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A Soulful Relationship by Reverend Ronald McFadden

If you're not married yet, share this with a friend.

If you are married, share it with your spouse or other

married couples.. and reflect on it.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married,

keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."

Before you get involved and make a commitment to

someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity,

ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem

make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open,

and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or

that what you see as faults aren't really important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their

flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences

will become more obvious.

If you love your mate and want the relationship to

grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye

and not let every little thing bother you.

You and your mate have many different expectations,

emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and

strengths. You are two unique individuals who have

decided to share a life together.

Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for

each other? Do you bring out the best of each other?

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or

do you compete, compare, and control? What do you

bring to the relationship? Do you bring past

relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or

her. You can't make someone love you or make someone

stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual

discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself

making someone else responsible for your happiness or

responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control,

jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the

ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting

relationship.

Seeking status, s*x, wealth, and security are the

wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a

relationship strong?

Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor,

sharing household tasks, some getaway time without

business or children and daily exchanges (a meal,

shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).

Leave a nice message on their voicemail or send a nice

email. Sharing common goals and interests.

Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each

other, giving each other space to grow without feeling

insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest.

You can't always be together. Give each other a sense

of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try

to control one another. Learn each other's family

situation. Respect his or her parents regardless.

Don't put pressure on each other for material goods.

Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities

are missing, the relationship will erode as

resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty,

and pain replace the passion.

" Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will

never go any higher than you think." The grass

withers, the flowers fades, but the word of God stands

forever. Isaiah 40:8 Shall we make a new rule of life from tonight.

Always to try to be a little kinder than is necessary.

The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where

you put the i.

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,

but by the moments that take our breath away.

(F)

F2A

Petitioner (My Mom)

Beneficiary (My Sister 18 y.o)

06-07-19- Sent I-130

06-11-19- NOA1

02-19-20- "Initial Review, Transferred to another Visa Center"

03-11-20- APPROVED!!!

Posted
Great Post... :) :)

It is very striking... :star:

F2A

Petitioner (My Mom)

Beneficiary (My Sister 18 y.o)

06-07-19- Sent I-130

06-11-19- NOA1

02-19-20- "Initial Review, Transferred to another Visa Center"

03-11-20- APPROVED!!!

Filed: K-3 Visa Country: Philippines
Timeline
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tagos sa laman!

Love is an unexpected thing...and when it arrives grab it with all ur heart....it may pass u jsut once.......

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11.20.07 : mailed I130

01.23.08 : NOA1

04.21.08 : mailed I129F

04.22.08 : NOA1

05.14.08 : NOA2 both for I 130 and I 129F

06.26.08 : medical exam 2nd day PASSED!!

07.09.08 : interview day! PASSED! PINK SLIP!

07.15.08 : visa on hand!!!

08.01.08 : POE SFO (home with my papi!)

Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Ethiopia
Timeline
Posted

That is a great post. It is a great reminder of what we have and what we need to avoid in order to have a great life together. Thanks

USCIS Journey

03/15/08 Sent I-130

03/17/08 I-130 received (USPS) (Priority Date)

06/28/08 Received NOA2 hardcopy: NO RFE FROM USCIS:101 days

NVC Journey

07/01/08 NVC case# assigned

08/14/08 CASE COMPLETE: NO RFE FROM NVC:44 days

09/15/08 Interview date assigned

Embassy Journey

10/01/08 Case at embassy

10/08/08 Document verification and got interviewed (Approved)

10/09/08 Pick up visa (original interview date)

10/18/08 P.O.E ~ Seattle

Removing Conditions

07/23/2010 Mail off I-751(USCIS received on 07/26 via usps)

07/26/2010 NOA1 date (notice received 8/2/2010)

07/28/2010 Check cashed

08/20/2010 Biometrics appt.(notice received 8/7/2010)

08/20,21,23 touched

10/22/2010 Approved NO RFE(2 months and 3 weeks from filing date)

Citizenship

10/7/11 N-400 Submitted

10/13/11 NOA date

10/20/11 appt letter sent for biometrics

11/9/11 Biometrics appt

11/11/11 Email of interview scheduling received

11/14/11 Interview scheduled and mail sent

11/21/11 Interview letter received

12/19/11 Interview date

12/19/11 passed interview and oath Finally a citizen(2 months 1 week and 5 days from sending N-400)

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If we will always believe in this great words, I surely believe that every couple will have most endearing life here on earth...

goodluck to all of us! (F)

F2A

Petitioner (My Mom)

Beneficiary (My Sister 18 y.o)

06-07-19- Sent I-130

06-11-19- NOA1

02-19-20- "Initial Review, Transferred to another Visa Center"

03-11-20- APPROVED!!!

 
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