Got out from abusive marriage

[baby_a 0]

Hello all! I finally left my abusive husband last week and am now staying temporarily with a friend. I have nothing right now and I don't drive yet either. I've got a 10-year greencard already with me. What should I do next? I don't want my husband to locate me because I'm scared that he's gonna do something to me. What are my options? Can I get alimony from him if I file a divorce? He was verbally abusive to me in the early stage of our marriage and it comes to the point that he gets physical also. I called police after that happened. I already left him before but I came back. Now that I have no plan of coming back no matter what, Can I file a divorce and tell the judge that he was abusive to me physically and verbally eventhough I don't have evidence of the physical violence? The police made report for it when I called them. They even asked me if I want to send him to jail and I didn't let him. I even stayed in the shelter for about two weeks but ended up coming back to him before.

He didn't know where I'm at right now. What do you think I should now? I started looking for a job here in my new location and my friend will help me get my license too. I know it's going to be hard but I will do everything to get my life back.

baby_a

Edited September 4, 2008 by baby_a

[payxibka 10,047]

Family laws are state specific.

1) What should you do next? Plan the rest of your life... you took a major first step, now keep going....

2) Can you get alimony? Don't know, maybe a consulatation with a divorce lawyer would be beneficial

3) Most states have no fault divorce... you do not need to demonstrate a specific reason... irreconcilable differences is all that needs to be stated in most states

Edited September 4, 2008 by fwaguy

[diadromous mermaid 36]

In most communities across America there are agencies available to discuss how to take each step (and sometimes they provide services free of charge) for people in your position. Check for a Catholic Human Charities in your area.

Hello all! I finally left my abusive husband last week and am now staying temporarily with a friend. I have nothing right now and I don't drive yet either. I've got a 10-year greencard already with me. What should I do next? I don't want my husband to locate me because I'm scared that he's gonna do something to me. What are my options? Can I get alimony from him if I file a divorce? He was verbally abusive to me in the early stage of our marriage and it comes to the point that he gets physical also. I called police after that happened. I already left him before but I came back. Now that I have no plan of coming back no matter what, Can I file a divorce and tell the judge that he was abusive to me physically and verbally eventhough I don't have evidence of the physical violence? The police made report for it when I called them. They even asked me if I want to send him to jail and I didn't let him. I even stayed in the shelter for about two weeks but ended up coming back to him before.

He didn't know where I'm at right now. What do you think I should now? I started looking for a job here in my new location and my friend will help me get my license too. I know it's going to be hard but I will do everything to get my life back.

baby_a

[NickD 203]

In most communities across America there are agencies available to discuss how to take each step (and sometimes they provide services free of charge) for people in your position. Check for a Catholic Human Charities in your area.

Hello all! I finally left my abusive husband last week and am now staying temporarily with a friend. I have nothing right now and I don't drive yet either. I've got a 10-year greencard already with me. What should I do next? I don't want my husband to locate me because I'm scared that he's gonna do something to me. What are my options? Can I get alimony from him if I file a divorce? He was verbally abusive to me in the early stage of our marriage and it comes to the point that he gets physical also. I called police after that happened. I already left him before but I came back. Now that I have no plan of coming back no matter what, Can I file a divorce and tell the judge that he was abusive to me physically and verbally eventhough I don't have evidence of the physical violence? The police made report for it when I called them. They even asked me if I want to send him to jail and I didn't let him. I even stayed in the shelter for about two weeks but ended up coming back to him before.

He didn't know where I'm at right now. What do you think I should now? I started looking for a job here in my new location and my friend will help me get my license too. I know it's going to be hard but I will do everything to get my life back.

baby_a

Such actions should be reported to the police, typically the abuser also gets violent to the police as well so not that much proof is required, and a restraining order is issued, this will be of no cost to you. And you have the police record and restraining order as evidence. Best time to do this is right after the incident while the abuser is in a rage. Person can also have mental issues and may find themselves committed to a state mental institution by a court order. Alcoholism is yet another cause.

Not sure how this will work for you after a week or so, can only go to your local police department and file a complaint, or give them a call and they will come over. No one in this country has to live in a state of fear. Last thing you want to do is to fight back, unless you have to, to save your life.