Studies confirm that narcissists, psychopathic and exploitative guys get the most girls

[almaty 19]

excellent point//// also, this

A Texas Tech psychologist has developed a 70-question sex test that would help in accurately detecting issues of sexual problems in the general population.

Sheila Garos, an associate professor of psychology and director of the Counseling Psychology Doctoral Program at Texas Tech, has developed the sex test that can help in identifying sexual difficulties and addictive and compulsive behaviour.

The test known as Garos Sexual Behaviour Inventory, measures mental conflict and shame about ones sexual activities or sexuality, sexual obsession, values about sexual issues and comfort with sexual arousal.

It can also identify sexual disorders, dysfunctions or compulsive sexual behaviours, an area hard to measure.

I think what sets this test apart is that its not targeted at one single group, said Garos.

This test is not restricted for use with any one clinical group, such as people with sexual dysfunctions or sex offenders.

It can tell you if you have a client that you should investigate more thoroughly with regard to his or her sexual behaviour, she added.

However, she also said that the test should not be the only factor to making diagnoses. (ANI)

[Empress of Groovy 373]

My mother went on a lunch date a few years ago that her friend had set up (the guy was her friend's coworker). Apparently he was nice enough but at some point brought up that he'd had urethral (?) surgery that resulted in--er--sparse ejaculate. He was bragging about this, apparently hinting that there wouldn't be any messy clean-up.

She called me that night and said, "Do you think it was inappropriate for him to mention that?"

Something about the measurement talk made me think of that. My poor mother. No wonder she's given up dating. Of course, as she says, "All men my age want young chicks in their 40s, or else they need Viagra."

Edited July 21, 2008 by Big Agnes!

[Empress of Groovy 373]

Personally, I think the guys have missed the point. Its not so much about the man's bad-boyness, rather its about the woman's need to fix and change things. We're happy to have projects to work on. So a guy who encompasses these three personality types have a lot that need fixing. Hence they get many women trying to fix them.

Basically they're broken pieces of pottery that women are interested in crazyglueing back together.

There are plenty of guys out there who want to do the same thing. There are plenty of older guys who have a sort of savior complex and want to date single mothers and have an instant family. I don't think anyone has brought up the guys who are attracted to wild, seemingly untameable party girls. I knew a lot of guys when I was in college who would date "psychos," one after the other, and say, "Why do I get all the crazy chicks?" Um, cuz you like them? Some guys find them exciting in the same way that some girls like "bad boys."

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Personally, I think the guys have missed the point. Its not so much about the man's bad-boyness, rather its about the woman's need to fix and change things. We're happy to have projects to work on. So a guy who encompasses these three personality types have a lot that need fixing. Hence they get many women trying to fix them.

Basically they're broken pieces of pottery that women are interested in crazyglueing back together.

It's not just the men though...I think it's got something to do with the women's personalities as well. I personally would not want to be with a woman who normally falls for the 'bad boy.' I'd say most of us are both broken pieces of pottery to one degree or another...just hopefully the mending is reciprocated.

[MrsCat 6]

My mother went on a lunch date a few years ago that her friend had set up (the guy was her friend's coworker). Apparently he was nice enough but at some point brought up that he'd had urethral (?) surgery that resulted in--er--sparse ejaculate. He was bragging about this, apparently hinting that there wouldn't be any messy clean-up.

She called me that night and said, "Do you think it was inappropriate for him to mention that?"

Something about the measurement talk made me think of that. My poor mother. No wonder she's given up dating. Of course, as she says, "All men my age want young chicks in their 40s, or else they need Viagra."

Your poor mother. What's wrong with people?!

[Trumplestiltskin 5,791]

There are also women who want to be in a relationship where a man has the dominant role. Some men go for submissive women who won't challenge their authority.

Incidentally - the disorders referenced in the OP article are basically about ego.

