CALLING ALL GOING THOUGH ISLAMABAD PAKISTAN- OFF TOPIC

[babybunny 2]

yuck - that's what I was afraid of

dont cry. check often to see if the finger prints have cleared.

aslo call DOS ask them too.

its now day 69

on this ONE SECURITY CHECK.....grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[babybunny 2]

well here goes..

Dad revealed he has cancer. Mom does not know. infact I am the only sibling that knows.

none of the other family members know. my dad was talking kind of weird for the last few weeks about

not beating my brothers azz should he act a FOOL. I had to Promise I would not give him the shonnie beat down because, my brother has a problem with acting THE FOOL. so I made my promise. Then dad told me.

he said he did not want me to be upset. I asked him has he been getting treatment he said NO. now I am like #######! so now I am like this is insane. so now I have to go to californa to drag my dad to get some treatment. Thats what is on shonnies mine right now. please pray for my dad. He done some crazy shi t

in his life time but, regardless I love him with all my heart. now how to I tell mom and the other siblings..

[Omid 0]

Shon, <<<<<HUGS>>>>>>>> I'm so sorry ... that's a whole lot to deal with ... insha'Allah you will have the strength to do what you need to do and help your dad and the rest of your family - hopefully he will listen to you and get the treatment he needs.

[babybunny 2]

Shon, <<<<<HUGS>>>>>>>> I'm so sorry ... that's a whole lot to deal with ... insha'Allah you will have the strength to do what you need to do and help your dad and the rest of your family - hopefully he will listen to you and get the treatment he needs.

Thank you Omid.. your so sweet...

[LaL 418]

i am sorry to hear this Shon. What a burden to carry (the secret) and the sadness that there will be no fight. your in my thoughts.

[dlg 0]

Shon I'm so sorry to hear your news. My mother is a breast cancer survivor, so I empathize with your feelings of frustration, fear and anger right now. My thoughts are with you and your father and family. I hope your father can make good decisions about his health, his family and his future with you. If I were you, I'd make sure he knows that this is an unfair burden for him to ask you to bear without the support of your family. He should share with them all and not ask you to keep a secret of this magnitude. You can let him know you understand his fear, but love him anyway.

sigh. I am sorry Shon.

I'm just back from a guiding trip (river canoeing), and learned that the search for my friends missing on a peak in AK has been abandoned. Ouch. I really hoped to come back to different news. It's hard to let go of the hope they'll turn up o.k., but it's highly unlikely now. They have been missing for over 12 days, with winds raging and snow falling the last 5 days - and probably no food or water.

Life is so precious and can be unexpectidly short and unpredictable. Makes me all the more resolved to live it fully and with great enthusiasm.

Hope there is some good news out there this week for some of us!!!

chins up! (more a reminder for me than anything...)

ta ta,

-d

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

well here goes..

Dad revealed he has cancer. Mom does not know. infact I am the only sibling that knows.

none of the other family members know. my dad was talking kind of weird for the last few weeks about

not beating my brothers azz should he act a FOOL. I had to Promise I would not give him the shonnie beat down because, my brother has a problem with acting THE FOOL. so I made my promise. Then dad told me.

he said he did not want me to be upset. I asked him has he been getting treatment he said NO. now I am like #######! so now I am like this is insane. so now I have to go to californa to drag my dad to get some treatment. Thats what is on shonnies mine right now. please pray for my dad. He done some crazy shi t

in his life time but, regardless I love him with all my heart. now how to I tell mom and the other siblings..

Wow, sorry to hear it shon

[babybunny 2]

Here is an update. so far its good news with my dad!

I talked to my oldest sister. I told her- we talked about how to handle this stuff.

we decided to talk to dad and make him call mom. I made him promise he will tell her.

he said he will call her today. I had to address his concerns. which I did. one of the concerns I told

you was my brother. ultimately, he wants to make sure my brother is not out on the streets.

my twin brother does drugs and he basicly is a BUM. my dad is worried that in the event of his death

my brother will be out on the streets. sad but, possible. I wont have him here ohhh no. thats another story.

