That leap of faith...

[rooster 1]

To Jenn and all the others who worry about the one-time meetings:

Did you ever think you would fall for someone outside your own country? I didnt

Did you EVER see yourself meeting someone "online"? I didnt

Did you ever see yourself in ANY long distance relationship? I didnt

Yet he we are. In at least one of the above situations.

Do any of these situations make sense? Common sense? NO!!!!!!

Since when does TRUE LOVE have to follow common sense? NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

For the record: I met Danette online. She lived 2500 miles away. I sure as heck wasnt looking outside my own region much less country.

But "IT" happened. I fell in love and I have NEVER been happier in my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SO, if you find yourself in a situation that doesnt follow the "norm" and you know it's right, why question those others whose situation is different than your own?

Bruce

PS: Rebecca Joe, Marilyn P: You ladies have it RIGHT!!

Edited May 18, 2006 by rooster

[Jenn! 918]

SO, if you find yourself in a situation that doesnt follow the "norm" and you know it's right, why question those others whose situation is different than your own?

Because we all stand in the same line together.

[rebeccajo 14]

SO, if you find yourself in a situation that doesnt follow the "norm" and you know it's right, why question those others whose situation is different than your own?

Because we all stand in the same line together.

Do you mean the immigration line? The paperwork processing line?

Are you saying that those relationships you find odd, you perceive them to be less 'real' than your own? That they are more likely to fail?

That those who met on the same geographic plane should have their petitions be put before those who did not?

[rooster 1]

SO, if you find yourself in a situation that doesnt follow the "norm" and you know it's right, why question those others whose situation is different than your own?

Because we all stand in the same line together.

Yes we do. That is my point. Did your relationship make sense to you when you first felt something? Mine did NOT. And yet we are all in this together. Everyones situation is a little bit different in one way or another. A lot are pretty close together. Doesn't give us the right to question the rest. I have a couple friends that met thier spouses online. I used to question them. Not anymore!!!!!

[Fandango 1,440]

To Jenn and all the others who worry about the one-time meetings:

Did you ever think you would fall for someone outside your own country? I didnt

Did you EVER see yourself meeting someone "online"? I didnt

Did you ever see yourself in ANY long distance relationship? I didnt

Yet he we are. In at least one of the above situations.

Do any of these situations make sense? Common sense? NO!!!!!!

Since when does TRUE LOVE have to follow common sense? NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

For the record: I met Danette online. She lived 2500 miles away. I sure as heck wasnt looking outside my own region much less country.

But "IT" happened. I fell in love and I have NEVER been happier in my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SO, if you find yourself in a situation that doesnt follow the "norm" and you know it's right, why question those others whose situation is different than your own?

Bruce

PS: Rebecca Joe, Marilyn P: You ladies have it RIGHT!!

I'm merely questioning it for the sake of conversation...not to say anyone is WRONG no no no....I can't tell you how many times I've made the disclaimer that I am NOT judging anyone's situation...yet I feel you've been put on the defensive...and at least from my pov, that was not my intention at all.

SO, if you find yourself in a situation that doesnt follow the "norm" and you know it's right, why question those others whose situation is different than your own?

Because we all stand in the same line together.

Yes we do. That is my point. Did your relationship make sense to you when you first felt something? Mine did NOT. And yet we are all in this together. Everyones situation is a little bit different in one way or another. A lot are pretty close together. Doesn't give us the right to question the rest. I have a couple friends that met thier spouses online. I used to question them. Not anymore!!!!!

So by your own logic, until you fall in love online, you can question it?

[rooster 1]

To Jenn and all the others who worry about the one-time meetings:

Did you ever think you would fall for someone outside your own country? I didnt

Did you EVER see yourself meeting someone "online"? I didnt

Did you ever see yourself in ANY long distance relationship? I didnt

Yet he we are. In at least one of the above situations.

Do any of these situations make sense? Common sense? NO!!!!!!

Since when does TRUE LOVE have to follow common sense? NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

For the record: I met Danette online. She lived 2500 miles away. I sure as heck wasnt looking outside my own region much less country.

But "IT" happened. I fell in love and I have NEVER been happier in my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SO, if you find yourself in a situation that doesnt follow the "norm" and you know it's right, why question those others whose situation is different than your own?

Bruce

PS: Rebecca Joe, Marilyn P: You ladies have it RIGHT!!

I'm merely questioning it for the sake of conversation...not to say anyone is WRONG no no no....I can't tell you how many times I've made the disclaimer that I am NOT judging anyone's situation...yet I feel you've been put on the defensive...and at least from my pov, that was not my intention at all.

