Marriage not working out

[melancholy 0]

Hate to bother you good folks who have gone through this wonderful process, but I am just looking for some insight on options i have ( along with the consequences ). I have been marriged for a little over 1yr. my spouse already has received the green card. Our marriage is not going good and my spouse is asking for a divorce. What are the next steps, i imagine contacting USCIS and also getting divorced prior to my spouse returning back. I know I am responsible for my spouse while she stays here in the US. Well i thank you for your attention.

[Donna A 4]

she has her green card now...she wont be sent back so there is nothing you can do about it. lets just hope she dont become a public charge or their going to come after you for money.

[student4 0]

Hate to bother you good folks who have gone through this wonderful process, but I am just looking for some insight on options i have ( along with the consequences ). I have been marriged for a little over 1yr. my spouse already has received the green card. Our marriage is not going good and my spouse is asking for a divorce. What are the next steps, i imagine contacting USCIS and also getting divorced prior to my spouse returning back. I know I am responsible for my spouse while she stays here in the US. Well i thank you for your attention.

Such cases have become very common its unfortunate that this person used you in such a manner.

My friend recently underwent a painful split, an attorney advised him afterwards that:-

The rule of thumb pertaining to such circumstances is be wary of a fiance rushing the process of the relationship.

This rushing attitude is usually a display of desperation- not because of love but out of the possibility that they might loose an opportunity to get a green card.

Be very careful when the said fiance has no valid skills are they just doing nothing in life, are they ambitious or do not mind to marry anyone who will get them out of their present country? Chances are they are using you before they know their way around and dump you after they have leaned to adjust.

[Mononoke28 135]

Yeah, there is nothing you can do now and she will have her conditional green card for two years. Once her two years are up she will have to Remove Conditions on her own and they will grant her a 10 year green card if she can prove that she went into the marriage in good faith. If you feel this was not the case, you can interfere her process and show whatever evidence you may have. This might make a difference, otherwise she will get her final green card and stay here as long as she wants.

Diana

Edited July 25, 2008 by Mononoke28

[PlatyPius 5]

Hate to bother you good folks who have gone through this wonderful process, but I am just looking for some insight on options i have ( along with the consequences ). I have been marriged for a little over 1yr. my spouse already has received the green card. Our marriage is not going good and my spouse is asking for a divorce. What are the next steps, i imagine contacting USCIS and also getting divorced prior to my spouse returning back. I know I am responsible for my spouse while she stays here in the US. Well i thank you for your attention.

Such cases have become very common its unfortunate that this person used you in such a manner.

My friend recently underwent a painful split, an attorney advised him afterwards that:-

The rule of thumb pertaining to such circumstances is be wary of a fiance rushing the process of the relationship.

This rushing attitude is usually a display of desperation- not because of love but out of the possibility that they might loose an opportunity to get a green card.

Be very careful when the said fiance has no valid skills are they just doing nothing in life, are they ambitious or do not mind to marry anyone who will get them out of their present country? Chances are they are using you before they know their way around and dump you after they have leaned to adjust.

Nowhere in his post did the OP say he was used for a green card.

Nor did he say he wants to ship her back home; he stated her returning "home" as a matter of fact.

Reading comprehension, people....

[Minya's wife 25]

Hate to bother you good folks who have gone through this wonderful process, but I am just looking for some insight on options i have ( along with the consequences ). I have been marriged for a little over 1yr. my spouse already has received the green card. Our marriage is not going good and my spouse is asking for a divorce. What are the next steps, i imagine contacting USCIS and also getting divorced prior to my spouse returning back. I know I am responsible for my spouse while she stays here in the US. Well i thank you for your attention.

Such cases have become very common its unfortunate that this person used you in such a manner.

My friend recently underwent a painful split, an attorney advised him afterwards that:-

The rule of thumb pertaining to such circumstances is be wary of a fiance rushing the process of the relationship.

This rushing attitude is usually a display of desperation- not because of love but out of the possibility that they might loose an opportunity to get a green card.

Be very careful when the said fiance has no valid skills are they just doing nothing in life, are they ambitious or do not mind to marry anyone who will get them out of their present country? Chances are they are using you before they know their way around and dump you after they have leaned to adjust.

Nowhere in his post did the OP say he was used for a green card.

Nor did he say he wants to ship her back home; he stated her returning "home" as a matter of fact.

Reading comprehension, people....

^^^

[melancholy 0]

I never expected she would wish a divorce. We had our long distance relationship for 2 yrs prior to obtaining our K1. I must say I have tried everything to make this marriage work. My spouse just does not seem happy here and there is nothing I could do for that: sheis the only person who could wake up and decide to be happy. I honestly give everything I have within to me to make this work. I do not know where things went wrong. Every time there is an argument i try to tell her to see which bump on the road we hit in order to get back on that good trail we were on. Just seems to be more excuses and I am tiring of the problems brought up. Seems i could never do anything right, yet she appears never to be at fault.

I apologize for venting, but just giving a general synopsis in order for you to grasp the situation. If it was deceitful wedlock, then shame on me for caring for her.

