Does your muslim husband mind if you drink?

[sweet_peach 0]

I think I have the best man when it comes to this. He doesnt mind at all. He knows I'm not one to take it to far.

In fact he had been drinking the first time he came to get me from the airport because he was so scared about meeting me....

[morocco4ever 63]

Pass the popcorn.

I could do a one-post summary of how this thread is going to go, complete with mid-thread step-in by JP saying even non-Muslim Arabs don't approve of wives hanging out with husbands alone, it's not just a Muslim MENA-man thing, a warning by LaL, some alcohol is haraam, revealing sins is bad, and the eventual lock

But, I am eating matzo ball soup which is very, very yummy. So please no more nasty needles and razor blades, I'm eating!

So sorry to ruin your soup, I am thoroughly embarassed.

[Nasturtium 500]

So sorry to ruin your soup, I am thoroughly embarassed.

LOL, no,you're right-- that would be very painful. Blame Staashi, she brought up the other first. I'm done now, though. Am thinking about cooking up some zucchini.

ETA: I forgot the part where Talbert comes in and says something about how we are typical American women.

Edited August 5, 2008 by julianna

[Nagishkaw 510]

I prefer yellow squash.

[morocco4ever 63]

So sorry to ruin your soup, I am thoroughly embarassed.

LOL, no,you're right-- that would be very painful. Blame Staashi, she brought up the other first. I'm done now, though. Am thinking about cooking up some zucchini.

ETA: I forgot the part where Talbert comes in and says something about how we are typical American women.

I kinda miss the fellow. He was fun to harrass. Where has he been? Perhaps his American ex wife finally got him.

[Nasturtium 500]

I prefer yellow squash.

Yum!

I kinda miss the fellow. He was fun to harrass. Where has he been? Perhaps his American ex wife finally got him.

I don't know. According to his profile he liess like 10 miles north of me. I could go hunt him down and ask him to come back

[Nagishkaw 510]

Pumpkin boats ?

[Nasturtium 500]

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[Nagishkaw 510]

Pass the popcorn.

I could do a one-post summary of how this thread is going to go, complete with mid-thread step-in by JP saying even non-Muslim Arabs don't approve of wives hanging out with husbands alone, it's not just a Muslim MENA-man thing, a warning by LaL, some alcohol is haraam, revealing sins is bad, and the eventual lock

But, I am eating matzo ball soup which is very, very yummy. So please no more nasty needles and razor blades, I'm eating!

You forgot to add that at the end it degenrates into who is the real Algerian.

[mahboula 11]

OK here goes..

Whoever said that men and women can be PLATONIC friends in a previous post... My husband knew I had male friends before we married...Was he thrilled with it? No, but he accepted it. He also knew I had weekly poker games with them and once in a while a couple drinks. Again, was he thrilled? Nope, but accepted it. He doesn't drink at all, and is now requesting that I don't either. Sooooooooooooooooo.........I asked the people here how their husbands felt about drinking.

How this has turned into me having a sordid three-way love fest with the neighbors is beyond me. However, if this does happen someday, and I do decide to send the story to Penthouse, I'm wondering how much they pay if the story is published?

Moving on

I've just asked my man again to tell me what exactly bothered him so much. He said this "I'm clean, no drugs, alcohol or cigarettes now. It's good for me and it's good for you too to be that way. But sometimes when you drink, it makes me think why not have a few drinks with my wife? So, to help me not to drink, I want you to stop too."

[~PalmTreeGurl~ 154]

But I would assume the majority of the muslim men as the majority of christian men do not accept drinking alcohol. and that in that given situation the men would not want their wife to drink either.

Do you really think that's true? I haven't gotten that impression at all.

well considering it to be the basic belief of muslim & christian men... again I would assume most of them do not accept drinking alcohol... but what I have gotten an impression on VJ and from some muslim men here that I know is that they may say drinking is wrong but do it anyway... The topic wasnt about christian men acceptance of drinking & I guess I have had an eye opener about more muslim men besides the one I already knew that were ok with drinking alcohol. Bcz I really thought it was a No-No just like pork!