SO, if you find yourself in a situation that doesnt follow the "norm" and you know it's right, why question those others whose situation is different than your own?

Because we all stand in the same line together.

Yes we do. That is my point. Did your relationship make sense to you when you first felt something? Mine did NOT. And yet we are all in this together. Everyones situation is a little bit different in one way or another. A lot are pretty close together. Doesn't give us the right to question the rest. I have a couple friends that met thier spouses online. I used to question them. Not anymore!!!!!

So by your own logic, until you fall in love online, you can question it?

NO I am saying that I made that mistake myself. I did NOT understand. My eyes have been opened now. In a lot of other ways besides online relationship. I have expanded outside my own box. I did not mean to put you on the defensive LisaD. I was merely stating my point of view and HOPEFULLY making others answer those questions honestly inside themselves. Perhaps honest answers to ones self might bring some enlightenment to a questioning mind. These are questions I have asked myself in many situations. For me, they usually lead to understanding.

Once again, I am sorry if I out you on the defensive. That was NOT my intention.

Also, I am not on the defensive. I had spent a lot of in-person time with Danette BEFORE I proposed.

Edited May 18, 2006 by rooster

[TracyTN 237]

Sort of along the same line as my wise sister Rebecca...I told my fiance first that I thought I was falling in love with him. I said I sure hope you feel the same, but if you don't, I'm taking the leap off the cliff anyway. Luckily, he was waiting at the bottom of the cliff to catch me (having already fallen himself). And yes, we did meet on the internet and fell in love before we actually met face to face.

So I find most love a leap of faith. Internet or not.

[Cassie 8]

To Jenn and all the others who worry about the one-time meetings:

Did you ever think you would fall for someone outside your own country? I didnt

Did you EVER see yourself meeting someone "online"? I didnt

Did you ever see yourself in ANY long distance relationship? I didnt

Yet he we are. In at least one of the above situations.

Do any of these situations make sense? Common sense? NO!!!!!!

Since when does TRUE LOVE have to follow common sense? NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

For the record: I met Danette online. She lived 2500 miles away. I sure as heck wasnt looking outside my own region much less country.

But "IT" happened. I fell in love and I have NEVER been happier in my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SO, if you find yourself in a situation that doesnt follow the "norm" and you know it's right, why question those others whose situation is different than your own?

Bruce

PS: Rebecca Joe, Marilyn P: You ladies have it RIGHT!!

you sound exactly like my hubby.....must be that Oklahoma--Nova Scotia magic happeing

[rooster 1]

To Jenn and all the others who worry about the one-time meetings:

Did you ever think you would fall for someone outside your own country? I didnt

Did you EVER see yourself meeting someone "online"? I didnt

Did you ever see yourself in ANY long distance relationship? I didnt

Yet he we are. In at least one of the above situations.

Do any of these situations make sense? Common sense? NO!!!!!!

Since when does TRUE LOVE have to follow common sense? NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

For the record: I met Danette online. She lived 2500 miles away. I sure as heck wasnt looking outside my own region much less country.

But "IT" happened. I fell in love and I have NEVER been happier in my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SO, if you find yourself in a situation that doesnt follow the "norm" and you know it's right, why question those others whose situation is different than your own?

Bruce

PS: Rebecca Joe, Marilyn P: You ladies have it RIGHT!!

you sound exactly like my hubby.....must be that Oklahoma--Nova Scotia magic happeing

It is an absoloutely MAGIC combination isnt it Cassie.

[Cassie 8]

To Jenn and all the others who worry about the one-time meetings:

Did you ever think you would fall for someone outside your own country? I didnt

Did you EVER see yourself meeting someone "online"? I didnt

Did you ever see yourself in ANY long distance relationship? I didnt

Yet he we are. In at least one of the above situations.

Do any of these situations make sense? Common sense? NO!!!!!!

Since when does TRUE LOVE have to follow common sense? NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

For the record: I met Danette online. She lived 2500 miles away. I sure as heck wasnt looking outside my own region much less country.

But "IT" happened. I fell in love and I have NEVER been happier in my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SO, if you find yourself in a situation that doesnt follow the "norm" and you know it's right, why question those others whose situation is different than your own?

Bruce

PS: Rebecca Joe, Marilyn P: You ladies have it RIGHT!!

you sound exactly like my hubby.....must be that Oklahoma--Nova Scotia magic happeing

It is an absoloutely MAGIC combination isnt it Cassie.

aye, that it is

[rebeccajo 14]

SO, if you find yourself in a situation that doesnt follow the "norm" and you know it's right, why question those others whose situation is different than your own?

