I am not a gold diggger.......................All,I want is a respect..That's all!...........I never him any amount besides the payments of my papers,but he is the one who do it voluntarily.............So, why would they judge me that I am a god digger.It's just because some people do it and they generalize it..........It is so sad...........It hurts!............Not all people are they same,right.............Is it bad to ask for a respect?

Thank you so much,beloved me,whoever you are..May God bless you!........You have such a good heart....Thank you,thank you,thank you for the reply.

[ccndyeth 0]

ammmm

[Lili 3]

The matter of the fact is that you CAN'T adjust in the US anymore. You will have to go home and file for a waiver for your overstay.

Time to consult with an immigration lawyer.

[amerasianlove 0]

Sorry to hear about your experience with your ex-fiance.

It's nice your so happy now with your husband however there is no way for you adjust your status in US since your husband is not your original petitioner.

You can go back to Philippines then your husband will file the spouse visa,but I'm thinking your case might raise a red flag to the US Embassy since you married your husband in just a matter of two weeks of knowing each other.

And you are facing a ban now from overstaying.Consult an immigration lawyer regarding your case.

I wish you well...and GOD bless you!

Edited September 26, 2008 by God's*GiRL

[boyage 1]

Thank you for your symphaty...Thank you for understanding me..Yes,I wish I did it.I don't know.I was being blinded.Honestly,on that time when I went back with him,I was already ready to stay with him illegally.I know it's stupid but I don't know what I was thinking on that time.That's why I stayed with him even after my visa expired which was on Feb. 15,2008..But,it was changed after I saw his sex video with his co-worker and when he said that he wants to hide me at his mom's house.You know,that's the reason I changed my mind.But,i don't understand why some people cannot understand me.Maybe because they don't experience it and they were lucky that's why they can't relate their self to me.But,I don't blame them,I understand them.But wat hurts me when they call me a gold digger...It is not true....I never ask him any amounts and that's why it hurts me when he handed me that pre-nuptial agreement.If it's okay for you,it is okay for me if it doesn't say there that if i die ,he has no obligation on me.What if I get killed,how can my family see my dead body.What if I get sick,how can I get heal,I have no money even a peny.He never give me any aounts since we were together.I was working when we met each other and I only quit when I got my visa.And now, they said I am a gold digger..I think the reason why he wants me to sign it so that he could have me as his sex slave and he could be with other woman without any hassle.And I think that's an abuse,right?So,that's why I wish there's a law for this kind of people.I believe I am not the only one who is in this kind of situation.I feel like some americans,look down us because they think we a just a rag that they can step whenever they want because they are on their country and they believe they have all the rights because we are just a filipina.I know not erybody experience this,that's why I said they must be thankful because they are lucky.Like now,I feel lucky to have my husband who dearly loves me and who treated me as his wife.I got all the respects from him.And he knows that I am not a gold digger.I have his money,I know how much is his income.He call me even if he is at work during his lunch time unlike from the other guy that who never call me even if i was sick.But I never ask that.I am just happy that he trust me,he loves me and he respect me as a woman and his wife.

Anyway, whatever the descession is,I am welling to deal with it.I know that ,I must abide the law.I respect the law and I believe that they have their own purposes.But,I just wish someday,they will make a law on both sides.Not only to the petetioner.I wish they will look on both sides.Reputation is a must for me.I grew with a nice reputation,with a respect from people around me so I just wish I could get it till the rest of my life.But life is full of trials wether we like it or not.I am just here to tell you guys,that , it is hard when someone doesn't respect you.I think everybody needs a respect.Correct me if I am wrong...