Is it getting old or what ?

[iahmjpinoy 6]

just like everybody else, i agree it's normal. and a lot gave great suggestions. one more suggestion... if you miss the old school way, why not surprise her with a love letter via snail mail. we do that at times... and it's just A LOT sweeter than email

Yes, it's perfectly normal that after a while it's not going to be like when you first met. And what you mentioned about sending love letters is a really great idea, my fiance and I do that all the time. It's even better if you don't tell each other that you sent one, kinda like a surprise for each other to just get a letter in the mail...

I'll send some cards that are funny just so we both can have a laugh after she gets it

But also, don't 4get you also have to have some 'me' time. I usually go out on the weekends with my buddies and then when I get home, we do have something to talk about...

Ingats!

[✿Ice Rain✿ 0]

Is it just me or have all of you gone thru this phase.............

In the beginning of my relationship I would chat with my Finacee for hours on YAHOO and as of lately I have been running out of things to say and in fact I think i am boring her.

I am starting to miss the OLD SCHOOL way of no TEXT MESSAGING or YAHOO IM, just phone calls once a week and letters that way when we do chat there is alot to talk about.

so tell me all............ Is it just me or have any of you gone thru this phase ?

For me i believe that's part of a relationship. We experienced that also and once in awhile we still experiencing that, since we are now together everyday sometimes we just sit together and have run out of words to say, we ended up stare and cuddle each other. Lol. Don't think that you bore her. There is no such space for boring in Love.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

There is no such space for boring in Love.

Amen to that.

[eros_EX_Plumber 0]

Same here..we all experience that at one time or another. After 2+ years, we have cut down instant messenger to 2 days a week.

Bboth of us look froward to that now. We surprise each other with SMS text messages and occasional phone calls, old fashions mail and cards.

Just to keep things interesting...(out of the blue) flowers and chocolates for no reason at all...when are least expected.

Keep it fun and interesting....

[tedjen 0]

That's pretty normal with couples talk everyday for long hours...

My husband and I do some other things online like playing online games like chess, checkers etc.... Actually, there are lots of things to do when you are online, not just talk and talk...

Sometimes, even my husband is at work, we open webcams but we do not talk. Working while seeing each other is enough for us. And if we need to talk, it's something about work. Then when he gets home, that's the time we talk about not work related...

And it works

[tedjen 0]

Same here..we all experience that at one time or another. After 2+ years, we have cut down instant messenger to 2 days a week.

Bboth of us look froward to that now. We surprise each other with SMS text messages and occasional phone calls, old fashions mail and cards.

Just to keep things interesting...(out of the blue) flowers and chocolates for no reason at all...when are least expected.

Keep it fun and interesting....

Yes, flowers for no reason do work a lot... My husband does this all the time!

Edited August 18, 2008 by tedjen

[jom 4]

During the time that Joe and I were apart we continued our routine daily. Chat two times a day while both were not working and call each other ofr our tuck in call before one of us slept. During the weekend we talked whole day. We didn't experience running out of topic to talk about and this is what attracted me to Joe at first instant because he could equal my interest in everything and we talk and talk and laugh. Now, we still are the same so even with 8hours straight drive is not a dull moment. I still find it strange that we don't run out of things to talk about.

I will update after a year

[RickieAndEva 0]

Dude, thats totally normal. There were some days Eva and I just stared at each other on the webcam while surfing the net. Try playing card games with each other on Yahoo multiplayer. Eva and I played gin. All will be solved once you guys are together.

[rosal548 0]

Okay so I tried the once or twice a week approach on Yahoo and whenever I log on it I see her online and I just cant help but BUZZ her, another thing is that for some reason I get Jealous when she is chatting with her friends instead of me.......................... What is happening to me, why am i like this.

[shes 0]

Okay so I tried the once or twice a week approach on Yahoo and whenever I log on it I see her online and I just cant help but BUZZ her, another thing is that for some reason I get Jealous when she is chatting with her friends instead of me.......................... What is happening to me, why am i like this.

ooppsss...to be honest, thats a thumbs down never ever be too needy..maybe u need to take a break, you know...find some other things that gives in to ur interests.. sports, going to the gym, hang out with some of ur friends.. i know how you feel cus iv experiences the same thing..but when i was starting to feel this "y he is spending more time with his friends than me?" feeling, i stopped, breathed in and out and told my self..."dont be needy" if you want to talk to her while shes talking to her friends online, tell her that you'll wait til she finish so both of u can talk alone

some tips: give your partner enough space to live her/his own personal life.

