Did your MENA man want to move

[nunyab 0]

I am asking this question cause after talking to another VJ friend it appears there may be a trend toward MENA men after arrival like a place of their choosing. Anyone else experience that yet? Mine just told me that when he get's here we'll find someplace comfortable...... What?? I am comfortable???

lol... but I am cool with it.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Mine wants to move to NYC like that's the only place one can find oppurtunity in the US? Well see.

[nunyab 0]

Mine wants to move to NYC like that's the only place one can find oppurtunity in the US? Well see.

lol... when mine suggested Texas I about spit out my coffee.... no offense Texans but I am a NW girl

[Nothing1234 2]

I am asking this question cause after talking to another VJ friend it appears there may be a trend toward MENA men after arrival like a place of their choosing. Anyone else experience that yet? Mine just told me that when he get's here we'll find someplace comfortable...... What?? I am comfortable???

lol... but I am cool with it.

Yes, he is dying to leave "BORING" Arizona. We plan on moving back home (for me) to NJ or NYC as soon as we can... I can't wait either. It's hard for him here since its so much slower and no where near what Cairo is like...at least NYC any where on the East Coast will offer him more work wise and acitivties as well. But his line of work he's much better off near large cities and the larger Arts areas.

Where does he think would be comfortable? Does he live in a big city?

[caybee 21]

Mine definitely wanted to move to NYC in the beginning, although we haven't been there yet even for a visit. He'd heard about all kinds of opportunities there, probably some exaggeration. Now he knows a guy who has moved there and knows how much he's struggling, how high the cost of living is, how tiny his apartment is and how he has to share with a bunch of other guys, so he still wants to visit there but isn't talking about moving. We live in the capital of SC, so it's a reasonably sized city, good climate (except for the wearable air at this time of year) and he's pretty happy here now, especially when he sees that the cost of gas and other things is fairly low compared to the rest of the country. Sometimes he does get bored, but he's not one for clubs and constant activity. As long as we can get to the lake or the beach within a couple of hours and he can find folks for pick-up soccer, he's cool. We have thought about moving closer to the ocean one day. We've made day trips down to Charleston, SC, and we both like it there. We'll probably move a little outside of Columbia within a few months to be closer to his job and mine, and by doing so, we should be able to rent a slightly larger place. The important thing to him now is to have a usable spare bedroom for the computers and, we hope, a guest room for one or both of his parents one day.

[tenderheartusa79 14]

Mine wants to move to NYC like that's the only place one can find oppurtunity in the US? Well see.

yeah the same here i want to move to NYC but my fiancee doesn't like that idea so i have to respect the lady !!!!!!

[Nothing1234 2]

Mine wants to move to NYC like that's the only place one can find oppurtunity in the US? Well see.

yeah the same here i want to move to NYC but my fiancee doesn't like that idea so i have to respect the lady !!!!!!

Good for you Tender My hubby is patient but we both share the same "want" to move...I miss being home there a lot. NYC is expensive but there is NOTHING like it It's an amazing place!

[tenderheartusa79 14]

Mine wants to move to NYC like that's the only place one can find oppurtunity in the US? Well see.

yeah the same here i want to move to NYC but my fiancee doesn't like that idea so i have to respect the lady !!!!!!

Good for you Tender My hubby is patient but we both share the same "want" to move...I miss being home there a lot. NYC is expensive but there is NOTHING like it It's an amazing place!

i really would like to move to NYC or to NJ cause ihave so many friends there (Egyptian friends / American Egyptian) but fiancee doesn't like the big cites . and i dunno how i will deal in country side ?!!!!!i live in alex which is big city but i think i will find a way to deal . hopefully

[ohiobuck 0]

When my husband had to start making some trips for work into NYC he soon told me he understood why I had told him why I would never live there. He said it's expensive, dirty, dirty, dirty......

No offense New Yorkers, but that was my husbands thoughts about NYC.

But when he first arrived, he acted like he would love to move to someplace cooler to live and Texas was one of those spots. But he seems happy now living in Ohio, since he appreciates being able to live in a lower cost area, which means living better than other places will allow. Plus he's lucky to be able to travel and see the other so called places and still come home to me in Ohio. Plus he likes for us to be living near my Mother. He likes that we can be near her and keep an eye out on her so with time he came around to thinking Ohio wasn't too bad to live on his own.

