That leap of faith...

[JenT 0]

Wow -- your husband and my husband may just be the same person.

The other day "Road to Germany" was on FSC and the Germans were claiming to be really clever with their inventions and designs and it was really winding him up!

Mine lives in Germany at the moment.. PLEASE don't anybody get him started on the Germans.... (btw, I'm half German, so don't anyone take offense please... )

According to my husband, the British invented EVERYTHING- not just the English language. To clarify, actually it's the ENGLISH that invented everything, and he'd probably try his best to push it that it's actually Lancastrians that did all the inventing......................................

Speaking of early language barriers (not going to throw my 2 p into the rest of the conversation) the first time my husband came to my house he told me it was "homely". To say I was a bit put out is to put it mildly. And one of the first times we hung out he asked me if I wanted any tea and I said "no thanks, but I AM starving and would love supper!"

How about 'getting tarted up' to go out for the evening....? That one gave me cause to stop and take a second look in the mirror

[Mand 1]

Ah, I remember the "homely" discussion! My dad used to tell me I was "homely" when I was young, just to tease me, and Ewen didn't understand why I had been so insulted.

I don't understand why it's considered an insult either...can someone explain what the word means here in the U.S?

[Fandango 1,440]

Ah, I remember the "homely" discussion! My dad used to tell me I was "homely" when I was young, just to tease me, and Ewen didn't understand why I had been so insulted.

I don't understand why it's considered an insult either...can someone explain what the word means here in the U.S?

homely=ugly here

[pax 0]

At best, "homely" means "plain" (and not in a good way—"plain" as in "not especially good-looking"); at worst, it means sort of pathetically, sadly ugly.

[Fandango 1,440]

http://www.answers.com/topic/homely

[Mand 1]

Ah, I remember the "homely" discussion! My dad used to tell me I was "homely" when I was young, just to tease me, and Ewen didn't understand why I had been so insulted.

I don't understand why it's considered an insult either...can someone explain what the word means here in the U.S?

homely=ugly here

Ahhh I see!!! Oh jeez...that could definately cause crossed wires

[Fandango 1,440]

what happened to my ticker? *cry*

[Welshcookie 17]

what happened to my ticker? *cry*

hmmmm........mine has gone too.....tickertag has 'issues'

[shakysgirl 1]

Wow -- your husband and my husband may just be the same person.

The other day "Road to Germany" was on FSC and the Germans were claiming to be really clever with their inventions and designs and it was really winding him up!

Mine lives in Germany at the moment.. PLEASE don't anybody get him started on the Germans.... (btw, I'm half German, so don't anyone take offense please... )

My husband was working for Germans in France for awhile prior to coming to the US- talk about getting wound up every day!

edit: I tried to quote just the bit about her husband being in Germany but couldn't quite get it right!

Edited May 19, 2006 by shakysgirl

[Welshcookie 17]

edit: I tried to quote just the bit about her husband being in Germany but couldn't quite get it right!

off to the quote school with you!!!!

[shakysgirl 1]

I'm blaming my work computer!

I'm blaming my work computer!

ooh- er..... better just give up now!

[anya-D 8]

But my point is this:

if you're separated by oceans, lands, whatever and only have email, phone, etc

yet you two don't speak a common language

what is a relationship based on?

Seriously, if someone has a way to point out something I'm missing, then please do.

took me long enough to get to t his page

Well, from those question above, since Thailand's national language is Thai and a lot of people dont speak English (or some very broken English) I've seen this by myself...

At the internet cafe, there will be a "translator" at the computer and translate the conversation from the girl who doesnt speak english back and forth (with typing and everything for them too). it is widely doen in the internet cafe... so there''s a 3rd person in the middle.... translating fromThai-English-Thai

I alwasy wonder how this works... coz for me, if i talk to some body vie words, i get to know them by the words they use and how thry phrase words.... since it's the 3rd person's choice of words in everything.. it's just really weird to me.. but well, there are aLOT of cupple communicate that way..and yes.. we are "high fraud" country.. I'm not trying to say that this is fruad, but welll..... what do i know.. i met my husband in America face to face and i speak english well enough.

[Anyta Holland 1]

Have I come too late to answer the original question? I hope not...

Me and my husband met on the internet.. We believe that it was sheer chance... But there we were, I got his email off the picture he put on his profile and emailed him, and then he replied... And so on...

After 2 months he said that he liked me, actually his exact words were "i think I am falling for you" he sent me a text message on my mobile the night I was celebrating my 25th B-day... Needless to say I had fallen for him aswell, long time ago... Actually when i saw his picture, I felt strange, I felt the urge to talk to him... or better said, write to him and get to know him...

After that, well, it was emails twice and 3 times a day... Then I decided to come to the UK and study... A month before my arrival, he called me every single day, sometimes eve twice a day, and still kept emailing me... He went to pick me up at the airport... I called him on the phone when on my stopover in Amsterdam, he said that he was on his way to the airport...

It took me ages to get out of imigration as the Officer was being a pain in the backside.... Anyway, as soon as I saw him, GOD..... I felt my legs were giving way... I saw him sort of running towards me, and just hugged me and kissed me in the head, or forehead, I CANT REMEMBER I WAS SO NERVOUS!

Our fist kiss was on the lift (elevator) and then off to his place... I felt that I had nothing to fear, and felt really secure with him...

We had a difficult year after that, as I was living in London and then in SHeffield whilst studying and he was living in Bristol... So it was traveling every weekend, so that made things a bit hard on both of us... Also, coming form absolutely different cultures we found ourselves misunderstanding each other a lot... and arguing, perhaps, more than what we would have liked...

In any case, here we are, nearly two years on since we got married, and 4 years after we met on the internet... I feel that he was very honest and has been the same man from day 1...

I hope he can say the same from me...

[MrsDarby 0]

That's a really good question I've often wondered. My husband and I met in person-very unexpectedly. We were both on vacation in Mexico with friends. At that time I didn't think anything would ever happen between us. We kept in touch as friends for five months, and then one of my girlfriends and I went to England. Seeing him again made me realize that I wanted to be with him. That's when I realized that I loved him too.

Fortunately for me, I've been able to spend longer periods of time with him in England (I'm a teacher). We both felt it was VERY important to spend a longer amount of time with each other before we got married. Yes, he had asked me to marry him and we had started the paperwork for the K1 visa before I went over there for 3 months, but we still felt that it was important to spend some time together on a regular day-to-day basis. Up until that time whenever we were together it was for a week or two here and there, and usually the person's country we were in also had that time off from work. We just wanted a taste of being together in a more realistic situation.

Unfortunately many couples are not able to do that for work, family, financial reasons. This process does not allow two people to "date" as other people are able to date. It's visit here and there, talk on the phone, e-mail, and then get married.

My husband knows me better than anyone else and vice versa. I really think a big reason for that is we talked on the phone everyday for usually at least 2 hours. We had each other's undivided attention like you can't get if you are sitting in the same room with each other with the TV on. All we had was verbal communication with each other. We didn't have to think about the physical aspect of a relationship because you can't have that over the phone. I'm just thankful that all parts of our relationship are fabulous!

[babybunny 2]

sometimes the leap of faith is cultural. you know in islamic nations you cant just go to that persons country and think oh we will just visit.

thats proble why alot of the people in the ME forums have the religous weddings and not the " real " wedding.

I know I was forbidden to Kiss, touch, or hold my husbands hand. you are not allowed to look directly in your mates eyes in front of others. so many restrictions. pre marital relations is so out of the question.-for sure. some of these couples marry the first day they meet. or some a few days later.

Edited May 19, 2006 by shonjaved