Is it getting old or what ?

[rosal548 0]

Is it just me or have all of you gone thru this phase.............

In the beginning of my relationship I would chat with my Finacee for hours on YAHOO and as of lately I have been running out of things to say and in fact I think i am boring her.

I am starting to miss the OLD SCHOOL way of no TEXT MESSAGING or YAHOO IM, just phone calls once a week and letters that way when we do chat there is alot to talk about.

so tell me all............ Is it just me or have any of you gone thru this phase ?

[noel_jas 0]

Is it just me or have all of you gone thru this phase.............

In the beginning of my relationship I would chat with my Finacee for hours on YAHOO and as of lately I have been running out of things to say and in fact I think i am boring her.

I am starting to miss the OLD SCHOOL way of no TEXT MESSAGING or YAHOO IM, just phone calls once a week and letters that way when we do chat there is alot to talk about.

so tell me all............ Is it just me or have any of you gone thru this phase ?

that's normal. me and my fiance have been in a relationship for 3 years and 7 mos now and we talk everyday [normally 5x a day (1-2 hours per conversation)]. we normally run out of topic so sometimes it's total silence or we just keep repeating 'i love u' to each other because we have nothing else to talk about. there are instances also when we have we have been talking for hours already then i started asking him stupid questions to make him mad just so we'll have something to talk about but now i stopped doing that because i realized that it's useless to argue over petty stuffs. we are already used to this set up that if we don't talk for a day we tend to miss each other so much. it sounds chessy but it's true. just try to find ways to keep the fire burning even if you are far away from each other.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

We went through that as well. I think every relationship goes through phases where the excitement you both might have felt just to hear the other person's voice or to receive an email, is no longer what it used to be. While it seemed like a good idea to have a routine of when we would talk by phone or chat online, it became difficult...for one because it was like looking at each other through a glass window and now matter how hard we tried, we couldn't get any closer. Try to break out of a routine. If you are doing all the initiating of contact, let her initiate contact some. Keep interests in your life outside of the relationship which will ironically keep your relationship more interesting. It's a real challenge to love someone and express that desire, but also step back and recognize that she isn't everything to you nor should she be. You've got to exist outside of the relationship or both of you will feel ultimately feel unhappy.

Edited August 18, 2008 by Jabberwocky

[ManilaIdaho 2]

I agree with what they have stated.It really happens.Me and my fiance's been together for 1 1/2 yrs,and since then,whenever he gets home from work,he'll get online and start our webcams,we will just turn off it off the following day before he go to work and during his 2 days off,the webcam's on for 72 hrs ,although we have our webcams on,we are still free to do whatever we want to do even if we will go out,we just leave it like that,it's just our way of reaching out to each other easily.whenever we were run out of topic,he or me will just say goodbye for a while,so we could rest i bet ours is like watching reality show

but then,being together in person is still the best than talking in between 2 monitors.

[N360 0]

Is it just me or have all of you gone thru this phase.............

In the beginning of my relationship I would chat with my Finacee for hours on YAHOO and as of lately I have been running out of things to say and in fact I think i am boring her.

I am starting to miss the OLD SCHOOL way of no TEXT MESSAGING or YAHOO IM, just phone calls once a week and letters that way when we do chat there is alot to talk about.

so tell me all............ Is it just me or have any of you gone thru this phase ?

Its not getting old. Its normal.

I remember when my wife was still in Philippines. We'd go on webcams every minute that we're both home. Most of the time we had nothing to say and we'll both do our own thing. I'd play guitar, play chess online, fold laundry, clean room, etc. And she'd do her own thing too. We didnt have to have something to talk about. Just the fact that we had this "portal" (webcam) between us was enough.

[rosal548 0]

Is it just me or have all of you gone thru this phase.............

In the beginning of my relationship I would chat with my Finacee for hours on YAHOO and as of lately I have been running out of things to say and in fact I think i am boring her.

