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[Nasturtium 500]

Ammar's mother was 46 when she had him (actually closer to 48 probably) and his father was about 2 years older than her.

[chaishai 1]

Ammar's mother was 46 when she had him (actually closer to 48 probably) and his father was about 2 years older than her.

i actually know lots of peeps having kids in their 40s. i am in my mid thirties, who knows i might decide to have another then. as of now, no way!

[Nasturtium 500]

Ammar's mother was 46 when she had him (actually closer to 48 probably) and his father was about 2 years older than her.

i actually know lots of peeps having kids in their 40s. i am in my mid thirties, who knows i might decide to have another then. as of now, no way!

I think I'll end up having them for a while... I would like to spread the babies out but with 4 as a planned number.. even jsut 2 years inbetween would make me 39.

[*Maureen* 0]

i remember when i used to want 7 kids...lol of course, this was back when i was in elementary school.

[Imua 0]

i remember when i used to want 7 kids...lol of course, this was back when i was in elementary school.

Thanks guys - now I have the NOA2 hopefully soon we can get to work

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

i remember when i used to want 7 kids...lol of course, this was back when i was in elementary school.

Thanks guys - now I have the NOA2 hopefully soon we can get to work

I wouldnt wait until things are perfect to have a baby. This will be your last chance girly. I know people will disagree with me, but I think you should start trying as soon as he gets here. From the looks of things, you are looking at having one child timewise with your fertility, age, time etc. I think you should go for it right now and start trying. You can always manage one kid no matter what and I know you love him and you feel like he loves you. I dont think you should focus on giving up. I think you should just try and let the chips fall where they may. Its not like you have tons of eggs or time and he is alot younger than you therefor his sperm is super mobile and you have a pretty good chance of getting pregnant. Dont let people talk you out of it. At early 40s you have suffered enough through loser men, disappointment and sadness. You deserve to have a baby of your own and even if you eat the ravioli and somehow you end up alone after this journey, you got your baby out of it.

I have a friend married to a Tunisian who s divorce will be final September 15 from her much younger tunisian husband. He clearly used her for papers and about 3 years into the marriage she told him, either you let me have a baby or I stop your greencard. He was ENRAGED...But you know what ? She was like 41 giving birth and has a beautiful baby boy. About 6 months after her son was born, her husband told her he didnt love her anymore( shes alot older and pretty heavy) and she told him well I am glad I got my baby out of you because you used me. She turned around and used him back.. for a baby. Now all of this sounds attrocious but I dont think having a baby out of one of these relationships is ANY more horrible than someone entering a marriage just to not have to leave the country ( he was not an internet relationship.. he was a visa tourist overstay)

Anyway the baby is adorable. The father comes and sees him 2 times a week. She is sad that he left her but she loves her little boy

I know I will get a ration of ####### for suggesting that you seize this opportunity and have a baby but you may not have another chance to ever have another one ... and who knows? Things might work out between you two and you didnt waste any time ensuring you at least got a kid out of the deal

Start taking folic acid,prenatals etc. Stop stressing about bills and money. He can always help you with the baby and there are alot of daycare assistance programs for working moms. When it comes time if you pull this off, Ill help you apply for everything..

Ive had alot of time to talk to you Patti and frankly I encourage you to IMMEDIATELY start trying when he gets here even if you are broke ### out of money. Its not like youll have 6 kids. You are talking one probably and you can handle that. Youve handled worse LOL

[caybee 21]

i remember when i used to want 7 kids...lol of course, this was back when i was in elementary school.

Thanks guys - now I have the NOA2 hopefully soon we can get to work

There's a nice batch of VJ babies currently in the oven, and somebody has to get started on the next batch, right? I'm your age, Pattu Rani, and we haven't given up.

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

i remember when i used to want 7 kids...lol of course, this was back when i was in elementary school.

Thanks guys - now I have the NOA2 hopefully soon we can get to work

There's a nice batch of VJ babies currently in the oven, and somebody has to get started on the next batch, right? I'm your age, Pattu Rani, and we haven't given up.

totally caybe. I am totally in support of 40 plus women trying and they have a high level of success with these mena men and their cous cous powered sperm

[Ahmed N Tina 2]

i remember when i used to want 7 kids...lol of course, this was back when i was in elementary school.

Thanks guys - now I have the NOA2 hopefully soon we can get to work

There's a nice batch of VJ babies currently in the oven, and somebody has to get started on the next batch, right? I'm your age, Pattu Rani, and we haven't given up.

totally caybe. I am totally in support of 40 plus women trying and they have a high level of success with these mena men and their cous cous powered sperm

You all are precious! Patti, I don't know your situation, but I'd have to agree with Hanging in there, this time. If God wills a baby, let it happen. I feel your pain, really. I'm 38 and Ahmed is 31 and not here yet, but I'm holding out hope we'll have at least 2. It freaks me out to think about having kids after 40, but if kids are what you truly want (like me), no time is perfect, just do it. That's the way I'm thinking too.

