Does your muslim husband mind if you drink?

[mahboula 11]

I have a feeling that most muslim husbands will mind you drinking. Anyone? I am curious as well!

I thought it would be the same way too, but, so far, from the responses it seems most don't mind or might even drink a little themselves. Mine did drink in his 20's but it's been years since then. I'd like to have the occasional guilt-free glass of wine, so maybe he and I can agree to do that together once a year on our anniversary like someone else here posted.

Mahboula, were you drinking with a woman or a man?

Ah....well there's a part of it I didn't get into. I was drinking with two male neighbors, one of which was my ex-boss, and the other a single dad who I babysit for occasionally. Yes, it was an issue that they were men, but they are my only friends in Florida and have NEVER been inappropriate with me. They know I'm married etc...well that's a totally separate issue anyway. I wanted to keep it simple, and just see how the Muslim men felt about their wives drinking period.

See, I had to ask, as this to me was so much more than a girl getting tipsy with the girlfriends. And now that you've written that there were two men, reminds me of the way a story might start out in one of those trashy Penthouse Forum stories..."Well, it was a steamy Florida night and I was home alone, when a couple of my neighbors asked me if I wanted to come over and have a few beers with them. My husband was out of town, and I was feeling lonely, so I said, 'Sure, what the hell - that sounds great!' The next thing I knew I was..."

I'm not trying to make fun of your loneliness - it does suck, but drinking with two men might not look too good...even if they're friends.

Ok I'm going to take an hour or so to work through what you just said before I respond. For now I'll just say

[morocco4ever 63]

I have a feeling that most muslim husbands will mind you drinking. Anyone? I am curious as well!

I thought it would be the same way too, but, so far, from the responses it seems most don't mind or might even drink a little themselves. Mine did drink in his 20's but it's been years since then. I'd like to have the occasional guilt-free glass of wine, so maybe he and I can agree to do that together once a year on our anniversary like someone else here posted.

Mahboula, were you drinking with a woman or a man?

Ah....well there's a part of it I didn't get into. I was drinking with two male neighbors, one of which was my ex-boss, and the other a single dad who I babysit for occasionally. Yes, it was an issue that they were men, but they are my only friends in Florida and have NEVER been inappropriate with me. They know I'm married etc...well that's a totally separate issue anyway. I wanted to keep it simple, and just see how the Muslim men felt about their wives drinking period.

See, I had to ask, as this to me was so much more than a girl getting tipsy with the girlfriends. And now that you've written that there were two men, reminds me of the way a story might start out in one of those trashy Penthouse Forum stories..."Well, it was a steamy Florida night and I was home alone, when a couple of my neighbors asked me if I wanted to come over and have a few beers with them. My husband was out of town, and I was feeling lonely, so I said, 'Sure, what the hell - that sounds great!' The next thing I knew I was..."

I'm not trying to make fun of your loneliness - it does suck, but drinking with two men might not look too good...even if they're friends.

Cool, we have the newest and latest writer for penthouse, Staashi, and introducing the new star of her article, mahboula!! Will there be pics too?

[Nagishkaw 510]

I have a feeling that most muslim husbands will mind you drinking. Anyone? I am curious as well!

I thought it would be the same way too, but, so far, from the responses it seems most don't mind or might even drink a little themselves. Mine did drink in his 20's but it's been years since then. I'd like to have the occasional guilt-free glass of wine, so maybe he and I can agree to do that together once a year on our anniversary like someone else here posted.

Mahboula, were you drinking with a woman or a man?

Ah....well there's a part of it I didn't get into. I was drinking with two male neighbors, one of which was my ex-boss, and the other a single dad who I babysit for occasionally. Yes, it was an issue that they were men, but they are my only friends in Florida and have NEVER been inappropriate with me. They know I'm married etc...well that's a totally separate issue anyway. I wanted to keep it simple, and just see how the Muslim men felt about their wives drinking period.

See, I had to ask, as this to me was so much more than a girl getting tipsy with the girlfriends. And now that you've written that there were two men, reminds me of the way a story might start out in one of those trashy Penthouse Forum stories..."Well, it was a steamy Florida night and I was home alone, when a couple of my neighbors asked me if I wanted to come over and have a few beers with them. My husband was out of town, and I was feeling lonely, so I said, 'Sure, what the hell - that sounds great!' The next thing I knew I was..."

I'm not trying to make fun of your loneliness - it does suck, but drinking with two men might not look too good...even if they're friends.

