My Interview Kingston, Jamaica June 24th, 2008

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Forgot to add;

A lot of people going to the embassy with fraudulent documents (birth certificates, marriage certificates, fake non-impiedment forms, police certs)...just takes up more time and makes it difficult for everyone else...automatic lifetime band. Sad thing, people are paying big money for these documents/services. It's just crazy....now, I hear it's appt. letters...wah di rass a gwaane.

[clairern 0]

Hey Lawny..Good to hear that you are back safe, sound and HAPPY. You relate your interview experience very vividly and make me feel as if I was there. Now I understand why the embassy is so backed up.'

Anyway, CONGRATS to you and Marcel and I hope you both have a long and happy life together.

Much Love

Claire

[kishmar 0]

First of all Thank the Almighty God for giving me STRENGTH on June 24th.

LADIES and GENTS….let me say this loud and clear. BEFORE YOU FILE FOR ANYONE (I don’t care what kind of visa it is) ASK IF ANY ONE HAS FILE FOR THEM BEFORE……….ASKED IF ANY ONE HAS FILED FOR THEM BEFORE

Because of the BACKA’TIVE powers of the YARDIE thread here on VJ I had no worries about my interview at all. Matter a fact, we laughed the whole time we were waiting for the actually interview.

First, don’t even rush getting to the interview too early (you still have to wait). I got there around 1:15. My interview was scheduled for 1:00pm. I was not about to stand in the hot sun and sweat out my fabulous eye makeup (woieeeee)…just a joke. I wasn’t feeling well. Went through security no problems. Guards were joking with me because I had a huge bag with my well-organized folder. Had everything I needed inside my fiance’s passport and handed it to the guard. All the guard could do was look at me DUMBFOUNDED and said how you know this, I smiled and said…I can’t tell you, because it’s top secret.

First of all I was at the embassy for 3 hours. The had 220 interviews that day.

Section A

Document Verification

All of your documents are turned in and your medical is turned in if you hand carried it. (156,156K,157,I-134 (affidavit of support) and my 2007 tax transcript w/W-2, his birth certificate, non-impediment, police record, paymaster receipt $131/US. I didn’t turn in anything else to back up my affidavit of support and they didn’t ask for it. She just looked at everything and said (you must be a secretary) and how organized my file was. She spent most of the time talking about my hair (which was in braids). She said all is well. (5mins).

Section B

Fingerprints

I don’t even think we spent a minute here.

Section C

Actually Interview

Okay. This is where we spent almost 3 hours and it went fairly quickly because my fiancé was telling jokes and we were playing tic-tac-toe for 2 hours and writing love notes to each other. Now, remember you are being watched from the time you enter the embassy until the time you have your interview (I’ll explain later). After watching people getting approved, denied or blue slipped, we weren’t even worried. Some of the CO are rude and out of line. Of the 7 couples that I knew that had interviews that day only 3 of us were APPROVED, 3 denied, 1 blue slipped. (I’ll explain later). Let me tell you something they know if you’re going to get the visa even before you get to the window. If you have things in order, you should have no problems.

Now, it’s our turn. Got a young white man. He was very nice and friendly. Who looked like the Jamaican sun burned the heck out of him. He looked like a burnt lobster with a massive AFRO. I told you we were cracking jokes the entire time we were there. We went to the window #19 and were sworn in. He asked me who I was and I told him. Man comes over whispers in his ears and his TONE changes. WTH…whatever I said to myself. He tells my fiancé to have a seat far away. Now, we were sitting in front of this guy in the 3rd row for almost 3 hours and have made eye contact with him most of the time. Now, his tone changed…then he’s replaced my an older woman, who was not friendly and very STERN. When they made the switch I said good afternoon and she said NOTHING…so, I said it again. GOOD AFTERNOON…still no reply…she BLURTS out…how did you get your U.S. citizenship. I said excuse me, you’re suppose to greet the people you are interviewing and I think that you’re VERY RUDE. Now, can we start this again? Good afternoon, she replies, good afternoon and tones it down just a bit. Her questions came like RAPID fire and I FIRED right back. I didn’t even blink. I never lost eye contact with her. Her main focus was how I obtained my green card (which was 29 years ago) and then my U.S. citizenship. So, I answered. Then the questions were about my fiancé, his family, my family, when, where, how, we met, what we did, blah..blah…blah…she asked me 3 times when we got married, called me Mrs. Wynter 3 times and I corrected her, asked me how old OUR son was (told here we don’t have any children yet)…then she asked me again, so, tell me where did you all get married again and here was my response.

