I HATE goodbye days!

[raymaga 25]

Believe it or not someday you might even miss those days......my hubby has been here three years now and the everyday routine does tend to dull the romance and excitement...etc.

I wouldn't want to go through it again, but it does hold a sort of wistful nostagia for me.....

I totally agree... I have been here in the U.S. for 4 years now and sometimes I long for that feeling of missing him again. We were fortunate enough to see each other every single weekend while our K-1 was being processed, but Sunday nights used to make us both so sad, knowing it would be a whole week until we would see each other again.

My husband is going on a trip to Wisconsin in October, and my girlfriend from Canada is coming to visit me here in Washington.... I can hardly wait!!!!!! You know what they say..... distance makes the heart grow fonder!!!!!

[Mina76 0]

I can relate to Sherri's feelings totally, but it still doesn't go away for me yet.

My husband left to go to take care of his mom in Turkey for a few months and I still cry, missing him eventhough I know he will be back home soon and he has been in the US since 2004 and we been married for 3 years now!

Like one of the other posters said, it just that empty feeling of missing the other half of you.

Edited September 7, 2008 by Mina76

[macutelit 0]

It's Saturday....plan a night out with friends to get your mind off of him....and enjoy yourself.

[Nearly Done 8]

Matt just went off to England to work after a week at home with us. At least that's what we call it, here is home, and he only leaves because he has to go to work. I only made it 4 days out of the week, without crying, but it didn't get real bad until this morning. I haven't thrown up yet so that's a plus I suppose.

I hate going to bed knowing counting the nights we have left. I hate waking up in the morning and counting the mornings we have left. I hate watching him pack. I hate the drive to the airport. I hate the bleeping airport! I hate the sympathy on people's faces when they look at me with my eyes a neon green, bloodshot, puffy mess, and my nose running. I hate walking away from him in departures, feeling his eyes watching me, and unable to turn around because if I do, I won't be able to keep walking. I hate starting to feel better on the drive home only to walk in and see him everywhere, smell him on the shirt he wore the last 2 days, that I kept because it smells like him, and feeling that knife twisting and twisting. I hate sitting here crying with BBC America on in the background, playing some stupid show, but needing it on right now because it sounds like him. I hate knowing this pain is the price I have to pay, for loving him so much, for having things so perfect when he is home, for being so happy with him. I hate being so afraid that I won't be able to keep having these days, that I just won't be able to take it anymore.

Am I just a big whiny baby?

No your not being a whiny baby,reading your post brought back the same memories for me  Rebeccajo's post is spot on!

There are days, like anyother other couple when John and I may squabble and I remind myself of those airport goodbyes, it still brings a lump to my throat! I do not know who was the bigger baby, John would try to be brave but was not very good at it, then I would cry more cos I would see him upset

I count my blessings that I have met someone who I truly love and who truly loves me. Just keep looking forward to when you will be back together and remember how lucky you are

[jundp 191]

It'll still your tongue and calm your voice on the days ahead. When your life will be normal - happily normal with all the ups and downs of people who live together. Good and bad. But together.

Great post, RJ.

You aren't a whiny baby. Not any more than the rest of us who have gone through this (or who still are). When you love someone this much saying goodbye is horrid.

But RJ is right that we should remember what we've been through to get to this point. It has just stilled my tongue when it was going to lash out for a stupid silly thing!

[Sherri and Matt 1]

Nope. You're not.

A couple of years from now, remember today. When you're annoyed with him because he spilled the sugar all over the counter or because he left the bathroom counter a mess. Or the money is tight or the car broke down.

Remember today. Remember the departure gate; remember the phone call that comes later to tell you arrived safely so far away; remember it all.

Remember the day. It'll still your tongue and calm your voice on the days ahead. When your life will be normal - happily normal with all the ups and downs of people who live together. Good and bad. But together.

This is perfect advice. Thank-you.

I have thought about how different it will be someday. We have not had a fight yet, and we are not around each other enough to get sick of each other. I know the day will come when I will tell him to go find something to do with his friends, so that I can have time alone, and we will fight someday. The one thing I am thankful for in this horrible process, is that things stay new, and exciting and it is taking a very long time for that newly in love feeling to mature into the kind of love you have with someone over the years.

I will remember.

[tammy2688 1]

It's been 13 months since my husband's interview and no visa due to AP um...I think after a while you get numb. If ur not numb, I think you are still in the "sane" catagory. I understand your pain. We just have to deal with life as it comes, one day at a time.

[shefellfromheaven 18]

It is soo difficult. As a man I kept telling myself i would not shed a tear no matter how bad it hurts to leave Jaqi behind. You know, the typical male. And Jaqi has made me stronger in many ways but my weakness is leaving her after a visit. And yes, each time I end up in tears.

I do my best to not let her see me like that because i know it will only make it harder on her but the second we are apart, even if standing in a busy airport I begin to ache and cry. She knows I love her with every ounce of my heart, mind, body, and soul. I've reached a point where I feel I absolutely must be with her everyday. Realistically we cant yet be, but we do talk everyday for hours, and I absolutely cant go more than a month without seeing her.

I just returned from a visit and am going again in Novemeber and December (hoping January she can come home) but sure enough when I must leave her behind I will again be in tears. Rather than being more able to handle it I have found that each time I go, leaving her gets harder. Have never felt my heart bond with anyone like this and I pray that my days of having to come home without her are coming to an end.

Jaqi - Nakupenda sana malaika, daima

Brian

[star_dragon 0]

Matt just went off to England to work after a week at home with us. At least that's what we call it, here is home, and he only leaves because he has to go to work. I only made it 4 days out of the week, without crying, but it didn't get real bad until this morning. I haven't thrown up yet so that's a plus I suppose.

I hate going to bed knowing counting the nights we have left. I hate waking up in the morning and counting the mornings we have left. I hate watching him pack. I hate the drive to the airport. I hate the bleeping airport! I hate the sympathy on people's faces when they look at me with my eyes a neon green, bloodshot, puffy mess, and my nose running. I hate walking away from him in departures, feeling his eyes watching me, and unable to turn around because if I do, I won't be able to keep walking. I hate starting to feel better on the drive home only to walk in and see him everywhere, smell him on the shirt he wore the last 2 days, that I kept because it smells like him, and feeling that knife twisting and twisting. I hate sitting here crying with BBC America on in the background, playing some stupid show, but needing it on right now because it sounds like him. I hate knowing this pain is the price I have to pay, for loving him so much, for having things so perfect when he is home, for being so happy with him. I hate being so afraid that I won't be able to keep having these days, that I just won't be able to take it anymore.

Am I just a big whiny baby?

aww honey believe me I know, I know - I felt like I would rather have a root canal without novocaine rather than leaving Govi last time - for Nepalis it isn't cool to cry in public but I was bawling my eyes out, I couldn't care less about losing face, I had just composed myself after saying goodbye for what I thought was the last time and then the nice guard let Govi hug and kiss me one more time, I was a wreck!!!!!! and he was crying a little too though he tried to hide it - men - I swore this would be the last goodbye even though it means I won't see him for a few more months - next time we will be getting on that plane TOGETHER.

OOOhhhhhh...I know exactly what you mean! Part of me doesnt want to go visit him again just to avoid having to say goodbye again! Last time I left, I had to practically be pried off him by a Moroccan security guard Next time I go, he's gonna be boarding the plane with me

Sherri, when it's close to the day of leaving, I start having sad dreams at night. Then departure day is like dooms day