[morocco4ever 63]

How this has turned into me having a sordid three-way love fest with the neighbors is beyond me. However, if this does happen someday, and I do decide to send the story to Penthouse, I'm wondering how much they pay if the story is published?

Moving on

OMG....love it!!

As far as the understanding you have with him, well it seems like you laid it all out on the table beforehand. I applaud that. Now here is the sticky part. You know he doesn't like it but he accepted it. This is where I see potential future problems. Maybe for now he accepts it, but what if he thinks he can handle it, but one day he can't handle it and blows? What then?

You have a right to your friends. He has a right not to be okay with it. And if that happens then in order for the relationship to survive one of you will have to give in.

The way I have dealt with this is I decide. Is what I am fighting for worth losing my husband over? Now don't get me wrong, there are some things I won't give up, even for my husband, but we have crossed this bridge before. Some things I have decided that my husband is more important. Some other things, and this usually involves my children, if he disagreed I would have to walk away. Luckily for us we have both compromised, and it works for us.

I do give you credit, you were up front and honest with him. I just think you had better be prepared if he isn't quite as strong as he thinks he is on handling it.

Now can we get back to more important things, like the next article Staashi can write? I think I deserve a finders fee here.

[mahboula 11]

How this has turned into me having a sordid three-way love fest with the neighbors is beyond me. However, if this does happen someday, and I do decide to send the story to Penthouse, I'm wondering how much they pay if the story is published?

Moving on

OMG....love it!!

As far as the understanding you have with him, well it seems like you laid it all out on the table beforehand. I applaud that. Now here is the sticky part. You know he doesn't like it but he accepted it. This is where I see potential future problems. Maybe for now he accepts it, but what if he thinks he can handle it, but one day he can't handle it and blows? What then?

You have a right to your friends. He has a right not to be okay with it. And if that happens then in order for the relationship to survive one of you will have to give in.

The way I have dealt with this is I decide. Is what I am fighting for worth losing my husband over? Now don't get me wrong, there are some things I won't give up, even for my husband, but we have crossed this bridge before. Some things I have decided that my husband is more important. Some other things, and this usually involves my children, if he disagreed I would have to walk away. Luckily for us we have both compromised, and it works for us.

I do give you credit, you were up front and honest with him. I just think you had better be prepared if he isn't quite as strong as he thinks he is on handling it.

Now can we get back to more important things, like the next article Staashi can write? I think I deserve a finders fee here.

Yep I think you're right on point with all of that. I haven't agreed not to drink yet, but I might. We'll see how things go when he gets here. It's really not that important to me to be able to drink because I just don't do it much. I would like to have the option open, but he is more important to me. Anyway, we'll see...

[JULIAFERNO 0]

I have a feeling that most muslim husbands will mind you drinking. Anyone? I am curious as well!

I thought it would be the same way too, but, so far, from the responses it seems most don't mind or might even drink a little themselves. Mine did drink in his 20's but it's been years since then. I'd like to have the occasional guilt-free glass of wine, so maybe he and I can agree to do that together once a year on our anniversary like someone else here posted.

Mahboula, were you drinking with a woman or a man?

Ah....well there's a part of it I didn't get into. I was drinking with two male neighbors, one of which was my ex-boss, and the other a single dad who I babysit for occasionally. Yes, it was an issue that they were men, but they are my only friends in Florida and have NEVER been inappropriate with me. They know I'm married etc...well that's a totally separate issue anyway. I wanted to keep it simple, and just see how the Muslim men felt about their wives drinking period.

Yes - does your Muslim/Middle-Eastern husband tolerate male friends IS a completely other issue!

[Staashi 371]

How this has turned into me having a sordid three-way love fest with the neighbors is beyond me. However, if this does happen someday, and I do decide to send the story to Penthouse, I'm wondering how much they pay if the story is published?

Moving on

Now can we get back to more important things, like the next article Staashi can write? I think I deserve a finders fee here.

Hehehe...I didn't say you had a 3-way with your neighbors...but if you do, come look to me and I'll write it for you and we'll make a few dollars.

Now M4E, what shall our next MENA adventure be about? LMAO