Cool, we have the newest and latest writer for penthouse, Staashi, and introducing the new star of her article, mahboula!! Will there be pics too?

I think we will need more popcorn, morocco4ever.

[caybee 21]

I have a feeling that most muslim husbands will mind you drinking. Anyone? I am curious as well!

I thought it would be the same way too, but, so far, from the responses it seems most don't mind or might even drink a little themselves. Mine did drink in his 20's but it's been years since then. I'd like to have the occasional guilt-free glass of wine, so maybe he and I can agree to do that together once a year on our anniversary like someone else here posted.

Mahboula, were you drinking with a woman or a man?

Ah....well there's a part of it I didn't get into. I was drinking with two male neighbors, one of which was my ex-boss, and the other a single dad who I babysit for occasionally. Yes, it was an issue that they were men, but they are my only friends in Florida and have NEVER been inappropriate with me. They know I'm married etc...well that's a totally separate issue anyway. I wanted to keep it simple, and just see how the Muslim men felt about their wives drinking period.

See, I had to ask, as this to me was so much more than a girl getting tipsy with the girlfriends. And now that you've written that there were two men, reminds me of the way a story might start out in one of those trashy Penthouse Forum stories..."Well, it was a steamy Florida night and I was home alone, when a couple of my neighbors asked me if I wanted to come over and have a few beers with them. My husband was out of town, and I was feeling lonely, so I said, 'Sure, what the hell - that sounds great!' The next thing I knew I was..."

I'm not trying to make fun of your loneliness - it does suck, but drinking with two men might not look too good...even if they're friends.

I wasn't trying to make fun either, or to sound harsh. Thing is, they have their own traditions and expectations of behavior there, and if they've never been here, they have these awful images of debauchery from the movies and TV (hubby had watched more Springer and Dr. Phil than I ever had before he arrived), so even if they know nothing's going on, many will feel uncomfortable with some things that are innocent and accepted here.

Sorry, I know this has gone off your original topic.

[Staashi 371]

I have a feeling that most muslim husbands will mind you drinking. Anyone? I am curious as well!

I thought it would be the same way too, but, so far, from the responses it seems most don't mind or might even drink a little themselves. Mine did drink in his 20's but it's been years since then. I'd like to have the occasional guilt-free glass of wine, so maybe he and I can agree to do that together once a year on our anniversary like someone else here posted.

Mahboula, were you drinking with a woman or a man?

Ah....well there's a part of it I didn't get into. I was drinking with two male neighbors, one of which was my ex-boss, and the other a single dad who I babysit for occasionally. Yes, it was an issue that they were men, but they are my only friends in Florida and have NEVER been inappropriate with me. They know I'm married etc...well that's a totally separate issue anyway. I wanted to keep it simple, and just see how the Muslim men felt about their wives drinking period.

See, I had to ask, as this to me was so much more than a girl getting tipsy with the girlfriends. And now that you've written that there were two men, reminds me of the way a story might start out in one of those trashy Penthouse Forum stories..."Well, it was a steamy Florida night and I was home alone, when a couple of my neighbors asked me if I wanted to come over and have a few beers with them. My husband was out of town, and I was feeling lonely, so I said, 'Sure, what the hell - that sounds great!' The next thing I knew I was..."

I'm not trying to make fun of your loneliness - it does suck, but drinking with two men might not look too good...even if they're friends.

Cool, we have the newest and latest writer for penthouse, Staashi, and introducing the new star of her article, mahboula!! Will there be pics too?

Oh man...I'm LMAO right now. I have read a few of those stories and yes, many of them do start out that way.

Mahboula, I'm not implying anything by your actions the other night...I'm just saying be careful and if your husband knew that you were drinking with two men would he be cool with it or not...I'm thinking not. But that's just me, and I know my husband...non-muslim, Argentine self would be freaking out on that one.

[morocco4ever 63]

I have a feeling that most muslim husbands will mind you drinking. Anyone? I am curious as well!

I thought it would be the same way too, but, so far, from the responses it seems most don't mind or might even drink a little themselves. Mine did drink in his 20's but it's been years since then. I'd like to have the occasional guilt-free glass of wine, so maybe he and I can agree to do that together once a year on our anniversary like someone else here posted.

Mahboula, were you drinking with a woman or a man?

Ah....well there's a part of it I didn't get into. I was drinking with two male neighbors, one of which was my ex-boss, and the other a single dad who I babysit for occasionally. Yes, it was an issue that they were men, but they are my only friends in Florida and have NEVER been inappropriate with me. They know I'm married etc...well that's a totally separate issue anyway. I wanted to keep it simple, and just see how the Muslim men felt about their wives drinking period.

