online social network sites

[Perseverance 1]

Maybe her spouse keeps adding mysterious women to his friend's list with sexy pics, or he gets suggestive comments from strange women? Every couple has a comfort level when it comes to things like that and I imagine some wives would feel uncomfortable if those things are happening with their husband. It could be innocent online flirting, but maybe she doesn't like it....and she's entitled to feel how she feels about it.

yeah those anonymous girls who keep wanting to add my husband as a friend.........does ex girlfriends in Philippines count???????????????? I am not a control freak I didnt mean it like "do you let your spouse....................." I let him do whatever he wants, what I am saying is this stuff sometimes aggravates me thats all!

JSG. i understand why it bothers you. in fact me & my SO almost broke up over my friendster account (that she set up) before she got here, for the very reasons Jabberwocky posted. i didn't think anything of it, i just accepted any & all friend request & comments. but, it was hurtful to her when she would see those things on her BF's friendster. friendster is a good way to keep in touch w/ freinds & family. but, as far as feeling threatened by his freinster...you don't need to be. those people in the PI are 10,000 miles away. just explain to him why you don't like it & i'm sure you can come to an agreement on what is & isn't cool.

thanks ! feeling better now.......

I have heard of other marriages that get into trouble b\c of those kind of sites. We do not use them nor do I allow my kids to use them. In my opinion those sites do more harm than good in the long run. Eveyone has thier opinions and level of comfort. Be open and honest about it with your SO. Talk about it, you will feel better. When you are discussing I recomend using "I" statements not "you" statements, to keep the discussion about the way it makes you feel and not become accusatory.

P

[Nessa 23]

I don't let my husband be part of any social network website. I keep total control when it comes to him talking to anybody else other than who he really needs to talk, like co-workers.

Also, I installed hidden cameras to make sure he will never do that. If he disobeys me, he's severely punished with no dinner and no hot sex.

I can't believe there are people in the world that choose to trust their SO instead of having them on a leash. Terrible, just terrible.

Nessa I think I would like some training from you. My wrath wouldn't be needed if I used some of your techniques.

im the expert

[jundp 191]

Bren doesn't let me do anything. I keep my participation on VJ a secret because if he finds out he will beat me with a hockey stick in the legs so it doesn't show. And if he knew I am on Facebook he would divorce and send me back to the third world to live in one room with my 20 brothers and sister who take turns to use the only bed.

Let.

That made me LOL, Len.

To the OP, if there is something on your husband's friendster, myspace, etc. that upsets you, you should definitely talk to him about it. I'm know you didn't mean "let" as in "give permission," so it's not the situation that people are teasing about, but rather the use of that word. No worries

[merijan 0]

Well if you have nothing to hide then you can share passwords or share a site. My husband and I share a My space. And we each have a Facebook but we are also each others friends on it, and we know each others passwords. We have nothing to hide. He likes facebook because he can keep in touch with all his friends in Pakistan. Doing it behind each others back, or in a secretive way may be another thing. But if its done in the open and you respect each other it does not have to be a problem.

[trinket 30]

Well if you have nothing to hide then you can share passwords or share a site. My husband and I share a My space. And we each have a Facebook but we are also each others friends on it, and we know each others passwords. We have nothing to hide. He likes facebook because he can keep in touch with all his friends in Pakistan. Doing it behind each others back, or in a secretive way may be another thing. But if its done in the open and you respect each other it does not have to be a problem.

I am against sharing password. If two people trust each other, they also should give each other space. Sharing password is no different than reading each others diary or checking each others call log every day to check who all they talked to; at least for me that kind of behaviour is controlling even if both the partners know each others passwords.

To OP, as others have said, you have to talk to your SO about what's bothering you, if he really cares about you and wants a life he will have to show some respect to you and also you have to analyse on your own if you are over reacting or not. Sometimes when it’s all so new in love people do over react to the smallest of things. So do have a talk with your fiance/husband and face the reality, talk with a cool like cucumber head and don't start the blame game, point out what effects you and why and also point out what he can do to help you out from getting out of this insecurity/jealousy phase. Ask him what bothers him, how much space does he want. May be take a break for a week and analyse how much worth your relationship is.

And last point, just be strong, these things will come by all the time in life, right now its online community, next when you will start living you will see him talking with other women..........what will you do then? Ask him to stop talking with everyone other than you? And it’s not just him it’s going to be any man you marry or get involved with. So do rethink about why you are reacting and how worth is your reaction.

