teen who eats 13,000 calories a day!

[Emancipation 2]

oh, and her dad died when she was 5....hardly yesterday...

Did your dad die? Cause I'd like you to say that from the perspective of someone who's experienced death of a father at an early age.

I lost my father at 18, and I can say I still deal with his loss each and every day. I can see how that could affect someone's addition whatever form it might take.

You can't replace a relationship like that and I can only imagine how much harder it would be to lose someone at 5. Think before you spew my friend.

[Mina76 0]

I know it's partly my fault. But it's so hard to stop eating.

'partly' gimme a fcukin break!

oh, and her dad died when she was 5....hardly yesterday...

and her mom is fat too *big shock*

Traumas can last years though - especially if a$hole school bullies rub it in any chance they get.

I would imagine this is a compulsive eating disorder along the lines of anorexia or bulimia. People like that need psychiatric help - not "personal responsibility" condemnation,

My exact sentiments.

[Minya's wife 25]

Yes, but why? However, sure, throw the book at them, that'll help everyone.

We take away children from other types of abusive parents. Child neglect is the most prevalent form of abuse. Taking her away from her mother until her mother can actually take of the child is putting the child's best interest first, IMO.

Don't turn into yet another one of the 'judge people without knowing all the facts' posters. There area already enough of those.

My bet is that this family are finacially insecure, that the mother probably has psychological issues as well as the daughter and that they can't afford to go and get treated. We accept alcoholics, bulimics, drug adicts and the like as ill, while the morbidly obese are simply labeled as weak willed or lazy.

The family needs to be treated as a unit in my opinion, but money and programs to treat families together doesn't appear to be forthcoming so some members of society are left to suck it up and bear the brunt of the ugly side of people's intollerance.

Why is it more difficult to recognize overeating as an addiction, an illness? Anorexia and bulimia are recognized as such, but as PH aptly stated, there is a condemnation of the morbidly obese as lazy, unable to master their urges (weak willed). IMO it stems from the same underlying problem as any addiction....and once addicted it is more or less difficult to give that up, depending on the "drug".

The article describes that the mother is also struggling w/ a weight issue, but has managed to loose weight, the difficulty this girl is experiencing that the "the NHS has ruled that the size 38 teenager is too young for gastric band surgery, slimming pills or gym membership". I read that to say that attempts have been made to slim this girl down, its just that the system is limiting...I mean ####### is the problem with allowing a 15 year old a gym membership, or a medically supervised weight loss regimen supplemented by pills to help her lose the weight. Maybe she's too young for gastric bypass, but not the pills or gym regimen. Given that, I think its good if she goes to the weight loss camp....at least they will teach her to re-think her food choices. She's young enough so that with appropriate help she can lose the weight and keep it off if her addiction to overeating can be controlled and her mentality(re food) is reconditioned.

-P

[HannahP 119]

These weight loss camps tend not to work. The kid slims down a bit, learns that healthy foods don't taste nearly as good as french fries and hamburgers...and then they get dumped back into the same environment that enabled their eating habits and psychological problems to begin with. Same reason that inpatient/residential/rehab programs for anorexics/bulimics/drug addicts have such dismal relapse rates.

[Trumplestiltskin 5,791]

I know it's partly my fault. But it's so hard to stop eating.

'partly' gimme a fcukin break!

oh, and her dad died when she was 5....hardly yesterday...

and her mom is fat too *big shock*

Traumas can last years though - especially if a$hole school bullies rub it in any chance they get.

I would imagine this is a compulsive eating disorder along the lines of anorexia or bulimia. People like that need psychiatric help - not "personal responsibility" condemnation,

My exact sentiments.

Also at some point don't people with these disorders realise (either through therapy or having some sort of major physical breakdown) that the only person how can get them out of their situation is them. Presumably this girl isn't there yet.

[Fandango 1,439]

oh, and her dad died when she was 5....hardly yesterday...

Did your dad die? Cause I'd like you to say that from the perspective of someone who's experienced death of a father at an early age.

I lost my father at 18, and I can say I still deal with his loss each and every day. I can see how that could affect someone's addition whatever form it might take.

You can't replace a relationship like that and I can only imagine how much harder it would be to lose someone at 5. Think before you spew my friend.

I had several very close family members deaths when I was a child....so yes, I sadly know heart wrenching tragedy. I also am still grieving my beloved grandmother who was like a mother to me...she's been gone 10 years last month and not a day goes by that I don't ache in my heart from her absence.

I don't use that as an excuse to balloon to 400+ pounds...

I know my comment seemed heartless, but I am oh so sick of people giving excuses as if that justifies the behavior. Traumas CAN last years...but last I checked, you can reach out for psychological help in the UK for free...not eat yourself into an early grave all the while saying 'oh but this is cos my dad died 10 years ago'

You don't have to like what I say, but respect my right to say it, my friend....

Edited August 3, 2008 by Happy Bunny

[Marilyn. 340]

people handle grief in different ways..

emotional eating is a real thing...

[eric&gen 0]

Damn She needs a crane to be lifted out her house then the crane might tilt. I do not feel sorry for these type of people.