See, I had to ask, as this to me was so much more than a girl getting tipsy with the girlfriends. And now that you've written that there were two men, reminds me of the way a story might start out in one of those trashy Penthouse Forum stories..."Well, it was a steamy Florida night and I was home alone, when a couple of my neighbors asked me if I wanted to come over and have a few beers with them. My husband was out of town, and I was feeling lonely, so I said, 'Sure, what the hell - that sounds great!' The next thing I knew I was..."

I'm not trying to make fun of your loneliness - it does suck, but drinking with two men might not look too good...even if they're friends.

Ok I'm going to take an hour or so to work through what you just said before I respond. For now I'll just say

I don't think she meant it in a way to upset you. I think she is trying to give you a picture of how others might view it, especially in an Arab world. It isn't usually acceptable in their culture for their wife to visit in the home with 2 men let alone drink with them. I hope you don't take what she said to heart. I think she is merely pointing out why it upset him more than you thought it would. I know if it was my husband he would have hit the ceiling. But then again I would have felt the same if it had been him with 2 women. This is what works for us, so if you and your husband don't have a problem with it then thats cool. But I don't know many Arab men that would be okay with it.

[Staashi 371]

I have a feeling that most muslim husbands will mind you drinking. Anyone? I am curious as well!

I thought it would be the same way too, but, so far, from the responses it seems most don't mind or might even drink a little themselves. Mine did drink in his 20's but it's been years since then. I'd like to have the occasional guilt-free glass of wine, so maybe he and I can agree to do that together once a year on our anniversary like someone else here posted.

Mahboula, were you drinking with a woman or a man?

Ah....well there's a part of it I didn't get into. I was drinking with two male neighbors, one of which was my ex-boss, and the other a single dad who I babysit for occasionally. Yes, it was an issue that they were men, but they are my only friends in Florida and have NEVER been inappropriate with me. They know I'm married etc...well that's a totally separate issue anyway. I wanted to keep it simple, and just see how the Muslim men felt about their wives drinking period.

See, I had to ask, as this to me was so much more than a girl getting tipsy with the girlfriends. And now that you've written that there were two men, reminds me of the way a story might start out in one of those trashy Penthouse Forum stories..."Well, it was a steamy Florida night and I was home alone, when a couple of my neighbors asked me if I wanted to come over and have a few beers with them. My husband was out of town, and I was feeling lonely, so I said, 'Sure, what the hell - that sounds great!' The next thing I knew I was..."

I'm not trying to make fun of your loneliness - it does suck, but drinking with two men might not look too good...even if they're friends.

Ok I'm going to take an hour or so to work through what you just said before I respond. For now I'll just say

I don't think she meant it in a way to upset you. I think she is trying to give you a picture of how others might view it, especially in an Arab world. It isn't usually acceptable in their culture for their wife to visit in the home with 2 men let alone drink with them. I hope you don't take what she said to heart. I think she is merely pointing out why it upset him more than you thought it would. I know if it was my husband he would have hit the ceiling. But then again I would have felt the same if it had been him with 2 women. This is what works for us, so if you and your husband don't have a problem with it then thats cool. But I don't know many Arab men that would be okay with it.

Honest to God, I didn't mean it to upset you. <Cross my heart and hope to die - stick a thousand needles in my eye.> Which would totally hurt, by the way.

Second, I don't know too many husbands - foreign or domestic, who would be okay with it.

Edited August 5, 2008 by Staashi

[Nutty 2]

Before marriage, I made it absolutely clear that I drink. Everyday. One to two drinks a day. But that I never get drunk or drink to excess. And really, that is my limit.

My husband accepts this. However, I know he would prefer I drink only on "special occasions."

But, since I was extremely honest and up front before marriage and he conceded, he does not give me grief when I open a beer when I get home at the end of the day.

PS...I have a heart condition additionally and was told by my doctor to drink 1 glass of red wine a day

(Given this comes from a doctor, he can't argue)

[Jenn! 918]

Second, I don't know too many husbands - foreign or domestic, who would be okay with it.

I have to disagree with that. At least among my peers that has always been common and acceptable. Mixed gender friendships are not unusual and they can remain completely platonic.

