Pre nuptial

[Mark UK 3]

I know that it's the norm in life to hope for the best but plan for worst, but I do think that marriage is the exception.

Having a prenuptial shows caution and financial prudence. On the face of it, it's very sensible. But I believe love does not care about what's prudent or sensible. Having a prenup shows that you do think that there is a chance - it might be a 0.00000000000001% chance - that the marriage will fail. Personally, I would have not got married if I wasn't 100% convinced that the marriage would succeed. Gotta go all-in - that way you are more inclined to work at it. Just my opinion....

[OttoMay 0]

I am planning some kind of pre nup aggrement if you want to call it that. Not that I am planning or protecting for future divorce, but there is the, "till death due us part".

I expect her to out live me. The investments I bring into the marriage should be passed down to my children from before. What we acquire after and during the marriage would all go to present wife if I kick the bucket.

That is of course if I die the day after the wedding. During the course of our marriage, we can spend it all

When I mentioned to her my plans for my assests and what I have now should be passed to my children from before, she was a little suprised! She said she never thought any of this, she said she is not marring me for money but for love! She has no problem with this.

[Mrs.J06 4]

Hello everyone! I am just thinking how would you react if your fiance ask you to sign a pre-nuptial agreement?

1) make sure you understand it all and it is fair to both of you

2) sign it

3) but it in a drawer and forget about it

At least that's what I did....

[Tsup2 0]

If he didnt mention the pre-nup until after you arrived in the US then I would be suspicious. If you sign the pre-nup you are still entitled to 50 percent of the assets acquired during the marriage in the event of divorce.

[SterlingGirl 1]

Gotta go all-in - that way you are more inclined to work at it.

There's a difference between being committed and being naive. Besides - if the only thing that gives you incentive to work at it is what you stand to lose financially? The marriage might as well fail. That's like staying together because of home equity, or "for the kids" - you're not doing it for the right reasons. Simply remaining together shouldn't be the only desired outcome; truly wanting to be there and still loving each other despite any hardships, that should be the goal.

If I found out my man was only staying with me because he doesn't want to lose half? That's as good as a divorce. In that event, a good pre-nup would actually be quite helpful. To me, real love is knowing you could leave at anytime, incurring no worldly or monetary penalty, yet choosing to out of love and commitment. So in essence, a pre-nup would remove that doubt for me. If we both knew we really had nothing to lose by leaving each other and are still together, we could be more assured we're both sticking around out of a genuine desire to make it work.

[DanielParul 50]

Hello everyone! I am just thinking how would you react if your fiance ask you to sign a pre-nuptial agreement?

Honestly, I would have been a bit shocked if Daniel had asked me to coz we both have always shared whatever we have. I had a very good job and quite a bit of saved money (in $$) and he has the same and we never thought who's spending how much. Now we have everything joint besides we don't have any baggage/liabilities from past so the one time we touched on this topic, Daniel was totally against it and we have never talked about it again.

[reeses16 8]

Everything we have we built together so, it didn't matter. In our situation it didn't fit. But I understand why prenups can be useful. I wouldn't have been offended if I were ask to sign one or hesitate to ask for one if I thought it was important.

[smiley888 0]

Hello everyone! I am just thinking how would you react if your fiance ask you to sign a pre-nuptial agreement?

Hmm that can only mean.. one is so rich and he/she cant share it with his/her wife/husband..

- thats correct! aside from that lack of trust too and maybe some negative feelings about the future.. i have a friend on a k1 visa too that signed a pre-nup agreement well it was not ok with her but to prove that she is not after his money she signed it, and well as i can see she is not happy with him, we always talk on phone and she tells me everything.. i think she is in denial that the guy loves her truly but as i can see from what she is telling me he hubby is weird!!! she went here 1st week of july and until now she is a virgin.. well its not only about S** right but well i know u understand what i am saying...

[thedreamgl 0]

Prenups in no way mean he/she is not there for the long run. However, when couples come from different economic backgrounds, I could see prenups being a way to safeguard personal assets in case things do not work out. If they do, you would never look again at that piece of paper you signed. Besides, marriage fraud, as we all know, is still all to common for the K1 visas.. So, I'd take it that he/she is prudent with the finances, and that's a skill you want your loved one to have.

[Joan >3 Bob 20]

I disagree and do not think a prenuptial meas the marriage is not expected to last. In today's world it is needed and protection for both parties, especially very long distant relationships, and especially since there are so many scammers in the world today. If both are in true love the marriage will work and the prenuptial will only be a piece of paper that both will forget very soon because it will never be needed. I love my fiancee and we are getting a prenuptial. I expect my marriage to last forever and the last thing I expect would our marriage to end.