CR1 - BadNews

[akdiver 3]

Simple fx. You guys should both update your culture to the country in which you are living and the time period in which you live. Tell your parents to #### OFF and enjoy your lives together.

[russian_armenian 4]

Morocco4ever, thums to you!!! I have the same feeling. OP courted this girl for GC (maybe this is one of the reasons her family does not want him; but I am sure her family will come around since the deal is done already).

Just pay attention to OP icon on VJ, how fast he found solutions in Arizona, understood that his permanent GC might be in jepardy and acted, acted smooth. OP is smooth!!! He never let the girl off the hook for 8 years. That is a master skills!!! (I believe even if she was in love, but being for 8 years so far away... you must have some smooth tounge to keep girl's passion alive). Using his skill he could convience parents; I am sure. But he never bothered hard... til this moment when GC became a jepardy. And suddenly, inlaws are not so tough. He is after what he needs only. I feel that ...He will be married to her even after 10ye GC but he will have his freedom and will have a life of a single nevertheless. The wife will be somewhere there in the background for family holydays, going to religeous ceremonies, etc. Not more. He does not need to leave her. She is not going to be a problem for his affairs.

I just feel uneasy because from his side it is a decision-he made the choice. But his wife is pure cluless and naive and just a toy in his hands (but she will be in a toy in any other's hands too; guess that how she was raised plus soft character).

Nevertheless, good luck to both!

You are afraid and nervous of being in another country alone. But yet you choose to move to Arizona, with no one, rather than New York, to at least be close to at least one person you know?

To those that believe everything you are told, I have some great land to sell you. Wanna buy? You can trust me, I am posting this on the internet so I MUST be ligit. Come one....these 2 know their culture, you don't. Why would you invest this much time and effort into getting a visa just to go along your merry way after not even living together. Do you honestly believe everyone posting on this forum is telling the truth?

[thetreble 19]

Who are you to judge and why do people keep giving the same arguments over and over again? You don't know his family or the people he is dealing with in the situation. I really LOVE the judgment here. Some people need to get off their AOS high horse thinking they know everything and everyone.

[russian_armenian 4]

It is not a judgement here. I wrote becuase such polite and romantic guy suddenly turned into agressive and "we-take-no-prisoners" attitude person once somebody expressed (Gigi??) her not so favorable opinion.

Fahim is a smart, capable and smooth guy. He will adjust to a new situation very very fast and act apprprietly. I see reasons the wife was in love for so many years ...being in other part of the world. He asked here about his GC but I am sure he knows about legalities more than average VJ poster. Just think...he has been here just for a couple of weeks but did so much already. He is a smart guy.

I know I should not write because their relationtion is not my business. Just felt sorry for the girl-sound like she is in love in this. For him it is more like business. But nevertheless, they might be happy. And I am not vicious-hope both will be happy in marriage.

Thetreble, nobody stated here that they know about OP, his intentions, etc. Even his wife does not know. And nobody really answered his question about SS/GC because the way he asked was more like dumping his frustration here than really asking a down-to-point question. He needed feedback. He got it. And being a smart calculating person, he absorbed it and (in my opinion) will make sure that in future nobody will "incriminate" all these to him (he will prepare to answer, get story strait, etc). He is an ultimate survivor. My thumbs to him too! So, maybe our posts will help in some weird way too

Who are you to judge and why do people keep giving the same arguments over and over again? You don't know his family or the people he is dealing with in the situation. I really LOVE the judgment here. Some people need to get off their AOS high horse thinking they know everything and everyone.

[fahim 0]

It is not a judgement here. I wrote becuase such polite and romantic guy suddenly turned into agressive and "we-take-no-prisoners" attitude person once somebody expressed (Gigi??) her not so favorable opinion.

Fahim is a smart, capable and smooth guy. He will adjust to a new situation very very fast and act apprprietly. I see reasons the wife was in love for so many years ...being in other part of the world. He asked here about his GC but I am sure he knows about legalities more than average VJ poster. Just think...he has been here just for a couple of weeks but did so much already. He is a smart guy.