“Ma’am, maybe you don’t understand the K-1 process and you need to be retrained…so, let me explain it to you. (MOUTH WIDE OPEN) You cannot be married when you file the K-1. You have 90 days to get married after you fiancé enters the states.” (ROLLED my eyes). At that point, an older white man walks up behind her whispers something in her ears and she got up and walked a way. I waved bye-bye to her. (YES I’M CRAZY). The older man may have been a supervisor and he could see that I was upset. He told me to smile and that we’re almost done. He says to me that my fiancé and I seem like a very loving couple and he said I should let him win sometimes when we play TIC-TAC-TOE…there was no way he could have know that unless he saw that through the cameras.. We were sitting in the 3 row all the way in the back and the security camera was right above our heads. So, you see they are watching you.

He says thank you and tells me to call my fiancé over and have a seat in the back, I give my fiancé a BIG kiss and told him to knock them out (people that were seated started to laugh). I didn’t even get a chance to sit down before he called me back to the window. He asked him 1 QUESTION….1 DAMN QUESTION…”Tell me about her son”…that was it. All the things we went over and I got 25 questions in ALL. I felt like I was the beneficiary. What a joke.

The couples that had interviews that day that I knew didn’t get approved.

Two of them had multiple K-1 filings by other women that were unknown to the USC. The other, was married and didn’t tell the USC. I was so upset about this. So, I spent one more night in Kingston with the ladies, because they needed some sort of support. I was just very SAD.

After we were given the pink slip my fiancé would not stop kissing me that people in the place started to laugh and say LET THE WOMAN TAKE A BREATH. Then he started to CRY. I was laughing (I know I’m terrible). The CO said welcome to America and that he wished us the best in life. He ran into 3 of his friends in the court yard who wanted for us to finish the interview. The were approved a hour or so before us. They were all jumping around like they were at a football game (I was so embarrassed). I was like be quiet before dem lack up wi baxide. Of course once we got outside the embassy they were running around like EDIOTS. Got to love them. Went to airpak paid $550/Jamaican…went to dinner then went to ASYLUM for ladies night (Tuesday). My fiancé was attached to me like SUPERGULE for the rest of the time I was in Jamaica.

I left a lot out. So, if you want more details PM me. Do not let the CO intimdate you. They’re working for the United States of American. Don’t let them phase you in anyway. If you don’t understand a question, tell them to please repeat it. The lady that interviewed me is a VET 25 plus years under her belt (so the younger guy says). I didn’t even FLICKER when she was raising her voice…. God Bless and I love each and everyone of you. Again, thanks for the support.

Called to pick up the VISA 3 days later…but didn’t until the 5th day (we were BUSY)………..haaaaaaaaaaa It was suppose to be a GREYGOOSE celebration, but it turned into Banana rum crème. Now, I’m hooked on it.

First of all Thank the Almighty God for giving me STRENGTH on June 24th.

LADIES and GENTS….let me say this loud and clear. BEFORE YOU FILE FOR ANYONE (I don’t care what kind of visa it is) ASK IF ANY ONE HAS FILE FOR THEM BEFORE……….ASKED IF ANY ONE HAS FILED FOR THEM BEFORE

Because of the BACKA’TIVE powers of the YARDIE thread here on VJ I had no worries about my interview at all. Matter a fact, we laughed the whole time we were waiting for the actually interview.

First, don’t even rush getting to the interview too early (you still have to wait). I got there around 1:15. My interview was scheduled for 1:00pm. I was not about to stand in the hot sun and sweat out my fabulous eye makeup (woieeeee)…just a joke. I wasn’t feeling well. Went through security no problems. Guards were joking with me because I had a huge bag with my well-organized folder. Had everything I needed inside my fiance’s passport and handed it to the guard. All the guard could do was look at me DUMBFOUNDED and said how you know this, I smiled and said…I can’t tell you, because it’s top secret.

First of all I was at the embassy for 3 hours. The had 220 interviews that day.

Section A

Document Verification

All of your documents are turned in and your medical is turned in if you hand carried it. (156,156K,157,I-134 (affidavit of support) and my 2007 tax transcript w/W-2, his birth certificate, non-impediment, police record, paymaster receipt $131/US. I didn’t turn in anything else to back up my affidavit of support and they didn’t ask for it. She just looked at everything and said (you must be a secretary) and how organized my file was. She spent most of the time talking about my hair (which was in braids). She said all is well. (5mins).

Section B

Fingerprints

I don’t even think we spent a minute here.

