Remarriage

[checkers 0]

Hello,

My friend came from the Philippines in October 2007, married to a US citizen in America in December 2007. The marriage was entered into on 'good faith' and she is still with him. During the last eight months, he has shown his true colors by being psychologically abusive, physically a couple of times, has told her that all he wanted was sex and a domestic worker. She is afraid of him, but also afraid of being deported. In the time that I have known him, I have not met anyone so repulsive in a very long time, so it is not just her word that I am going off of.

She has looked at having the conditions removed from her permanent residence stipulation but is afraid that if he catches wind of her intents, that he will purposefully set her up to deported. She will be receiving her 'green card' within the next three weeks.

We have become very dear friends, and have not slept together, but it is my sincerest intent to marry her. We would love to know what is the protocol, risks, or alternative avenues to having her divorce him and abiding by state marriage/divorce laws, to marry me. Does she have to start the whole immigration process all over again, or can she have the 'conditions' of marriage carried over to her being married to me, as both marriages are of a bona fide nature.

Thank you in advance to those whom can help.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Hello,

My friend came from the Philippines in October 2007, married to a US citizen in America in December 2007. The marriage was entered into on 'good faith' and she is still with him. During the last eight months, he has shown his true colors by being psychologically abusive, physically a couple of times, has told her that all he wanted was sex and a domestic worker. She is afraid of him, but also afraid of being deported. In the time that I have known him, I have not met anyone so repulsive in a very long time, so it is not just her word that I am going off of.

She has looked at having the conditions removed from her permanent residence stipulation but is afraid that if he catches wind of her intents, that he will purposefully set her up to deported. She will be receiving her 'green card' within the next three weeks.

We have become very dear friends, and have not slept together, but it is my sincerest intent to marry her. We would love to know what is the protocol, risks, or alternative avenues to having her divorce him and abiding by state marriage/divorce laws, to marry me. Does she have to start the whole immigration process all over again, or can she have the 'conditions' of marriage carried over to her being married to me, as both marriages are of a bona fide nature.

Thank you in advance to those whom can help.

If she is just about to receive her green card (with conditions attached) then she might face some difficulties divorcing right away. Technically, she is required to adjust status through the initial petitioner, which she will be doing, but leaving the marriage so soon after receiving the green card could look a little suspect. While I don't subscribe to an individual staying with an abuser, she must first gather as many evidences of the bonafide nature of this marriage before she makes it clear she will be divorcing, UNLESS she has documented this abuse during the course of the marriage. She should consult a competent immigration attorney to evaluate her options, taking all evidences available to her with her.

[checkers 0]

Hello,

My friend came from the Philippines in October 2007, married to a US citizen in America in December 2007. The marriage was entered into on 'good faith' and she is still with him. During the last eight months, he has shown his true colors by being psychologically abusive, physically a couple of times, has told her that all he wanted was sex and a domestic worker. She is afraid of him, but also afraid of being deported. In the time that I have known him, I have not met anyone so repulsive in a very long time, so it is not just her word that I am going off of.

She has looked at having the conditions removed from her permanent residence stipulation but is afraid that if he catches wind of her intents, that he will purposefully set her up to deported. She will be receiving her 'green card' within the next three weeks.

We have become very dear friends, and have not slept together, but it is my sincerest intent to marry her. We would love to know what is the protocol, risks, or alternative avenues to having her divorce him and abiding by state marriage/divorce laws, to marry me. Does she have to start the whole immigration process all over again, or can she have the 'conditions' of marriage carried over to her being married to me, as both marriages are of a bona fide nature.

Thank you in advance to those whom can help.

If she is just about to receive her green card (with conditions attached) then she might face some difficulties divorcing right away. Technically, she is required to adjust status through the initial petitioner, which she will be doing, but leaving the marriage so soon after receiving the green card could look a little suspect. While I don't subscribe to an individual staying with an abuser, she must first gather as many evidences of the bonafide nature of this marriage before she makes it clear she will be divorcing, UNLESS she has documented this abuse during the course of the marriage. She should consult a competent immigration attorney to evaluate her options, taking all evidences available to her with her.

