Getting married after visa has expired or calling off engagement

[NOandJO 0]

Hello!

Do not over stay coz it might cause you problems...about your fiancee since your not that sure to marry him better get back to your home country or try to work in your relationship if you think he change already....but becareful and listen to your heart....

Take Care always!

NoandJo

You assume too much, my visa hasn't expired yet, and I actually have already bought the ticket to return to my country, the ticket is bought for tomorrow, so don't assume too much without reading carefully.

We got a marriage license today and were told we could go to see a judge tomorrow and ask for a waiver so we can get married during the 90 days of my K1 visa.

So which did you decide on? One of your posts said that you bought the ticket to go home, than 30 minutes later that you guys are deciding to get married?

90 days is a short period of time, but its short for a reason. Its just to come to get married. Some people have relationship or adjusting issues and then the getting married part gets put off. Its cause the relationship wasn't ready, still needed some working on, or perhaps changes evolved with a country switch. We all know its no piece of cake.

Personally, I don't think people should change for marriage. If they do, they resent it and go back to their old ways anyway in a matter of time. I think that's why we have such a high divorce rate. You should be able to be who you want to be, the more contstraints a relationship puts on you, the more chances it will fail.

Good luck to the OP in whatever you decide. Personally, I'd go home.

[FaSa2008 0]

Joha im sad you went thru all of this!

I hope things get better....

good luck

Hello!

Do not over stay coz it might cause you problems...about your fiancee since your not that sure to marry him better get back to your home country or try to work in your relationship if you think he change already....but becareful and listen to your heart....

Take Care always!

NoandJo

You assume too much, my visa hasn't expired yet, and I actually have already bought the ticket to return to my country, the ticket is bought for tomorrow, so don't assume too much without reading carefully.

We got a marriage license today and were told we could go to see a judge tomorrow and ask for a waiver so we can get married during the 90 days of my K1 visa.

So which did you decide on? One of your posts said that you bought the ticket to go home, than 30 minutes later that you guys are deciding to get married?

90 days is a short period of time, but its short for a reason. Its just to come to get married. Some people have relationship or adjusting issues and then the getting married part gets put off. Its cause the relationship wasn't ready, still needed some working on, or perhaps changes evolved with a country switch. We all know its no piece of cake.

Personally, I don't think people should change for marriage. If they do, they resent it and go back to their old ways anyway in a matter of time. I think that's why we have such a high divorce rate. You should be able to be who you want to be, the more contstraints a relationship puts on you, the more chances it will fail.

Good luck to the OP in whatever you decide. Personally, I'd go home.

[grrrrlygrrrl 0]

Hi everybody. I assume this might not happen so frequently, but I do not longer know if getting married is the right thing to do or not. I'd rather not to dwell that much into this, but as soon after I arrived into the US, after almost 2 years of being in a relationship with my fiance, things change. He wasn't nice to me, actually, he was cruel and mean in many ways, and I got sick of this. After two months and a huge fight, I couldn't put up with his attitude anymore and I broke up with him and flew to Chicago and Maryland, to see a friend and my aunt there and recover from the break up. As soon as I returned to Dallas (my back then ex fiance lives in Houston, TX), he came to Dallas, to where I was staying, and asked me for forgiveness, saying he had changed. It broke my heart because he seemed to mean every word, and I missed him and hated the way things turned out to be, so I forgave him and came back to live with him in Houston. However, I told him I didn't trust him like before, and I still wanted to return home and finish my studies. I am an archaeology student and am in third year, in my country, and therefore have 2 years left. Mi K1 expires on July 25th, and ever since I got back with my fiance, he tells me he wants to me my husband badly. He seems to have changed, now he's the nicest guy in the world, and we stopped having daily arguments. However, I have only been with him 11 days, after I forgave him and came back... friends say it might be a trick and lie to get me back and then cause me to live in hell! However, I love him and feel that he loves me, but I'm uncertain about the marriage. He insists he wants to be my husband... but we're running out of time! so if I accept him, we'd pretty much get married a few days after my visa has expired. How bad does this affect us? getting married after my K1 has expired, for a few days... this situation sucks, and I really hate the government for the few months they grant to engaged couples. I really wish I could get to spend more time with him, my biggest fear is to call the marriage off and once in my country, miss him badly and just want to be with him, or also, in case he has really changed, my fears are to think I could have left a good man go! anyway, any advice on the matter?

Greetings.

RUN! RUN LIKE THE WIND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I spent 8 years as a friend to my husband, and married 2 years ago come October. I thought I knew him well. 10 years?

Your story, although some differences, repeats to me what I already knew in my heart when it started falling apart. You know it, too.

Pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and move forward.

[Tarumba 9]

Don't get married if you're not sure, it's NEVER good. If he loves you he'll understand, and you can always file your petition later. I for example, had my boyfriend wait for me for almost two years (he's the best ), and only now, after I've finished my career we started to file everything, so while the case is processed i'm getting done with my thesis.

You can't rush with these things, and doing paperwork again is nothing compared to a marriage that shouldn't be.

Good luck!

Edited August 28, 2008 by Tarumba