Section C

Actually Interview

Okay. This is where we spent almost 3 hours and it went fairly quickly because my fiancé was telling jokes and we were playing tic-tac-toe for 2 hours and writing love notes to each other. Now, remember you are being watched from the time you enter the embassy until the time you have your interview (I’ll explain later). After watching people getting approved, denied or blue slipped, we weren’t even worried. Some of the CO are rude and out of line. Of the 7 couples that I knew that had interviews that day only 3 of us were APPROVED, 3 denied, 1 blue slipped. (I’ll explain later). Let me tell you something they know if you’re going to get the visa even before you get to the window. If you have things in order, you should have no problems.

Now, it’s our turn. Got a young white man. He was very nice and friendly. Who looked like the Jamaican sun burned the heck out of him. He looked like a burnt lobster with a massive AFRO. I told you we were cracking jokes the entire time we were there. We went to the window #19 and were sworn in. He asked me who I was and I told him. Man comes over whispers in his ears and his TONE changes. WTH…whatever I said to myself. He tells my fiancé to have a seat far away. Now, we were sitting in front of this guy in the 3rd row for almost 3 hours and have made eye contact with him most of the time. Now, his tone changed…then he’s replaced my an older woman, who was not friendly and very STERN. When they made the switch I said good afternoon and she said NOTHING…so, I said it again. GOOD AFTERNOON…still no reply…she BLURTS out…how did you get your U.S. citizenship. I said excuse me, you’re suppose to greet the people you are interviewing and I think that you’re VERY RUDE. Now, can we start this again? Good afternoon, she replies, good afternoon and tones it down just a bit. Her questions came like RAPID fire and I FIRED right back. I didn’t even blink. I never lost eye contact with her. Her main focus was how I obtained my green card (which was 29 years ago) and then my U.S. citizenship. So, I answered. Then the questions were about my fiancé, his family, my family, when, where, how, we met, what we did, blah..blah…blah…she asked me 3 times when we got married, called me Mrs. Wynter 3 times and I corrected her, asked me how old OUR son was (told here we don’t have any children yet)…then she asked me again, so, tell me where did you all get married again and here was my response.

“Ma’am, maybe you don’t understand the K-1 process and you need to be retrained…so, let me explain it to you. (MOUTH WIDE OPEN) You cannot be married when you file the K-1. You have 90 days to get married after you fiancé enters the states.” (ROLLED my eyes). At that point, an older white man walks up behind her whispers something in her ears and she got up and walked a way. I waved bye-bye to her. (YES I’M CRAZY). The older man may have been a supervisor and he could see that I was upset. He told me to smile and that we’re almost done. He says to me that my fiancé and I seem like a very loving couple and he said I should let him win sometimes when we play TIC-TAC-TOE…there was no way he could have know that unless he saw that through the cameras.. We were sitting in the 3 row all the way in the back and the security camera was right above our heads. So, you see they are watching you.

He says thank you and tells me to call my fiancé over and have a seat in the back, I give my fiancé a BIG kiss and told him to knock them out (people that were seated started to laugh). I didn’t even get a chance to sit down before he called me back to the window. He asked him 1 QUESTION….1 DAMN QUESTION…”Tell me about her son”…that was it. All the things we went over and I got 25 questions in ALL. I felt like I was the beneficiary. What a joke.

The couples that had interviews that day that I knew didn’t get approved.

Two of them had multiple K-1 filings by other women that were unknown to the USC. The other, was married and didn’t tell the USC. I was so upset about this. So, I spent one more night in Kingston with the ladies, because they needed some sort of support. I was just very SAD.

After we were given the pink slip my fiancé would not stop kissing me that people in the place started to laugh and say LET THE WOMAN TAKE A BREATH. Then he started to CRY. I was laughing (I know I’m terrible). The CO said welcome to America and that he wished us the best in life. He ran into 3 of his friends in the court yard who wanted for us to finish the interview. The were approved a hour or so before us. They were all jumping around like they were at a football game (I was so embarrassed). I was like be quiet before dem lack up wi baxide. Of course once we got outside the embassy they were running around like EDIOTS. Got to love them. Went to airpak paid $550/Jamaican…went to dinner then went to ASYLUM for ladies night (Tuesday). My fiancé was attached to me like SUPERGULE for the rest of the time I was in Jamaica.