[NickD 203]

Hello,

he has shown his true colors by being psychologically abusive, physically a couple of times,

In Wisconsin, Domestic violence occurs when a family member, partner or ex-partner attempts to physically or psychologically dominate or harm the other. The term "intimate partner violence" (IPV) is often used synonymously, other terms have included "wife beating", "wife battering", "relationship violence", "domestic abuse", "spousal abuse", and "family violence" with some legal jurisdictions having specific definitions, and is considered a serious felony.

Guys like that should be locked up in jail. Check your state laws.

[pushbrk 13,117]

Hello,

My friend came from the Philippines in October 2007, married to a US citizen in America in December 2007. The marriage was entered into on 'good faith' and she is still with him. During the last eight months, he has shown his true colors by being psychologically abusive, physically a couple of times, has told her that all he wanted was sex and a domestic worker. She is afraid of him, but also afraid of being deported. In the time that I have known him, I have not met anyone so repulsive in a very long time, so it is not just her word that I am going off of.

She has looked at having the conditions removed from her permanent residence stipulation but is afraid that if he catches wind of her intents, that he will purposefully set her up to deported. She will be receiving her 'green card' within the next three weeks.

We have become very dear friends, and have not slept together, but it is my sincerest intent to marry her. We would love to know what is the protocol, risks, or alternative avenues to having her divorce him and abiding by state marriage/divorce laws, to marry me. Does she have to start the whole immigration process all over again, or can she have the 'conditions' of marriage carried over to her being married to me, as both marriages are of a bona fide nature.

Thank you in advance to those whom can help.

If she is just about to receive her green card (with conditions attached) then she might face some difficulties divorcing right away. Technically, she is required to adjust status through the initial petitioner, which she will be doing, but leaving the marriage so soon after receiving the green card could look a little suspect. While I don't subscribe to an individual staying with an abuser, she must first gather as many evidences of the bonafide nature of this marriage before she makes it clear she will be divorcing, UNLESS she has documented this abuse during the course of the marriage. She should consult a competent immigration attorney to evaluate her options, taking all evidences available to her with her.

I realize the OP has only spoken for himself but I think there could be some problems showing a good faith marriage if before the green card is in hand, she has the next husband ready to propose. So, if this is a mutual relationship and desire between the OP and the soon to be green card holder, there could be some misrepresentation that occured during the AOS interview. Sitting in front of an adjudicator representing a bona fide ongoing marital relationship with plans in the work for divorce and remarriag, are not going to fly at removal of conditions time. If no interview, maybe not quite such a problem.

[Donna A 4]

Hello,

My friend came from the Philippines in October 2007, married to a US citizen in America in December 2007. The marriage was entered into on 'good faith' and she is still with him. During the last eight months, he has shown his true colors by being psychologically abusive, physically a couple of times, has told her that all he wanted was sex and a domestic worker. She is afraid of him, but also afraid of being deported. In the time that I have known him, I have not met anyone so repulsive in a very long time, so it is not just her word that I am going off of.

She has looked at having the conditions removed from her permanent residence stipulation but is afraid that if he catches wind of her intents, that he will purposefully set her up to deported. She will be receiving her 'green card' within the next three weeks.

We have become very dear friends, and have not slept together, but it is my sincerest intent to marry her. We would love to know what is the protocol, risks, or alternative avenues to having her divorce him and abiding by state marriage/divorce laws, to marry me. Does she have to start the whole immigration process all over again, or can she have the 'conditions' of marriage carried over to her being married to me, as both marriages are of a bona fide nature.

Thank you in advance to those whom can help.

If she is just about to receive her green card (with conditions attached) then she might face some difficulties divorcing right away. Technically, she is required to adjust status through the initial petitioner, which she will be doing, but leaving the marriage so soon after receiving the green card could look a little suspect. While I don't subscribe to an individual staying with an abuser, she must first gather as many evidences of the bonafide nature of this marriage before she makes it clear she will be divorcing, UNLESS she has documented this abuse during the course of the marriage. She should consult a competent immigration attorney to evaluate her options, taking all evidences available to her with her.