I know I should not write because their relationtion is not my business. Just felt sorry for the girl-sound like she is in love in this. For him it is more like business. But nevertheless, they might be happy. And I am not vicious-hope both will be happy in marriage.

Thetreble, nobody stated here that they know about OP, his intentions, etc. Even his wife does not know. And nobody really answered his question about SS/GC because the way he asked was more like dumping his frustration here than really asking a down-to-point question. He needed feedback. He got it. And being a smart calculating person, he absorbed it and (in my opinion) will make sure that in future nobody will "incriminate" all these to him (he will prepare to answer, get story strait, etc). He is an ultimate survivor. My thumbs to him too! So, maybe our posts will help in some weird way too

Who are you to judge and why do people keep giving the same arguments over and over again? You don't know his family or the people he is dealing with in the situation. I really LOVE the judgment here. Some people need to get off their AOS high horse thinking they know everything and everyone.

I have nothing to say about you but I can only laugh on you hehe.. you have too much of time to post rubbish and garbage.. I know what I am going through and things are fine for me.. soo cheers.. I have nothing to worry and nothing to say.. I mean, I being the owner of this thread do not even pay attention to this thread anymore because it means nothing to me anymore.. yes when I came things were quiet difficult for me but not anymore.. life is smooth and charm and happily living with my wife..

peace..

Fahim

PS: Thanks to those who encouraged me for all this time.. Thank you once again

[SusieK 3]

Thank you for your kind reply, yes it is kinda weird story.. She got married to me and left right away to United States, she came for 2 weeks.. yes we spent few days back there in Pakistan together.. her family lives in USA, she came for me.. I got VISA on 13th August 08.. I am trying these days to settle down issues with her and her family.. yes she is from pakistan as well.. The only option for her is, either she lives with me or with her family.. so she has to decide... which she is gonna answer me in somedays..

Wont go into if the story sounds strange, but the question gets answered in your own post - she married you, not her family -

[russian_armenian 4]

you made me laugh too. it is what i have expected. cheers, smothie!

It is not a judgement here. I wrote becuase such polite and romantic guy suddenly turned into agressive and "we-take-no-prisoners" attitude person once somebody expressed (Gigi??) her not so favorable opinion.

Fahim is a smart, capable and smooth guy. He will adjust to a new situation very very fast and act apprprietly. I see reasons the wife was in love for so many years ...being in other part of the world. He asked here about his GC but I am sure he knows about legalities more than average VJ poster. Just think...he has been here just for a couple of weeks but did so much already. He is a smart guy.

I know I should not write because their relationtion is not my business. Just felt sorry for the girl-sound like she is in love in this. For him it is more like business. But nevertheless, they might be happy. And I am not vicious-hope both will be happy in marriage.

Thetreble, nobody stated here that they know about OP, his intentions, etc. Even his wife does not know. And nobody really answered his question about SS/GC because the way he asked was more like dumping his frustration here than really asking a down-to-point question. He needed feedback. He got it. And being a smart calculating person, he absorbed it and (in my opinion) will make sure that in future nobody will "incriminate" all these to him (he will prepare to answer, get story strait, etc). He is an ultimate survivor. My thumbs to him too! So, maybe our posts will help in some weird way too

Who are you to judge and why do people keep giving the same arguments over and over again? You don't know his family or the people he is dealing with in the situation. I really LOVE the judgment here. Some people need to get off their AOS high horse thinking they know everything and everyone.

I have nothing to say about you but I can only laugh on you hehe.. you have too much of time to post rubbish and garbage.. I know what I am going through and things are fine for me.. soo cheers.. I have nothing to worry and nothing to say.. I mean, I being the owner of this thread do not even pay attention to this thread anymore because it means nothing to me anymore.. yes when I came things were quiet difficult for me but not anymore.. life is smooth and charm and happily living with my wife..

peace..

Fahim

PS: Thanks to those who encouraged me for all this time.. Thank you once again