[merijan 0]

Well if you have nothing to hide then you can share passwords or share a site. My husband and I share a My space. And we each have a Facebook but we are also each others friends on it, and we know each others passwords. We have nothing to hide. He likes facebook because he can keep in touch with all his friends in Pakistan. Doing it behind each others back, or in a secretive way may be another thing. But if its done in the open and you respect each other it does not have to be a problem.

I am against sharing password. If two people trust each other, they also should give each other space. Sharing password is no different than reading each others diary or checking each others call log every day to check who all they talked to; at least for me that kind of behaviour is controlling even if both the partners know each others passwords.

To OP, as others have said, you have to talk to your SO about what's bothering you, if he really cares about you and wants a life he will have to show some respect to you and also you have to analyse on your own if you are over reacting or not. Sometimes when it’s all so new in love people do over react to the smallest of things. So do have a talk with your fiance/husband and face the reality, talk with a cool like cucumber head and don't start the blame game, point out what effects you and why and also point out what he can do to help you out from getting out of this insecurity/jealousy phase. Ask him what bothers him, how much space does he want. May be take a break for a week and analyse how much worth your relationship is.

And last point, just be strong, these things will come by all the time in life, right now its online community, next when you will start living you will see him talking with other women..........what will you do then? Ask him to stop talking with everyone other than you? And it’s not just him it’s going to be any man you marry or get involved with. So do rethink about why you are reacting and how worth is your reaction.

I suppose some people would see it that way, about shareing passwords. I used to think like that. But my hubby and I are not controlling, we just share everything. I dont tell him personal things that my friends tell me because thats womens talk. But most stuff we share , he with me and me with him. I dont check anything on his email, most of the time we are sitting at computer together when he checks it anyway. As far as facebook we share that too. Nothing really to hide, and as husband and wife I have nothing personal to keep from him, nor he from me. Just as I said I dont believe in shareing personal info on my female friends thats different. But with life we are best friends, and we are together as one as husband and wife.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

My wife and I know each others passwords too, but it wasn't something we set out to do. Over time, we've both been in situations where we've asked the other to access something for us and the passwords were just part of that.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

My wife and I know each others passwords too, but it wasn't something we set out to do. Over time, we've both been in situations where we've asked the other to access something for us and the passwords were just part of that.

Sadists!

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

My wife and I know each others passwords too, but it wasn't something we set out to do. Over time, we've both been in situations where we've asked the other to access something for us and the passwords were just part of that.

Sadists!

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[Completely 3]

Do u let your spouse/or does ur spouse belong to any of those sites like friendster, facebook, myspace, fanbox and the like? Whats your opinion and how do you feel about it? Do u feel threatened by it??????????????????? Whats your feelings? If it bothers you should u tell your spouse? Do you feel it is a good way to communicate and share pics with people "back home?" or when do you think it becomes a threat if at all????Tell me ur thoughts...............

When we got married, all the things in the past is burried.. The present and future is the most important facts...

I let my husband join friendster and I have a friendster account as well.. But my husband does not logged on as much as I am.. Both our friendster has our family pictures.. If I received some nasty email from someone..I just ignore it or either simply replying I am married and block him from messaging me...

We have 100% trust in our marriage...I guess that is the reason why we are happy...Without trust, things will not work even how much you love one another.. Love is respect as well, and being fair to each other.. Let them do what they want but remind them or tell them what bothers you..

There is a saying that if you hold someone so hard, they will keep and keep wanting freedom..

Communication is the key to success relationship. You may have ups and down but take the lessons learned for every down fall you will encounter.. If you have problem with him joining networking sites, you should let him know.. You must enjoy every moment with him and dont let doubt affect your life..

Trust your love and his love for you and most importantly your instinct.

Edited September 21, 2008 by Completely

[sara..... 371]

perviz and i are not married yet but been together for many years.........we are both on facebook but i have accounts on myspace ..........he has never asked me for my passwords.......or even the addy for the accounts that i have..........he tried to give me his password for his email about two years ago but i never took it.......now im kicking myself cuz he he has forgotten the pass word to that old account and there are some emails and pics that he has that we might need for interview time u have to trust each other i did a search of him just to see what would happen when someone posted a thing u could use to check on ur spouse or fiance but i didnt expect to find anything........what i did find when i searched myself was pics that i thought were safe and graphics for clients that i put on a host site.........that shocked me i didnt think that anyone could get into them was i ever wrong so i deleted that account.............

if u dont have trust for each other it is hard to love them..........well thats my two cents worth

[Stinky Monkey 1]

I cant say a thing as I met my fiance on myspace

But the way I look on it is, that a relationship is built on trust and that is how all of us cope with the waiting process, if we dont have trust then maybe we are not with the right person

Well thats my view anyway

Shaz