Is my husband taking advantage of me?

[almaty 19]

wow, the husband and wife need to set down and have a serious talk...regarding allot of issues...

[Not Available 0]

Not jumping to conclusions or pointing the finger or anything..... could he may have done something he's trying to "hide" from you? Maybe something illegal with his business? Not trying to have you worry or anything, but it could be something you can ask him.

[Mononoke28 135]

1. You need to talk to your husband and let him know everything that is bothering you. Your mother in-law should not be included in any of the accounts and should not be responsible for your bills. Period. You're a married a couple now and need to take care of that stuff on your own.

2. Ask for a salary and noooooooooooooo, $5/day is not enough!!! You need to get paid a lot more than that.

3. If he doesn't like your suggestions, then it's time to get a job of your own and try to find some kind of independence in this country because without it, you'll be miserable for the rest of your life.

Diana

[Ban Hammer 13,278]

Not jumping to conclusions or pointing the finger or anything..... could he may have done something he's trying to "hide" from you? Maybe something illegal with his business? Not trying to have you worry or anything, but it could be something you can ask him.

that's what i'm wondering too.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

1. You need to talk to your husband and let him know everything that is bothering you. Your mother in-law should not be included in any of the accounts and should not be responsible for your bills. Period. You're a married a couple now and need to take care of that stuff on your own.

2. Ask for a salary and noooooooooooooo, $5/day is not enough!!! You need to get paid a lot more than that.

3. If he doesn't like your suggestions, then it's time to get a job of your own and try to find some kind of independence in this country because without it, you'll be miserable for the rest of your life.

Diana

...and a stake in the company, although realistically, I don't think the family is going to let that happen....better for her own sake to work elsewhere. I'd go insane under such conditions.

[PlatyPius 5]

1. Dude is a pu$$y-whipped Momma's Boy.

2. You CANNOT cure a Momma's Boy. - Mommy will always be right, and you will always be wrong.

3. If you DO co-mingle your finances, you'll be screwed cuz it sounds like Mommy has screwed everything all up. Your credit rating will be affected too.

4. If you DON'T get your name on things, you won't have a prayer of being considered a partner in a valid marriage, and you might be asked to leave the country.

5. I'd make plans for getting a real job, getting an apartment, and letting hubby stay where he is; shagging his mommy.

Seriously - Dude is a worthless, spineless, useless TOOL if everything is like you say it is. GET OUT NOW or you will always be second-best to Mommy.

[almaty 19]

whoa....brother platy...

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Without jumping to rash conclusions, could it possibly be that your husband has significant debt, and MIL is managing the finances to dig him out?

[Peikko 1,575]

Anything is possible because the OP is out of the financial loop. As she is the wife, that's not right but handling it from this point forward could be very tricky depending on what the problems are and what possibilities exist to resolve those problems. The wrong advice at the wrong time could bring about all kinds of nasty conclusions that would be best avoided.

[Yiyi and Chris 0]

TALK TO HIM....

You married him, not his mom!!! Remember that! You are married! Don't be affraid of talking to your husband (your soulmate?) communication and trust are the foundations for a successfull relationship

Get a job, you are in USA, you have your papers in order, you can definetly get a job and feel independent and be independent... to be a lil evil you can "hide" you paycheck or something like that and make him feel how bad you feel about he hidding stuff ( I'm kidding, that's childish).

Like I said you have to talk to him and let him know all that you have done for him (you left everything for him), let him know that you don't feel confortable with the situation.

Yes, he is taking advantage of you... Not paying you, not giving you money...

50% of everything he has is yours!!!

Start doing grcery shopping yourself... It's your house, your home not your MONSTER'S IN-LAW

[diadromous mermaid 36]

50% of everything he has is yours!!!

including his debts, remember........

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

lolololol

[Yiyi and Chris 0]

Yup... That's right!!!!

OH OHH... I owe a lot of money too then... lol

[IAMX 3,055]

1. Dude is a pu$$y-whipped Momma's Boy.

2. You CANNOT cure a Momma's Boy. - Mommy will always be right, and you will always be wrong.

3. If you DO co-mingle your finances, you'll be screwed cuz it sounds like Mommy has screwed everything all up. Your credit rating will be affected too.

4. If you DON'T get your name on things, you won't have a prayer of being considered a partner in a valid marriage, and you might be asked to leave the country.

5. I'd make plans for getting a real job, getting an apartment, and letting hubby stay where he is; shagging his mommy.

Seriously - Dude is a worthless, spineless, useless TOOL if everything is like you say it is. GET OUT NOW or you will always be second-best to Mommy.

You, sir, clearly prefer the subtle approach.

Kick in the ### method works too.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

50% of everything he has is yours!!!

including his debts, remember........

It depends on which state they reside in and where they were married.

In Texas and Idaho the couple does not split the debt that they came into the marriage with and there is no alimony like in California.

I am unsure of the marriage laws in Chicago where her profile says she lives.

Mona Lisa $5 and hour is not even the federal minimum wage. It is ridiculous that you work for your Husband and his Mother in Laws company without a wage especially working weekends and holidays. They are both taking extreme advantage of your kindness and naiveness. There are laws to protect you. You may be eligible for back wages. At the minimum they should pay you $7-$10 an hour and time and half for Holidays and overtime if you worked more than a 40+ week, which sounds like you may have if you're working weekends too.

Document all your time worked if you can remember that far back.

Then go get your drivers license and or learn the bus route and start shopping for a new job. Since you're going to need a reference for when you start applying for other work keep on good terms.

I agree it's time to empower yourself and establishing your life in the US even if that means finding work outside your Husband's company and family.

Find out the laws in your state about how your Husband's bills affect you accordingly and then make your choices of if you want to be added to them or not.