Does your muslim husband mind if you drink?

[mahboula 11]

Hi all. Here's why I ask this question. The other day a neighbor/good friend knocked on my door and asked if I'd like to come over and have a beer. Normally I wouldn't, but my kids are away, I was home alone and bored. So one beer leads to six and a mixed drink ...and by the time I get home I'm a bit tipsy. My fiance isn't here in the US yet(soon though), so in my drunken silliness I buzz him on yahoo and try to wake him to chat (he leaves yahoo and his cam on at night). He doesn't wake up, but my typing looked something like this "hiiiiiiiiii bbay. wkae up..oh negvfermind icant type im drunk"

So I woke up I saw what I had written, was a little embarrassed, and figured he might be upset that I had one(or a few) too many. Well, he was more than a little upset. It bothered him to the point he didn't speak to me for most of the day. He cooled off and we discussed it. Turns out he would rather I didn't drink at all. Now he's not insisting I don't, he wouldn't do that, just asking me not to. For all of you non-muslim women with muslim husbands, how does your husband feel about alcohol? Does he mind if you have some wine? Do you refrain from drinking at his request?

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Mine is totally against it but then I'm against smoking. So we made a deal I won't drink if he doesn't smoke. On our honeymoon I busted him smoking so deal was off from then on out. Then come to find out he was smoking sheesha during that whole time telling me it's not smoke coz it's from a hookah. I'm said, "It's still smoking just like it's still drinking wether it's from a bowl or the bottle." Obviously we don't see eye to eye on this and there is a double standard of, "do as I say not as I do."

[Muh and me 18]

Mine doesn't have too much of a problem with it. Of course he doesn't want me drinking til i get drunk. But if i have a few beers he is fine with that.

[~PalmTreeGurl~ 154]

Interesting question for people to answer. I do not drink at all but I will tell you that you are going to get very different answers about this... I know of some muslim men who do drink -people that I know closely by working with or friends with from gfs. ) But I would assume the majority of the muslim men as the majority of christian men do not accept drinking alcohol. and that in that given situation the men would not want their wife to drink either.

Hi all. Here's why I ask this question. The other day a neighbor/good friend knocked on my door and asked if I'd like to come over and have a beer. Normally I wouldn't, but my kids are away, I was home alone and bored. So one beer leads to six and a mixed drink ...and by the time I get home I'm a bit tipsy. My fiance isn't here in the US yet(soon though), so in my drunken silliness I buzz him on yahoo and try to wake him to chat (he leaves yahoo and his cam on at night). He doesn't wake up, but my typing looked something like this "hiiiiiiiiii bbay. wkae up..oh negvfermind icant type im drunk"

So I woke up I saw what I had written, was a little embarrassed, and figured he might be upset that I had one(or a few) too many. Well, he was more than a little upset. It bothered him to the point he didn't speak to me for most of the day. He cooled off and we discussed it. Turns out he would rather I didn't drink at all. Now he's not insisting I don't, he wouldn't do that, just asking me not to. For all of you non-muslim women with muslim husbands, how does your husband feel about alcohol? Does he mind if you have some wine? Do you refrain from drinking at his request?

[Krissy! 0]

Well... sounds like something that O and I have talked about. I don't think he minds it if I drink -- but just not too much. I think he worries more about me losing control over my body or something, hmm. I know he would be very disappointed if I went out drinking without informing him of my plans (just in case something happened to me on the way back home or something..) I'm not a big drinker anyhow -- I've been keeping it under 2 drinks when I do... mostly because it hurts my tummy.

I think when he is here in the States with me, he'll loosen up. I have no intention to go hog-wild tho.

