Do you get paranoid about your fiance/wife/husband/whatever, cheating on you?

[BelwinMills 0]

Trust would definitely be a factor!

[no one 0]

No, never, and no... otherwise I would NOT be giving up my life here in Canada and NOT be going through this whole crazy K1 business!!

[rebeccajo 14]

BUt if anyone has ever been involved with a cheater...it's not THAT easy......

I just think it's more than just a black and white issue is all.

There's a truth if ever one was spoken.

You can trust your new partner, but the paranoia from the past wounds is usually still there. My ex cheated SOOOOOOO many times that I had trained my brain to look for the signals, etc. That kind of behavior is difficult to 'unlearn'.

I'm a pretty stable and solid woman, but I know this is one of my weaknesses. All I can figure out is I am so used to being treated like dirt that I'm still not used to being treated the way I deserve. It keeps getting better for me as more time passes. But I'll admit to being tormented at times by these old demons. Fortunately for me, Wes understands the depth of my old pain - and he believes his love can heal it.

[luvaLimey 0]

I have gotten paranoid in the past. It's hard not to when you're 5K miles apart, and he tells you about the girl that was hitting on him the night before, or the female friend at work that he gets on so well with flirting with him.

There's no real reason to be paranoid. I know him, I know his heart, and I know he would never do anything like that to me, and that is what enables me to let go of the paranoia and just... trust.

[Welshcookie 17]

Yes/occasionally/no

what can I say? I have demons and fears.....

[Nessa 23]

no/never/no

It's the first time i'm with a man i trust 100% and i'm sure he never did and never will cheat on me. People call me naive, but i wouldn't move to another country if i didn't trust him completely.

[Ban Hammer 13,619]

no/never/no

It's the first time i'm with a man i trust 100% and i'm sure he never did and never will cheat on me. People call me naive, but i wouldn't move to another country if i didn't trust him completely.

nessa's intense interest in sharp objects, chainsaws, and guns is a real incentive to behave

Edited June 1, 2006 by charlesandnessa

[keltic 1]

BUt if anyone has ever been involved with a cheater...it's not THAT easy......

I just think it's more than just a black and white issue is all.

There's a truth if ever one was spoken.

You can trust your new partner, but the paranoia from the past wounds is usually still there. My ex cheated SOOOOOOO many times that I had trained my brain to look for the signals, etc. That kind of behavior is difficult to 'unlearn'.

I'm a pretty stable and solid woman, but I know this is one of my weaknesses. All I can figure out is I am so used to being treated like dirt that I'm still not used to being treated the way I deserve. It keeps getting better for me as more time passes. But I'll admit to being tormented at times by these old demons. Fortunately for me, Wes understands the depth of my old pain - and he believes his love can heal it.

its amazing how long old demons can survive, even when there is a powerful love to fight them, eh?

*sigh

[slim 1,533]

If you're worried about your S/O cheating on you now..... what makes you think it's going to be any better just becuase they're here? Don't you think it's going to be harder because you have more opportunity to suspect? Or is it not going to be an issue because you can "account" for all of their time? While they're not here they're "capable" of doing anything they want because you can't "check" on them all the time.

TRUST YOUR S/O!!!

If you don't trust them... don't bring them here.

Oh, and one other thing.... if someone's cheating on you... don't stay with them because you "love them." Ever notice they don't just cheat once? If they're not treating you 100% how they should..... GET SOMEONE ELSE!!!!

Edited June 3, 2006 by slim

[Vagina Journey 0]

Why would he im perfect?

[iceyspots 0]

yikes 3 people got cheated on whoa

[nane1104 146]

Have I been paranoid about my fiance cheating on me? NO

Have I been thinking about it? YES

We have been in a LDR for over two years, he has been travelling quiet a bit and I know he had his opportunities to cheat.

BUT- since I trust him 100% in this it never got to the point where I had to sit here wondering about if or if not he is cheating on me now.

I have been gotten cheated on in a prev. relationship and he got divorced because his ex cheated, so we both are very sensitive about that topic, so we have been very open about this issue.

Not that I ever asked him to do, but whenever he is gone, either on trips or just having a night out, he calls me an extra time, just to say hello...to tell me he wished I was there as well now and how much fun we could have together right now.

I dodn't think he even thinks about it, but it feels very good to have that assurance, that he is not doing anything stupid.

So..I think there is a difference between getting paranoid and be aware of the possibilities of cheating.

[Nessa 23]

yikes 3 people got cheated on whoa

it amazes me people would actually marry someone that cheated on them. Weird world

[KarenCee 3]

I'm a pretty stable and solid woman, but I know this is one of my weaknesses. All I can figure out is I am so used to being treated like dirt that I'm still not used to being treated the way I deserve. It keeps getting better for me as more time passes. But I'll admit to being tormented at times by these old demons. Fortunately for me, Wes understands the depth of my old pain - and he believes his love can heal it.

I KNOW what you mean here Becca...I feel the same way even though I feel that I am pretty stable as well. Joel makes me feel so cherished and the most important person in this world. But for so long I was treated like sh!t and it IS hard to banish those demons. I am fortunate that my Joel understands this as well and is so very patient with me...and I know his love WILL overcome all the pain and abuse I suffered. We are so lucky, you and I, Becca

Edited June 16, 2006 by KarenCee

[samir_shannon 0]

i dont even consider that... samir would never do such a thing to me