Does your muslim husband mind if you drink?

[Mommy2ZaidnSalma 11]

were both guilty..but hey were both in our mid 20's, and we dont let it get out of control

[hollyw 0]

We both drink. We drank a lot more when we first met (in our early 20's), but will still have wine with dinner or go out for a few drinks on the weekends.

[S and S 12]

My husband doesn't drink and neither do I. In the past I would occassionally have a couple drinks, but my husband asked me to even stop that in the same month we started talking to each other. Since I didn't care about alchohol I gave it up right then and haven't had any since. I think the only thing I miss is an occassional glass of wine.

[mahboula 11]

I have a feeling that most muslim husbands will mind you drinking. Anyone? I am curious as well!

I thought it would be the same way too, but, so far, from the responses it seems most don't mind or might even drink a little themselves. Mine did drink in his 20's but it's been years since then. I'd like to have the occasional guilt-free glass of wine, so maybe he and I can agree to do that together once a year on our anniversary like someone else here posted.

[Nasturtium 500]

Neither one of us drink. I have nothing theologically against alcohol as it is not forbidden in the Bible at all... but... it is forbidden to get drunk. I neither handle alcohol well (I have had it 4? 5? times? something like that), nor do I handle seperation from it well. My grandmother is a vallium addict and my father was an alcoholic as a 20-something and then totally gave up alcohol. When I tasted wine I would sit around and think about how to get more and it was clearly out of control, mentally. I have an addictive personality and so IMO I should just leave it alone completely. I can have it in measured doses like cough syrup or communion or something, but I refues to buy alcohol formyself to drink. It is easy to not buy another bottle, but hard for me to shut one. Clearly, I am not meant to be a drinker Better to stop sometihng before it starts. I have enough problem biting my nails. So neither of us drink and neither of us smoke (and that includes argilla).

Oh! and to add: yes, he would probably be incredibly ticked off if I drank. I would be ticked off if he picked it up too!

Edited August 5, 2008 by julianna

[ginny20 0]

This has been an issue between us over the last few years, especially because we've been living in Morocco where it is generally extremely shameful for women to drink or for 'respectable' people of the opposite sex to drink in front of each other. Basically we agreed that I would not drink in front of him, but may have a few drinks when I go out with friends. Practically, I have done very little drinking here, because of the social stigma. I also quite smoking and feel much better and healthier without these things!

[Shpat_Argjira 0]

Well i was married at the age of 21, when I went back home to visit her almost everynight I drank mostly beers though. And when it comes to my wife she doesnt drink nor smoke, but if she does want to drink she usually asks if she can have a mixed drink. Of course I say yeah...

I dont know us Albanians in Kosova are some weird Muslims, well i'm speaking for myself and alot of people that i know.

[Staashi 371]

I have a feeling that most muslim husbands will mind you drinking. Anyone? I am curious as well!

I thought it would be the same way too, but, so far, from the responses it seems most don't mind or might even drink a little themselves. Mine did drink in his 20's but it's been years since then. I'd like to have the occasional guilt-free glass of wine, so maybe he and I can agree to do that together once a year on our anniversary like someone else here posted.

Mahboula, were you drinking with a woman or a man?

[Aymsgirl 0]

He wouldn't mind if it wasn't to get sloppy drunk and I was either having one with my girlfriends or around him. I'm just not real big on drinking so the occasion would rarely come up. Nawal is right, a lot of things change when they come here. Things are more social and acceptable here than in some of their countries.

[polarbear 0]

My husband doesn't drink and neither do I. In the past I would occassionally have a couple drinks, but my husband asked me to even stop that in the same month we started talking to each other. Since I didn't care about alchohol I gave it up right then and haven't had any since. I think the only thing I miss is an occassional glass of wine.

Pretty close to what happened with me.

Actually the same night I met my husband he asked me 3 things:

Did I smoke? no

Did I drink? very rarely

Did I have any tatoos? no

His answer to all of those is no (doesn't even smoke) and I never actually drank around him. His friends would joke when we would meet up at the coffe shops if I would like a brandy or something, but I always just wanted hot chocolate

Before I would drink occasionally under social pressure but very little, and since I've converted I haven't even thought about it.

[Jenn! 918]

But I would assume the majority of the muslim men as the majority of christian men do not accept drinking alcohol. and that in that given situation the men would not want their wife to drink either.

Do you really think that's true? I haven't gotten that impression at all.

[caybee 21]

But I would assume the majority of the muslim men as the majority of christian men do not accept drinking alcohol. and that in that given situation the men would not want their wife to drink either.

Do you really think that's true? I haven't gotten that impression at all.

Nor have I. It's frowned upon in some denominations or individual congregations but accepted (in moderation) in others. I've been in Protestant communion services where wine was served, with grape juice as an alternative.

[doodlebugg 10]

I don't drink and neither does my husband but lemme tell you he kept telling me the first few weeks how amazed he is at how the commercials make it look soooooooo fun!!!!!! I mean on and on he was watching the happy people drinking having a wonderful time while surfing or skiing down the slopes. lol. He would keep asking me, honey what is this...is it vodka? (pointing to the tv set). I was laughing so hard because I totally can feel what he's going through thinking it looks all nice and fun.

Now we look up mixed drinks on the menus at restaurants and we go home and make them without the alcohol.

[caybee 21]

I don't drink and neither does my husband but lemme tell you he kept telling me the first few weeks how amazed he is at how the commercials make it look soooooooo fun!!!!!! I mean on and on he was watching the happy people drinking having a wonderful time while surfing or skiing down the slopes. lol. He would keep asking me, honey what is this...is it vodka? (pointing to the tv set). I was laughing so hard because I totally can feel what he's going through thinking it looks all nice and fun.

Now we look up mixed drinks on the menus at restaurants and we go home and make them without the alcohol.

I've seen commercials on 2M Morocco that look so much like our liquor commercials (minus the front and rear cleavage) -- a bunch of folks gathering in some isolated spot for a rave, that sort of thing -- but the product was nonalcoholic. Made me laugh -- and made me want to try the drink. I recently ordered a virgin margarita when I was out with friends and wanted to celebrate, but what they gave me was more like a thick, sweet, coconut smoothie. I'd like to learn to make a decent, nonalcoholic mixed drink that doesn't taste like bubble gum.

[allousa 1]

My husband and I were both drinking when we first met, you know, out in the clubs and stuff. But as we began to get more serious he asked me to stop drinking as he had as well. I know he's not had a drink of any alcohol in about 7 1/2 years. I have had so much drama and trauma over the alcoholics in my family that it was not a problem for me at all to agree to not drink anymore. We are around alot of friends and co-workers that are very much into "social drinking" and the peer pressure that we get now is worse than when we were both younger. But we stand our ground and have made a choice as a couple not to drink or have alcohol in the house.

Hicham had quit smoking until the whole thing happened with his parents. I even smoked a pack over a weeks time from the incident as well. I haven't had anymore but he has not stopped. When either of us smoke, we NEVER, NEVER do it in front of our son. We usually wait till after he's gone to bed and we go out on the back porch and have tea and a smoke. Our deal is that if I quit drinking soda, he'll quit smoking. We are both currently working on our vices! When Hicham's ready to stop, I know that he will.

These are definitely issues that a couple should discuss prior to marriage. You might not think these are big issues, but they certainly can turn into major arguments down the road. It's good to know where you both stand in the beginning.

I've said this once and I'll say it a hundred times.....you MUST establish your boundaries in the very beginning. It will save you immense heartache in the end.