honest question

[papichulo 0]

your wife is filipina???

yes! beautiful Filipina she is!!

[Laura+Tom 2]

By telling your wife you 'want a blow' will not really help. I can guarantee she won't be amused.

[macutelit 0]

are you MARIO in person the other side of MARIA?

[Sinergy 3]

By telling your wife you 'want a blow' will not really help. I can guarantee she won't be amused.

I wouldnt be so sure!

[filirican 3]

Well, you need to be very honest with your wife! you see, there are a lot of Filipinas who are not really exposed to the way the world is but if you make her understand things might be you can make a difference..all it takes is a good communication! good luck

[Peikko 1,575]

If you and your wife are having problems communitcating in this area, seek professional help.

Just as an aside, why are you flying the Afghan flag? I imagine it's some misunderstaning of how the flag system works, but it does look wierd.

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

wow! hopefully she would do it! thank u! i know i sound dumb! but that's every man's fantasy wouldn't u think so???

It's not everyone's. Anyway if my OH asked me to 'give him a blow' I'd tell him where to stick it. And it's not where you think.

oh ic! so there are still women out here who don't do it! i thought everyone is doing it except my wife! poor me!

Yes.. Poor you... You are so pathetic asking about sex and broadcasting your sex life in public. Are you a man or what??? I pity your wife for having such a locquacious husband.

[DeadPoolX 9]

i know i would sound ignorant but im a newbie here and i want to hear honet opinions...my wife is super nice pretty and young and she's also very conservative came from a good family...was wondering she is too quiet about sex..i want to really talk to her about anything and teach her every mans dreams and fantasy i want this relationship to work...any advice??

thank u so much i really appreciate it..

i love this site! i have learned a lot and iam planning on petitioning my wife ASAP!

My advice is to take it nice and slow and work with her on what you both might like. Don't push her into anything she doesn't want to do and refrain making her feel guilty. She may take some time to become more sexually adventurous, but it should be worth it.

A few notes...

1. Do not have children anytime soon. Anytime a child is born, the overall level of sex between a couple takes an immediate dive (and so does marital happiness for a small amount of time). You're going to want time with your wife, especially if you intend on exploring sexual fantasies. That's often difficult to do if at least one of you is tired from waking up in the middle of the night to feed and/or change diapers due to a crying infant.

2. Pornography isn't the best teacher here. Porn is a fantasy world and going from a very conservative household/mindset to the porn industry's idea of sex might be a little shocking. At the very least, she may not appreciate the situations women find themselves in with many porn movies. Grossing her out or getting her annoyed will not, in any way possible, be conducive to sex.

3. Show affection and lots of it. Women, far more often than men, need non-sexual affection. Women like to hug -- they'll hug their friends, their family, children, pets, whatever. If anytime she hugs you or is merely looking to be held, you immediately want to "hop into the sack" with her, she'll rapidly get annoyed and soon believe that "all you care about is sex." Even if that's true, you don't want to appear that way.

4. Try pleasing her first in bed. You may already do this, but if she's already worked up due to whatever you've done (and possibly had an orgasm), she'll be for more receptive to what you want to do.

5. If she's doing the majority of the housework (or perhaps, all of it), then take some of the burden off her shoulders. You can't reasonably expect her to be "in the mood" after she's been cleaning, doing laundry, cooking and grocery shopping all day. This also assumes you two are childless. If you have kids and she's the primary caregiver, that adds even more work. So doing some of the work for her, take her out to eat somewhere nice (it doesn't need to be a 5-star restaurant but it shouldn't be IHOP either) and make sure she has some time to herself as well.

6. If you're thinking about giving gifts, I wouldn't recommend it; at least, not as a way to spark interest in your sexual fantasies. Most women worth being with can't be "bought" in such a manner. That doesn't mean they don't appreciate presents given to them, but handing them a necklace probably won't turn her into porn star.

In addition to that, if you decide to get her something she wears... don't. I mean that, just don't. Female sizing is all over the map. She might be a size "6" by one designer and a size "10" with another. You never know (and neither does she) without trying the article of clothing on. This also holds true for lingerie, which by the way, many women actually find fairly uncomfortable and only wear because men like it. How often to women actually go to bed in a corset, a garter belt and stockings if they're alone? Probably not too often.

The main point regarding clothing is that if it's the wrong size (or worse yet, her "normal size" but the designer of whatever you chose happens to run smaller than she's used to), she might get depressed, going so far as to think she may have gained weight. Believing she's put on a several pounds won't make her feel sexy and therefore, turn her off to sex. Oh and no... getting her something that runs larger won't do it either, since she'll know she doesn't fit into that size and might even get depressed over the fact she can't normally wear it. So it seems no matter what you do, you'll lose unless she chooses her own clothing.

[papichulo 0]

are you MARIO in person the other side of MARIA?

who is maria?

[pcana 1]

wow! hopefully she would do it! thank u! i know i sound dumb! but that's every man's fantasy wouldn't u think so???

It's not everyone's. Anyway if my OH asked me to 'give him a blow' I'd tell him where to stick it. And it's not where you think.

