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[fahim 0]

Hi guys.. just yesterday I posted you about my Interview and today I am going to share my marriage life with you guys ..

Alright this is how it is.. I came to USA for my wife but I think she was'nt ready or be there for me.. She refused to accept me as her husband since my inlaws do not want me to be with her.. some of you must be wondering that what do my inlaws have to do with me and my wifes life. We belong from a country (Pakistan) where we have to respect our parents feelings and sometimes listen to them what they want us to do.. So my inlaws do not like me no more and forcing my wife to quit me.. I went to NY to be with my wife she decided not to be with me so I planned to move to Arizona ... we been talking on the phone she still loves me.. and so do I .. she crys all the time on the phone and I am upset too because we been together for last 8 years.. that's not a short time.. we deeply love each other but our families do not want us to be together anyway.. today she called me and told me that I am going to call INS and tell them to remove my name from you so that I should'nt be responsible for any of your action here.. I told her do whatever you want just do not file Divorce which she says I will see if I am forced from my family I might file Divorce as well..

I landed here on 21st August and it's today I havent yet recieved my Social or Conditional GreenCard yet.. soo now could you guide me what's gonna happen if she calls INS? will they block my GreenCard? & Social?.. or anything I am just confused .. your help will be really appreciated..

I just need your help guys...

Note: I am on CR1 Visa here.

Fahim

[Bani 0]

Hi guys.. just yesterday I posted you about my Interview and today I am going to share my marriage life with you guys ..

Alright this is how it is.. I came to USA for my wife but I think she was'nt ready or be there for me.. She refused to accept me as her husband since my inlaws do not want me to be with her.. some of you must be wondering that what do my inlaws have to do with me and my wifes life. We belong from a country (Pakistan) where we have to respect our parents feelings and sometimes listen to them what they want us to do.. So my inlaws do not like me no more and forcing my wife to quit me.. I went to NY to be with my wife she decided not to be with me so I planned to move to Arizona ... we been talking on the phone she still loves me.. and so do I .. she crys all the time on the phone and I am upset too because we been together for last 8 years.. that's not a short time.. we deeply love each other but our families do not want us to be together anyway.. today she called me and told me that I am going to call INS and tell them to remove my name from you so that I should'nt be responsible for any of your action here.. I told her do whatever you want just do not file Divorce which she says I will see if I am forced from my family I might file Divorce as well..

I landed here on 21st August and it's today I havent yet recieved my Social or Conditional GreenCard yet.. soo now could you guide me what's gonna happen if she calls INS? will they block my GreenCard? & Social?.. or anything I am just confused .. your help will be really appreciated..

I just need your help guys...

Note: I am on CR1 Visa here.

Fahim

Fahim,

So sorry to hear this.. I pray for you that everything works out between you and your wife.... Just don't loose hope and have faith in God... Everything will be fine..ok..

Bani

[desert_fox 32]

As a grown adult, its time to do what you want to do. This is the way the culture is here in the USA. If the parents dont like it...that is their problem. Dont make it your problem.

[pushbrk 13,117]

Hi guys.. just yesterday I posted you about my Interview and today I am going to share my marriage life with you guys ..

Alright this is how it is.. I came to USA for my wife but I think she was'nt ready or be there for me.. She refused to accept me as her husband since my inlaws do not want me to be with her.. some of you must be wondering that what do my inlaws have to do with me and my wifes life. We belong from a country (Pakistan) where we have to respect our parents feelings and sometimes listen to them what they want us to do.. So my inlaws do not like me no more and forcing my wife to quit me.. I went to NY to be with my wife she decided not to be with me so I planned to move to Arizona ... we been talking on the phone she still loves me.. and so do I .. she crys all the time on the phone and I am upset too because we been together for last 8 years.. that's not a short time.. we deeply love each other but our families do not want us to be together anyway.. today she called me and told me that I am going to call INS and tell them to remove my name from you so that I should'nt be responsible for any of your action here.. I told her do whatever you want just do not file Divorce which she says I will see if I am forced from my family I might file Divorce as well..

I landed here on 21st August and it's today I havent yet recieved my Social or Conditional GreenCard yet.. soo now could you guide me what's gonna happen if she calls INS? will they block my GreenCard? & Social?.. or anything I am just confused .. your help will be really appreciated..

