Waiting Part... Visa Process

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

I know there are lots of post regarding emotional stress and how hard the waiting part is but I just cannot help but to say what I feel as of the moment.

There were tons of filers ahead of us (I am aware of that) which are still waiting for NOA2 (approval). It is just making me wonder why this process has to be so long? There were spouses all over the world but there are only 2 service centers processing visas for us. I am not saying that "fiance/fiancee" are less important than spouses (those who are already legally married) but at least (I hope so) USCIS would be fair enough to look after fiance and spouse visas at the same time (Fiance visas are faster).

Everyday, it is killing both of us not to be with each other. The fact that you can talk and see each other but you cannot even hold your partner.

In this case, we do not have any choice but to bear with such emotion. I do hope that one day "USCIS" would realize the agony we are going through and would find ways to make the whole visa process faster..

[nunyab 0]

I second your statement.. not sure if that helps any but ...... anyway, I hope things change for the better? What is really difficult is when people who filed in the same month as you did getting their NAO2 when you haven't even gotten a touch.... I just have to sit and wait

Rajaa

[cmnb 0]

I second your statement.. not sure if that helps any but ...... anyway, I hope things change for the better? What is really difficult is when people who filed in the same month as you did getting their NAO2 when you haven't even gotten a touch.... I just have to sit and wait

Rajaa

Rajaa, if i were u, i wud wait until the end of this month and get the congressman involved.

[indianheart 2]

I had a senator contact the embassy right after we were put into AP and at the 6 week mark...NOTHING CHANGED. I havent seen my husband for close to a year now, I completely understand...the wait eats away at my brain some days.

[Yiyi and Chris 0]

It's a hard situation that I don't see changing in a near future... At least we have to thank those who have left us shortcuts, to make the process faster... Thanks God that we have this forum, where we can give each other support, hope and positiveness to continue day by day with this looooooooooong journey.....

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

I second your statement.. not sure if that helps any but ...... anyway, I hope things change for the better? What is really difficult is when people who filed in the same month as you did getting their NAO2 when you haven't even gotten a touch.... I just have to sit and wait

Rajaa

I do hope so.. Just want that everybody in here should be given a chance to be with their loveones as soon as possible. I know that asking for speedy process is like a pipe dream but who knows (it might be possible)?.. I agree that it is difficult to see that people with the same timeline as yours got approval but you are left not knowing when they would approve your case. It was like walking in a very dark tunnel and not knowing when it wil end or if you would see the light afterwards. It is really crazy..

My husbie would come home this October but should I be happy with that? The goodbye part after a month of being together 24/7 is so hard as it would break our hearts into pieces again. It is killing me to see him tired but needs to maximize his strenght just for us to be able to talk. I want to close my eyes and wake up the next morning with him beside me.. As of the moment.... It is not possible.. Need to wait.. And we are waiting....

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

It's a hard situation that I don't see changing in a near future... At least we have to thank those who have left us shortcuts, to make the process faster... Thanks God that we have this forum, where we can give each other support, hope and positiveness to continue day by day with this looooooooooong journey.....

Yeah.. As of the moment we just have GOD to hold on to.. I am thankful to have found this site as well. Sometimes it helps to know that you are not the only one going through this "miserable" situation. It is just inspiring to see couples reunited after a long journey.

[Yiyi and Chris 0]

I was reading a really sad story the other day, about a girl that work hard to bring her husband and as soon as he had all the legal papers he left her and with huge debts...What do you guys think about stories like this????

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

I was reading a really sad story the other day, about a girl that work hard to bring her husband and as soon as he had all the legal papers he left her and with huge debts...What do you guys think about stories like this????

It is quite sad. I feel sorry for the girl.. But as of the moment, I was just busy trying to overcome this miserable feeling of being away from my husband.

Hmmmm.. I must be thankful that I wasn't in the said girl's situation. Wish she would cope up and move on.. And I wish the same for myself and my husbie. Hope we could cope up with our present situation..

[Shpat_Argjira 0]

Everytime I talk to my wife we start a normal conversaion, few minutes pass by and I already know what questiong she's going to ask me. "When are you coming"? It's been almost a year since i've last saw her. It's hard for both of us but even harder for her, cant wait to see her i'm going there around novembember..hopefully by then i'll hear some good news from VSC.

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

Everytime I talk to my wife we start a normal conversaion, few minutes pass by and I already know what questiong she's going to ask me. "When are you coming"? It's been almost a year since i've last saw her. It's hard for both of us but even harder for her, cant wait to see her i'm going there around novembember..hopefully by then i'll hear some good news from VSC.