[Kamaboko 0]

Hi all. Here's why I ask this question. The other day a neighbor/good friend knocked on my door and asked if I'd like to come over and have a beer. Normally I wouldn't, but my kids are away, I was home alone and bored. So one beer leads to six and a mixed drink ...and by the time I get home I'm a bit tipsy. My fiance isn't here in the US yet(soon though), so in my drunken silliness I buzz him on yahoo and try to wake him to chat (he leaves yahoo and his cam on at night). He doesn't wake up, but my typing looked something like this "hiiiiiiiiii bbay. wkae up..oh negvfermind icant type im drunk"

So I woke up I saw what I had written, was a little embarrassed, and figured he might be upset that I had one(or a few) too many. Well, he was more than a little upset. It bothered him to the point he didn't speak to me for most of the day. He cooled off and we discussed it. Turns out he would rather I didn't drink at all. Now he's not insisting I don't, he wouldn't do that, just asking me not to. For all of you non-muslim women with muslim husbands, how does your husband feel about alcohol? Does he mind if you have some wine? Do you refrain from drinking at his request?

Hi mahboula!

Wondering if you had religiously been married!

I do not come from your side (non-muslim) with muslim partner. My hubby (then fiance) converted to Islam and he's been pretty good about setting alcohol aside. Not only for the sake of religion, yet it's healthier to be without it. I have a feeling that most muslim husbands will mind you drinking. Anyone? I am curious as well!

[brnidokiegurl 0]

key word=some, u went to far...ahmed will like to have a few drinks himself (some) and i normally dont or never have so if i was to join him (some) once in while no problems

[~PalmTreeGurl~ 154]

Basically like my hubby... He smokes and has been since he was about 14 I think... now he smokes about a pack a day & I get upset from that and stressed out! I tell him what if I wanted to smoke... can I ? He laughs and says Your Joking, NO! but I dont think its funny & how come its OK for him but wouldnt be for me!? I dont like smoking or drinking but the point is why is it OK for you? but wouldnt be for me?

Mine is totally against it but then I'm against smoking. So we made a deal I won't drink if he doesn't smoke. On our honeymoon I busted him smoking so deal was off from then on out. Then come to find out he was smoking sheesha during that whole time telling me it's not smoke coz it's from a hookah. I'm said, "It's still smoking just like it's still drinking wether it's from a bowl or the bottle." Obviously we don't see eye to eye on this and there is a double standard of, "do as I say not as I do."

[mahboula 11]

Hi mahboula!

Wondering if you had religiously been married!

Yes we were religiously married 14 months ago.

I think he worries more about me losing control over my body or something, hmm

Mine said something to that effect also.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Basically like my hubby... He smokes and has been since he was about 14 I think... now he smokes about a pack a day & I get upset from that and stressed out! I tell him what if I wanted to smoke... can I ? He laughs and says Your Joking, NO! but I dont think its funny & how come its OK for him but wouldnt be for me!? I dont like smoking or drinking but the point is why is it OK for you? but wouldnt be for me?

Mine is totally against it but then I'm against smoking. So we made a deal I won't drink if he doesn't smoke. On our honeymoon I busted him smoking so deal was off from then on out. Then come to find out he was smoking sheesha during that whole time telling me it's not smoke coz it's from a hookah. I'm said, "It's still smoking just like it's still drinking wether it's from a bowl or the bottle." Obviously we don't see eye to eye on this and there is a double standard of, "do as I say not as I do."

It's #######. But for my health and dwindling interest in the activity as I age I'm giving up drinking more and more each day. Pretty soon I hope I don't want to drink anymore and he doesn't want to smoke anymore. But after working in the medical field for 8 yrs I am aware of how difficult it is for a smoker to quit. Also it's a major part of their culture. Like you said he started at 14-15. When I talked to my Husband about what if I smoked he was against it because of reproductive reasons. Not that I would smoke but from his medical perspective if it worse for a female to do it than a male. Don't know if there is any truth to that.

[Nothing1234 2]

We are both Muslim, however, we both have had a glass of wine or a drink on special occasions. This was definately something we dicussed prior to getting engaged or married...we dicussed many things...