I realize the OP has only spoken for himself but I think there could be some problems showing a good faith marriage if before the green card is in hand, she has the next husband ready to propose. So, if this is a mutual relationship and desire between the OP and the soon to be green card holder, there could be some misrepresentation that occured during the AOS interview. Sitting in front of an adjudicator representing a bona fide ongoing marital relationship with plans in the work for divorce and remarriag, are not going to fly at removal of conditions time. If no interview, maybe not quite such a problem.

maybe the OP should have kept his nose out of her marriege and maybe there would have been no problems. come on, she just got married a few months ago and ur moving in for the kill all ready...are u sure ur not the cause of the problems between them. i think ur girlfriend found greener pastures and all of a sudden is being abused.

[bhajishah 4]

Makes you wonder what she might sy about you in the future...something to ponder. go in with eyes open . you might just be the next stepping stone.

[morocco4ever 63]

Finding a new relationship before you have ended the current one is wrong. It doesn't matter if you have slept together or not. This is emotional cheating, and once a cheater always a cheater. Sorry, I just don't have advice for this kind of ####### other than stay out of other peoples marriages.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Finding a new relationship before you have ended the current one is wrong. It doesn't matter if you have slept together or not. This is emotional cheating, and once a cheater always a cheater. Sorry, I just don't have advice for this kind of ####### other than stay out of other peoples marriages.

Hmm. Under normal circumstances I suppose that an individual that engages in another relationship, albeit only an emotional one, could be considered unfaithful to his or her spouse. But, really, does this spouse deserve a faithful wife? If the current spouse is trully abusive, and the alien fears acts of reprisal from her current spouse, and wishes to end this marriage but is concerned about his reaction to her choice to end the marriage, then I see a relationship developing with a member of the opposite sex that has been comforting and supportive to her, as not only understandable but very normal as well.

[morocco4ever 63]

Finding a new relationship before you have ended the current one is wrong. It doesn't matter if you have slept together or not. This is emotional cheating, and once a cheater always a cheater. Sorry, I just don't have advice for this kind of ####### other than stay out of other peoples marriages.

Hmm. Under normal circumstances I suppose that an individual that engages in another relationship, albeit only an emotional one, could be considered unfaithful to his or her spouse. But, really, does this spouse deserve a faithful wife? If the current spouse is trully abusive, and the alien fears acts of reprisal from her current spouse, and wishes to end this marriage but is concerned about his reaction to her choice to end the marriage, then I see a relationship developing with a member of the opposite sex that has been comforting and supportive to her, as not only understandable but very normal as well.

There is no excuse for cheating. If you are done with a relationship you need to have enough respect for yourself, and for your marriage (even a bad one) to end it before pursuing a new relationship. It doesn't matter if HE deserves a faithful wife or not, its a matter of morality.

[pushbrk 13,117]

Finding a new relationship before you have ended the current one is wrong. It doesn't matter if you have slept together or not. This is emotional cheating, and once a cheater always a cheater. Sorry, I just don't have advice for this kind of ####### other than stay out of other peoples marriages.

Hmm. Under normal circumstances I suppose that an individual that engages in another relationship, albeit only an emotional one, could be considered unfaithful to his or her spouse. But, really, does this spouse deserve a faithful wife? If the current spouse is trully abusive, and the alien fears acts of reprisal from her current spouse, and wishes to end this marriage but is concerned about his reaction to her choice to end the marriage, then I see a relationship developing with a member of the opposite sex that has been comforting and supportive to her, as not only understandable but very normal as well.

Could be either or anywhere in between but off topic anyway. The on topic issue is how the new relationship and its timing would impact removal of conditions. Let's leave the personal and moral value judgments out of it.

[morocco4ever 63]

Finding a new relationship before you have ended the current one is wrong. It doesn't matter if you have slept together or not. This is emotional cheating, and once a cheater always a cheater. Sorry, I just don't have advice for this kind of ####### other than stay out of other peoples marriages.