Paula

[Nothing1234 2]

Mine wants to move to NYC like that's the only place one can find oppurtunity in the US? Well see.

yeah the same here i want to move to NYC but my fiancee doesn't like that idea so i have to respect the lady !!!!!!

Good for you Tender My hubby is patient but we both share the same "want" to move...I miss being home there a lot. NYC is expensive but there is NOTHING like it It's an amazing place!

i really would like to move to NYC or to NJ cause ihave so many friends there (Egyptian friends / American Egyptian) but fiancee doesn't like the big cites . and i dunno how i will deal in country side ?!!!!!i live in alex which is big city but i think i will find a way to deal . hopefully

You'll be fine! Just takes time getting used to and making friends. Where will you live? I love Alex!!!

When my husband had to start making some trips for work into NYC he soon told me he understood why I had told him why I would never live there. He said it's expensive, dirty, dirty, dirty......

No offense New Yorkers, but that was my husbands thoughts about NYC.

But when he first arrived, he acted like he would love to move to someplace cooler to live and Texas was one of those spots. But he seems happy now living in Ohio, since he appreciates being able to live in a lower cost area, which means living better than other places will allow. Plus he's lucky to be able to travel and see the other so called places and still come home to me in Ohio. Plus he likes for us to be living near my Mother. He likes that we can be near her and keep an eye out on her so with time he came around to thinking Ohio wasn't too bad to live on his own.

Paula

Dirty?!! And he's from Morocco? LMAO That's hysterical.

[tenderheartusa79 14]

Mine wants to move to NYC like that's the only place one can find oppurtunity in the US? Well see.

yeah the same here i want to move to NYC but my fiancee doesn't like that idea so i have to respect the lady !!!!!!

Good for you Tender My hubby is patient but we both share the same "want" to move...I miss being home there a lot. NYC is expensive but there is NOTHING like it It's an amazing place!

i really would like to move to NYC or to NJ cause ihave so many friends there (Egyptian friends / American Egyptian) but fiancee doesn't like the big cites . and i dunno how i will deal in country side ?!!!!!i live in alex which is big city but i think i will find a way to deal . hopefully

You'll be fine! Just takes time getting used to and making friends. Where will you live? I love Alex!!!

When my husband had to start making some trips for work into NYC he soon told me he understood why I had told him why I would never live there. He said it's expensive, dirty, dirty, dirty......

No offense New Yorkers, but that was my husbands thoughts about NYC.

But when he first arrived, he acted like he would love to move to someplace cooler to live and Texas was one of those spots. But he seems happy now living in Ohio, since he appreciates being able to live in a lower cost area, which means living better than other places will allow. Plus he's lucky to be able to travel and see the other so called places and still come home to me in Ohio. Plus he likes for us to be living near my Mother. He likes that we can be near her and keep an eye out on her so with time he came around to thinking Ohio wasn't too bad to live on his own.

Paula

Dirty?!! And he's from Morocco? LMAO That's hysterical.

i will live in Granite falls /NC . where do you live in the US?

Edited August 3, 2008 by tenderheart197900

[Nothing1234 2]

When my husband had to start making some trips for work into NYC he soon told me he understood why I had told him why I would never live there. He said it's expensive, dirty, dirty, dirty......

No offense New Yorkers, but that was my husbands thoughts about NYC.

But when he first arrived, he acted like he would love to move to someplace cooler to live and Texas was one of those spots. But he seems happy now living in Ohio, since he appreciates being able to live in a lower cost area, which means living better than other places will allow. Plus he's lucky to be able to travel and see the other so called places and still come home to me in Ohio. Plus he likes for us to be living near my Mother. He likes that we can be near her and keep an eye out on her so with time he came around to thinking Ohio wasn't too bad to live on his own.

Paula

However, I do understand lack of knowledge of NYC when someone is not from there. Especially if you are only visiting on trips from work or do not know the "local" places or have family/friends that truly know the area. My experience has been that most folks from smaller areas in the US are intimidated by larger cities. I do agree though life is cheaper other places! That is a definate plus but the other side of the coin....I'm a city girl and need the 24/7 access and activity.