Course, things would be more ideal if our hubby's were settled and had jobs to help with the bills. But if God wishes a baby, He'll make it work out. Good Luck!!!

[caybee 21]

i remember when i used to want 7 kids...lol of course, this was back when i was in elementary school.

Thanks guys - now I have the NOA2 hopefully soon we can get to work

There's a nice batch of VJ babies currently in the oven, and somebody has to get started on the next batch, right? I'm your age, Pattu Rani, and we haven't given up.

totally caybe. I am totally in support of 40 plus women trying and they have a high level of success with these mena men and their cous cous powered sperm

Shopping list...eggs...milk...bread...couscous...got it...

[HLM 1]

I like the spirit!!!! KEEP IT UP LADIES

[sara535 15]

Hey I just had a baby at 39 and its been a great experience. Yes, I had some extra tests and the extra worries that accompanied that but the Princess came out just fine and honestly I find I am really enjoying motherhood at this age as I am just so much more mellow and mature If everyone in life waited for things to be perfect before they had a baby I dont think anyone ever would do it....

Wahrania, your posts have been very moving. You are more raw and honest than a lot of people around here and although sometimes it rubs other the wrong way I have to salute you for putting it all out there. I have been very moved by your story and I'm really rooting for you and for things to work out well for you, whatever that may mean.

as for the other things, I just wanted to throw out there that we should all remember there are no guarantees in life. Relationships and marriage are complicated messy emotional beasts under any and all circumstances and when you throw in immigration/green cards it just muddies the water still. Like some others, I personally think that if everything was the same between my husband and I but I was Moroccan he probably would not have married me. I had something to offer/bring to the table by being American and at the time I dont think I realized or comprehended the import of that. We've had plenty of our share of troubles and rocky points, but as I sit here right now this morning with my husband napping curled around our baby in the next room there is no doubt in my mind that he loves me and loves her and loves his stepson and considers all of us his family. He's a good man and getting better, as I am trying to as well. Its always a work in progress

[Nothing1234 2]

Hey I just had a baby at 39 and its been a great experience. Yes, I had some extra tests and the extra worries that accompanied that but the Princess came out just fine and honestly I find I am really enjoying motherhood at this age as I am just so much more mellow and mature If everyone in life waited for things to be perfect before they had a baby I dont think anyone ever would do it....

Wahrania, your posts have been very moving. You are more raw and honest than a lot of people around here and although sometimes it rubs other the wrong way I have to salute you for putting it all out there. I have been very moved by your story and I'm really rooting for you and for things to work out well for you, whatever that may mean.

as for the other things, I just wanted to throw out there that we should all remember there are no guarantees in life. Relationships and marriage are complicated messy emotional beasts under any and all circumstances and when you throw in immigration/green cards it just muddies the water still. Like some others, I personally think that if everything was the same between my husband and I but I was Moroccan he probably would not have married me. I had something to offer/bring to the table by being American and at the time I dont think I realized or comprehended the import of that. We've had plenty of our share of troubles and rocky points, but as I sit here right now this morning with my husband napping curled around our baby in the next room there is no doubt in my mind that he loves me and loves her and loves his stepson and considers all of us his family. He's a good man and getting better, as I am trying to as well. Its always a work in progress

Beautiful Sara and well said! I believe we are all a work in progress!

[~Jackie~ 30]

Well put Sara!

jJ

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

Hey I just had a baby at 39 and its been a great experience. Yes, I had some extra tests and the extra worries that accompanied that but the Princess came out just fine and honestly I find I am really enjoying motherhood at this age as I am just so much more mellow and mature If everyone in life waited for things to be perfect before they had a baby I dont think anyone ever would do it....

Wahrania, your posts have been very moving. You are more raw and honest than a lot of people around here and although sometimes it rubs other the wrong way I have to salute you for putting it all out there. I have been very moved by your story and I'm really rooting for you and for things to work out well for you, whatever that may mean.

as for the other things, I just wanted to throw out there that we should all remember there are no guarantees in life. Relationships and marriage are complicated messy emotional beasts under any and all circumstances and when you throw in immigration/green cards it just muddies the water still. Like some others, I personally think that if everything was the same between my husband and I but I was Moroccan he probably would not have married me. I had something to offer/bring to the table by being American and at the time I dont think I realized or comprehended the import of that. We've had plenty of our share of troubles and rocky points, but as I sit here right now this morning with my husband napping curled around our baby in the next room there is no doubt in my mind that he loves me and loves her and loves his stepson and considers all of us his family. He's a good man and getting better, as I am trying to as well. Its always a work in progress

im in ante partum right now waiting for a misto insertion, I am only 1 cm dilated. My husband and my little brother are out eating and left me here. <My parents are about 200 miles away and too old to help anyway so my husband and my 37 yr old geek squad brother are out eating chinese.Im sitting here with my laptop ( yeah free wifi) remembering this crazy year... love u guys