me thinks there are posers in MENA

[Leyla 0]

well.... I've had couple of men PM me about "helping" them.... they say they are muslim but when I talk to them they don't act like it. They actually seem as if they're shopping.....

I don't want to say names in case I am wrong but .... strange. I even had my husband talk to them and all he will tell me is never respond back to them for ANY reason.

Just wondering...

Ahhh...rings a bell...there is simply one male (hint hint) that has done this to several members....just block them

hmm... sounds shady. I've seen a few situations that raise my eyebrow. Ultimately that is their business. I have a friend I met on my flight back from Morocco in September 07. She was in Morocco visiting her fiance. When she told me about him I was a little skeptical about their relationship. For example: She paid for EVERYTHING when she was there. Religiously and culturally speaking I'm pretty sure than man should be doing that. She paid for her own plane ticket, her food, her ring, her everything. Plus he claimed to be a good Muslim (and didn't even pray which is a big deal). He seemed to be using her. I wasn't about to judge (because I didn't know the guy).

She began getting all of her forms together for her I-129F and sent him her fathers watch as a gift to him (her father committed suicide by the way. So it was very dear to her heart). I December she found out from him that he had been not only SEEING another girl but SLEEPING with her as well! My friend was heart broken. She found it hard to let go of him. It took her 4 months to completely break it off with him. Then recently she was IMed by another woman. This woman was engaged to my friends ex fiance! The weird part was, she wasn't the girl he was originally cheating with in December, but she was engaged to him at that time. And this woman also paid for her own plane ticket and her own accomidations while she was there. Then, whie she was there she did some detective work, found out about my friend, and a handfull of other girls this man has been talking to! She found saved conversations where he said goodbye to my friend, logged off, logged onto a different name and began talking to this othr woman!

I was so disturbed by this news. But THANK GOD for all of this hitting the fan. If it didn't, my friend would be in a terrible position right now with a man that does NOT deserve a woman like her. I think the woman are going to report him somehow. He seems like he's just out to get a greencard.

I pray that all of you have good men (and women) that love you. I pra that all of you spend the rest of your lives with them and have a happy life. No one deserves to be treated like my friend was.

all the best,

Michelle

[RAKASA 0]

hmm... sounds shady. I've seen a few situations that raise my eyebrow. Ultimately that is their business. I have a friend I met on my flight back from Morocco in September 07. She was in Morocco visiting her fiance. When she told me about him I was a little skeptical about their relationship. For example: She paid for EVERYTHING when she was there. Religiously and culturally speaking I'm pretty sure than man should be doing that. She paid for her own plane ticket, her food, her ring, her everything. Plus he claimed to be a good Muslim (and didn't even pray which is a big deal). He seemed to be using her. I wasn't about to judge (because I didn't know the guy).

She began getting all of her forms together for her I-129F and sent him her fathers watch as a gift to him (her father committed suicide by the way. So it was very dear to her heart). I December she found out from him that he had been not only SEEING another girl but SLEEPING with her as well! My friend was heart broken. She found it hard to let go of him. It took her 4 months to completely break it off with him. Then recently she was IMed by another woman. This woman was engaged to my friends ex fiance! The weird part was, she wasn't the girl he was originally cheating with in December, but she was engaged to him at that time. And this woman also paid for her own plane ticket and her own accomidations while she was there. Then, whie she was there she did some detective work, found out about my friend, and a handfull of other girls this man has been talking to! She found saved conversations where he said goodbye to my friend, logged off, logged onto a different name and began talking to this othr woman!

I was so disturbed by this news. But THANK GOD for all of this hitting the fan. If it didn't, my friend would be in a terrible position right now with a man that does NOT deserve a woman like her. I think the woman are going to report him somehow. He seems like he's just out to get a greencard.

I pray that all of you have good men (and women) that love you. I pra that all of you spend the rest of your lives with them and have a happy life. No one deserves to be treated like my friend was.

all the best,

Michelle

This sounds all too familiar to someone I know from this site. He was physically, mentally, & emotionally abusive to her in Morocco and my husband assisted in her escape. I was very saddened to find out she continued w/ the petition and he is actually here now and they are married. To each his own, though. People have to make these decisions for themselves no matter how stupid anyone else thinks it is. I pray for their safety.

[morocco4ever 63]

It happens. My husband had a friend that was talking to several women online, and was sending him money. One girl actually was sending him money that he used to entertain another woman that he had here visiting him. Then a third woman came into the picture and she was sending him money while he was planning to marry the woman that came for a visit. He decided to break off the relationship with her so he wouldn't be found out by saying he was dying. What an A hole!

That same woman found out the truth and found another man in Morocco (that my husband also knows). He begged her to take her time and get to know him before she committed her heart again. He knew he was still frequenting a dating website after they had decided to marry, so he suggested that she bait him. She chose not to listen, flew to Morocco and married him. Now the word in Morocco is that he has been seen around drunk and with "specific kinds" of women, if you catch my drift. My husband feels he is to blame, but I told him not to feel guilty. He tried to help her, but if she won't listen there isn't anything more he can do.

Lets just say that my husband has learned alot about his so called friends, and has cut off most of his contact with them.

[caybee 21]

Years ago, I knew of a man who was talking to several women online, keeping them unaware of each other. To those not in his sights, he was pretty open about the fact that he was waiting for the first one who came through with the papers. Last I heard, he'd gotten the visa and was in the U.S., accusing his wife of abuse. What a surprise. Of course, maybe she really was abusive. There are plenty of users in every country, including this one, and everyone here has probably run into at least one or two, even on VJ.

