Read to throw in the towel?

[Morning Sunshine 0]

I feel like just throwing in the towel right now! I mean I feel exhuasted and not sure if I can stay in this for the long haul. This is too hard! How did you all get through this? I feel like just telling my husband I want to stop everything. I actually just started but our anniversary is very soon and we've been married almost a year. We messed up in the beginning so we had to start from the top. I tell you I am losing my mind! I do not know what to do anymore to feel more relaxed about waiting. I am worried because I see others who have been waiting at VSC for months or a year now and I am stuck there. This is really worrying me. I love my husband don't get me wrong but I do not know if I can do this. Should I throw in the towel and move to Pakistan or should I just give up on us all together?

Mahitab

[cmnb 0]

I feel like just throwing in the towel right now! I mean I feel exhuasted and not sure if I can stay in this for the long haul. This is too hard! How did you all get through this? I feel like just telling my husband I want to stop everything. I actually just started but our anniversary is very soon and we've been married almost a year. We messed up in the beginning so we had to start from the top. I tell you I am losing my mind! I do not know what to do anymore to feel more relaxed about waiting. I am worried because I see others who have been waiting at VSC for months or a year now and I am stuck there. This is really worrying me. I love my husband don't get me wrong but I do not know if I can do this. Should I throw in the towel and move to Pakistan or should I just give up on us all together?

Mahitab

the wait game has begun for all of us...goodluck!!

Edited August 19, 2008 by cmnb

[raymaga 25]

Just remember that patience is a virtue when it comes to this whole immigration process.

I can certainly understand how you must be feeling with all the waiting and time apart. Just remember that every day is one day closer to you being together for the rest of your lives.

Try to keep busy and keep in close contact with each other.

Best wishes for your approval shortly.

[Black Velvet 4]

Keep the faith. The entire K-3 process took one year. It is hard to be away from a loved one. Take this time to organize your immigration files (e.g. tax returns, W-2, pictures, etc). The interview will come when you least suspect it.

[Eric_and_Corinna 0]

Our K-3 took almost a year. We go home, as a family, on Thursday after 14 months. Keep with it, it's worth so much more in the end

[Moto-zutto 0]

I feel like just throwing in the towel right now! I mean I feel exhuasted and not sure if I can stay in this for the long haul. This is too hard! How did you all get through this? I feel like just telling my husband I want to stop everything. I actually just started but our anniversary is very soon and we've been married almost a year. We messed up in the beginning so we had to start from the top. I tell you I am losing my mind! I do not know what to do anymore to feel more relaxed about waiting. I am worried because I see others who have been waiting at VSC for months or a year now and I am stuck there. This is really worrying me. I love my husband don't get me wrong but I do not know if I can do this. Should I throw in the towel and move to Pakistan or should I just give up on us all together?

Mahitab

if he is worth it, you will wait. it doesnt sound good if you second guess youself about this. stop making it more difficult for yourself. try to stay busy and time will go by faster than you think

[Kevin and 10]

All I can say is to hang in there. I've been married for over 2 years. My case has been sent back to the CSC. So your not alone in feeling this way. There are others who have waited a lot longer than both of us and in the end they are together.

[khaleda 0]

Mahitab,

I felt the same way, but in time u learn to deal with it.... I haven't been the same. I had stopped going out, talking to anyone... ate like crazy (n still eating!...lol).... Now after 6 months, it's gotten a bit better. Don't get me wrong, I am still depressed and frustrated with this process......But I suggest you to try to talk to him everyday. chat wil him..... This will help u alot.....Good luck!

Edited August 19, 2008 by khaleda

[Morning Sunshine 0]

Mahitab,

I felt the same way, but in time u learn to deal with it.... I haven't been the same. I had stopped going out, talking to anyone... ate like crazy (n still eating!...lol).... Now after 6 months, it's gotten a bit better. Don't get me wrong, I am still depressed and frustrated with this process......But I suggest you to try to talk to him everyday. chat wil him..... This will help u alot.....Good luck!

Maybe I need to stop talking to him because when we talk I miss him more. I hope he does not read this post!

[khaleda 0]

Talking makes the relationship stronger... Knowing eachother how they are feeling.. u wont feel like strangers...... but it's up to..do wat makes u feel better

[Morning Sunshine 0]

*Sigh* Ok, I will try to relax to the best of my ability. I try praying regularly to ward off the bad feeling. Maybe I need to read more religious books or something. I guess when school starts back u I will be more busy! Maybe I am going to put in for volunteer services so I can help others and actually feel good about something. I think it may help me! Anybody know of any craft projects that help? Maybe horseback riding will help too.....Ok, I feel a little calmer I guess I am just angry because I dd not get the NOA1 yet and I see peole being approved in 2 months and those waiting years. I guess I am just twisted!

[missinbrazil 0]

At the risk of sounding harsh, and I don't mean to, please don't take it that way, but I think if you're even considering throwing in the towel then your heart's not in this. The VSC abyss is no place for the weak spirit. Give yourself a pep talk and get your spirits back up. Only you know if your relationship is worth it....

[Morning Sunshine 0]

At the risk of sounding harsh, and I don't mean to, please don't take it that way, but I think if you're even considering throwing in the towel then your heart's not in this. The VSC abyss is no place for the weak spirit. Give yourself a pep talk and get your spirits back up. Only you know if your relationship is worth it....

No, it does sound like my heart is not in it. I do love him but this thing can put a damper on relationships!

Talking makes the relationship stronger... Knowing eachother how they are feeling.. u wont feel like strangers...... but it's up to..do wat makes u feel better

Ok, I will keep the communication flowing!

[pcana 1]

At the risk of sounding harsh, and I don't mean to, please don't take it that way, but I think if you're even considering throwing in the towel then your heart's not in this. The VSC abyss is no place for the weak spirit. Give yourself a pep talk and get your spirits back up. Only you know if your relationship is worth it....

No, it does sound like my heart is not in it. I do love him but this thing can put a damper on relationships!

Talking makes the relationship stronger... Knowing eachother how they are feeling.. u wont feel like strangers...... but it's up to..do wat makes u feel better

Ok, I will keep the communication flowing!

Our journey was extremely hard and difficult (like many others here) but it never crossed my mind to "throw the towel". He was worth it!!! and if I have to do it again,I do it in a heartbeat without any hesitations.

[Morning Sunshine 0]

I do not want to throw in the towel on "us" but the visa stuff. Want to just move there so we can actually be together. As we all know life is short! So, I want to spend it with my husband sooner than later. I know I can't live without him and he can not without me so I want to be with him today not years from now. I need him! I am tired of crying at night and being without him. I love him and I will wait because I have to but it is so hard. I just want him now by my side!

M

Edited August 19, 2008 by ~Dream Love~