I am starting to miss the OLD SCHOOL way of no TEXT MESSAGING or YAHOO IM, just phone calls once a week and letters that way when we do chat there is alot to talk about.

so tell me all............ Is it just me or have any of you gone thru this phase ?

that's normal. me and my fiance have been in a relationship for 3 years and 7 mos now and we talk everyday [normally 5x a day (1-2 hours per conversation)]. we normally run out of topic so sometimes it's total silence or we just keep repeating 'i love u' to each other because we have nothing else to talk about. there are instances also when we have we have been talking for hours already then i started asking him stupid questions to make him mad just so we'll have something to talk about but now i stopped doing that because i realized that it's useless to argue over petty stuffs. we are already used to this set up that if we don't talk for a day we tend to miss each other so much. it sounds chessy but it's true. just try to find ways to keep the fire burning even if you are far away from each other.

Good advice...........i'll take that thought.

Anyone one else with more suggestions.

[Dakine 26]

YeaH I miss the "old days" of LDR. We finally had to set up PCs in 2 different rooms with cams. Pilya! LOL

[Gemmie 142]

that's normal. me and my fiance have been in a relationship for 3 years and 7 mos now and we talk everyday [normally 5x a day (1-2 hours per conversation)]. we normally run out of topic so sometimes it's total silence or we just keep repeating 'i love u' to each other because we have nothing else to talk about. there are instances also when we have we have been talking for hours already then i started asking him stupid questions to make him mad just so we'll have something to talk about but now i stopped doing that because i realized that it's useless to argue over petty stuffs. we are already used to this set up that if we don't talk for a day we tend to miss each other so much. it sounds chessy but it's true. just try to find ways to keep the fire burning even if you are far away from each other.

I can relate to that... we find we have more silly fights when we've been talking for hours and hours... and sometimes we'll actually fight about having nothing to talk about! Because I get frustrated with not being able to have that comfortable silence with him and a hug... and he'll get frustrated that I'm trying to force normal conversation when we've already been talking for hours. It's very normal, and I think it's best to simply go and do something by yourself when you feel yourself get like that. Go read a book or see a friend.

[DARUMA07 25]

That is normal... We went through the same thing! Day in and day out chatting 2 to 4 hours a day, you have a tendency to run out of things to say... It picked up again around the time of the interview to go over all of our Documents.. Nothing wrong with this as long as you both understand what's going on..... Good Luck to you!

[Andy-n-Maricar 6]

We have been going through the same thing. Its good to know that this is normal.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I agree with what they have stated.It really happens.Me and my fiance's been together for 1 1/2 yrs,and since then,whenever he gets home from work,he'll get online and start our webcams,we will just turn off it off the following day before he go to work and during his 2 days off,the webcam's on for 72 hrs ,although we have our webcams on,we are still free to do whatever we want to do even if we will go out,we just leave it like that,it's just our way of reaching out to each other easily.whenever we were run out of topic,he or me will just say goodbye for a while,so we could rest i bet ours is like watching reality show

but then,being together in person is still the best than talking in between 2 monitors.

That's actually a really cool idea.

[envy_me 18]

been there.. that's normal..

i even remember watching him fall asleep, cos we ran out of topic..

so we just stare at each other while lyin down..

Edited August 18, 2008 by envy_me

[filirican 3]

we had these things too! hahahhaha! its normal..fighting over nothing coz u ahve nothing to talk about! lol! but in the end when ur together after the agonizing visa journey..it'll all be worth it!! good luck!

[shes 0]

what you are experiencing is quite the usual experience of both the girl and guy in their relationship. its normal, its expected, it happens to anyone. now, its up to you and ur fiance(e) if how wud that affect ur relationship. to some, its a threat like they worry why things are starting to change BUT for others (including me), it is not a negative sign..people change, feelings change but i believe that no matter what, if you truly love that person, no boringness can uproot the stability of your relationship.

my fiance and i have gone through that and boldly we tell each other that yes, we dont know anymore what to say...then go talk...and talk somemore...question may rise...talk again...more i love yous...and so on and so forth...

dont expect what the 2 of you may talk about in a day..just go with the flow.

ive loved and will always love my man no matter what, i may offend him, he may offend me but i know i will always love him and he will always love me. ive made a firm choice and thats to love him for the rest of my life (no buts and ifs)

[gabriela 0]

just like everybody else, i agree it's normal. and a lot gave great suggestions. one more suggestion... if you miss the old school way, why not surprise her with a love letter via snail mail. we do that at times... and it's just A LOT sweeter than email