[sarahaziz 0]

What's new... sometimes I think a couple of women who have been divorced from MENA men still come here to start stuff out of jealousy .

[morocco4ever 63]

Any one in mind?

[brnidokiegurl 0]

divorced and still around? do we know they are divorced?

[morocco4ever 63]

Not sure, but I wouldn't doubt it.

[Cin&Anil 0]

Oh, I got that one..

I thought it was just me.. wow, I feel better .. well not really.

Questions were way to personal for someone who was married and knowing I am engaged..

Thank you for saying that..

[Imua 0]

I wonder if the simpleton is back under another userid??? I haven't seen him around and assumed he was banned....

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

will do Jenn... I made the mistake of giving one of them my IM address for his fiance to talk to me about Islam.... she's never been around it's always him....... but just wondered if it was just me..... lol

There are members that have either been BANNED or divorced that pm trying to wreak havoc.

No, you are NOT imagining things.

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

It happens. My husband had a friend that was talking to several women online, and was sending him money. One girl actually was sending him money that he used to entertain another woman that he had here visiting him. Then a third woman came into the picture and she was sending him money while he was planning to marry the woman that came for a visit. He decided to break off the relationship with her so he wouldn't be found out by saying he was dying. What an A hole!

That same woman found out the truth and found another man in Morocco (that my husband also knows). He begged her to take her time and get to know him before she committed her heart again. He knew he was still frequenting a dating website after they had decided to marry, so he suggested that she bait him. She chose not to listen, flew to Morocco and married him. Now the word in Morocco is that he has been seen around drunk and with "specific kinds" of women, if you catch my drift. My husband feels he is to blame, but I told him not to feel guilty. He tried to help her, but if she won't listen there isn't anything more he can do.

Lets just say that my husband has learned alot about his so called friends, and has cut off most of his contact with them.

The problem is that when you try to tell people anything, sometimes they turn it around on you ,either by telling their spouse etc , then you end up in a mess. There was a 48 year old woman here in Orlando who has married 3 Moroccans that she has all given papers to and they have all left her and she still doesnt get it. When someone is in trouble they rarely listen to advice. INCLUDE ME IN THE DUMB ### CATAGORY please

[brnidokiegurl 0]

It happens. My husband had a friend that was talking to several women online, and was sending him money. One girl actually was sending him money that he used to entertain another woman that he had here visiting him. Then a third woman came into the picture and she was sending him money while he was planning to marry the woman that came for a visit. He decided to break off the relationship with her so he wouldn't be found out by saying he was dying. What an A hole!

That same woman found out the truth and found another man in Morocco (that my husband also knows). He begged her to take her time and get to know him before she committed her heart again. He knew he was still frequenting a dating website after they had decided to marry, so he suggested that she bait him. She chose not to listen, flew to Morocco and married him. Now the word in Morocco is that he has been seen around drunk and with "specific kinds" of women, if you catch my drift. My husband feels he is to blame, but I told him not to feel guilty. He tried to help her, but if she won't listen there isn't anything more he can do.

Lets just say that my husband has learned alot about his so called friends, and has cut off most of his contact with them.

The problem is that when you try to tell people anything, sometimes they turn it around on you ,either by telling their spouse etc , then you end up in a mess. There was a 48 year old woman here in Orlando who has married 3 Moroccans that she has all given papers to and they have all left her and she still doesnt get it. When someone is in trouble they rarely listen to advice. INCLUDE ME IN THE DUMB ### CATAGORY please

every one has been there at one time

[morocco4ever 63]

It happens. My husband had a friend that was talking to several women online, and was sending him money. One girl actually was sending him money that he used to entertain another woman that he had here visiting him. Then a third woman came into the picture and she was sending him money while he was planning to marry the woman that came for a visit. He decided to break off the relationship with her so he wouldn't be found out by saying he was dying. What an A hole!

That same woman found out the truth and found another man in Morocco (that my husband also knows). He begged her to take her time and get to know him before she committed her heart again. He knew he was still frequenting a dating website after they had decided to marry, so he suggested that she bait him. She chose not to listen, flew to Morocco and married him. Now the word in Morocco is that he has been seen around drunk and with "specific kinds" of women, if you catch my drift. My husband feels he is to blame, but I told him not to feel guilty. He tried to help her, but if she won't listen there isn't anything more he can do.

Lets just say that my husband has learned alot about his so called friends, and has cut off most of his contact with them.

The problem is that when you try to tell people anything, sometimes they turn it around on you ,either by telling their spouse etc , then you end up in a mess. There was a 48 year old woman here in Orlando who has married 3 Moroccans that she has all given papers to and they have all left her and she still doesnt get it. When someone is in trouble they rarely listen to advice. INCLUDE ME IN THE DUMB ### CATAGORY please

There may be times that everyone else can see what is going on but you, but there are times that no one saw it coming. The point is that it does no good to blame yourself, it is the user and abuser that is to blame. All we can do is to take the lesson learned and not allow it again.

[nunyab 0]

my husband has an account here but rarely uses it... I feel comfortable knowing my man is good not perfect but good. Hamdolah The other's often cause us to question our men and their motivations. I know Morocco isn't paradise and is very difficult to get out of but it's the bad apples that ruin it for the good ones in the barrel.