Drinking

Smoking (we both do not)

Having children (how many)

and where we wanted to raise the children (Egypt or US)

Also, how they would be raised (teaching Arabic/Muslim schools, etc)

All very important prior to getting married. I think all of the above can be the cause of major issues in a marriage especially btwn two religions. It may seem minor (love does not conquer all). I have seen to many relationship end because this was not dealt with prior.

Good luck Its a good thing that you guys are talking about this now.

[b_assif 1]

My husbands favorite saying is "you are free do as you like", but after i got drunk before I went over to morocco I called him and cried for an hour, the next day he asked can you not drink like that anymore?LOL. I used to drink quite a bit before we started getting serious and had decided it was something I didnt really need anymore. I did drink with him one time for my birthday in Morocco and he was nervous, (didnt know how I would behave drunk). We actually had a good time together and agreed that maybe a few now and then wouldnt hurt, but Ive not had anything to drink since then. Maybe our anniversary

[mahboula 11]

Drinking

Smoking (we both do not)

Having children (how many)

and where we wanted to raise the children (Egypt or US)

Also, how they would be raised (teaching Arabic/Muslim schools, etc)

All very important prior to getting married. I think all of the above can be the cause of major issues in a marriage especially btwn two religions. It may seem minor (love does not conquer all). I have seen to many relationship end because this was not dealt with prior.

Good luck Its a good thing that you guys are talking about this now.

I didn't actually give all the background information in the original post, just to keep it short. We have discussed all of the above and more. The drinking is something we definitely talked about, and he didn't seem to have a problem with a beer or two(yes i went overboard the other night). It just wasn't discussed much because I very rarely drink. This is actually him changing his mind...he didn't mind then, but he does now. So he's asked me not to at all. Honestly, I think he won't have as much of a problem with one or two when he is here with me, but we'll see about that.

[Nothing1234 2]

Drinking

Smoking (we both do not)

Having children (how many)

and where we wanted to raise the children (Egypt or US)

Also, how they would be raised (teaching Arabic/Muslim schools, etc)

All very important prior to getting married. I think all of the above can be the cause of major issues in a marriage especially btwn two religions. It may seem minor (love does not conquer all). I have seen to many relationship end because this was not dealt with prior.

Good luck Its a good thing that you guys are talking about this now.

I didn't actually give all the background information in the original post, just to keep it short. We have discussed all of the above and more. The drinking is something we definitely talked about, and he didn't seem to have a problem with a beer or two(yes i went overboard the other night). It just wasn't discussed much because I very rarely drink. This is actually him changing his mind...he didn't mind then, but he does now. So he's asked me not to at all. Honestly, I think he won't have as much of a problem with one or two when he is here with me, but we'll see about that.

I think you're right....once he is here things will be much different.

[caybee 21]

Drinking

Smoking (we both do not)

Having children (how many)

and where we wanted to raise the children (Egypt or US)

Also, how they would be raised (teaching Arabic/Muslim schools, etc)

All very important prior to getting married. I think all of the above can be the cause of major issues in a marriage especially btwn two religions. It may seem minor (love does not conquer all). I have seen to many relationship end because this was not dealt with prior.

Good luck Its a good thing that you guys are talking about this now.

I didn't actually give all the background information in the original post, just to keep it short. We have discussed all of the above and more. The drinking is something we definitely talked about, and he didn't seem to have a problem with a beer or two(yes i went overboard the other night). It just wasn't discussed much because I very rarely drink. This is actually him changing his mind...he didn't mind then, but he does now. So he's asked me not to at all. Honestly, I think he won't have as much of a problem with one or two when he is here with me, but we'll see about that.

I think you're right....once he is here things will be much different.

I think so too. My husband wouldn't mind if I had a drink from time to time here, although I have a glass of wine maybe once in six months if that, just my own choice. I'm sure he wouldn't want me to drink in front of anyone in Morocco, but I wouldn't either.