I talked to dad about his wishes. there really is no way this can be fixed. other than letting my brother do what he thinks he gotta do.

the other concern my dad had was- he is scared. The whole treatment thing ect. I told him talk to mom and I will bring her to him. this is an easy task because, I will go to mom and bring her to him. then off to the hospital we will go.

on a lighter note : I told dad talk to mom or " I will beat you " my dad started laughing so hard. he agreed he will talk to her. at least i got him to laugh!

[saeedeh 0]

Here is an update. so far its good news with my dad!

I talked to my oldest sister. I told her- we talked about how to handle this stuff.

we decided to talk to dad and make him call mom. I made him promise he will tell her.

he said he will call her today. I had to address his concerns. which I did. one of the concerns I told

you was my brother. ultimately, he wants to make sure my brother is not out on the streets.

my twin brother does drugs and he basicly is a BUM. my dad is worried that in the event of his death

my brother will be out on the streets. sad but, possible. I wont have him here ohhh no. thats another story.

I talked to dad about his wishes. there really is no way this can be fixed. other than letting my brother do what he thinks he gotta do.

the other concern my dad had was- he is scared. The whole treatment thing ect. I told him talk to mom and I will bring her to him. this is an easy task because, I will go to mom and bring her to him. then off to the hospital we will go.

on a lighter note : I told dad talk to mom or " I will beat you " my dad started laughing so hard. he agreed he will talk to her. at least i got him to laugh!

Hey Shon

Wishing the best for you and praying that things turn out for the better for you and your family, Insha Allah

[babybunny 2]

Thank you saeedeh,

I think all will work out once my dad talk to mom.

I dont know why my family is so stubborn..

suddenly! I got this great idea. I am gonna get my dad a calling card. so he can talk

to mom on my " dime" why hell I not think of this sooner..

[dude4084 0]

Respected Shon,

May Allah give you courage to pass this exams too.Amen.

-Dude

[saeedeh 0]

Hey everyone

Has anyone ever contacted a lawyer-can they ever do anything to speed things up?

lol-talk about being desperate!

thanks in advance:)

[babybunny 2]

Thank you all.

I have talked to my congressman to try to see if something can be expedited some how.

I know security check blah blah blah- so they tell me. but, she said she will inform the Embassy

the new information on whats happening with our case. She expects a response by thursday.

in the mean time sending her information as much as possible about my fathers situation.

my father will also write a letter.

The attorney can not really do more than what you are able to do. they pretty much can write

letters on fancy letter head. but, your congressman and sentator are the ones that can intervine. they dont have the powers to speed the security check .but, they can say check the security checks make sure its moving along and not stalled in the system as I suspect ours is.

[saeedeh 0]

Thank you all.

I have talked to my congressman to try to see if something can be expedited some how.

I know security check blah blah blah- so they tell me. but, she said she will inform the Embassy

the new information on whats happening with our case. She expects a response by thursday.

in the mean time sending her information as much as possible about my fathers situation.

my father will also write a letter.

The attorney can not really do more than what you are able to do. they pretty much can write

letters on fancy letter head. but, your congressman and sentator are the ones that can intervine. they dont have the powers to speed the security check .but, they can say check the security checks make sure its moving along and not stalled in the system as I suspect ours is.

Thanks a million Shon

Hope things work out for you!

Do you or anyone know that if I went back and stayed there-would that become an issue in the process?

[babybunny 2]

if you stayed in PK for about 9 months or more you would have to prove domicile.

that means you have to prove you maintain household in USA. What I have seen couples do

is move to PK but, keep apartment here in the USA and pay on the rent etc.. this is fine you can stay for

as long as you like. you would just have to get a CO sponser - since if you are gone that long

you wont have a job.

Edited June 13, 2006 by shonjaved