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Hi, everybody!

My soul is so weary right now, that i just couldn't keep all that for myself tonight.

I miss my family alot. I think i'm going to get sick- this is how much i miss all of them.

I'm thinking sometimes that i won't make it.

I don't know... But i love my baby madly!

My God, why did i have to make such a horrible choice...between my family and my love?

God, please, show i'm strong! 'cause if i'm not, than i'm going to die of sadness and heavy heart...

Sorry, folks, you can move it to the off-topic, but this is the mtf moving and living in AMERICA

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Filed: Other Country: Canada
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yeah it is a hard decision to make...

I really miss my family too.. I have a couple of younger siblings that I feel like I totally missed out on them growing up, my little sister just turned 13, when I left she was only 10... two of my other brother or around 17, 18 now... they are almost men... :( I feel like I don't really know them at all...

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When my brother was 12, I left my family for going to uni in another town. Now he's 17 and I miss watching all his growing ups. It's sad. Just like you, I feel like I don't really know him. It's so sad :(

yeah it is a hard decision to make...

I really miss my family too.. I have a couple of younger siblings that I feel like I totally missed out on them growing up, my little sister just turned 13, when I left she was only 10... two of my other brother or around 17, 18 now... they are almost men... :( I feel like I don't really know them at all...

K-1

Application mailed.............12-04-2008

NOA1...............................12-07-2008

Touched...........................03-19-2008

NOA2...............................03-19-2008

Touched...........................04-08-2008

Touched...........................04-22-2008

Sent to NVC......................04-23-2008

Case number generated.....04-29-2008

Case left NVC....................04-30-2008

Case arrived at embassy....05-06-2008

Packet 3...........................05-07-2008

Medical check....................05-08-2008

Packet 4............................05-08-2008

Interview date....05-22-2008 APPROVED

Visa in hand.......................05-29-2008

US entry............................06-02-2008

The wedding......................06-07-2008

AOS, EAD, and AP

Application mailed..............06-18-2008

Application received............06-20-2008

NOA1................................06-24-2008

Touched............................06-27-2008

Biometrics appointment.......07-15-2008

Touched on I-765...............09-03-2008

EAD Card ordered...............09-03-2008

EAD & AP received..............09-10-2008

AOS interview.....................12-08-2008

AOS approved.....................12-08-2008

Two-year GC received..........01-05-2009

Removing Condition (I-751)

Application mailed..................09-17-2010

Application received................09-20-2010

NOA1................................09-27-2010

Biometrics appointments...11-04-2010 & 12-28-2010

App approved...................01-13-2011

Ten-yr GC received.............01-18-2011

Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Thailand
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When I moved away from home I felt the same way and it took me many, many months to start to deal with leaving my family and living in this new place. It takes time, for some it takes longer than for others, especially if visits can only be done once a year and the country you're from is so different from America. I really did want nothing more than to go home, but I decided to stay the year I had committed to, and when it came time to leave, my heart broke all over again. Be patient with yourself and with each other, and try to fill your time with things you enjoy. Remember that it's okay to feel this sad.

AOS, EAD and AP Journey

* Married on March 18, 2009.

* Papers mailed on May 8, 2009, arrived at Chicago lockbox on May 10, 2009

* Check cashed on May 14, 2009.

* NOAs for AOS, EAD, and AP issued on May 14, 2009 and received on May 18, 2009.

* Biometrics letter received on May 20, 2009.

* Biometrics appointment on June 4, 2009 at 8 am.

* EAD and AOS touched on June 5, 2009.

* EAD card production ordered and AP approved on June 17, 2009.

* EAD card received on June 25, 2009.

* AP received on June 26, 2009.

* Celebrating five years as a couple with much-delayed reception on June 27, 2009. What a journey it has been.

* Case transferred to CSC on July 14, 2009.

* Received noticed that case is pending at CSC on July 21, 2009.

* AOS touched on July 31, 2009.

* Card production orderd on August 12, 2009.

* Green Card received on August 21, 2009.

Posted
Hi, everybody!

