do women get ridiculed?

[Chica Yeyé 41]

I, like Emancipation; was sitting in a Mexican cornfield, barefoot and illiterate, and I prayed to the Virgen de Guadalupe to please send me a gringo to take me out of that place where me and my 19 brothers and sisters ate beans and tortillas when it was a good day. I then moved to Acapulco and worked as a hooker and a drug mule, and then I met my husband--- the Virgin had heard my pleas!!!! Now of course I want to bring all my family here to eat and live properly.

Sheesh... this thread is as moronic as they come. Again, assumptions about "American women" and "Foreign women". Get a life.

[Marilyn. 340]

I didn't seek anyone out anywhere. Nor did my husband. I happened to be on vacation. He happened to be working. We chatted a bit. A few months later when I saw him again, we talked some more, exchanged numbers, and the rest is history.

People who ridicule are either just relying on the negative information that swirls around the topic or are outright jealous of our good fortune. Why anyone would ridicule someone who is happy and really none of their business is beyond me.

I, like Emancipation; was sitting in a Mexican cornfield, barefoot and illiterate, and I prayed to the Virgen de Guadalupe to please send me a gringo to take me out of that place where me and my 19 brothers and sisters ate beans and tortillas when it was a good day. I then moved to Acapulco and worked as a hooker and a drug mule, and then I met my husband--- the Virgin had heard my pleas!!!! Now of course I want to bring all my family here to eat and live properly.

Sheesh... this thread is as moronic as they come. Again, assumptions about "American women" and "Foreign women". Get a life.

to be fair.. I don't think anyone was assuming anything.... the OP was just asking a question

[almaty 19]

this thread has allot of promise too turn into ,,typical vj flaming thread

[*JG* 2]

this thread has allot of promise too turn into ,,typical vj flaming thread

It does. But, then again, maybe it has some potential to dispell some of the myths that surround this topic. Personally I get tired of hearing that negative stuff people say about American women in a relationship with a foreign man.

Like the person who said they were sitting in the field praying, I sometimes want to say something just as witty and stupid as that about what I was doing when I went SEARCHING for a foreign man. Of course if you list all the negatives like the whole LDR and what that encompasses as far as logistics, bills, communication issues, the horrors of paperwork, etc., people just get all glassy eyed. I guess it is easier to believe we were drunk or high and the scenery and serenity of the surroundings hypnotized us. Or we do all this for the sex.

Someone come up with something really clever I can say as to why for me and send it to me. I'll give you some details if need be to help you along. I really want to say something scathingly sarcastic along the lines of that field comment.

[almaty 19]

I, like Emancipation; was sitting in a Mexican cornfield, barefoot and illiterate, and I prayed to the Virgen de Guadalupe to please send me a gringo to take me out of that place where me and my 19 brothers and sisters ate beans and tortillas when it was a good day. I then moved to Acapulco and worked as a hooker and a drug mule, and then I met my husband--- the Virgin had heard my pleas!!!! Now of course I want to bring all my family here to eat and live properly.

Sheesh... this thread is as moronic as they come. Again, assumptions about "American women" and "Foreign women". Get a life.

lol....thank God, your prayers were answered....

[Ban Hammer 13,110]

this thread has allot of promise too turn into ,,typical vj flaming thread

i wonder how many with canadian spouses had difficulty explaining that igloos are rare in the usa

[morocco4ever 63]

I, like Emancipation; was sitting in a Mexican cornfield, barefoot and illiterate, and I prayed to the Virgen de Guadalupe to please send me a gringo to take me out of that place where me and my 19 brothers and sisters ate beans and tortillas when it was a good day. I then moved to Acapulco and worked as a hooker and a drug mule, and then I met my husband--- the Virgin had heard my pleas!!!! Now of course I want to bring all my family here to eat and live properly.

Sheesh... this thread is as moronic as they come. Again, assumptions about "American women" and "Foreign women". Get a life.

Do people really get ridiculed? Do men really go to a specific region to find a wife? If so, why? Oh wait....I forgot about the "American woman" debate. Now I am so depressed that I think I should run to the nearest bar and down those 10 beers, all while farting, belching, and chewing tabacco. Ya think you American men would adore us consider how multi task we can be.

[chri'stina 190]

In the Indian community it seems normal, and almost expected for those who are traditional, to find yourself an Indian wife and if it means finding one in India, that's how it happens. If you marry a non-Indian American, you must be a rebel!

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

In the Indian community it seems normal, and almost expected for those who are traditional, to find yourself an Indian wife and if it means finding one in India, that's how it happens. If you marry a non-Indian American, you must be a rebel!

Yeah the idea is to keep those ties with India alive... I was asked to do it too, but I didn't want to, I ended up meeting someone from India (who was in Canada at the time) anyway so it worked out for everyone.. lol... Indian girls in this country are expected to do the same but they are generally much less willing... since Indian men here and Indian men in India can be very different, and the girls tend to be more apprehensive about the differences.