My regards to you

Hate to bother you good folks who have gone through this wonderful process, but I am just looking for some insight on options i have ( along with the consequences ). I have been marriged for a little over 1yr. my spouse already has received the green card. Our marriage is not going good and my spouse is asking for a divorce. What are the next steps, i imagine contacting USCIS and also getting divorced prior to my spouse returning back. I know I am responsible for my spouse while she stays here in the US. Well i thank you for your attention.

Such cases have become very common its unfortunate that this person used you in such a manner.

My friend recently underwent a painful split, an attorney advised him afterwards that:-

The rule of thumb pertaining to such circumstances is be wary of a fiance rushing the process of the relationship.

This rushing attitude is usually a display of desperation- not because of love but out of the possibility that they might loose an opportunity to get a green card.

Be very careful when the said fiance has no valid skills are they just doing nothing in life, are they ambitious or do not mind to marry anyone who will get them out of their present country? Chances are they are using you before they know their way around and dump you after they have leaned to adjust.

Nowhere in his post did the OP say he was used for a green card.

Nor did he say he wants to ship her back home; he stated her returning "home" as a matter of fact.

Reading comprehension, people....

[Minya's wife 25]

I never expected she would wish a divorce. We had our long distance relationship for 2 yrs prior to obtaining our K1. I must say I have tried everything to make this marriage work. My spouse just does not seem happy here and there is nothing I could do for that: sheis the only person who could wake up and decide to be happy. I honestly give everything I have within to me to make this work. I do not know where things went wrong. Every time there is an argument i try to tell her to see which bump on the road we hit in order to get back on that good trail we were on. Just seems to be more excuses and I am tiring of the problems brought up. Seems i could never do anything right, yet she appears never to be at fault.

I apologize for venting, but just giving a general synopsis in order for you to grasp the situation. If it was deceitful wedlock, then shame on me for caring for her.

My regards to you

Have you tried some sort of marriage counseling...perhaps that may help with communication. There is a lot of adjustment that the immigrant goes through during the initial 1st year in the US....and the adjustment continues on, though I think the most intense is during the 1st year. Perhaps a neutral person can assist you both to come to a better understanding of one another.

-P

[kishmar 0]

Hate to bother you good folks who have gone through this wonderful process, but I am just looking for some insight on options i have ( along with the consequences ). I have been marriged for a little over 1yr. my spouse already has received the green card. Our marriage is not going good and my spouse is asking for a divorce. What are the next steps, i imagine contacting USCIS and also getting divorced prior to my spouse returning back. I know I am responsible for my spouse while she stays here in the US. Well i thank you for your attention.

Such cases have become very common its unfortunate that this person used you in such a manner.

My friend recently underwent a painful split, an attorney advised him afterwards that:-

The rule of thumb pertaining to such circumstances is be wary of a fiance rushing the process of the relationship.

This rushing attitude is usually a display of desperation- not because of love but out of the possibility that they might loose an opportunity to get a green card.

Be very careful when the said fiance has no valid skills are they just doing nothing in life, are they ambitious or do not mind to marry anyone who will get them out of their present country? Chances are they are using you before they know their way around and dump you after they have leaned to adjust.

Nowhere in his post did the OP say he was used for a green card.

Nor did he say he wants to ship her back home; he stated her returning "home" as a matter of fact.

Reading comprehension, people....

DITTO TO THAT!

[kishmar 0]

I never expected she would wish a divorce. We had our long distance relationship for 2 yrs prior to obtaining our K1. I must say I have tried everything to make this marriage work. My spouse just does not seem happy here and there is nothing I could do for that: sheis the only person who could wake up and decide to be happy. I honestly give everything I have within to me to make this work. I do not know where things went wrong. Every time there is an argument i try to tell her to see which bump on the road we hit in order to get back on that good trail we were on. Just seems to be more excuses and I am tiring of the problems brought up. Seems i could never do anything right, yet she appears never to be at fault.

I apologize for venting, but just giving a general synopsis in order for you to grasp the situation. If it was deceitful wedlock, then shame on me for caring for her.

My regards to you

Hate to bother you good folks who have gone through this wonderful process, but I am just looking for some insight on options i have ( along with the consequences ). I have been marriged for a little over 1yr. my spouse already has received the green card. Our marriage is not going good and my spouse is asking for a divorce. What are the next steps, i imagine contacting USCIS and also getting divorced prior to my spouse returning back. I know I am responsible for my spouse while she stays here in the US. Well i thank you for your attention.

Such cases have become very common its unfortunate that this person used you in such a manner.

My friend recently underwent a painful split, an attorney advised him afterwards that:-

The rule of thumb pertaining to such circumstances is be wary of a fiance rushing the process of the relationship.

This rushing attitude is usually a display of desperation- not because of love but out of the possibility that they might loose an opportunity to get a green card.

Be very careful when the said fiance has no valid skills are they just doing nothing in life, are they ambitious or do not mind to marry anyone who will get them out of their present country? Chances are they are using you before they know their way around and dump you after they have leaned to adjust.