My soul is so weary right now, that i just couldn't keep all that for myself tonight.

I miss my family alot. I think i'm going to get sick- this is how much i miss all of them.

I'm thinking sometimes that i won't make it.

I don't know... But i love my baby madly!

My God, why did i have to make such a horrible choice...between my family and my love?

God, please, show i'm strong! 'cause if i'm not, than i'm going to die of sadness and heavy heart...

Sorry, folks, you can move it to the off-topic, but this is the mtf moving and living in AMERICA

It's been since July 10 since you left your family..(couldn't help but read your timeline!) It will only get easier when you fully submit to the reality you are in now and that is married to a wonderful husband that loves you and will love you for the rest of your life. Your family will always be there to support you, and if it makes you feel better write your family a 'thinking of you' or 'missing you' card every week or get online and send them a free e-card.. or think of going back home to your family.. I think you would feel better knowing you can never leave your love!! :)

Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: England
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I feel really sorry for you peeps from close-knit families when it comes to leaving for good. I come from a dysfucntional family that I couldn't give a monkey's chuff about, and the only thing I'll be sorry to leave behind is my good job.

Naturalization Timeline:

Event

Service Center : Phoenix AZ Lockbox

CIS Office : Saint Louis MO

Date Filed : 2014-06-11

NOA Date : 2014-06-16

Bio. Appt. :

Interview Date :

Approved :

Oath Ceremony :

Comments :

Filed: Country: Indonesia
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Posted (edited)

It was hard for us too, especially the 1st year. It made my husband felt "guilty" for taking me away from my family. I was lucky that I got a job right away so I was back into "normal life" routine in a short time. It takes a lot of patience from both of us to deal with it.

But leaving again after 2 weeks vacation was also difficult, especially after seeing how old your parents look now, your nephew is becoming young man, seeing niece 1st time in 2 years etc. You feel you are missing a lot.

I am beginning to think US is now also my home, but I still call Indonesia home. Our adjustment is not done yet - it's just getting easier.

Edited by tom&tata

I-130

Jun 28 2004 : Received at NSC

Oct 25 2004 : Transferred to CSC

Oct 29 2004 : Received at CSC

Nov 8 2004 : Received response from CSC that my file is being requested & review will be done

Nov 10 2004 : Email & online status Approved

Nov 15 2004 : NOA 2 in mail

Dec 16 2004 : NVC assigns case number

Dec 20 2004 : NVC sent DS 3032 to beneficiary, copy of DS 3032 & I-864 fee bill to petitioner

Jan 3 2005 : Petitioner received copy of DS 3032 and I-864 fee bill. Post-marked Dec 23rd.

Jan 11 2005 : Beneficiary received DS 3032 in Indonesia

Jan 31 2005 : Sent DS 3032 to NVC

Feb 8, 2005 : NVC received DS 3032

Feb 21, 2005 : IV fee generated

Feb 25, 2005 : Sent I-864 fee bill

Feb 28, 2005 : I-864 fee bill delivered to St Louis

Mar 3, 2005 : IV fee bill received

Mar 7, 2005 : Sent IV fee bill

Mar 9, 2005 : IV fee bill delivered to St Louis

Mar 28, 2005 : I-864 fee credited against case.

April 6, 2005 : Received I-864 package

April 7, 2005 : Immigrant Visa fee credited against case.

April 11, 2005 : DS 230 is generated

Aug 12, 2005 : I-864 & DS 230 received by NVC

Sep 14, 2005 : RFE on I-864

Nov 3, 2005 : Checklist response received at NVC

Nov 25, 2005 : Case completion

Dec 9, 2005 : Police Cert requested from the Netherlands

Jan 12 2006 : Interview success - Approved !!

Jan 19 2006 : Visa & brown envelope picked up

Posted
I feel really sorry for you peeps from close-knit families when it comes to leaving for good. I come from a dysfucntional family that I couldn't give a monkey's chuff about, and the only thing I'll be sorry to leave behind is my good job.

