Thanks everyone! Porno mystery solved!

[Imua 0]

here let me help u....breath in thru the nose....out thru the mouth....in thru the nose, out thru the mouth.....now puuuuuuush! pant like a dog.....puuuuuush.

LOL I am only 2cm dilated... panting like a dog got me here in the first place but thanks anyway LOL

:rofl:

I am praying that your delivery goes smoothly and you will meet your son soon..

[Imua 0]

There are definite bonuses and risks involved with marrying a person from overseas based alone on the fact that immigration status is involved. Getting out of an impoverished situation will encourage an entire family to become complicit in aiding someone to dupe an american for just long enough to get here, establish themself and leave. Now why am I bringing this up? For as much as my husband " loves " me, I dont think the series of things he s done both back home and here reflect this "love" at all. We dont have a hard core looks or age disparity ( equal in attractiveness) There are religious commonalities as well as I get along with his family etc. But I think if I was from there , I would have never been a candidate for marriage with him. In his culture, virginity is prized, people dont typically marry women older than them and there is a laundry list of things that dont add up. Do I think that no one could fall in love that was outside of that parameter? Yes, I think love can exist and pop up everywhere.

When my husband and I talk about all of the "greencarders". My theory on alot of them:

"its just as easy to fall in love with a USC as it is someone from your home counrty"

You know the saying...My mom used to always say it "its just as easy to fell in love with a rich man..."

I agree, it totally happens

Lisa

Very good point - I know Govi married me partially to help his family, but especially after our last time together I know in my heart and gut that he really truly loves me. I think both feelings can coexist and it doesn't make me love him any less. I had my own motives you could say in marrying a Nepali - I fell in love with Nepal and Nepali people when I first visited 7 years ago and wanted to have a connection with it - hopefully we will go back there to live one day inshallah. We all bring different things to a relationship, fringe benefits if you will. I can't honestly believe that all the fat, balding, not terribly wealthy guys who marry women from the P.I., Russia, S. America etc. think that these hotties 20+ years their junior are really only in love with their looks and personality and are willing to leave their homes and families to marry them - if they really believe that then damn I wish I had such high self-esteem....

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

here let me help u....breath in thru the nose....out thru the mouth....in thru the nose, out thru the mouth.....now puuuuuuush! pant like a dog.....puuuuuush.

LOL I am only 2cm dilated... panting like a dog got me here in the first place but thanks anyway LOL

:rofl:

I am praying that your delivery goes smoothly and you will meet your son soon..

I am in l and d on pit right now waiting for the anaesthesologist who is get this IRAQI. My husband is sleeping at the hotel passed out. I told my brother that I will call him when its absolutely time.

[Sabr 0]

Apparently people stole pictures off of computers at cyber cafe's when users left theyre browsers open or do not delete theyre browser history after signing out. They than used the stolen pictures and created a porno site (it can happen with myspace too) and use the prifiles to entice members. The pictures of my husband were (as I suspected) very old because he has had a computer at home for several years now. They rarely use a cyber anymore.

my little ramadan lesson

alhamdulelallah

[Jenn! 918]

I know I will get a ration of ####### for suggesting that you seize this opportunity and have a baby but you may not have another chance to ever have another one ... and who knows? Things might work out between you two and you didnt waste any time ensuring you at least got a kid out of the deal

I don't want to disappoint you, so I thought I'd be the one to ration the #######.

I do understand the idea that you have to seize your opportunity before it slips away, but isn't having a child that you know you can not support extremely irresponsible?

[polarbear 0]

I know I will get a ration of ####### for suggesting that you seize this opportunity and have a baby but you may not have another chance to ever have another one ... and who knows? Things might work out between you two and you didnt waste any time ensuring you at least got a kid out of the deal

I don't want to disappoint you, so I thought I'd be the one to ration the #######.

I do understand the idea that you have to seize your opportunity before it slips away, but isn't having a child that you know you can not support extremely irresponsible?

