Where's that super-secret fast way?

[maplestar 2]

A rough day today. My beloved is having a rough time medically and I feel so helpless being stuck up here when I wish I could be there to do stuff as simple as get something for her from the other end of the house, so she didn't have to get up for it.

Frustrating, because the divorce process has dragged on, so we still haven't been able to file for our K-1 yet. (I'm thinking that will happen by the end of October.) And I'm wishing there was a quicker, legal way to be together. (A guy can dream, can't he?)

I'm tired of being unable to help. And I'm tired of waiting. I miss her and I'm tired of being apart. The process looked so simple at the beginning. Just time. And here we are. I know it'll be worth it, but I'm tired of waiting.

I'd like to just push the clock ahead by a few months. Anybody got a time machine I could borrow?

[MrsCat 6]

No time machine but I do have a

Hope things speed up for you!

[Wis-Can 0]

I know how you feel......that gosh we talk for an hour or more every weeknight, weekends are three or four hours. We started talking about house renovations for the new house he bought us....so that's keeping me busy looking online for supplies. Here's hoping it speeds up for all of us. Take care everybody!

[Mephys 2]

A rough day today. My beloved is having a rough time medically and I feel so helpless being stuck up here when I wish I could be there to do stuff as simple as get something for her from the other end of the house, so she didn't have to get up for it.

Frustrating, because the divorce process has dragged on, so we still haven't been able to file for our K-1 yet. (I'm thinking that will happen by the end of October.) And I'm wishing there was a quicker, legal way to be together. (A guy can dream, can't he?)

I'm tired of being unable to help. And I'm tired of waiting. I miss her and I'm tired of being apart. The process looked so simple at the beginning. Just time. And here we are. I know it'll be worth it, but I'm tired of waiting.

I'd like to just push the clock ahead by a few months. Anybody got a time machine I could borrow?

All I can say is hang on in there ...not much other things to do

My hubby's divorce took us 8 months in 2006 before we could file our K-1... So from beginning (when we decided I would move) to the day I moved it took about 18 months total... I do not mean to discourage you at all, but you just have to be prepared for the waiting that you have ahead. It is hard as hell, but it the end it will be worthed.

It's only going to be a bad dream once you will be together, I promise you that

Meanwhile, here's how we dealt with the long distance : We met in a online game, and we kept playing together while waiting for the K-1 process, it made us feel like we were "next to each other". It the closest we could be. Oh and the webcam was always open too and we would have webcam dinners and we would cook the same food (Pathetic some would say, but hey it works )

Hang on in there !

[Emancipation 2]

Oh and the webcam was always open too and we would have webcam dinners and we would cook the same food (Pathetic some would say, but hey it works )

This is quite possibly one of the cutest ideas I've ever heard of... awe.....

Hang in there Cafemusique .. it's a tough road.. I've been watching Dr. Who this past week. I could put in a good word for ya!!

[angie007 0]

i know exactly how you feel..me and my fiance have been waiting f0r more than 8 years and counting ,to be together...you know immigration processing basically kept us apart for so long and oh im so tired and feel hopeless and helpless at times but we hung in there and we're getting there...before and even now when i see lovers stealing kisses while walking hand in hand, my heart fills with envy and i'll just make a big sigh thinking and wishing that we're together too like those lovers i always see. but when i found this forum i felt like i belong, because everybody here are doing their best and hoping to be with their loved ones...we'll get there...just hang on

[maplestar 2]

My hubby's divorce took us 8 months in 2006 before we could file our K-1... So from beginning (when we decided I would move) to the day I moved it took about 18 months total... I do not mean to discourage you at all, but you just have to be prepared for the waiting that you have ahead. It is hard as hell, but it the end it will be worthed.

Thanks. I'm prepared for the wait...I've told everybody that I'm here until at least Victoria Day...and the past couple of weeks, I've started to add, maybe as late as Canada Day...and in my mind, I'm preparing to accept anything before Labour Day. Last night was just one of the bad nights, where so much was going on and I really wished I could help. Fortunately, some things have gotten a little better for her overnight, so it's not as bad today.

Thanks so much everybody for all the kind words. I was just trying to hold it together, and needed to really hear from people who'd been there (or are there).

Meanwhile, here's how we dealt with the long distance : We met in a online game, and we kept playing together while waiting for the K-1 process, it made us feel like we were "next to each other". It the closest we could be. Oh and the webcam was always open too and we would have webcam dinners and we would cook the same food (Pathetic some would say, but hey it works )

I just got a webcam this last trip down there...but she finds she misses me more when she sees me on webcam. And right now, she's hiding a surprise, so that I can see her newly-dyed hair for the first time when I go down for a visit next month.