Whenever we are talking, we would usually start with a "how are you?" question. We are trying to make every conversation as normal and happy as possible but we cannot avoid being sad. As much as we are trying to, we could not avoid the "I want to be with you", "I miss you so much" and "I wish we were together" part.

[Shpat_Argjira 0]

Everytime I talk to my wife we start a normal conversaion, few minutes pass by and I already know what questiong she's going to ask me. "When are you coming"? It's been almost a year since i've last saw her. It's hard for both of us but even harder for her, cant wait to see her i'm going there around novembember..hopefully by then i'll hear some good news from VSC.

Whenever we are talking, we would usually start with a "how are you?" question. We are trying to make every conversation as normal and happy as possible but we cannot avoid being sad. As much as we are trying to, we could not avoid the "I want to be with you", "I miss you so much" and "I wish we were together" part.

Being so far away is such a big problem, and since I talk to her more online than on the phone sometimes you even run out of things to say. It'd be so much easier if my wife was close to me, cant wait for her to get here we're going all over the United States ahhaha.

New York first...I love New York.

Edited August 5, 2008 by Shpat

[whisper2me 0]

Ok, here come my sentimental but true thoughts....

I really don't think many couples' relationship can survive this kind of separation - it simply isn't natural to love someone so deeply and not be able to express it fully. Something has to give. There may seem like a lot of us in here but we are the minority and we may think we have it hard right now - and in reality we really do, this #### is painful!

BUT...

Our marriages and relationships have something others in "normal" or "regular" relationships will never have. It takes a special kind of extra "something" to make it through this process, as we all rely on extremely innovative communication through a phone line and infrequent visits. I doubt anyone who has gone through this madness will ever take their spouse for granted once they are together, simply because of what we have to go through to be together.

Honestly, as much as I want to rebel against this prccess, it has also become a testimony of my love, trust, level of committment and PATIENCE!

[MrsRowe 2]

It's been over a year since i saw my husband. I didn't plan to go home because i thought he would be here by now. The bad thing is that it costs so much just for the plane ticket for me and my daughter that i am planning to go home now but i cannot go until next year, February the earliest. It is difficult to talk to my husband and not be able to see his face. Sometimes i sit down and remember some of the mundane things he does and i find myself wishing i could see him do those things again. Stupid things like the way he sits down or the way he eats. The annoying way in which he pulls his teeth after he finishes eating and i always get him a toothpick cause it annoys the heck out of me. I call him everymorning to wish him a good day but i cannot kiss him as he leaves the house to go to work. I too am not saying that the fiance visa is less important but it seems to me that people that are already married should be allowed to have their spouses here too. It is not fair to treat us this way. A lot of us have children together, those children are growing up with only one parent. It is not fair to them either. There are so many parents that dont want to be a part of their children's lives and our spouses do but they have to settle for hearing their voices on the phone and seeing them for short visits. Its just not right.

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

Ok, here come my sentimental but true thoughts....

I really don't think many couples' relationship can survive this kind of separation - it simply isn't natural to love someone so deeply and not be able to express it fully. Something has to give. There may seem like a lot of us in here but we are the minority and we may think we have it hard right now - and in reality we really do, this #### is painful!

BUT...

Our marriages and relationships have something others in "normal" or "regular" relationships will never have. It takes a special kind of extra "something" to make it through this process, as we all rely on extremely innovative communication through a phone line and infrequent visits. I doubt anyone who has gone through this madness will ever take their spouse for granted once they are together, simply because of what we have to go through to be together.

Honestly, as much as I want to rebel against this prccess, it has also become a testimony of my love, trust, level of committment and PATIENCE!

I know that this pain in the a$$ process could test how strong our relationship is...

It's been over a year since i saw my husband. I didn't plan to go home because i thought he would be here by now. The bad thing is that it costs so much just for the plane ticket for me and my daughter that i am planning to go home now but i cannot go until next year, February the earliest. It is difficult to talk to my husband and not be able to see his face. Sometimes i sit down and remember some of the mundane things he does and i find myself wishing i could see him do those things again. Stupid things like the way he sits down or the way he eats. The annoying way in which he pulls his teeth after he finishes eating and i always get him a toothpick cause it annoys the heck out of me. I call him everymorning to wish him a good day but i cannot kiss him as he leaves the house to go to work. I too am not saying that the fiance visa is less important but it seems to me that people that are already married should be allowed to have their spouses here too. It is not fair to treat us this way. A lot of us have children together, those children are growing up with only one parent. It is not fair to them either. There are so many parents that dont want to be a part of their children's lives and our spouses do but they have to settle for hearing their voices on the phone and seeing them for short visits. Its just not right.

I do agree.. This is not right..