Wife gone after 10 months

[Sha2011 0]

Tangkas the point many people are trying to make here (and you are unable or unwilling to accept) is that most stories have two sides. Yea you wrote a book about how bad your wife is & maybe she really is that bad, but you also come across as seeing her as a possession rather than an equal partner. You act like you bought a defective product and you are exchanging it at Walmart for a replacement.

I know this ! My wife has decided to come back and work things out. My wife has her faults, and I have mine also. We've spoken on how we could work our problems, and we MAY give it another shot. Did I say I was getting remarried any time soon. I don't know where your getting this from. Possibly I wasn't clear on the fact I am not looking for another wife

I really hope your wife isn't making a mistake by coming back to you, and I also hope the other spanish lady with the green card isn' making a mistake either by comunicating with someone like you... Feel really bad for both of them..

Abby

To be honest you have the right to your opinion. My Spanish lady person is a school mate that knows I am married. Never promised her a relationship. I never told her I would leave my wife..... We never had an intimate relationship...

My wife wouldn't be coming back here if she didn't think it can work... Our problems aren't as intense as everyone is thinking... I thank you for your input...

You are still married, you state that you and her MAY work it out. But you have already found a new woman online. I don't know what to tell you here. Why didn't you simply wait for either a divorce, or a final decision to divorce before you moved on?

Please do yourself a favor. Take responsibility for your actions. Show kindness towards your wife. Do the best you can. Then if you did your best and couldn't reconcile your differences then walk away without so much anger and resentment towards her. I am not convinced that she used you for a green card, and trust me, I believe there is a large majority here that are out for the green card. I think you both had unrealistic expectations for your marriage.

But to have moved onto a new woman already doesn't show much for your intentions of love towards her.

Where do you get I found a woman online ? I have a friend from school that likes me, but where do you get I found a woman online ? See you don't know me or my wife. So there's a limit to the advice you can because of that.

You said enough on this thread. Now your just posting based on irrational assumptions. I am not trying to be rude, but thats what you doing. I don't think I had unrealistc plans for marriage, nor do I think my wife did. The problems are caused my promising breaking. Again I say you dont know me or my wife to say we had unrealistic expectations.

I never moved on. What I done with the online site was for excitement, wasn't looking for marriage, and comoanionship, no marriage at all.

Edited September 30, 2008 by tangkas

[morocco4ever 63]

I already have another woman in line. She's Hispanic and yes she has her green card. Praise God ! kicking.gif

You don't have another woman? Then why would you be praising God that she already has a greencard?

You keep changing your story once you realize just how bad what you posted sounded. I believe that first impressions are usually the correct one.

[Sha2011 0]

I already have another woman in line. She's Hispanic and yes she has her green card. Praise God ! kicking.gif

You don't have another woman? Then why would you be praising God that she already has a greencard?

You keep changing your story once you realize just how bad what you posted sounded. I believe that first impressions are usually the correct one.

I am sorry I think your being a bit irrational. This is a friend. If my wife decided she would live in California. Like I had originally thought she would when I wrote that post. Yes, I would of hung out with that girl as friends.

I wasn't going to jump into a serious relationship with her, and she knows that. I wasn't going to use her as a rebound.

This girl does like me. She knows of my wife. We got to know each other as classmates.

Concernin the green card,I meant is a woman likes me, and she has a green card..... I was begining to think I was just a guy with American citizenship, and my citizenship makes me attractive. By this girl liking me at school I realized someone likes me, not for my citizenship, but because of who I am.... When I wrote that post I was talking about being used for a green card by my wife.

You can't understand my situation, because you've never met me or my wife

Edited September 30, 2008 by tangkas

[morocco4ever 63]

Irrational? That doesn't make sense. Perhaps you meant to say that I misunderstood.

[richo 0]

I already have another woman in line. She's Hispanic and yes she has her green card. Praise God ! kicking.gif

You don't have another woman? Then why would you be praising God that she already has a greencard?

You keep changing your story once you realize just how bad what you posted sounded. I believe that first impressions are usually the correct one.

I am sorry I think your being a bit irrational. This is a friend. If my wife decided she would live in California. Like I had originally thought she would when I wrote that post. Yes, I would of hung out with that girl as friends.

I wasn't going to jump into a serious relationship with her, and she knows that. I wasn't going to use her as a rebound.

This girl does like me. She knows of my wife. We got to know each other as classmates.

Concernin the green card,I meant is a woman likes me, and she has a green card..... I was begining to think I was just a guy with American citizenship, and my citizenship makes me attractive. By this girl liking me at school I realized someone likes me, not for my citizenship, but because of who I am.... When I wrote that post I was talking about being used for a green card by my wife.

You can't understand my situation, because you've never met me or my wife

You must still be young? Or maybe childlike...just wondering

[JenT 0]

*stolen from another thread... applies here too..... *

[nowhereman 1]

Wow this situation is very, very dysfunctional. Tang you need a marriage counselor pronto & I'm wondering if a psychologist wouldn't be a bad idea either (some are both, maybe you can score a 2 for 1 deal). When I say 2 for 1 I don't mean a threesome with your wife & the latina chic either!

[morocco4ever 63]

Wow this situation is very, very dysfunctional. Tang you need a marriage counselor pronto & I'm wondering if a psychologist wouldn't be a bad idea either (some are both, maybe you can score a 2 for 1 deal). When I say 2 for 1 I don't mean a threesome with your wife & the latina chic either!

That was really naughty!

[LoriLawless 0]

*stolen from another thread... applies here too..... *

[Sha2011 0]

Wow this situation is very, very dysfunctional. Tang you need a marriage counselor pronto & I'm wondering if a psychologist wouldn't be a bad idea either (some are both, maybe you can score a 2 for 1 deal). When I say 2 for 1 I don't mean a threesome with your wife & the latina chic either!

Dude ! Get your mind of the gutter ! My wife has male friends. I am untitled to have female friends. I am not looking to have sex with my female friends.

[Sha2011 0]

Irrational? That doesn't make sense. Perhaps you meant to say that I misunderstood.

Your replies are kind of irrational because your typing like you've known me and my wife for years. It's not rational to think you understand our situation, as good as you think you do. You don't know my wife. Roght ! I you posted you don't understand... You don't understand our situation for someone to understand what went wrong, and why they went wrong they would have to be someone that close to us like family and our close friends.

When you've sat down and spoke to both of us, that would be the time to reply like you've been doing.

Edited September 30, 2008 by tangkas

[Sha2011 0]

Wow this situation is very, very dysfunctional. Tang you need a marriage counselor pronto & I'm wondering if a psychologist wouldn't be a bad idea either (some are both, maybe you can score a 2 for 1 deal). When I say 2 for 1 I don't mean a threesome with your wife & the latina chic either!

Dude ! Get your mind of the gutter ! My wife has male friends. I am enitled to have female friends. I am not looking to have sex with my female friends.

Edited September 30, 2008 by tangkas

[Jenn! 918]

Thread closed at the request of the OP.