[Mina76 0]

Hi all. Here's why I ask this question. The other day a neighbor/good friend knocked on my door and asked if I'd like to come over and have a beer. Normally I wouldn't, but my kids are away, I was home alone and bored. So one beer leads to six and a mixed drink ...and by the time I get home I'm a bit tipsy. My fiance isn't here in the US yet(soon though), so in my drunken silliness I buzz him on yahoo and try to wake him to chat (he leaves yahoo and his cam on at night). He doesn't wake up, but my typing looked something like this "hiiiiiiiiii bbay. wkae up..oh negvfermind icant type im drunk"

So I woke up I saw what I had written, was a little embarrassed, and figured he might be upset that I had one(or a few) too many. Well, he was more than a little upset. It bothered him to the point he didn't speak to me for most of the day. He cooled off and we discussed it. Turns out he would rather I didn't drink at all. Now he's not insisting I don't, he wouldn't do that, just asking me not to. For all of you non-muslim women with muslim husbands, how does your husband feel about alcohol? Does he mind if you have some wine? Do you refrain from drinking at his request?

I am not much of a drinker and my muslim husband doesn't mind me having a drink or 2, so as long as it's only when I am with him.

[morocco4ever 63]

I have a feeling that most muslim husbands will mind you drinking. Anyone? I am curious as well!

I thought it would be the same way too, but, so far, from the responses it seems most don't mind or might even drink a little themselves. Mine did drink in his 20's but it's been years since then. I'd like to have the occasional guilt-free glass of wine, so maybe he and I can agree to do that together once a year on our anniversary like someone else here posted.

Mahboula, were you drinking with a woman or a man?

Ah....well there's a part of it I didn't get into. I was drinking with two male neighbors, one of which was my ex-boss, and the other a single dad who I babysit for occasionally. Yes, it was an issue that they were men, but they are my only friends in Florida and have NEVER been inappropriate with me. They know I'm married etc...well that's a totally separate issue anyway. I wanted to keep it simple, and just see how the Muslim men felt about their wives drinking period.

See, I had to ask, as this to me was so much more than a girl getting tipsy with the girlfriends. And now that you've written that there were two men, reminds me of the way a story might start out in one of those trashy Penthouse Forum stories..."Well, it was a steamy Florida night and I was home alone, when a couple of my neighbors asked me if I wanted to come over and have a few beers with them. My husband was out of town, and I was feeling lonely, so I said, 'Sure, what the hell - that sounds great!' The next thing I knew I was..."

I'm not trying to make fun of your loneliness - it does suck, but drinking with two men might not look too good...even if they're friends.

Ok I'm going to take an hour or so to work through what you just said before I respond. For now I'll just say

I don't think she meant it in a way to upset you. I think she is trying to give you a picture of how others might view it, especially in an Arab world. It isn't usually acceptable in their culture for their wife to visit in the home with 2 men let alone drink with them. I hope you don't take what she said to heart. I think she is merely pointing out why it upset him more than you thought it would. I know if it was my husband he would have hit the ceiling. But then again I would have felt the same if it had been him with 2 women. This is what works for us, so if you and your husband don't have a problem with it then thats cool. But I don't know many Arab men that would be okay with it.

Honest to God, I didn't mean it to upset you. <Cross my heart and hope to die - stick a thousand needles in my eye.> Which would totally hurt, by the way.

Second, I don't know too many husbands - foreign or domestic, who would be okay with it.

Do you know what would really hurt? To slide down a razor blade into a vat of alcohol. Now THAT could hurt. If she was naked you could use that in one of your articles, but I doubt Penthouse would buy it. Perhaps a good S&M magazine?

Edited August 5, 2008 by morocco4ever

[Staashi 371]

Do you know what would really hurt? To slide down a razor blade into a vat of alcohol. Now THAT could hurt. If she was naked you could use that in one of your articles, but I doubt Penthouse would buy it. Perhaps a good S&M magazine?

OK - now that's even too much for me.

[caybee 21]

Do you know what would really hurt? To slide down a razor blade into a vat of alcohol. Now THAT could hurt. If she was naked you could use that in one of your articles, but I doubt Penthouse would buy it. Perhaps a good S&M magazine?

OK - now that's even too much for me.

Me too. I'm goin' home.

[morocco4ever 63]

I'm a sick woman!

[Nasturtium 500]

Pass the popcorn.

I could do a one-post summary of how this thread is going to go, complete with mid-thread step-in by JP saying even non-Muslim Arabs don't approve of wives hanging out with husbands alone, it's not just a Muslim MENA-man thing, a warning by LaL, some alcohol is haraam, revealing sins is bad, and the eventual lock

But, I am eating matzo ball soup which is very, very yummy. So please no more nasty needles and razor blades, I'm eating!