Because we all stand in the same line together.

Do you mean the immigration line? The paperwork processing line?

Are you saying that those relationships you find odd, you perceive them to be less 'real' than your own? That they are more likely to fail?

That those who met on the same geographic plane should have their petitions be put before those who did not?

Well?

[sukie175 0]

To Jenn and all the others who worry about the one-time meetings:

Did you ever think you would fall for someone outside your own country? I didnt

Did you EVER see yourself meeting someone "online"? I didnt

Did you ever see yourself in ANY long distance relationship? I didnt

Yet he we are. In at least one of the above situations.

Do any of these situations make sense? Common sense? NO!!!!!!

Since when does TRUE LOVE have to follow common sense? NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

For the record: I met Danette online. She lived 2500 miles away. I sure as heck wasnt looking outside my own region much less country.

But "IT" happened. I fell in love and I have NEVER been happier in my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SO, if you find yourself in a situation that doesnt follow the "norm" and you know it's right, why question those others whose situation is different than your own?

Bruce

PS: Rebecca Joe, Marilyn P: You ladies have it RIGHT!!

Awwww bless Bruce...I am gonna tell my friend how sweet you were about her when she gets home

I can vouch for their happiness people

[Laura_and_IanM 0]

I have to agree with opening up the minds. I have a friend that has had two relationships from online. The first one she married and he ended up doing something horrid to her daughter (which meeting him online has no bearing on that. anyone you meet can be a sleeze), the second guy, she has really taken her time and has been with him for almost 3 years now and they are engaged. The thing is, we have all gone through hardships when it comes to relationships. It doesn't matter if you meet them locally, or online. Either way you have to becareful with who you meet. When you get into any relationship, by putting aside all things that have gone wrong in the past, you are taking a big leap of faith. I made a huge leap of faith when I came back to Ian in the UK last May. There was a time when he was even confused about what he wanted. I had to sit him down and tell him..look I have put all my faith in you, and in us by coming here..leaving my children, leaving my friends..if you don't see us going anywhere then you need to let me go. I gave him his time and space and yes I was a little impatient lol, but that space and time paid off. We are now married and have started his immigration. I am going to go back real soon to my children for reasons that are private, but the bottom line is I took that leap of faith. It doesn't matter how a relationship starts or how it evolves, you are still taking that step. No matter what, all relationships should be respected whether you agree with it or not. There are still feelings involved. There are still hearts that are beating for one another.

Laura Mitchell

[babybunny 2]

[Sister Fracas 5]

Well, what's there to wonder about here anyway, really?

There is always fate, destiny or whatever one chooses to call it in every aspect of life. Whether it be making friends, finding a lover, getting a job, even winning the lotto.

Suffice it to say that intuition maybe plays a big part in things? I know that was a big part of it for me. But I use my intuition in all aspects of my life.

Trust? Fiddlesticks. I say you can be schmoozed to your face and if the liar is bent on manipulation, you won't see it coming. I don't see geographical nearness as some plus there.

So what really makes it so hard to grasp this concept? Is it really the circumstances of meeting on the web that bother some of our members, or the tone of the post? By that I mean whether or not the poster sounds 'starry-eyed' rather than 'eyes wide open'.

Whether you met your love next door or in the next 'window', I believe that falling in love is always a 'leap of faith'. There's no other inner place where one is more vulnerable. And if the inner place opens up first with 'words on a screen' that leads to more.......well then.... to me that's just a blessing of this brave new world.

one thousand percent agree....especially on the trust part...

My situation...went to a music chatroom out of boredom, starting talking to seemingly nice person. We talked friendly in the chatroom for a few weeks....he didn't even know I was female. My user name was real non-descript...not girly...hehe. I knew he didn't know, so I kinda made it obvious because I wanted to talk to him some more....we progressed to MSN chats, email and then graduated to the phone. Our first call was SIX HOURS! After about 5 months, he was kinda hinting at wanting me to visit him. I was nervous about that, so I decided to invite him HERE first...for a much later time. In May of 2002 I invited him to visit during the holidays. So after about 1 year of talking online...we met. He stayed for two weeks and proposed. I knew before I met him, that I was falling hard and it was just meeting him that confirmed that I couldn't let him go. I knew I wanted him in my future. I visited him, he visited me, and 2 years to the date we met online, we were married. We'll be married 3 years this year.

Like Rebecca and so many others have said...a lot of things in life take a leap of faith, including "traditional" courtships....but wait, what is THAT again? And can ANYONE on this site say they've done things the traditional way?