[chri'stina 190]

In the Indian community it seems normal, and almost expected for those who are traditional, to find yourself an Indian wife and if it means finding one in India, that's how it happens. If you marry a non-Indian American, you must be a rebel!

Yeah the idea is to keep those ties with India alive... I was asked to do it too, but I didn't want to, I ended up meeting someone from India (who was in Canada at the time) anyway so it worked out for everyone.. lol... Indian girls in this country are expected to do the same but they are generally much less willing... since Indian men here and Indian men in India can be very different, and the girls tend to be more apprehensive about the differences.

Yeah I was thinking about that. I love when I met an aunt of Sujeet's here in the US she talked how her sons ended up with non-Indian girls even though she wished they found someone from India...she says this to Sujeet and me, a non-Indian!!

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

In the Indian community it seems normal, and almost expected for those who are traditional, to find yourself an Indian wife and if it means finding one in India, that's how it happens. If you marry a non-Indian American, you must be a rebel!

Yeah the idea is to keep those ties with India alive... I was asked to do it too, but I didn't want to, I ended up meeting someone from India (who was in Canada at the time) anyway so it worked out for everyone.. lol... Indian girls in this country are expected to do the same but they are generally much less willing... since Indian men here and Indian men in India can be very different, and the girls tend to be more apprehensive about the differences.

Yeah I was thinking about that. I love when I met an aunt of Sujeet's here in the US she talked how her sons ended up with non-Indian girls even though she wished they found someone from India...she says this to Sujeet and me, a non-Indian!!

Dont expect cultural sensitivity from desis. We don't get it.

[chri'stina 190]

In the Indian community it seems normal, and almost expected for those who are traditional, to find yourself an Indian wife and if it means finding one in India, that's how it happens. If you marry a non-Indian American, you must be a rebel!

Yeah the idea is to keep those ties with India alive... I was asked to do it too, but I didn't want to, I ended up meeting someone from India (who was in Canada at the time) anyway so it worked out for everyone.. lol... Indian girls in this country are expected to do the same but they are generally much less willing... since Indian men here and Indian men in India can be very different, and the girls tend to be more apprehensive about the differences.

Yeah I was thinking about that. I love when I met an aunt of Sujeet's here in the US she talked how her sons ended up with non-Indian girls even though she wished they found someone from India...she says this to Sujeet and me, a non-Indian!!

Dont expect cultural sensitivity from desis. We don't get it.

You all are rude. Even Sujeet, an Indian, thinks so.

I know I am generalizing, and not all are rude. Just most. j/k (or not?) haha

She did welcome me into the family at least. I am sure she was thinking something else.

Edited August 7, 2008 by Parivar CSK

[Chica Yeyé 41]

In the Indian community it seems normal, and almost expected for those who are traditional, to find yourself an Indian wife and if it means finding one in India, that's how it happens. If you marry a non-Indian American, you must be a rebel!

Yeah the idea is to keep those ties with India alive... I was asked to do it too, but I didn't want to, I ended up meeting someone from India (who was in Canada at the time) anyway so it worked out for everyone.. lol... Indian girls in this country are expected to do the same but they are generally much less willing... since Indian men here and Indian men in India can be very different, and the girls tend to be more apprehensive about the differences.

Yeah I was thinking about that. I love when I met an aunt of Sujeet's here in the US she talked how her sons ended up with non-Indian girls even though she wished they found someone from India...she says this to Sujeet and me, a non-Indian!!

Dont expect cultural sensitivity from desis. We don't get it.

What is a "desis"? Or who?

[Ban Hammer 13,110]

In the Indian community it seems normal, and almost expected for those who are traditional, to find yourself an Indian wife and if it means finding one in India, that's how it happens. If you marry a non-Indian American, you must be a rebel!

Yeah the idea is to keep those ties with India alive... I was asked to do it too, but I didn't want to, I ended up meeting someone from India (who was in Canada at the time) anyway so it worked out for everyone.. lol... Indian girls in this country are expected to do the same but they are generally much less willing... since Indian men here and Indian men in India can be very different, and the girls tend to be more apprehensive about the differences.

Yeah I was thinking about that. I love when I met an aunt of Sujeet's here in the US she talked how her sons ended up with non-Indian girls even though she wished they found someone from India...she says this to Sujeet and me, a non-Indian!!

Dont expect cultural sensitivity from desis. We don't get it.

What is a "desis"? Or who?

i think it's short for "desist"

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

desis is plural for desi.

a desi is someone from the south asian subcontinent. usually people from india but i've heard some pakistanis and bangladeshis use the word as well.

in the sanskrit-derivative languages of the subcontinent, 'desh' means 'country' and 'desi' is someone from 'desh'.