Cheating

[akdiver 3]

I have a lot of friends married to Filipinas and so far about 75% of the Filipinas have cheated on their husbands.

I'm shocked - SHOCKED to hear this.

In other VJ off-topic shocking news highlights:

-Christians behave shamefully

-Clay Aiken is Gay

-Water is wet

What shocking news is going to be posted on here next? I can't wait to find out.

[Perseverance 1]

Ok so I realize that my SO is not from PI BUT I saw this when it was in OT and I was reading....anyway here I am and I have somehting to contribute.... are ya ready for it? Here goes...

Oprah did some shows about this cheating, it was focus on men BUT the same reasons generally apply to both genders...believe it or not...it is NOT usually about the sex, but the cheater is usually feeling taken for granted or does not feel that they are paid enough attention. Hence the need to lok for the spark of a new romance the thrill of the chase. I am not saying that "bored" is an excuse but she really could have just been bored. Is she working? What kinds of activities does she have to keep her occupied while the husband is away working? There really is so much underlying reason\emotion that goes with cheating that we dont realize, it is not usually about the sex. When I heard all of the discussions about the reasons why people cheat, I did kind of see it from thier point of view and understand. NOT that I think any of the reasons are valid to me, but I can see how they got to that place.

OK I am done...I think...

P

[akdiver 3]

Wow...with that argument, I guess the VJ Off-topic link/post about Why marriage is a bad deal for men is right on.

[Heracles 417]

Someone from a country whose annual media salary is $1,500 USD, is probably more likely to view marriage as a means to a better life.

[Heracles 417]

edit: median

Dam wireless keyboard..

[LoriLawless 0]

edit: median

Dam wireless keyboard..

You owe me a hug.

[Ban Hammer 13,352]

and here we are again in ot.

[noel_jas 0]

not only younger women cheat but older women also especially now that there are lots of "cougars" around.

[steve_maria 0]

i have known a lot of woman cheating there husband.a the reason is money and right now sad to say but it is rampant now in here in phil.Fil woman already saw that the foreigenr got wife but they still flirt coz of money.yes it is al over the world it happens in other culture.But isn't it shame fil are used to be the conservative and know to be a country of modesty and fine attitude...yes we are in modern now but soem fil do such thing coz of economic crisis sometimes we can't blames this women...they have to work for surviva...

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Ok so I realize that my SO is not from PI BUT I saw this when it was in OT and I was reading....anyway here I am and I have somehting to contribute.... are ya ready for it? Here goes...

Oprah did some shows about this cheating, it was focus on men BUT the same reasons generally apply to both genders...believe it or not...it is NOT usually about the sex, but the cheater is usually feeling taken for granted or does not feel that they are paid enough attention. Hence the need to lok for the spark of a new romance the thrill of the chase. I am not saying that "bored" is an excuse but she really could have just been bored. Is she working? What kinds of activities does she have to keep her occupied while the husband is away working? There really is so much underlying reason\emotion that goes with cheating that we dont realize, it is not usually about the sex. When I heard all of the discussions about the reasons why people cheat, I did kind of see it from thier point of view and understand. NOT that I think any of the reasons are valid to me, but I can see how they got to that place.

OK I am done...I think...

P

IMO, each person who cheats has their own reasons or motivations - tricky to really pin it down to one thing or another, but intimacy, whether it's physical or emotional, is what they are seeking. For me personally, I would be much more devastated if my spouse was having an emotional affair when she cheated as opposed to just a fling. A fling is where the spouse regrets what they've done and really wants to keep their marriage. An affair is when the spouse is head-over-heels in love with another and either has no emotional feelings for their spouse, or is confused emotionally about how they feel about them.

People let themselves get swept up into their emotions without tempering those emotions with reason. A wife who is feeling lonely or bored because her husband is unavailable to her emotionally and/or physically is going to naturally feel strong emotions should another man give her attention. It's at that point, if she truly values her marriage, that she takes those emotions she's feeling as a wake-up call that the marriage needs some attention, by both partners, rather than interpreting those strong emotions to mean that her heart belongs to someone else.

Edited September 25, 2008 by Jabberwocky

[Completely 3]

I have a lot of friends married to Filipinas and so far about 75% of the Filipinas have cheated on their husbands. Is this a normal thing in the Philippines? One friend treated his wife like a queen and she still got a boyfriend on the side and was even renting an apartment for him using my friend's money. I just don't understand this cheating thing. I am going to have long discussions with my wife but wanted to get feedback here on this board too.

75% is almost majority of the filipina.. Is this for real, what statistics did you base on this for? In the Middle East many americans is cheating on their american wives and treating Filipinas here like a toy they can play with, after they get what they want and they get tired they just put them aside.. Majority of those Filipinas went home with their heart broken, some of them got pregnant, went home either, and some remained strong and stay in the Middle East.. Most of them were my friends too, but on that incident I never said 75% american is just a user and is cheater. and never bother to discuss to my husband as I believe that he is different and I know him better than that.. I trust him 100%.

No one can not generalize one nationality just because some of their friends cheated on them... Maybe they are meeting the wrong kind of women, or a very young woman far from his age perhaps, and have seen the red flag and yet ignore it? When people are dating, red flags can be seen in the first stage of relationship, but some people just tend to ignore it..

In my case, me and my husband met overseas, dated for a year before we got married.. We both work, earning the same amount of money.. and has 50/50 sharing of responsibilities.. I am a US citizen now, but I still prefer to live in the midde east.. I did not marry him because he is from the US, but because I love him and want to share the rest of my life with him..

Source:

A mother of 2.

The bottom line is, there is bad apple and oranges everywhere..

Edited September 25, 2008 by Completely

[envy_me 18]

Then maybe you can explain how to meet the "right women" then. These girls, the ones I know, are all from Mindanao and usually have stronger moral values than places like Manila. I have met most of them when I was there last and they all seems like very sweet individuals. This whole thing just seems to conflict with the culture

whoa!!!!!

im from manila.. and i would definitely DISAGREE with what you're saying..

maybe you've seen the bad side of manila, like where u can find the hookers..

thats why you're like stating that mindanao girls have stronger moral values than us..

careful with what u say.. try to go visit and stay in different places of manila so you'll know what you're talkin abt..

i think what really matters is the person's background or uprbinging..

you're tellin me they have "stronger moral values cos they're from mindanao"..

but here you are posting things abt how your "filipina friends from mindanao" cheated on their husbands.. :whistle:

Edited September 25, 2008 by envy_me

[Margott1990 0]

and here we are again in OT.

..wonder why its back and forth?

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

You ppl make things so fcking complicated! She cheats, she's GONE! Liva and learn. Who gives a flyin hoot why someone cheats. Ppl cheat cuz they aint HAPPY!

[envy_me 18]

When you pick a woman you pick the one that truely love you not just lies(Bola) talk.

It's easy to spot on too just open your eyes.

that's how u find the right one..

open your eyes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ppl cheat cuz they aint HAPPY!

Edited September 25, 2008 by envy_me