August 2008 Filers

[HappyDancer 7]

Morning/Evening everyone! I am getting ready for church!

[Fred N Emilia 0]

Church on Saturday?

Guys and Gals, no more fighting with the SO's. Both needs to be understanding and know that we are close to our goal, i know its hard to do that but we gotz to be strong...

[maliciant 7]

Is the reason for the fighting possibly a case of you don't have anything else to talk about so nitpicking something minor makes for a fight (which of course then the fight itself becomes something to talk about)? To me, there just doesn't seem to be a lot of things you can fight about in a long distance relationship where everything worth while is out of your control (no one can make the NOA2 move faster for example). I can understand Gemmie having a bit of a fight about the graduation thing, but in general, I just can't think of a good reason to fight, what am I missing here, am I just doing it wrong?!?

The usual fight starters I'd think would involve a difference of opinion on how to raise children (which seems less likely since I don't think many have shared biological children at this point... and not living together so at this point it'd seem a little too controlling to want to take too much responsibility in that regard anyway).

Not living together yet, which rules out about a billion things to fight over, including money (and of course at this point raising children, biologically yours or not becomes real and not just theory, everyone is affected by the decisions made).

The only thing I can think of left is behaviors that are a huge issue for one or the other, ie alcoholism or gambling or some other addiction that'll obviously be a problem in the future anyway.

Anyway, in the end I'm not really much for arguing, and definitely not the kicking screaming throwing skillets flavor, of course if no one is kicking screaming or throwing skillets, it doesn't really seem like it's an arguement to me even if both sides keep trying to prove their point to the other person (and I can be guilty of this... but generally if I'm that adamant about something it's important and I'm right haha...).

[CandyLovesAhmed 0]

i just wanted to say hey and see how all the august filers are feeling. so far i havent heard anything since the first noa which is a relief because i was praying i did everything right. im thinking the noa2 will be in december so i feel like im watching grass grow

[Bulgarican 0]

YOUPIEEEEEEEEEEEE IGORS LIST IS BETTER NOW WE ARE 146 PLACE

[Hell0W0rld 10]

yay 131

[HelloMiffy 1]

Hi, Everyone!

I'm a newbie here. I'm an August filer, too. I'm waiting for the approval patiently in Japan. Haven't heard a thing from USCIS since NOA1 yet. Hoping that we can get married by April 09. Good-luck to you all!

[Chris & Mara 0]

Welcome Hellomiffy

December should be our month

Just checked Igor's 199 very very exciting!

[luvhasnoborders 0]

Good Morning All,

What a surprise to wake up this morning and see Igor's List had moved tremendously!!!! We are now 147!!!!!!

Edited November 15, 2008 by luvhasnoborders

[maliciant 7]

Igor's is now on a 6 month time frame, just like I thought it'd be (though I'm surprised it went all yesterday jacked up). 157 here, and while it's nice to see such a low number, I had kind of hoped to see where things sat using the 2-1 date since that has been our 'stable' benchmark all along, even if it was anoying to have a lot of extras, we also knew at about 100 a NOA2 was very likely to happen... hitting 100 isn't quite as likely to mean a NOA2 now and we get to learn the new likely to hit a NOA2 point.

VSC is not showing hardly any NOA2's again this week, I'm sure that through next week they'll pop up and at least get up to a 'bad rate of approvals' like last week but wow, I recommend VSC filers not even look at igor's approvals until they improve, it'd just too depressing (CSC on the other hand... is kickin ###).

Edited November 15, 2008 by maliciant

[Gemmie 142]

Is the reason for the fighting possibly a case of you don't have anything else to talk about so nitpicking something minor makes for a fight (which of course then the fight itself becomes something to talk about)? To me, there just doesn't seem to be a lot of things you can fight about in a long distance relationship where everything worth while is out of your control (no one can make the NOA2 move faster for example). I can understand Gemmie having a bit of a fight about the graduation thing, but in general, I just can't think of a good reason to fight, what am I missing here, am I just doing it wrong?!?

The usual fight starters I'd think would involve a difference of opinion on how to raise children (which seems less likely since I don't think many have shared biological children at this point... and not living together so at this point it'd seem a little too controlling to want to take too much responsibility in that regard anyway).

Not living together yet, which rules out about a billion things to fight over, including money (and of course at this point raising children, biologically yours or not becomes real and not just theory, everyone is affected by the decisions made).

The only thing I can think of left is behaviors that are a huge issue for one or the other, ie alcoholism or gambling or some other addiction that'll obviously be a problem in the future anyway.

Anyway, in the end I'm not really much for arguing, and definitely not the kicking screaming throwing skillets flavor, of course if no one is kicking screaming or throwing skillets, it doesn't really seem like it's an arguement to me even if both sides keep trying to prove their point to the other person (and I can be guilty of this... but generally if I'm that adamant about something it's important and I'm right haha...).

We've been speaking everyday for almost 6 years... you're going to have a few fights there.

Well I'm not going to go into detail about what we fight about but some actually are important issues about the future. It might not be about the house we're currently living in together or about the children we're now raising, but there are still other things to consider when entering a marriage. Sometimes he pisses me off for procrastinating on that job-hunt he's supposed to be getting done, and sometimes I piss him off for taking out my frustration on him. Minor things that we still try to address for the future. We're extremely future-orientated, everyday we talk about our future and where we want to be, encourage each other about when this is going to happen.

In person, we hardly ever fight. When we do, it's usually because of a bad mood and isn't serious. The fact that we hold onto each other in times where we're having to endure things that most couples never have to, I think is something quite amazing and sets us apart from everyone around me that I know.

I believe that when couples fight, it's about; 1- the source and 2- how they handle it. We handle our disagreements in a healthy way, in that sometimes we need time to calm down, we always always apologise to each other and resolve conflicts straight away, talk about where it came from, we always end with a resolution for the future and saying that we love each other.

The weekend? I'm doing some house chores today and then my friend is coming over.. then tomorrow we're going out for an English roast. mmmmmmmmm!!

Edited November 15, 2008 by Gemmie

[Fred N Emilia 0]

126 for Fred

[Noa&Mia 0]

Hello everyone!!!!! just wanted to share a perfect moment!!!! I already have our tickets to Aerosmith!!! they`re coming on Feb 1st !!!! and Noah is coming to the concert with me!!! so its great!!! I am so excited!!

By the way, we`re 183 on Igor list!

I hope everyone have a great weekend!!

Mia

[maliciant 7]

It looks like we have a bunch of rule breakin people in august, with your multiple countdowns!... looks like the host of that service is crackin down.

[Gemmie 142]

How funny!

Ah well, I guess I'll leave the NOA1 in.. counting down to POE in my head now that it's close enough anyways.

Congrats on your tickets, Mia.. I've never seen Areosmith but I'm sure you'll have a great time.

edit - WE WERE TOUCHED! Showing as November 2nd.

I know it doesn't matter hugely, but feels great..

Edited November 15, 2008 by Gemmie