Mine wants to move to NYC like that's the only place one can find oppurtunity in the US? Well see.

yeah the same here i want to move to NYC but my fiancee doesn't like that idea so i have to respect the lady !!!!!!

Good for you Tender My hubby is patient but we both share the same "want" to move...I miss being home there a lot. NYC is expensive but there is NOTHING like it It's an amazing place!

i really would like to move to NYC or to NJ cause ihave so many friends there (Egyptian friends / American Egyptian) but fiancee doesn't like the big cites . and i dunno how i will deal in country side ?!!!!!i live in alex which is big city but i think i will find a way to deal . hopefully

You'll be fine! Just takes time getting used to and making friends. Where will you live? I love Alex!!!

When my husband had to start making some trips for work into NYC he soon told me he understood why I had told him why I would never live there. He said it's expensive, dirty, dirty, dirty......

No offense New Yorkers, but that was my husbands thoughts about NYC.

But when he first arrived, he acted like he would love to move to someplace cooler to live and Texas was one of those spots. But he seems happy now living in Ohio, since he appreciates being able to live in a lower cost area, which means living better than other places will allow. Plus he's lucky to be able to travel and see the other so called places and still come home to me in Ohio. Plus he likes for us to be living near my Mother. He likes that we can be near her and keep an eye out on her so with time he came around to thinking Ohio wasn't too bad to live on his own.

Paula

Dirty?!! And he's from Morocco? LMAO That's hysterical.

i will live in Granite falls /NC . where do you live in the US?

We are in Phoenix, AZ for now. North Carolina is beautiful! I went to university there!! Wingate Univesity...I loved it sooo much! The people are amazing and friendly.

[mahboula 11]

My fiance wants to move and he's not even here yet. When I first moved to Florida about a year and a half ago I swear he had a month long panic attack. He kept talking about the hurricanes and tornadoes, and to this day still asks me to move back up north.

[MrsAmera 41]

Nawal - It's really hard to live in the city with kids. (but it's has some good things too) We moved from semi-rural WI to Washington DC a little over a year ago. When my husband came we were in WI and his brother was living in NYC with his wife. We went to visit New York and liked it and we also started looking for jobs in other locations in bigger cities (we weren't set on the East Coast but somewhere bigger). I got a job in DC and so we moved out here - whew it was a shock on the pocket book and definetely has tradeoffs. Of course my husband didn't like WI he wanted the big city and the big money. But now that we live in the "big" city there isn't so much "big" money becasue the cost of living is so different. We were paying about $1800 (with utilities etc) for a 2 bedroom apartment outside DC. In WI we paid $600 a month for a 3 bedroom HOUSE. Yes we both make more money but it takes a lot more to get by. It's harder for me to trust people here especially with the kids and even daycare/preschools are astronomical (if you can even get in) in comparison to what there was in WI. I do love that there is so much diversity. My kids are getting used to and see it as normal to have diversity all around them (people, food, activities etc). There are lots of opportunities for jobs, school, and free time but it also comes down to the money issue. I think if your SO has marketable skills and would be able to get at least a mid-level position then it will work fine. If they are going to be working in basic jobs - $10-12 an hr is about what they'll get and that goes nowhere here. (My husband makes $12 and if it weren't for my job he couldn't even pay for our rent).

Now that we've been here awhile he'll ask occassionally "Do you miss WI?" and I'll say yes because of course that's where my family is and I grew up. He talks about missing it too and the community we had there, how much more friendly the people were and being able to get away from people and the city easily. I don't think we'll move back there anytime soon (although who knows). I think that no matter where we are there will always be a longing for another place, I realized awhile ago that neither one of us will ever be home. If we live here, his home in his mind is in Morocco and vice versa. So at least this way we have depended on each other and both been as homesick!!

Edited August 3, 2008 by MrsAmera

[SaadBell 0]

My husband lived in New York city and so he loves it there, I have lived there too, but to be honest I love the country. We both love the mountains so maybe somewhere like Lake Tahoe. Just as long as I have my cable and computer I am good as gold.