Want out of marriage

[diadromous mermaid 36]

If the AOS submission has not yet been approved, the OP can contact USCIS in writing and inform them that the marriage is terminating. Chances are, if she does that, the pending application will be denied, since the marriage must be sustaining in order for the alien to be conferred benefits.

[Dakine 26]

No, really it's not revenge, it's self protection. It took everything I had, every penny I had to pay for the immigration, the plane tickets, AOS and supporting him for these 9 months. I have nothing left and live pay check to pay check now. My biggest scare is if I am financially responsible for him for the next ten years. I cannot do that. At this moment I am looking at having to file bankruptcy to recover my losses.

If he could have the green card, which he obviously married me for, I don't care. I didn't marry him for those reasons, so I don't have any guilty feelings.

Damned if you do! Damned if you don't!

If you divorce him he can file to remove conditions as soon as the divorce is final. Alls he has to prove is he entered the marriage with "good faith".

Unless you can prove different he will get his 10 year GC.

Divorce and removing conditions doesn't rid you of your financial obligations.

[sara535 15]

I think having evidence in writing that very soon after his arrival here he was pursuing other women and denying he was married would cast some doubt on the marriage being entered 'in good faith'. That is, if the USCIS has knowledge and possession of the evidence. Just my opinion.....

by the way, Tammy, I am really sorry to learn of this. I remember your first post about it - you gave him a second chance and he blew it. I hope you are ok....

Edited August 17, 2008 by sara535

[Donna A 4]

can u make an info pass appointment and try to talk to the officer who interviewed u for the aos and show him/her the proof so he can deny it before its approved? i would give it a try.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

I think having evidence in writing that very soon after his arrival here he was pursuing other women and denying he was married would cast some doubt on the marriage being entered 'in good faith'. That is, if the USCIS has knowledge and possession of the evidence. Just my opinion.....

by the way, Tammy, I am really sorry to learn of this. I remember your first post about it - you gave him a second chance and he blew it. I hope you are ok....

Depending upon where Tammy is in the process, perhaps. The question here is, is Tammy's husband simply a philanderer and an infidel, or did he manipulate her and the government to get residency in the USA? Good faith, in the immigration context, would require that Tammy's husband intended to remain married to her, and that he did not marry solely to gain access to residency. So far, from what has been shared, there's no indication that her husband intends to end the marriage, nor that he married her solely for PR.

[aya*abouelnasr 0]

Maybe not, but I do have proof that he has joined several groups online looking for women to marry. Arab dating sites, etc. If he was entering into this marriage faithfully, why would he need to do this? Also, I have proof that he was chatting with other women and receiving naked pics from them after our marriage.

Also, he had the interview for the AOS, but so far no green card has been issued.

If he can get the green card without me, so be it, I don't care. But as far as I am concerned, he has repeatedly denied being married, therefore, he married me for the green card only.

Before the AOS interview, all I had knowledge of was him watching porn online and occasionally looking at womens yahoo profiles. It was AFTER the AOS interview that I found the cyber sex and naked chats. In the naked chat, he even told the woman, who knew he was married( I e mailed her to inform her), not to worry about me, he could handle me. What that meant, I am not sure.

[~Jackie~ 30]

I am so sorry Tammy

Jackie

pm me if you want to chat

[boo boo 1]

Tammy

I am sorry that you are going thru this, I wish you the best and will keep you in my thoughts and in my prayers.

[chuckb 0]

Wow! Grabbed the wrong quote! Too late now.

Pushbrk is correct. Not that he needs my confirmation!

Once the Removal of Conditional Status is complete (Approved) after two years, there is nothing (Immigration law wise) you can do. The Immigration Officer warned me about this believe, it or not.

If You did not complete "Removing Conditional Status" (I-751) you are OK. You didn't update your Conditional Status timeline in VJ, maybe?

I'm not supporting this, but it is the law. I thought the Conditional Status stuff sucked, but maybe there is a reason for it...

Good Luck.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

If his AOS has not been approved yet, you can 'pull' your Affidavit of Support - contact USCIS right away and say you are withdrawing your Affidavit. I gather that is your main concern - having to be financially beholden for him after you are divorced. If he has not yet received an AOS approval, then pulling the affidavit means that it can't be approved. Once the AOS is approved everything will be out of your hands. Good luck. You may wish to do this with an InfoPass appointment bringing the evidence with you of why you no longer support his AOS application. Then get to work on the divorce.

Edited August 17, 2008 by Kathryn41

[JULIAFERNO 0]

I am angry for you!

Excuse my French, but what a P.O.S!

My heart goes out to you, Tammy. I hope that justice works in your favor.

[chuckb 0]

If his AOS has not been approved yet, you can 'pull' your Affidavit of Support - contact USCIS right away and say you are withdrawing your Affidavit. I gather that is your main concern - having to be financially beholden for him after you are divorced. If he has not yet received an AOS approval, then pulling the affidavit means that it can't be approved. Once the AOS is approved everything will be out of your hands. Good luck. You may wish to do this with an InfoPass appointment bringing the evidence with you of why you no longer support his AOS application. Then get to work on the divorce.

The games that people play!

You are right. Gotta do what you do.

Maybe there is a reason behnd the laws. I was hoping there wasn't.

[maggieNomar 0]

I hope you are able to pull the affidavit if not the entire case, based on what you have said here and on another forum. It appears to me that if he started doing these things right after he got here that he did not enter the marriage in good faith. Otherwise why is he searching for other women and denying he is married? yeah sounds like a solid spouse to me.

[merijan 0]

Why is it that when a relationship involving a visa doesn't work out, the USC seems to ALWAYS want to yank the Green Card away from the other person?

Don't get me wrong.... he's obviously a chopf##k and you should probably teach him a lesson with some common household items - like a dull knife, vinegar, drain cleaner, and jumper cables - but why does everyone want to take the green card away? Is it revenge?

Well because that is a much nicer way of putting him in his place than many things I would think of doing..... hes a low life good for nothing ############......

[S and S 12]

I'm sorry you are going through this. It sounds like pulling the Affadavit of support is the way to go if you still have the chance.