Hmm. Under normal circumstances I suppose that an individual that engages in another relationship, albeit only an emotional one, could be considered unfaithful to his or her spouse. But, really, does this spouse deserve a faithful wife? If the current spouse is trully abusive, and the alien fears acts of reprisal from her current spouse, and wishes to end this marriage but is concerned about his reaction to her choice to end the marriage, then I see a relationship developing with a member of the opposite sex that has been comforting and supportive to her, as not only understandable but very normal as well.

Could be either or anywhere in between but off topic anyway. The on topic issue is how the new relationship and its timing would impact removal of conditions. Let's leave the personal and moral value judgments out of it.

Yeah, I guess its much better to give advice on how to cheat the system. If she came on good faith then let her go and tell the entire truth. If she gets to stay, fine, if they send her back, fine. But to help her to get around the rules is WRONG.

Edited August 24, 2008 by morocco4ever

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Finding a new relationship before you have ended the current one is wrong. It doesn't matter if you have slept together or not. This is emotional cheating, and once a cheater always a cheater. Sorry, I just don't have advice for this kind of ####### other than stay out of other peoples marriages.

Hmm. Under normal circumstances I suppose that an individual that engages in another relationship, albeit only an emotional one, could be considered unfaithful to his or her spouse. But, really, does this spouse deserve a faithful wife? If the current spouse is trully abusive, and the alien fears acts of reprisal from her current spouse, and wishes to end this marriage but is concerned about his reaction to her choice to end the marriage, then I see a relationship developing with a member of the opposite sex that has been comforting and supportive to her, as not only understandable but very normal as well.

Could be either or anywhere in between but off topic anyway. The on topic issue is how the new relationship and its timing would impact removal of conditions. Let's leave the personal and moral value judgments out of it.

Yeah, I guess its much better to give advice on how to cheat the system.

Whoa! I think that's a s-t-r-e-t-c-h.

[morocco4ever 63]

Finding a new relationship before you have ended the current one is wrong. It doesn't matter if you have slept together or not. This is emotional cheating, and once a cheater always a cheater. Sorry, I just don't have advice for this kind of ####### other than stay out of other peoples marriages.

Hmm. Under normal circumstances I suppose that an individual that engages in another relationship, albeit only an emotional one, could be considered unfaithful to his or her spouse. But, really, does this spouse deserve a faithful wife? If the current spouse is trully abusive, and the alien fears acts of reprisal from her current spouse, and wishes to end this marriage but is concerned about his reaction to her choice to end the marriage, then I see a relationship developing with a member of the opposite sex that has been comforting and supportive to her, as not only understandable but very normal as well.

Could be either or anywhere in between but off topic anyway. The on topic issue is how the new relationship and its timing would impact removal of conditions. Let's leave the personal and moral value judgments out of it.

Yeah, I guess its much better to give advice on how to cheat the system.

Whoa! I think that's a s-t-r-e-t-c-h.

Not a stretch at all. If she can't tell the truth about what has happened then it is trying to cheat the system.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Finding a new relationship before you have ended the current one is wrong. It doesn't matter if you have slept together or not. This is emotional cheating, and once a cheater always a cheater. Sorry, I just don't have advice for this kind of ####### other than stay out of other peoples marriages.

Hmm. Under normal circumstances I suppose that an individual that engages in another relationship, albeit only an emotional one, could be considered unfaithful to his or her spouse. But, really, does this spouse deserve a faithful wife? If the current spouse is trully abusive, and the alien fears acts of reprisal from her current spouse, and wishes to end this marriage but is concerned about his reaction to her choice to end the marriage, then I see a relationship developing with a member of the opposite sex that has been comforting and supportive to her, as not only understandable but very normal as well.

Could be either or anywhere in between but off topic anyway. The on topic issue is how the new relationship and its timing would impact removal of conditions. Let's leave the personal and moral value judgments out of it.

Yeah, I guess its much better to give advice on how to cheat the system.

Whoa! I think that's a s-t-r-e-t-c-h.

Not a stretch at all. If she can't tell the truth about what has happened then it is trying to cheat the system.

How can you conclude that the alien can't tell the truth? She is wise to keep her cards close to her chest in a situation where her safety, be it psychological or physical, is in jeopardy.