[MrsCat 6]

Damn She needs a crane to be lifted out her house then the crane might tilt. I do not feel sorry for these type of people.

What type are you referring to Eric? Obese, children, emotionally challenged, over-eaters, enablers, people who lost their fathers? All of the above? Just wanted to know what type you object to.

[Asante Maroon 0]

Very sad

[Fandango 1,439]

people handle grief in different ways..

emotional eating is a real thing...

at 15 and under (let's face it, she didn't get this way overnight)...her mother had a DUTY to get her the help she needed.

IF it's an addiction like cocaine, etc...then saying 'oh I'm a crack addict because my dad died 10 years ago' doesn't make it any better...

[HannahP 119]

I know my comment seemed heartless, but I am oh so sick of people giving excuses as if that justifies the behavior. Traumas CAN last years...but last I checked, you can reach out for psychological help in the UK for free...not eat yourself into an early grave all the while saying 'oh but this is cos my dad died 10 years ago'

Oh, shut up. Number one: you can't always get psych help in the UK "for free." It goes to the people who need it the most, a la socialized healthcare, and if they decide that she does not need it the most, then she won't get help. This is especially true of eating disorder treatment.

Sometimes, the help that you get doesn't work. Psychiatric treatment is not a "one size fits all" agenda. "Getting help" does not immediately equal getting better. Because it's not as simple as a shot or a pill that you have to take.

Not all people respond to trauma in the same manner. On the flip side, maybe you're a heartless douchebag for not responding traumatically to your grandmother's death.

[Fandango 1,439]

I know my comment seemed heartless, but I am oh so sick of people giving excuses as if that justifies the behavior. Traumas CAN last years...but last I checked, you can reach out for psychological help in the UK for free...not eat yourself into an early grave all the while saying 'oh but this is cos my dad died 10 years ago'

Oh, shut up. Number one: you can't always get psych help in the UK "for free." It goes to the people who need it the most, a la socialized healthcare, and if they decide that she does not need it the most, then she won't get help. This is especially true of eating disorder treatment.

Sometimes, the help that you get doesn't work. Psychiatric treatment is not a "one size fits all" agenda. "Getting help" does not immediately equal getting better. Because it's not as simple as a shot or a pill that you have to take.

Not all people respond to trauma in the same manner. On the flip side, maybe you're a heartless douchebag for not responding traumatically to your grandmother's death.

crazy, much?

have a twinkie, you'll feel better Hannah...

and yeah, you can at the very least get a mental health nurse to talk to. so bite it.

the twinkie, that is!

[HannahP 119]

I know my comment seemed heartless, but I am oh so sick of people giving excuses as if that justifies the behavior. Traumas CAN last years...but last I checked, you can reach out for psychological help in the UK for free...not eat yourself into an early grave all the while saying 'oh but this is cos my dad died 10 years ago'

Oh, shut up. Number one: you can't always get psych help in the UK "for free." It goes to the people who need it the most, a la socialized healthcare, and if they decide that she does not need it the most, then she won't get help. This is especially true of eating disorder treatment.

Sometimes, the help that you get doesn't work. Psychiatric treatment is not a "one size fits all" agenda. "Getting help" does not immediately equal getting better. Because it's not as simple as a shot or a pill that you have to take.

Not all people respond to trauma in the same manner. On the flip side, maybe you're a heartless douchebag for not responding traumatically to your grandmother's death.

crazy, much?

have a twinkie, you'll feel better Hannah...

and yeah, you can at the very least get a mental health nurse to talk to. so bite it.

the twinkie, that is!

Sometimes "the very least" isn't enough.

[Fandango 1,439]

I know my comment seemed heartless, but I am oh so sick of people giving excuses as if that justifies the behavior. Traumas CAN last years...but last I checked, you can reach out for psychological help in the UK for free...not eat yourself into an early grave all the while saying 'oh but this is cos my dad died 10 years ago'

Oh, shut up. Number one: you can't always get psych help in the UK "for free." It goes to the people who need it the most, a la socialized healthcare, and if they decide that she does not need it the most, then she won't get help. This is especially true of eating disorder treatment.

Sometimes, the help that you get doesn't work. Psychiatric treatment is not a "one size fits all" agenda. "Getting help" does not immediately equal getting better. Because it's not as simple as a shot or a pill that you have to take.

Not all people respond to trauma in the same manner. On the flip side, maybe you're a heartless douchebag for not responding traumatically to your grandmother's death.

crazy, much?

have a twinkie, you'll feel better Hannah...

and yeah, you can at the very least get a mental health nurse to talk to. so bite it.

the twinkie, that is!

Sometimes "the very least" isn't enough.

and other times, it is. Do you know the ins and outs of this girl's situation? No you don't. Obviously this touched a nerve, and that was unintended...but there's something severely wrong with a 15 year old kid who's 33 stone whose mom was 31 stone. A dead parent doesn't justify that no matter which way you cut it.

As for my grandmother, you have no fcuking clue so how dare you call me a heartless douchebag you ill mannered pig.

Go project your issues on someone else.