Nowhere in his post did the OP say he was used for a green card.

Nor did he say he wants to ship her back home; he stated her returning "home" as a matter of fact.

Reading comprehension, people....

Sorry to hear that your marriage is not working out, but sometimes one need to stop and think about the next persons feelings. Alot of folks on here thinks that EVERYONE wants to go to the USA and that all will be happy there regarding what happpes....Well get this straight AMERICA is NOT God's gift to mankind and given a choice i think a lot of people would rather to stay in their own country if it were not to be with their loved ones.

Im really very sorry for the lost but i just hope to see the day when folks dont just judge someone cause they are not happy being in America and that all they wanted was a GREEN card! I have been with my husband now in a long distance relationship for over 4 years and we find every which way to make our marriage work and at times it seems like this immigration would break us but we have decided that we CANNOT afford to let some immigration officer decide our live. Right now we do the best we can until we can be together...and who is to tell that im gonna love America when i finally gets there after 4 years of waiting????

[*JG* 2]

Hate to bother you good folks who have gone through this wonderful process, but I am just looking for some insight on options i have ( along with the consequences ). I have been marriged for a little over 1yr. my spouse already has received the green card. Our marriage is not going good and my spouse is asking for a divorce. What are the next steps, i imagine contacting USCIS and also getting divorced prior to my spouse returning back. I know I am responsible for my spouse while she stays here in the US. Well i thank you for your attention.

Such cases have become very common its unfortunate that this person used you in such a manner.

My friend recently underwent a painful split, an attorney advised him afterwards that:-

The rule of thumb pertaining to such circumstances is be wary of a fiance rushing the process of the relationship.

This rushing attitude is usually a display of desperation- not because of love but out of the possibility that they might loose an opportunity to get a green card.

Be very careful when the said fiance has no valid skills are they just doing nothing in life, are they ambitious or do not mind to marry anyone who will get them out of their present country? Chances are they are using you before they know their way around and dump you after they have leaned to adjust.

I do agree with this. However, I feel the USCIS could make things a little easier on LDR's. The entire process is so expensive that it puts things in high gear much faster then is normal.

The first year is so difficult. I agree....have you tried any kind of counseling?

I wish you luck in however this turns out for you. Take care of you through it all!

[Islandwoman 0]

I never expected she would wish a divorce. We had our long distance relationship for 2 yrs prior to obtaining our K1. I must say I have tried everything to make this marriage work. My spouse just does not seem happy here and there is nothing I could do for that: sheis the only person who could wake up and decide to be happy. I honestly give everything I have within to me to make this work. I do not know where things went wrong. Every time there is an argument i try to tell her to see which bump on the road we hit in order to get back on that good trail we were on. Just seems to be more excuses and I am tiring of the problems brought up. Seems i could never do anything right, yet she appears never to be at fault.

I apologize for venting, but just giving a general synopsis in order for you to grasp the situation. If it was deceitful wedlock, then shame on me for caring for her.

My regards to you

Hate to bother you good folks who have gone through this wonderful process, but I am just looking for some insight on options i have ( along with the consequences ). I have been marriged for a little over 1yr. my spouse already has received the green card. Our marriage is not going good and my spouse is asking for a divorce. What are the next steps, i imagine contacting USCIS and also getting divorced prior to my spouse returning back. I know I am responsible for my spouse while she stays here in the US. Well i thank you for your attention.

Such cases have become very common its unfortunate that this person used you in such a manner.

My friend recently underwent a painful split, an attorney advised him afterwards that:-

The rule of thumb pertaining to such circumstances is be wary of a fiance rushing the process of the relationship.

This rushing attitude is usually a display of desperation- not because of love but out of the possibility that they might loose an opportunity to get a green card.

Be very careful when the said fiance has no valid skills are they just doing nothing in life, are they ambitious or do not mind to marry anyone who will get them out of their present country? Chances are they are using you before they know their way around and dump you after they have leaned to adjust.

Nowhere in his post did the OP say he was used for a green card.

Nor did he say he wants to ship her back home; he stated her returning "home" as a matter of fact.

Reading comprehension, people....

Sorry to hear that your marriage is not working out, but sometimes one need to stop and think about the next persons feelings. Alot of folks on here thinks that EVERYONE wants to go to the USA and that all will be happy there regarding what happpes....Well get this straight AMERICA is NOT God's gift to mankind and given a choice i think a lot of people would rather to stay in their own country if it were not to be with their loved ones.

Im really very sorry for the lost but i just hope to see the day when folks dont just judge someone cause they are not happy being in America and that all they wanted was a GREEN card! I have been with my husband now in a long distance relationship for over 4 years and we find every which way to make our marriage work and at times it seems like this immigration would break us but we have decided that we CANNOT afford to let some immigration officer decide our live. Right now we do the best we can until we can be together...and who is to tell that im gonna love America when i finally gets there after 4 years of waiting????

Well said Kishmar!! It seems most of us on here are the USC so I think is it awesome to have you to give us the other side of the coin. Thank you!