Is it irresponsible for me to want children even if the pregnancy would probably be hi-risk?

I also don't make enough with my income to pay rent and bills. My husband also just quite his job to start a new buisness.... all of this makes us unqualified to be parents i guess - but it doesn't stop me from wanting it very badly. I'm trying to wait for a good time, but really, where is that magical line that makes you financially ready to have a child? When is a good time? The longer you wait at her age the more risky it is.

If you were unsure you would ever have another chance, would you really give that up?

Wahriana was high risk and has shaky financial status and I have every confidence she will find a way to make it work. There are programs and ways to make it work. Its not only the fincially stable or wealthy having children in this country, and it's hard but they make it work.

I would be undeniably sad and heart-broken if I was told I shouldn't have children. Every person is different, and if she thinks she can make it work, well, that's her deal and she should do what she thinks is best.

[morocco4ever 63]

I know I will get a ration of ####### for suggesting that you seize this opportunity and have a baby but you may not have another chance to ever have another one ... and who knows? Things might work out between you two and you didnt waste any time ensuring you at least got a kid out of the deal

I don't want to disappoint you, so I thought I'd be the one to ration the #######.

I do understand the idea that you have to seize your opportunity before it slips away, but isn't having a child that you know you can not support extremely irresponsible?

I can certainly see the validity of both points. Having a baby is best done between 2 loving parents. Situations happen however. I can't support having a baby if you are not in a position to raise a baby, both emotionally and physically. Also we must consider what the father will be like? If a divorce does happen will he be involved and helping? Or will he lash out at an unwanted child? The woman may want a child, and that is understandable, especially facing a time limitation. But the consideration of the life the baby will face should be the first priority.

[Jenn! 918]

I know I will get a ration of ####### for suggesting that you seize this opportunity and have a baby but you may not have another chance to ever have another one ... and who knows? Things might work out between you two and you didnt waste any time ensuring you at least got a kid out of the deal

I don't want to disappoint you, so I thought I'd be the one to ration the #######.

I do understand the idea that you have to seize your opportunity before it slips away, but isn't having a child that you know you can not support extremely irresponsible?

Is it irresponsible for me to want children even if the pregnancy would probably be hi-risk?

I also don't make enough with my income to pay rent and bills. My husband also just quite his job to start a new buisness.... all of this makes us unqualified to be parents i guess - but it doesn't stop me from wanting it very badly. I'm trying to wait for a good time, but really, where is that magical line that makes you financially ready to have a child? When is a good time? The longer you wait at her age the more risky it is.

If you were unsure you would ever have another chance, would you really give that up?

Wahriana was high risk and has shaky financial status and I have every confidence she will find a way to make it work. There are programs and ways to make it work. Its not only the fincially stable or wealthy having children in this country, and it's hard but they make it work.

I would be undeniably sad and heart-broken if I was told I shouldn't have children. Every person is different, and if she thinks she can make it work, well, that's her deal and she should do what she thinks is best.

But the programs you refer to are funded (among others) by people like me who have made a conscious choice to wait until we are more stable financially to have children. I don't think people should say, "Oh well, even though I don't have enough money to support a child, I can get government benefits, so we'll be alright." It's one thing to cut back and whatnot as necessary to "make it work", but to willingly conceive using government benefits as a safety net is just not right, IMO.

I guess I'm really sounding like a Republican, huh?

[polarbear 0]

I know I will get a ration of ####### for suggesting that you seize this opportunity and have a baby but you may not have another chance to ever have another one ... and who knows? Things might work out between you two and you didnt waste any time ensuring you at least got a kid out of the deal

I don't want to disappoint you, so I thought I'd be the one to ration the #######.

I do understand the idea that you have to seize your opportunity before it slips away, but isn't having a child that you know you can not support extremely irresponsible?

Is it irresponsible for me to want children even if the pregnancy would probably be hi-risk?

