MENA CR1/K3/K1 filers

[100% Al Ahly Fan 53]

Welcome Tracee and yes it really stinks being away from your loved one....in two weeks I'll be goin' on 5 months not seeing my man At least we all have each other to support one another here on VJ. Awesome group of folks ya found here.

Amanda, I would have to agree with Lisa & Jackie. I don't see the point in telling your friend. When and if your friends finds out and askes why you didn't tell her about your sister, you could then explain that you didn't want it to hurt her. Personally, I could careless if my BFF's sister hooked up with my ex. I WOULD wonder why she would be so stupid considering how he is, but WHATEVER....that's her problem. <--Just thinking about my ex...BLECH! Anyhow, I'm sorry your family has to deal with this behavior from your sister. Especially since it effects your neice and mother. Just be there for them and pray. Hugs.

Edited August 25, 2009 by 100% Al Ahly Fan

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Amanda I've been in your position and I understand your conviction and I've done what you're thinking to do and I can tell you from experience time and time again don't do it. It's best to just stay out of these situations and play dumb. Seriously don't go looking for trouble because you really don't need the extra headache by getting yourself involved in something that really has nothing to do with you. You are not responsible for your sisters actions. On that note I also have someone in my family like your Sister and we all mutually agreed to divorce that person from our lives. They are on a separate path of hard knocks which they are going to have to learn for themselves the hard way and it's too emotionally exhausting to get wrapped up in their drama and their lives and keep helping them out even if they have a child that makes it all the more difficult, especially if the other parent is also a bad egg. I hope for your sake and the families sake she grows up soon and doesn't go where she is heading in the same direction as those she is hanging around with which is prison.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

On a more personal note I came to tell you all that if Waleed's approval is correct and he does get his passport back with the visa around Sept. 9th he's looking at coming the first week of October. However, there is more to the story and I have to go to class now so I'll come back later.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Wise words Olivia

Well, I hope he does get it in Sept!

[Siham 0]

what about me havent seen my husband since last summer !! our son was 10 months at that time , now he'll be 2 years on september 22 , and he still doesnt know his dad yet !! imagine that he calls his grand father(my father ) "dad"

i try to show him his daddy on webcam , talk with him on phone , but no result !!

we really miss each other A LOT !! sometimes i cry on phone !! its TOOO MUCH !!!

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Ok so the rest of the story...bleh.

Hubby's Sister who is also a Doctor having her Masters in Cardiology is going for her PhD in Baltimore at John Hopkins in the study of the electricity of the heart. She has two little girls Arwa who is 4 and Sara who is 2. Her program begins anytime she is ready to leave and at the latest October and it lasts for one year. Her Husband was there the year prior in Baltimore at John Hopkins finishing his PhD in Orthopedic Surgery. He's really a brilliant man. He showed me 15 cases he did and he's like a magician with his work. He's so talented that they were flying him all over the world to meet with and learn the latest techniques from the creators/inventors of them in Orthopedic Surgery on his fellowship. They have both been the biggest support on that side of the family for Waleed and I and have done so much for us.

The dilemma is Mahmoud is suing the University because they won't give him his appointment for his PhD dissertation since he has gotten back so that he can finish with them. Some of the professors are messing with him saying that by him getting the scholarship to go to the US for his PhD that the University gets him for a year or more of work afterwards which wasn't in the contract at all. It was such a big case that it was in all the non-governmental papers and interviews with him at his home on all the non-governmental television news stations before I left. The original plan was for Ghada to go with the two girls and Mahmoud would go with her taking care of the children but now with the lawsuit going on he may have to stay behind and we are unsure for how long leaving Ghada having to work on her PhD, lecture at her job at the University in Maryland and take care of two girl alone. Since she heard the news of Waleed getting his visa she has asked him to come help her with the girls until Mahmoud can get there.

Since I am in school and have a roommate situation Waleed and I were unsure how the roommate would react to the news of my Husband possibly coming to live with us and we'd already thought of him going to stay with his Sister to help her with his nieces. But now after talking with my roommate I already know she is completely fine with him coming to live with us so he can come with no problem. He's hung up about living with another girl that is a stranger and his Sister really does need help. I spoke with my Mom and best-friend about it and they both feel it would be weird that he gets his visa and goes to his Sisters instead of coming to his Wife. I feel weird about it too knowing now that he came come with no problem and stay with me and the roommate but at the same time I understand his Sister really needs his help right now. We are both also worry though about him telling her he would do this as it becomes an obligation with no ending period if Mahmoud can't come for sometime. He also can make the adjustment period with his Sister to our country in more familiar territory and have his period of culture shock a little easier and it would make it a little easier not having to worry about his adjustment period when he is here while I'm having classes and it's one less person to crowd the two bedroom apartment. He said he would have to talk to her to make sure he would come for the holidays so it could be as early as November and possibly as late as when I finish my last final in December.

