Divorce & How It Works

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You have invested alot of years in this person. If I were you I would write a detailed letter to

your local USCIS Office and also your local state representatives. (Govenor, and Mayors)

office.

Too many Americans have/are taken for a short term marriage ride and receive heartaches

while the Aliens receive permanent residence. If your like me and feel that your Alien spouse

has taken you for a ride I'd alert the proper authorities.

" Why sit we here til we die "

Sorry, but this is terrible advice. Laurie pointed out that her marriage was entered into in good faith. Marriages end for a lot of different reasons and it hurts, but just because the spouse happens to be foreign doesn't mean they deserve extra punishment. Not all foreign marriages are fraud related and it doesn't seem right to me that you pass out this "reporting to the authorities" advice to any USC getting a divorce from a foreign spouse.

Laurie - I am so sorry to hear that things didn't work out for you guys. I hope that in time you can put the pieces back together and come out dtronger for this experience. Take care of yourself.

[TheZilla 0]

You have invested alot of years in this person. If I were you I would write a detailed letter to

your local USCIS Office and also your local state representatives. (Govenor, and Mayors)

office.

Too many Americans have/are taken for a short term marriage ride and receive heartaches

while the Aliens receive permanent residence. If your like me and feel that your Alien spouse

has taken you for a ride I'd alert the proper authorities.

" Why sit we here til we die "

Why should she write to her representative? She states she knows the relationship was bonafide.

There are appropriate times to seek the ear of an elected representative. I don't believe this is one of them.

To the OP -

Personally, I wouldn't rush filing for a divorce. I'd let him do the filing. He wants to end the relationship - let him be the one to do the dirty work. This sounds like a very rash and impulsive thing on his part. Whether or not he ends up wishing to reverse his decision is hard to say. Whether or not you would forgive him is up to you.

Yeah, like I said, at the end of the day I couldn't sink so low as to do any lying or false representation of any sort just because I'm hurting like absolute hell. I don't really believe he took me for some kind of ride just to get into the country, he absolutely didn't and I know it deep down. I wouldn't lie just to be spiteful, I just couldn't. He said he wouldn't take advantage of this marriage in that manner, he said he had enough respect for me and what we had that he will move back to the UK. Whether or not he meant that remains to be seen, and really, I wouldn't be surprised if he stays as the man is absolutely spineless. I already have too many regrets about this whole thing, I don't need to add more by being conniving and spiteful.

I'm leaving the divorce to him. He'll have to contact me about what the hell he wants to do. I have no plans whatsoever for reconciliation, and I do not believe he does at all either. He made his choice and I'm trying to deal with it as best I can and move on.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

You have invested alot of years in this person. If I were you I would write a detailed letter to

your local USCIS Office and also your local state representatives. (Govenor, and Mayors)

office.

Too many Americans have/are taken for a short term marriage ride and receive heartaches

while the Aliens receive permanent residence. If your like me and feel that your Alien spouse

has taken you for a ride I'd alert the proper authorities.

" Why sit we here til we die "

Sorry, but this is terrible advice. Laurie pointed out that her marriage was entered into in good faith. Marriages end for a lot of different reasons and it hurts, but just because the spouse happens to be foreign doesn't mean they deserve extra punishment. Not all foreign marriages are fraud related and it doesn't seem right to me that you pass out this "reporting to the authorities" advice to any USC getting a divorce from a foreign spouse.

Laurie - I am so sorry to hear that things didn't work out for you guys. I hope that in time you can put the pieces back together and come out dtronger for this experience. Take care of yourself.

Right. Ergo the reason I began this discussion in the first place.

Let me put it to you this way, in other stages of the process, we often cry out to people that are trying to circumvent the system or do not follow procedure, claiming that these less than direct approaches cost others more scrutiny, more time to process a legitimate case etc. It's no different here. If a USC files a report with USCIS that an alien married for immigration benefit alone, (a fraud claim) and it turns out to be simply a case of one partner that had bonafide intentions in the first place, but changing his or her mind during the marriage for whatever reason, ift too places undue work load on USCIS to investigate. Perhaps not right away, but certainly at the next stage in the process for the alien. This also serves, in an indirect way, to dilute the impact of a genuine case of unilateral immigratin fraud. My personal belief is that the avenue available for the rarer cases of marriage by deception should not be cluttered with spurious claims. Does no one any good and causes delays, more scrutiny and hardship for others.

[TheZilla 0]

You have invested alot of years in this person. If I were you I would write a detailed letter to

your local USCIS Office and also your local state representatives. (Govenor, and Mayors)

office.

Too many Americans have/are taken for a short term marriage ride and receive heartaches

while the Aliens receive permanent residence. If your like me and feel that your Alien spouse

has taken you for a ride I'd alert the proper authorities.

" Why sit we here til we die "

Sorry, but this is terrible advice. Laurie pointed out that her marriage was entered into in good faith. Marriages end for a lot of different reasons and it hurts, but just because the spouse happens to be foreign doesn't mean they deserve extra punishment. Not all foreign marriages are fraud related and it doesn't seem right to me that you pass out this "reporting to the authorities" advice to any USC getting a divorce from a foreign spouse.

Laurie - I am so sorry to hear that things didn't work out for you guys. I hope that in time you can put the pieces back together and come out dtronger for this experience. Take care of yourself.

Right. Ergo the reason I began this discussion in the first place.

Let me put it to you this way, in other stages of the process, we often cry out to people that are trying to circumvent the system or do not follow procedure, claiming that these less than direct approaches cost others more scrutiny, more time to process a legitimate case etc. It's no different here. If a USC files a report with USCIS that an alien married for immigration benefit alone, (a fraud claim) and it turns out to be simply a case of one partner that had bonafide intentions in the first place, but changing his or her mind during the marriage for whatever reason, ift too places undue work load on USCIS to investigate. Perhaps not right away, but certainly at the next stage in the process for the alien. This also serves, in an indirect way, to dilute the impact of a genuine case of unilateral immigratin fraud. My personal belief is that the avenue available for the rarer cases of marriage by deception should not be cluttered with spurious claims. Does no one any good and causes delays, more scrutiny and hardship for others.

Exactly. If it had just been that they would have to make him leave simply because we divorced, I would send in whatever paperwork I had to, I won't lie. In the end, that's not how it works and I'm not going to make other people who really suffer at the hands of true frauds have to go through a tougher time just because I'm heartbroken. It's petty and wrong, and I just wouldn't go there. Can't say I don't hope he gets screwed over somewhere down the line, but I'm not gonna do it.