I just need your help guys...

Note: I am on CR1 Visa here.

Fahim

When she calls USCIS, she'll find out that it's too late to withdraw the I-864. She cannot block your initial green card and SSN but depending on the address you used, she (or perhaps her parents if you used their address) may have control of them when they arrive in the mail.

When it comes time to remove conditions, 21 months from now, you'll face another set of issues.

[morocco4ever 63]

I am totally confused. You just got here on 8/21 and already you are separated? Did you ever live with her? When did you get the visa? If you and her love each other why would you let yours and her family decide? Is she also from Pakistan? In America the parents do not decide who their grown adult children marry. This is a WEIRD story.

[fahim 0]

Thank you for your kind reply, yes it is kinda weird story.. She got married to me and left right away to United States, she came for 2 weeks.. yes we spent few days back there in Pakistan together.. her family lives in USA, she came for me.. I got VISA on 13th August 08.. I am trying these days to settle down issues with her and her family.. yes she is from pakistan as well.. The only option for her is, either she lives with me or with her family.. so she has to decide... which she is gonna answer me in somedays..

Edited August 26, 2008 by fahim

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

You love each other deeply and yet you are letting your parents and family dictate what you do and who you love?

That's sad.

Follow your own heart and dreams...it's not their life, it's yours.

You are in America now..it's time to live free.

Edited August 26, 2008 by ~Laura and Nick~

[bhajishah 4]

Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.

bhai why is this a prblem now. why you let situation get out of control?? werent you responsible enough to not let her fall in love if you know how this would pan out?? tell me you didnt play on her emotion to get a ride here to Usa. Go back home. thats the right thing.

[morocco4ever 63]

If this is a culture thing then why did you get married in the first place? If your families were not okay with the marriage, and your culture dictates who you marry, it seems weird it would have gone this far.

[NickD 203]

Hi guys.. just yesterday I posted you about my Interview and today I am going to share my marriage life with you guys ..

Alright this is how it is.. I came to USA for my wife but I think she was'nt ready or be there for me.. She refused to accept me as her husband since my inlaws do not want me to be with her.. some of you must be wondering that what do my inlaws have to do with me and my wifes life. We belong from a country (Pakistan) where we have to respect our parents feelings and sometimes listen to them what they want us to do.. So my inlaws do not like me no more and forcing my wife to quit me.. I went to NY to be with my wife she decided not to be with me so I planned to move to Arizona ... we been talking on the phone she still loves me.. and so do I .. she crys all the time on the phone and I am upset too because we been together for last 8 years.. that's not a short time.. we deeply love each other but our families do not want us to be together anyway.. today she called me and told me that I am going to call INS and tell them to remove my name from you so that I should'nt be responsible for any of your action here.. I told her do whatever you want just do not file Divorce which she says I will see if I am forced from my family I might file Divorce as well..

I landed here on 21st August and it's today I havent yet recieved my Social or Conditional GreenCard yet.. soo now could you guide me what's gonna happen if she calls INS? will they block my GreenCard? & Social?.. or anything I am just confused .. your help will be really appreciated..

I just need your help guys...

Note: I am on CR1 Visa here.

Fahim

Some of us find it disturbing that a Iranian father of a 15 year old girl and 40 of his friends stone her to death because she finds a young boy more attractive than the one her father picked out for her. Or women are buried up to their necks and stoned also to death without any means of defense or court hearing because their husbands claimed they committed adultery. But guess it's okay for the men to commit the same crime in those societies.

The Koran written by Mohammed in the 7th century, is basically his ideas of the old Jewish scriptures, where many biblical scholars bases on writing techniques feel these scriptures were tampered with for the down fall of all women. I tend to agree with this from the very start of blaming Eve for the entire downfall of all mankind, it's ridiculous. The problem with most people is the inability to think and to use common sense, and to look at the world around us, but would rather believe in scripture written 1,400 years, 2000 years, or 3500 years ago. Another minor problem in history is not knowing how to properly kiln ceramics with as strong lead content that has adverse affects on the brain.

If your marriage is important to you, use common sense, and listen to your heart, not to a bunch of concocted nonsense. Ha, if you don't, you should be buried up to your neck and have people throw stones at you. What does that prove???