[Empress of Groovy 373]

My mother went on a lunch date a few years ago that her friend had set up (the guy was her friend's coworker). Apparently he was nice enough but at some point brought up that he'd had urethral (?) surgery that resulted in--er--sparse ejaculate. He was bragging about this, apparently hinting that there wouldn't be any messy clean-up.

She called me that night and said, "Do you think it was inappropriate for him to mention that?"

Something about the measurement talk made me think of that. My poor mother. No wonder she's given up dating. Of course, as she says, "All men my age want young chicks in their 40s, or else they need Viagra."

Your poor mother. What's wrong with people?!

Indeed! Although it has provided much amusement since then. She did go on a couple of dates after that (not w/ Mr. Ejaculate, mind you), and I'd ask, "Did he bring up his ejaculate (or lack thereof)?"

My brother's assessment: "What an a$$hole."

My sister's comment: "Ewwwww!"

Edited July 21, 2008 by Big Agnes!

[DeadPoolX 9]

NOTE: The following is my opinion only.

I know I'm late into this conversation, but... as it's been said, most women really don't care for guys who mistreat them. In fact, women do like men who're thoughtful and nice. For instance, one of the most common forms of temporary work a woman can have is that of a waitress. So when out on a date, these same women tend to look at how much the guy tips the waiter or waitress. Having "been there" in the waitstaff's shoes before, they often equate the tip amount to his generosity, in addition to how nice and friendly he is with the waiter or waitress. In other words, if he's mean or short-tempered and gives a lousy tip (or worse yet, no tip at all), she probably won't think much of you, because somewhere in the back of her mind, she's thinking: "If he treats so-and-so like that, how will he treat me?"

It goes further, too. How respectful and kind a man is with his parents and siblings. I don't mean a so-called "mama's boy" but a man who is truly nice to his mother sends some very positive messages to his girlfriend. A man's mom is his first and foremost female role model when growing up and if he treats her badly, it's inevitable that the woman he is dating will feel that he will end up doing the same to her.

Having said all of that, I believe the "bad boy" mystique is mostly about confidence and the appearance of rebellion. Most girls who "fall in love" with so-called "bad boys" are relatively young, usually somewhere in their teens or early 20s. While confidence may always be a turn-on, we need to remember that the majority of women in this age bracket are rarely established in anything (except school) and are still attempting to "find themselves." What this means is that they don't have a very good idea who they are as a person and without an established identity and/or career, the opposite of rebelling means following what others wish them to do -- usually their parents. At this point in their lives, they want to break away from their parents and become adults. What "better way" to do this than rebel, right? Well, guess who's there to show them the way -- that's right! The "bad boy," since the "nice guy" does what he's supposed to do and that's just "boring."

Of course... rebelling is fun for a while, but it doesn't lend itself well to a family, does it? Eventually, most women reassess their situation and realize that maybe the "nice guy" (provided he isn't a doormat and let's her walk all over him) is a positive thing, since he'll be a stable force in her life, as a well as a good husband and father. Maybe he won't take her on trips across the country on his motorcycle at a moment's notice, but stability is a great thing too -- especially when kids are involved. Even more importantly, the "nice guy" is less likely to dump her for some younger and hotter chick, simply because he feels the need to get laid at that moment. It can happen with any guy, but "bad boys" have far less problems doing this.

[Peikko 1,575]

I think this tells us a lot about the way we educate our children to have emotional and sexual relationships...

...oh yeah, that's right as a society we don't do it. Silly me.

[Amby 490]

before I even read the story I'm going to say its sooooooooooooooooo true!

[Amby 490]

now that I read it I will still say sooooooooo true. I don't normally date the bad boys but I keep them around as friends so I can go have my wild times and come home to my nice boy

[Peikko 1,575]

Is this a marriage with 'benefits" How...openminded?

[Amby 490]

Is this a marriage with 'benefits" How...openminded?

if you're asking me this question I have no clue what you're referring to?

[Trumplestiltskin 5,791]

I think she meant

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Wow this thread had a slow start but thanks to our favorite Ozzie (oy oy oy!) it really took off!