:lol: :lol: I haven't laughed like this in a long while..pissing myself with laughter over here!! OMG spot on ME TOO!!!!

Filed: Other Country: Canada
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When my brother was 12, I left my family for going to uni in another town. Now he's 17 and I miss watching all his growing ups. It's sad. Just like you, I feel like I don't really know him. It's so sad :(

yeah it is a hard decision to make...

I really miss my family too.. I have a couple of younger siblings that I feel like I totally missed out on them growing up, my little sister just turned 13, when I left she was only 10... two of my other brother or around 17, 18 now... they are almost men... :( I feel like I don't really know them at all...

I almost feel like I deserted them which essentially I did :(

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Filed: Country: Indonesia
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Posted
When my brother was 12, I left my family for going to uni in another town. Now he's 17 and I miss watching all his growing ups. It's sad. Just like you, I feel like I don't really know him. It's so sad :(

yeah it is a hard decision to make...

I really miss my family too.. I have a couple of younger siblings that I feel like I totally missed out on them growing up, my little sister just turned 13, when I left she was only 10... two of my other brother or around 17, 18 now... they are almost men... :( I feel like I don't really know them at all...

I almost feel like I deserted them which essentially I did :(

Off Topid: How's the new job Marilyn?

I-130

Jun 28 2004 : Received at NSC

Oct 25 2004 : Transferred to CSC

Oct 29 2004 : Received at CSC

Nov 8 2004 : Received response from CSC that my file is being requested & review will be done

Nov 10 2004 : Email & online status Approved

Nov 15 2004 : NOA 2 in mail

Dec 16 2004 : NVC assigns case number

Dec 20 2004 : NVC sent DS 3032 to beneficiary, copy of DS 3032 & I-864 fee bill to petitioner

Jan 3 2005 : Petitioner received copy of DS 3032 and I-864 fee bill. Post-marked Dec 23rd.

Jan 11 2005 : Beneficiary received DS 3032 in Indonesia

Jan 31 2005 : Sent DS 3032 to NVC

Feb 8, 2005 : NVC received DS 3032

Feb 21, 2005 : IV fee generated

Feb 25, 2005 : Sent I-864 fee bill

Feb 28, 2005 : I-864 fee bill delivered to St Louis

Mar 3, 2005 : IV fee bill received

Mar 7, 2005 : Sent IV fee bill

Mar 9, 2005 : IV fee bill delivered to St Louis

Mar 28, 2005 : I-864 fee credited against case.

April 6, 2005 : Received I-864 package

April 7, 2005 : Immigrant Visa fee credited against case.

April 11, 2005 : DS 230 is generated

Aug 12, 2005 : I-864 & DS 230 received by NVC

Sep 14, 2005 : RFE on I-864

Nov 3, 2005 : Checklist response received at NVC

Nov 25, 2005 : Case completion

Dec 9, 2005 : Police Cert requested from the Netherlands

Jan 12 2006 : Interview success - Approved !!

Jan 19 2006 : Visa & brown envelope picked up

Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Colombia
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Posted
Hi, everybody!

My soul is so weary right now, that i just couldn't keep all that for myself tonight.

I miss my family alot. I think i'm going to get sick- this is how much i miss all of them.

I'm thinking sometimes that i won't make it.

I don't know... But i love my baby madly!

My God, why did i have to make such a horrible choice...between my family and my love?

God, please, show i'm strong! 'cause if i'm not, than i'm going to die of sadness and heavy heart...

Sorry, folks, you can move it to the off-topic, but this is the mtf moving and living in AMERICA

I totally understand how you feel, you feel like you're drowning in sorrow or can't even breathe from the sadness you feel. But like other people said here, it'll get easier with time even though that feeling never goes away. It's a hard decision that most people who come to the US have to make, so remember that you're not alone in this and try to make the best out of it while you're here with your husband.

You can also try to plan a trip to go back and see your family. That's always a good think to look forward to.