Edited August 19, 2008 by shes

[rosal548 0]

Okay so I tried the once or twice a week approach on Yahoo and whenever I log on it I see her online and I just cant help but BUZZ her, another thing is that for some reason I get Jealous when she is chatting with her friends instead of me.......................... What is happening to me, why am i like this.

ooppsss...to be honest, thats a thumbs down never ever be too needy..maybe u need to take a break, you know...find some other things that gives in to ur interests.. sports, going to the gym, hang out with some of ur friends.. i know how you feel cus iv experiences the same thing..but when i was starting to feel this "y he is spending more time with his friends than me?" feeling, i stopped, breathed in and out and told my self..."dont be needy" if you want to talk to her while shes talking to her friends online, tell her that you'll wait til she finish so both of u can talk alone

some tips: give your partner enough space to live her/his own personal life.

yeah I know what you are saying and i value your advice. This girl is just turning me into a nut, im so in love with her that my life turns upside down everytime I think of her.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Okay so I tried the once or twice a week approach on Yahoo and whenever I log on it I see her online and I just cant help but BUZZ her, another thing is that for some reason I get Jealous when she is chatting with her friends instead of me.......................... What is happening to me, why am i like this.

ooppsss...to be honest, thats a thumbs down never ever be too needy..maybe u need to take a break, you know...find some other things that gives in to ur interests.. sports, going to the gym, hang out with some of ur friends.. i know how you feel cus iv experiences the same thing..but when i was starting to feel this "y he is spending more time with his friends than me?" feeling, i stopped, breathed in and out and told my self..."dont be needy" if you want to talk to her while shes talking to her friends online, tell her that you'll wait til she finish so both of u can talk alone

some tips: give your partner enough space to live her/his own personal life.

yeah I know what you are saying and i value your advice. This girl is just turning me into a nut, im so in love with her that my life turns upside down everytime I think of her.

I totally understand the feeling, but I think there's a different between loving someone and 'wanting' someone. Like the wise saying, "if you love someone, set them free." If you let it consume you, it will in the end ruin the relationship. The long distance can really play a number on you, but like the other person said, you've got to have a life outside of the relationship, especially because of the distance...or you'll go nuts. Perhaps talk to a counselor?

Edited August 19, 2008 by Jabberwocky

[rosal548 0]

Okay so I tried the once or twice a week approach on Yahoo and whenever I log on it I see her online and I just cant help but BUZZ her, another thing is that for some reason I get Jealous when she is chatting with her friends instead of me.......................... What is happening to me, why am i like this.

ooppsss...to be honest, thats a thumbs down never ever be too needy..maybe u need to take a break, you know...find some other things that gives in to ur interests.. sports, going to the gym, hang out with some of ur friends.. i know how you feel cus iv experiences the same thing..but when i was starting to feel this "y he is spending more time with his friends than me?" feeling, i stopped, breathed in and out and told my self..."dont be needy" if you want to talk to her while shes talking to her friends online, tell her that you'll wait til she finish so both of u can talk alone

some tips: give your partner enough space to live her/his own personal life.

yeah I know what you are saying and i value your advice. This girl is just turning me into a nut, im so in love with her that my life turns upside down everytime I think of her.

I totally understand the feeling, but I think there's a different between loving someone and 'wanting' someone. Like the wise saying, "if you love someone, set them free." If you let it consume you, it will in the end ruin the relationship. The long distance can really play a number on you, but like the other person said, you've got to have a life outside of the relationship, especially because of the distance...or you'll go nuts. Perhaps talk to a counselor?

No need to talk to a counselor, you guys already have good counseling

[dbears 1]

Okay so I tried the once or twice a week approach on Yahoo and whenever I log on it I see her online and I just cant help but BUZZ her, another thing is that for some reason I get Jealous when she is chatting with her friends instead of me.......................... What is happening to me, why am i like this.

some tips: give your partner enough space to live her/his own personal life.

It is important for the both of you to grow together as INDIVIDUALS while growing ONE in love.

In the course of our 3 years LDR (long distance relationship), we've gone through the ups and downs. We've gone through chatting daily & calling each other daily for hours on end (and suffering HUGE phonebills) to just comfortably chatting and talking via yahoo or skype 3 to 4 times a week. We've gone through being possessive of each others' time to comfortably allowing each other to exist also for others: family, friends, for his/my own self.

Let me share a poem by Khalil Gibran, it is his thoughts about marriage but it could also apply to any stage of the relationship. It basically talks about what the other posters have been emphasizing, "give each other space to grow":

On Marriage

Kahlil Gibran

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.

You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.

Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness,

And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf

Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,

Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together yet not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart,

And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

[DARUMA07 25]

It's all about letting each other have their own space and their own identity... Plan a time of the day or night where it is your time(meaning both)... Make that time your special time... Right now you both are apart, but you can still have that special time for each other.. When you two are living together here, set aside a few hours a night just for the two of you..... Don't ever let it get to the point of smothering her... It will drive her away from you... Relax and let her be herself... Good Luck to you!!!