Really CLASSY!!! wow

[macutelit 0]

wow! hopefully she would do it! thank u! i know i sound dumb! but that's every man's fantasy wouldn't u think so???

It's not everyone's. Anyway if my OH asked me to 'give him a blow' I'd tell him where to stick it. And it's not where you think.

oh ic! so there are still women out here who don't do it! i thought everyone is doing it except my wife! poor me!

Yes.. Poor you... You are so pathetic asking about sex and broadcasting your sex life in public. Are you a man or what??? I pity your wife for having such a locquacious husband.

[papichulo 0]

If you and your wife are having problems communitcating in this area, seek professional help.

Just as an aside, why are you flying the Afghan flag? I imagine it's some misunderstaning of how the flag system works, but it does look wierd.

currently in Afghan. I will be coming to my wife for a visit soon but before that i wanted to ask for opinions on how im gonna face her

i know i would sound ignorant but im a newbie here and i want to hear honet opinions...my wife is super nice pretty and young and she's also very conservative came from a good family...was wondering she is too quiet about sex..i want to really talk to her about anything and teach her every mans dreams and fantasy i want this relationship to work...any advice??

thank u so much i really appreciate it..

i love this site! i have learned a lot and iam planning on petitioning my wife ASAP!

My advice is to take it nice and slow and work with her on what you both might like. Don't push her into anything she doesn't want to do and refrain making her feel guilty. She may take some time to become more sexually adventurous, but it should be worth it.

A few notes...

1. Do not have children anytime soon. Anytime a child is born, the overall level of sex between a couple takes an immediate dive (and so does marital happiness for a small amount of time). You're going to want time with your wife, especially if you intend on exploring sexual fantasies. That's often difficult to do if at least one of you is tired from waking up in the middle of the night to feed and/or change diapers due to a crying infant.

2. Pornography isn't the best teacher here. Porn is a fantasy world and going from a very conservative household/mindset to the porn industry's idea of sex might be a little shocking. At the very least, she may not appreciate the situations women find themselves in with many porn movies. Grossing her out or getting her annoyed will not, in any way possible, be conducive to sex.

3. Show affection and lots of it. Women, far more often than men, need non-sexual affection. Women like to hug -- they'll hug their friends, their family, children, pets, whatever. If anytime she hugs you or is merely looking to be held, you immediately want to "hop into the sack" with her, she'll rapidly get annoyed and soon believe that "all you care about is sex." Even if that's true, you don't want to appear that way.

4. Try pleasing her first in bed. You may already do this, but if she's already worked up due to whatever you've done (and possibly had an orgasm), she'll be for more receptive to what you want to do.

5. If she's doing the majority of the housework (or perhaps, all of it), then take some of the burden off her shoulders. You can't reasonably expect her to be "in the mood" after she's been cleaning, doing laundry, cooking and grocery shopping all day. This also assumes you two are childless. If you have kids and she's the primary caregiver, that adds even more work. So doing some of the work for her, take her out to eat somewhere nice (it doesn't need to be a 5-star restaurant but it shouldn't be IHOP either) and make sure she has some time to herself as well.

6. If you're thinking about giving gifts, I wouldn't recommend it; at least, not as a way to spark interest in your sexual fantasies. Most women worth being with can't be "bought" in such a manner. That doesn't mean they don't appreciate presents given to them, but handing them a necklace probably won't turn her into porn star.

In addition to that, if you decide to get her something she wears... don't. I mean that, just don't. Female sizing is all over the map. She might be a size "6" by one designer and a size "10" with another. You never know (and neither does she) without trying the article of clothing on. This also holds true for lingerie, which by the way, many women actually find fairly uncomfortable and only wear because men like it. How often to women actually go to bed in a corset, a garter belt and stockings if they're alone? Probably not too often.

The main point regarding clothing is that if it's the wrong size (or worse yet, her "normal size" but the designer of whatever you chose happens to run smaller than she's used to), she might get depressed, going so far as to think she may have gained weight. Believing she's put on a several pounds won't make her feel sexy and therefore, turn her off to sex. Oh and no... getting her something that runs larger won't do it either, since she'll know she doesn't fit into that size and might even get depressed over the fact she can't normally wear it. So it seems no matter what you do, you'll lose unless she chooses her own clothing.

wow! this is something! im gonna print it out so i wouln't miss a thing! thank u so much! good job!

wow! hopefully she would do it! thank u! i know i sound dumb! but that's every man's fantasy wouldn't u think so???

It's not everyone's. Anyway if my OH asked me to 'give him a blow' I'd tell him where to stick it. And it's not where you think.

oh ic! so there are still women out here who don't do it! i thought everyone is doing it except my wife! poor me!

Yes.. Poor you... You are so pathetic asking about sex and broadcasting your sex life in public. Are you a man or what??? I pity your wife for having such a locquacious husband.

read the whole thread before u make any comments ok?? thank u!