But now what I am worried about is how this will affect the rest of our visa process if he is staying with his Sister when he gets here instead of with me who is the petitioner. Also Mom and I are on the line for him financially if anything happens so we're not there to guide him but he's a Doctor living with Doctors who are working with Doctors so I know he would be taken care of. His Sister had her youngest baby here and they were taken care of. Also maybe his Sister would encourage him to study for his USMLE since she's already taken the first two parts and give him some insights into what it's like to be an Egyptian working in America as a Doctor and give him some contacts he wouldn't have otherwise. That's how she got the lecturing job at the Medical University in Maryland because she already finished the first two steps of the USMLE with flying colors. However if he says for me to move to Baltimore after school well I've been to Baltimore and it's the last place I ever want to go back to in the U.S. It scared the hell out of me! Ann Arbor is nice but drive a block and you're in the projects and it's very frightening and shocking for me coming from living the last ten years in stability and security out West where we don't see that here. I wouldn't mind moving to Washington D.C. because I want to go to Georgetown for my Masters but I wouldn't move to Baltimore ever. I don't care if his Brother-in-Law and Sister are living and working there.

So that's my latest with what I am dealing with. There really isn't much I can do about it. I miss him so much and I've told him as much and the fantastic news that he can come stay with me no problem and I understand the situation if she really needs his help. At least we're on the same continent and can call each other anytime on our mobiles and it's only a few more months apart. My only real concern is how it affects the visa process and the next steps we must take.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Olivia,

It might have some very heavy costs when you guys go to adjust status on the K3(him not living with you right away). They want to see that you guys are living as a married couple and living in two seperate houses is going to look like real funny business to a CO doing the AOS.

I would really advise against it.

Is there a way for him to spend some time with his sis on and off? Like a couple weeks here and there? I dont think that would hurt you guys, as long as his residence was the same as yours.

sinad,

I know it is hard for you, especially with your son alone. You are almost at the end of this journey and god willing you'll all be together soon.

When you need to cry, vent, complain....you just come over here and we'll listen

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Ok Thanks Lisa. I told him what you advised and that's what I understood too. He doesn't really have a choice like we thought because crossing a continent back and forth every week is way too expensive for anyone to do. It's better to just pay for childcare.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Ok Thanks Lisa. I told him what you advised and that's what I understood too. He doesn't really have a choice like we thought because crossing a continent back and forth every week is way too expensive for anyone to do. It's better to just pay for childcare.

oh ya, i wasnt thinking that his sis is so far from you guys. duh, me

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Now lets see if he listens to anything I ever say. I swear to God sometimes it's so frustrating when you give the man information and he'd rather listen to his friend. If he'd just listen to me it would prevent and solve so many problems. You'd think I was telling him things for my own health and benefit? When I tell him anything it's usually important so I expect him to listen to me and even if I say it's important it still goes in one ear and out the other and doesn't guarantee he's going to listen to me. He's a man and they are going to do things their own damn way sometimes even if he tells me he listens to me and considers what I say. Bah!

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Now lets see if he listens to anything I ever say. I swear to God sometimes it's so frustrating when you give the man information and he'd rather listen to his friend. If he'd just listen to me it would prevent and solve so many problems. You'd think I was telling him things for my own health and benefit? When I tell him anything it's usually important so I expect him to listen to me and even if I say it's important it still goes in one ear and out the other and doesn't guarantee he's going to listen to me. He's a man and they are going to do things their own damn way sometimes even if he tells me he listens to me and considers what I say. Bah!

typical ....listen and then do whatever they think/want anyway

oops, im guilty of that sometimes too

[100% Al Ahly Fan 53]

Now lets see if he listens to anything I ever say. I swear to God sometimes it's so frustrating when you give the man information and he'd rather listen to his friend. If he'd just listen to me it would prevent and solve so many problems. You'd think I was telling him things for my own health and benefit? When I tell him anything it's usually important so I expect him to listen to me and even if I say it's important it still goes in one ear and out the other and doesn't guarantee he's going to listen to me. He's a man and they are going to do things their own damn way sometimes even if he tells me he listens to me and considers what I say. Bah!

I can soooooooo relate Oliva! Men....argh!

[Ayman and Yasmina 0]

When it comes to Egyptian men you have to make them think everything is there idea...Sometimes I will go oh honey remember when you sad you were gonna do so so (he never said anything), I will then continue with it was such a wonderful idea....as long as they think its their idea they wont feel emasculated!!

[Y's_habibitk 2]

When it comes to Egyptian men you have to make them think everything is there idea...Sometimes I will go oh honey remember when you sad you were gonna do so so (he never said anything), I will then continue with it was such a wonderful idea....as long as they think its their idea they wont feel emasculated!!

ha! I think that can work with anyone

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Beth,

How are you holding up hun? How many days has it been? I just saw someone released from NVC after 24 days!! thats good