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Thank you for your kind reply, yes it is kinda weird story.. She got married to me and left right away to United States, she came for 2 weeks.. yes we spent few days back there in Pakistan together.. her family lives in USA, she came for me.. I got VISA on 13th August 08.. I am trying these days to settle down issues with her and her family.. yes she is from pakistan as well.. The only option for her is, either she lives with me or with her family.. so she has to decide... which she is gonna answer me in somedays..

You are her husband, there should be no question who she lives with.

So, you guys were married in Pakistan, did she sneak off there? Were'nt her parents aware at that time what was going on? You guys went through this whole process knowing that you did not have her parents approval/blessing. This was the inevitable outcome.

If she wanted to respect her parents wishes, she wouldnt have persued a visa for you, right?

I wish you guys luck with whatever the outcome is, but it sounds like this is no suprise to you.

Lisa

[NickD 203]

Ha, with a zillion different religions in the world, only one is true one meaning all the others are false, so chose wisely. All men meaning women as well are created equal in the eyes of God unless if you are born a woman or if you are not the first born. Did Jesus Christ actually say, "salves obey your masters", does this mean if you are a young woman, take off your clothes and hop into bed with your master? Really do not believe Jesus said that, was added later on as the Roman economy dependent heavily on salves. You only honor your father and mother if they instruct you to do good things, not bad things, so how do you know the difference? Is marrying the person of their choice a good thing? They will die leaving you in a miserable marriage for the rest of your life.

Can go on and on, but the whole thing is crazy, I certainly had my problems with the in-laws of my ex-wife which is one of the reasons why she is my ex-wife, she couldn't think for herself and was really screwed up, neither my kids or myself needed that day after day after day.

So if you are likewise screwed up either unscrew yourself or break it off. Nothing but a life of misery. Do go along with do unto others as you would have them do unto you, but that is seldom in practice, even up most religions, they prefer to condemn you to hell and judge your every move. Screw them too. Did hear a philosopher say, can 99.9% of the people on this earth be dead wrong? The answer is YES.

[Gemmie 142]

When my father told me that I was not to travel alone to the US at 18 years old to visit my love, I told him that I was legally an adult and was going to do this

Three years later, I can see that it was the best decision I made. Next year, my father will be flying out after me to walk me down the aisle. He understands why I did this.

Having said that, I don't have religious and cultural differences holding me back.

Be wise and follow your own desires.

[GiGii 4]

This whole story sounds a little suspicious. If its in your culture to listen to your parents and respect their wishes, its also in your culture to get their blessing to marry their daughter, which I very highly doubt you did.

Seems like you conned a girl into falling in love, and she faught for you, she got you here. Now when it comes your turn to fight for "love", you say screw it and move to Arizona? #######! If you wanted to work on the situation, wouldn't you try to stay somewhere closer to her NY house, instead of busting to the other side of the US? Seems quite suspicious indeed.

And in all this drama, your biggest concern is not her, not saving your marriage, not working on the in-law situation, none of that. Its whats going to happen with my GC & SS? I'll tell you what. Its coming to her house, her dad is going to take that envelope and hold it. If he hates you as much as you say, and wants you as bad out of his daughters life, you will never see those cards.

So if you really got into this for love, you better start showing & fighting for it asap... and not in Arizona. Otherwise get packing.

[daboyz 36]

This whole story sounds a little suspicious. If its in your culture to listen to your parents and respect their wishes, its also in your culture to get their blessing to marry their daughter, which I very highly doubt you did.

Seems like you conned a girl into falling in love, and she faught for you, she got you here. Now when it comes your turn to fight for "love", you say screw it and move to Arizona? #######! If you wanted to work on the situation, wouldn't you try to stay somewhere closer to her NY house, instead of busting to the other side of the US? Seems quite suspicious indeed.

And in all this drama, your biggest concern is not her, not saving your marriage, not working on the in-law situation, none of that. Its whats going to happen with my GC & SS? I'll tell you what. Its coming to her house, her dad is going to take that envelope and hold it. If he hates you as much as you say, and wants you as bad out of his daughters life, you will never see those cards.

So if you really got into this for love, you better start showing & fighting for it asap... and not in Arizona. Otherwise get packing.