I also don't make enough with my income to pay rent and bills. My husband also just quite his job to start a new buisness.... all of this makes us unqualified to be parents i guess - but it doesn't stop me from wanting it very badly. I'm trying to wait for a good time, but really, where is that magical line that makes you financially ready to have a child? When is a good time? The longer you wait at her age the more risky it is.

If you were unsure you would ever have another chance, would you really give that up?

Wahriana was high risk and has shaky financial status and I have every confidence she will find a way to make it work. There are programs and ways to make it work. Its not only the fincially stable or wealthy having children in this country, and it's hard but they make it work.

I would be undeniably sad and heart-broken if I was told I shouldn't have children. Every person is different, and if she thinks she can make it work, well, that's her deal and she should do what she thinks is best.

But the programs you refer to are funded (among others) by people like me who have made a conscious choice to wait until we are more stable financially to have children. I don't think people should say, "Oh well, even though I don't have enough money to support a child, I can get government benefits, so we'll be alright." It's one thing to cut back and whatnot as necessary to "make it work", but to willingly conceive using government benefits as a safety net is just not right, IMO.

I guess I'm really sounding like a Republican, huh?

I agree on that point. I just don't want her to give up on having children bc of age. There is a difference between say "oh well, the government will help out" and "This could be my last chance, should I take it?".

But hey, that's just the romantic in me coming out

[Staashi 371]

I know I will get a ration of ####### for suggesting that you seize this opportunity and have a baby but you may not have another chance to ever have another one ... and who knows? Things might work out between you two and you didnt waste any time ensuring you at least got a kid out of the deal

I don't want to disappoint you, so I thought I'd be the one to ration the #######.

I do understand the idea that you have to seize your opportunity before it slips away, but isn't having a child that you know you can not support extremely irresponsible?

Is it irresponsible for me to want children even if the pregnancy would probably be hi-risk?

I also don't make enough with my income to pay rent and bills. My husband also just quite his job to start a new buisness.... all of this makes us unqualified to be parents i guess - but it doesn't stop me from wanting it very badly. I'm trying to wait for a good time, but really, where is that magical line that makes you financially ready to have a child? When is a good time? The longer you wait at her age the more risky it is.

If you were unsure you would ever have another chance, would you really give that up?

Wahriana was high risk and has shaky financial status and I have every confidence she will find a way to make it work. There are programs and ways to make it work. Its not only the fincially stable or wealthy having children in this country, and it's hard but they make it work.

I would be undeniably sad and heart-broken if I was told I shouldn't have children. Every person is different, and if she thinks she can make it work, well, that's her deal and she should do what she thinks is best.

But the programs you refer to are funded (among others) by people like me who have made a conscious choice to wait until we are more stable financially to have children. I don't think people should say, "Oh well, even though I don't have enough money to support a child, I can get government benefits, so we'll be alright." It's one thing to cut back and whatnot as necessary to "make it work", but to willingly conceive using government benefits as a safety net is just not right, IMO.

I guess I'm really sounding like a Republican, huh?

Just a touch, Jenn - you might want to rethink your support of Nader.

[Donna A 4]

i remember along time ago someone asking if i was going to have a baby. i said not until im finacially ready and she said....u will never be finacially ready. go ahead and have one...u will see u will be able to do it. she was right.

[Ban Hammer 13,501]

I guess I'm really sounding like a Republican, huh?

this date is marked on my calendar.

Edited September 8, 2008 by charles!

[morocco4ever 63]

I guess I'm really sounding like a Republican, huh?

Either that, or you are tired of people who abuse the system. Can't say I blame you on that one.

[Ban Hammer 13,501]

I guess I'm really sounding like a Republican, huh?

Either that, or you are tired of people who abuse the system. Can't say I blame you on that one.

see what happens when you become a mod? you turn republican!

[morocco4ever 63]

I guess I'm really sounding like a Republican, huh?

Either that, or you are tired of people who abuse the system. Can't say I blame you on that one.

see what happens when you become a mod? you turn republican!

I guess I had better not ever become a mod.