UPDATE

[camifree 2]

First of all, thanks to all for your comments, suggestions, and constructive criticism. Moral support does not mean to approve everything one's decide, but also to offer different perspectives. So this is an update of what's happened lately:

I left our home in May 18 after a very agressive reaction on his part when I communicated him my wish of getting separated. I got scared; although he did not hurt me physically, his violent outburst put me in extreme distress. I am living with a very good female friend since then, she's an attorney and she's been giving me a lot of legal advice about all this. This was not a decision I made over night... it has been more than two years of unhappiness, stress and the illnesses caused by them (vertigo, dizziness, weight gain, depression, etc, etc, etc). I even have medical records that support this last issue.

I did not leave the state; I took that advice into account. But I moved out of the city. And I am actually very satisfied with my life right now. I feel healthier, stronger, with more energy and a much more positive attitude towards life and everyday problems (that everyone has). I have new friends (my social life got actually activated, and I am not talking about dating, just very good friends), I have lost weight, my skin, hair and eyes have the glow they used to have. Even my dog is not getting sick anymore, she's very happy where we are right now. I am looking for a new job related to what I used to do before coming to the USA, and I am filing for the removal of my conditions with the truth in front of everything.

If anyone goes through something like this, please know that it is totally possible to deal with it emotionally and psychologically. I did love him... madly enough to compromise EVERYTHING for him... it did not work... but life HAS to go on.

I am going to do whatever is in my hands to get through this process in the most honest and transparent way possible. I ask God everyday to give me the strength to change what I can change, the humbleness to accept what I can't change and the wisdom to see the difference. And I am in His hands, so nothing bad can happen to me.

I wish my spouse the best. I hold no grudge against him. I have washed away a lot of anger, so I feel emotionally free. Loving and hating, both can make you slaves. I want to be free.

Thanks again, and as usual: suggestions and constructive criticism are always welcome.

All the best to all of you,

C.

[Carlawarla 1]

Thanks so much for getting back to us and updating! It sounds like you did the right thing, and you're emotionally, and physically better for it. I wish you continued happiness and peace.

[Rob & Ana 0]

Glad to hear that you are doing good! I admire your strength in taking that decision, and the strenght in deciding that this was not the end of your life, but more like a new beginning. Life is what we make of it, and although I dont want to say it was a mistake to get married and come over here, it was just a lesson in life that you probably needed to go through.

Girl power to you and all the happiness in the world that you deserve!

Love ya lil' sis!

[Yiyi and Chris 0]

YOUR HAPPINESS IS BEFORE ANYTHING... IT'S GREAT TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE OUT OF DEPRESSION AND FEELING BETTER THAN EVER!!!!

[Vi Mazzella 4]

I'm glad you are happy, I said this before YOU ARE MY HEROE!

Muchos carinos y la mejor de las vibras

Vi Mazzella

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

It is a good thing that you are better now. Life has ups and downs. You had your share and I believe that what happened could make you a better person. I wish you all the best. May GOD be with you always. Goodluck!