Well, you need to be very honest with your wife! you see, there are a lot of Filipinas who are not really exposed to the way the world is but if you make her understand things might be you can make a difference..all it takes is a good communication! good luck

thank u. i guess that's what i really need to do open up! thanks

[Ms. Squirrel 11]

He only asked a question. We don't know him or his wife, so I see no problem with his question.

Sex is a healthy thing and if he was a real d*ck, he would not try to have a talk with her about it, he would not seek advice - he'd just push her head down during a make out session. Give the guy a break.

[SteveLaura 0]

i guess that's what i really need to do open up!

Hi-hat, please.

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

If you and your wife are having problems communitcating in this area, seek professional help.

Just as an aside, why are you flying the Afghan flag? I imagine it's some misunderstaning of how the flag system works, but it does look wierd.

currently in Afghan. I will be coming to my wife for a visit soon but before that i wanted to ask for opinions on how im gonna face her

i know i would sound ignorant but im a newbie here and i want to hear honet opinions...my wife is super nice pretty and young and she's also very conservative came from a good family...was wondering she is too quiet about sex..i want to really talk to her about anything and teach her every mans dreams and fantasy i want this relationship to work...any advice??

thank u so much i really appreciate it..

i love this site! i have learned a lot and iam planning on petitioning my wife ASAP!

My advice is to take it nice and slow and work with her on what you both might like. Don't push her into anything she doesn't want to do and refrain making her feel guilty. She may take some time to become more sexually adventurous, but it should be worth it.

A few notes...

1. Do not have children anytime soon. Anytime a child is born, the overall level of sex between a couple takes an immediate dive (and so does marital happiness for a small amount of time). You're going to want time with your wife, especially if you intend on exploring sexual fantasies. That's often difficult to do if at least one of you is tired from waking up in the middle of the night to feed and/or change diapers due to a crying infant.

2. Pornography isn't the best teacher here. Porn is a fantasy world and going from a very conservative household/mindset to the porn industry's idea of sex might be a little shocking. At the very least, she may not appreciate the situations women find themselves in with many porn movies. Grossing her out or getting her annoyed will not, in any way possible, be conducive to sex.

3. Show affection and lots of it. Women, far more often than men, need non-sexual affection. Women like to hug -- they'll hug their friends, their family, children, pets, whatever. If anytime she hugs you or is merely looking to be held, you immediately want to "hop into the sack" with her, she'll rapidly get annoyed and soon believe that "all you care about is sex." Even if that's true, you don't want to appear that way.

4. Try pleasing her first in bed. You may already do this, but if she's already worked up due to whatever you've done (and possibly had an orgasm), she'll be for more receptive to what you want to do.

5. If she's doing the majority of the housework (or perhaps, all of it), then take some of the burden off her shoulders. You can't reasonably expect her to be "in the mood" after she's been cleaning, doing laundry, cooking and grocery shopping all day. This also assumes you two are childless. If you have kids and she's the primary caregiver, that adds even more work. So doing some of the work for her, take her out to eat somewhere nice (it doesn't need to be a 5-star restaurant but it shouldn't be IHOP either) and make sure she has some time to herself as well.

6. If you're thinking about giving gifts, I wouldn't recommend it; at least, not as a way to spark interest in your sexual fantasies. Most women worth being with can't be "bought" in such a manner. That doesn't mean they don't appreciate presents given to them, but handing them a necklace probably won't turn her into porn star.

In addition to that, if you decide to get her something she wears... don't. I mean that, just don't. Female sizing is all over the map. She might be a size "6" by one designer and a size "10" with another. You never know (and neither does she) without trying the article of clothing on. This also holds true for lingerie, which by the way, many women actually find fairly uncomfortable and only wear because men like it. How often to women actually go to bed in a corset, a garter belt and stockings if they're alone? Probably not too often.

The main point regarding clothing is that if it's the wrong size (or worse yet, her "normal size" but the designer of whatever you chose happens to run smaller than she's used to), she might get depressed, going so far as to think she may have gained weight. Believing she's put on a several pounds won't make her feel sexy and therefore, turn her off to sex. Oh and no... getting her something that runs larger won't do it either, since she'll know she doesn't fit into that size and might even get depressed over the fact she can't normally wear it. So it seems no matter what you do, you'll lose unless she chooses her own clothing.

wow! this is something! im gonna print it out so i wouln't miss a thing! thank u so much! good job!

wow! hopefully she would do it! thank u! i know i sound dumb! but that's every man's fantasy wouldn't u think so???

It's not everyone's. Anyway if my OH asked me to 'give him a blow' I'd tell him where to stick it. And it's not where you think.

oh ic! so there are still women out here who don't do it! i thought everyone is doing it except my wife! poor me!

Yes.. Poor you... You are so pathetic asking about sex and broadcasting your sex life in public. Are you a man or what??? I pity your wife for having such a locquacious husband.

read the whole thread before u make any comments ok?? thank u!

Well, you need to be very honest with your wife! you see, there are a lot of Filipinas who are not really exposed to the way the world is but if you make her understand things might be you can make a difference..all it takes is a good communication! good luck

thank u. i guess that's what i really need to do open up! thanks

I read it though... Hmmmm..... situation sounds familiar..