Webcam dinners are out...I don't do a whole lot of cooking (though we have ordered similar pizzas before unintentionally)...but we've done some movie dates where we each have a DVD and keep a phone line open while we watch...I also appear to have gotten her interested in Formula 1 auto racing, so we usually watch those races together at some point on our respective DVRs.

And yes, lots of AIM and lots of telephone. I got a US "virtual number" on Vonage, so she's put that in her MyFaves, so she can call me on her cell (or at home) without paying per-minute.

I'm hoping the year stays busy enough that the time passes quickly. But that time together this summer proved that we will be wonderful together. So there is a very special prize at the end of all this waiting, and it will be worth it.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Hang in there my friend

[sara..... 371]

i know its hard to wait and i know what u mean about seeing other couples together and wishing u could have the same but i guess we all have to wait one way or the other........oh by the way if u find someone with that time machine i really need to borrow it ok lol

will keep u guys in my prayers

sara

[thetreble 19]

Yep! You gotta just holldddd on. Most of us had long relationships with our SO before we made it even longer by doing this process. It all works out in the end though.

[trailmix 77]

A rough day today. My beloved is having a rough time medically and I feel so helpless being stuck up here when I wish I could be there to do stuff as simple as get something for her from the other end of the house, so she didn't have to get up for it.

Frustrating, because the divorce process has dragged on, so we still haven't been able to file for our K-1 yet. (I'm thinking that will happen by the end of October.) And I'm wishing there was a quicker, legal way to be together. (A guy can dream, can't he?)

I'm tired of being unable to help. And I'm tired of waiting. I miss her and I'm tired of being apart. The process looked so simple at the beginning. Just time. And here we are. I know it'll be worth it, but I'm tired of waiting.

I'd like to just push the clock ahead by a few months. Anybody got a time machine I could borrow?

No, but Laura has an invisible helicopter.

[*JG* 2]

A rough day today. My beloved is having a rough time medically and I feel so helpless being stuck up here when I wish I could be there to do stuff as simple as get something for her from the other end of the house, so she didn't have to get up for it.

Frustrating, because the divorce process has dragged on, so we still haven't been able to file for our K-1 yet. (I'm thinking that will happen by the end of October.) And I'm wishing there was a quicker, legal way to be together. (A guy can dream, can't he?)

I'm tired of being unable to help. And I'm tired of waiting. I miss her and I'm tired of being apart. The process looked so simple at the beginning. Just time. And here we are. I know it'll be worth it, but I'm tired of waiting.

I'd like to just push the clock ahead by a few months. Anybody got a time machine I could borrow?

It will be so worth the wait. Just hang in there. Hugs to you.

[CDAgirlMI 51]

I'm sure you wish you can fast-forward the waiting time, but just think: when you both DO end up together, you'll want time to stand still.

[Carlawarla 1]

I know it's hard to believe, but when it's all over...from the time of filing, until you move down here, it seems like a dream. I thought I'd never get down here! Time is relative.

I can really understand the webcam stuff. I don't know how many people told me about this, and of course here on VJ it seemed like everyone was doing it. Skype etc. so Gene got us webcams for Christmas one year. We used it twice. I just couldn't do it. To see him...albeit once it was so dang blurry it was annoying! Anyway, it was just too much for me. Too much to see him, but not be able to touch him. To see all those little things that are truly him, so endearing...gosh, I could cry right now thinking of it, and how my heart ached. So, I had to tell him, I just couldn't do the web cam thing anymore. He was very understanding.

Hold on! Don't be afraid to post about how you're both surviving this.

Wishing you a speedy process!

[maplestar 2]

Hold on! Don't be afraid to post about how you're both surviving this.

Things have been much better since I first wrote. My fiancee is feeling a bit better and has had a really good weekend. So I'm back to being mostly at peace with the time. And in a little more than three weeks, I'll be down there for a week-long visit (and get to spend my birthday together again).

It's probably relatively easier right now, because we haven't filed the visa, so we aren't in the government's hands quite so much. And I'm trying to make sure my expectations are realistic now, so that I won't be disappointed too much later. Which is why I am even talking about the possibility of it dragging into August, so that I can hopefully be pleasantly surprised when we get things filed and eventually hear back an interview date.