Diana

CR-1

02/05/07 - I-130 sent to NSC

05/03/07 - NOA2

05/10/07 - NVC receives petition, case # assigned

08/08/07 - Case Complete

09/27/07 - Interview, visa granted

10/02/07 - POE

11/16/07 - Received green card and Welcome to America letter in the mail

Removing Conditions

07/06/09 - I-751 sent to CSC

08/14/09 - Biometrics

09/27/09 - Approved

10/01/09 - Received 10 year green card

U.S. Citizenship

03/30/11 - N-400 sent via Priority Mail w/ delivery confirmation

05/12/11 - Biometrics

07/20/11 - Interview - passed

07/20/11 - Oath ceremony - same day as interview

Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Guatemala
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Posted (edited)

OP, I love the picture on your avatar! :)

Back on the topic, I have not even moved yet but I can just see myself feeling exactly how you are feeling now.

Last time my fiance and I said good bye, I was crying a little less than usual because the thought of us being together in month, and not having to say good bye again made me feel better, but then I thought, next time I'll be sad too because I'll be saying good bye to my family and friends. So just like you said it, I'll always want to be where I'm not :(

I too have a 14 year old brother, and I'm gonna miss him the most! We are very close and he cried during our engagement dinner, I can only imagine how hard its going to be to say good bye.

I just try to prepare myself, being aware that I'm gonna be very sad for sure and that it is OK to have those feelings for a while, but at some point I'm sure we will all get used to being away from our homes, because we'll be starting our new home with the person we love.

For those who have already moved, how long did it take you to adjust to your new life?

Edited by eric_and_teresa

APPLIED FOR NATURALIZATION 07/2021

08.01.2011 - I-751 SENT

08.05.2011 - Check cashed

08.08.2011- NOA Received

08.19.2011 - Biometrics Letter Received

09.12.2011 - Biometrics Appointment

01.27.2012 - Card production ordered

02.01.2012 - 10 year GC Received

07.25.2021 - N400 filed online

08.09.2021- Biometrics re-use notice

04.18.2022- Interview done at Minneapolis USCIS Local Office   ✔️ Received N-652 "Congratulations your application has been recommended for approval" during the interview.

05.19.2022- Oath Ceremony in MN

Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Iran
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Posted

I feel the same way! And I'm an American!

Just want to leave this place!

Hi, everybody!

My soul is so weary right now, that i just couldn't keep all that for myself tonight.

I miss my family alot. I think i'm going to get sick- this is how much i miss all of them.

I'm thinking sometimes that i won't make it.

I don't know... But i love my baby madly!

My God, why did i have to make such a horrible choice...between my family and my love?

God, please, show i'm strong! 'cause if i'm not, than i'm going to die of sadness and heavy heart...

Sorry, folks, you can move it to the off-topic, but this is the mtf moving and living in AMERICA

Posted
OP, I love the picture on your avatar! :)

Back on the topic, I have not even moved yet but I can just see myself feeling exactly how you are feeling now.

Last time my fiance and I said good bye, I was crying a little less than usual because the thought of us being together in month, and not having to say good bye again made me feel better, but then I thought, next time I'll be sad too because I'll be saying good bye to my family and friends. So just like you said it, I'll always want to be where I'm not :(

I too have a 14 year old brother, and I'm gonna miss him the most! We are very close and he cried during our engagement dinner, I can only imagine how hard its going to be to say good bye.

I just try to prepare myself, being aware that I'm gonna be very sad for sure and that it is OK to have those feelings for a while, but at some point I'm sure we will all get used to being away from our homes, because we'll be starting our new home with the person we love.

For those who have already moved, how long did it take you to adjust to your new life?

Thanks, Teresa!

And to make a clarification- i don't feel like that all the time, probably nobody does, it's just that sometimes these thoughts are killing you. Sometimes you can't help it and you could give anything to go home and BE there. I talk to my family everyday on skype, but that don' take away from the sadness you're not going to share the holiday dinners, birthday partys, new year, Christmas and so on.

...and my nice who's 3 year old is going to forget how much we used to kick it, oh...did we have fun with her or what!

But we do have to follow our sole mates, in joy and sorrow...

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