I left a lot out. So, if you want more details PM me. Do not let the CO intimdate you. They’re working for the United States of American. Don’t let them phase you in anyway. If you don’t understand a question, tell them to please repeat it. The lady that interviewed me is a VET 25 plus years under her belt (so the younger guy says). I didn’t even FLICKER when she was raising her voice…. God Bless and I love each and everyone of you. Again, thanks for the support.

Called to pick up the VISA 3 days later…but didn’t until the 5th day (we were BUSY)………..haaaaaaaaaaa It was suppose to be a GREYGOOSE celebration, but it turned into Banana rum crème. Now, I’m hooked on it.

[kishmar 0]

First of all Thank the Almighty God for giving me STRENGTH on June 24th.

LADIES and GENTS….let me say this loud and clear. BEFORE YOU FILE FOR ANYONE (I don’t care what kind of visa it is) ASK IF ANY ONE HAS FILE FOR THEM BEFORE……….ASKED IF ANY ONE HAS FILED FOR THEM BEFORE

Because of the BACKA’TIVE powers of the YARDIE thread here on VJ I had no worries about my interview at all. Matter a fact, we laughed the whole time we were waiting for the actually interview.

First, don’t even rush getting to the interview too early (you still have to wait). I got there around 1:15. My interview was scheduled for 1:00pm. I was not about to stand in the hot sun and sweat out my fabulous eye makeup (woieeeee)…just a joke. I wasn’t feeling well. Went through security no problems. Guards were joking with me because I had a huge bag with my well-organized folder. Had everything I needed inside my fiance’s passport and handed it to the guard. All the guard could do was look at me DUMBFOUNDED and said how you know this, I smiled and said…I can’t tell you, because it’s top secret.

First of all I was at the embassy for 3 hours. The had 220 interviews that day.

Section A

Document Verification

All of your documents are turned in and your medical is turned in if you hand carried it. (156,156K,157,I-134 (affidavit of support) and my 2007 tax transcript w/W-2, his birth certificate, non-impediment, police record, paymaster receipt $131/US. I didn’t turn in anything else to back up my affidavit of support and they didn’t ask for it. She just looked at everything and said (you must be a secretary) and how organized my file was. She spent most of the time talking about my hair (which was in braids). She said all is well. (5mins).

Section B

Fingerprints

I don’t even think we spent a minute here.

Section C

Actually Interview

Okay. This is where we spent almost 3 hours and it went fairly quickly because my fiancé was telling jokes and we were playing tic-tac-toe for 2 hours and writing love notes to each other. Now, remember you are being watched from the time you enter the embassy until the time you have your interview (I’ll explain later). After watching people getting approved, denied or blue slipped, we weren’t even worried. Some of the CO are rude and out of line. Of the 7 couples that I knew that had interviews that day only 3 of us were APPROVED, 3 denied, 1 blue slipped. (I’ll explain later). Let me tell you something they know if you’re going to get the visa even before you get to the window. If you have things in order, you should have no problems.

Now, it’s our turn. Got a young white man. He was very nice and friendly. Who looked like the Jamaican sun burned the heck out of him. He looked like a burnt lobster with a massive AFRO. I told you we were cracking jokes the entire time we were there. We went to the window #19 and were sworn in. He asked me who I was and I told him. Man comes over whispers in his ears and his TONE changes. WTH…whatever I said to myself. He tells my fiancé to have a seat far away. Now, we were sitting in front of this guy in the 3rd row for almost 3 hours and have made eye contact with him most of the time. Now, his tone changed…then he’s replaced my an older woman, who was not friendly and very STERN. When they made the switch I said good afternoon and she said NOTHING…so, I said it again. GOOD AFTERNOON…still no reply…she BLURTS out…how did you get your U.S. citizenship. I said excuse me, you’re suppose to greet the people you are interviewing and I think that you’re VERY RUDE. Now, can we start this again? Good afternoon, she replies, good afternoon and tones it down just a bit. Her questions came like RAPID fire and I FIRED right back. I didn’t even blink. I never lost eye contact with her. Her main focus was how I obtained my green card (which was 29 years ago) and then my U.S. citizenship. So, I answered. Then the questions were about my fiancé, his family, my family, when, where, how, we met, what we did, blah..blah…blah…she asked me 3 times when we got married, called me Mrs. Wynter 3 times and I corrected her, asked me how old OUR son was (told here we don’t have any children yet)…then she asked me again, so, tell me where did you all get married again and here was my response.

“Ma’am, maybe you don’t understand the K-1 process and you need to be retrained…so, let me explain it to you. (MOUTH WIDE OPEN) You cannot be married when you file the K-1. You have 90 days to get married after you fiancé enters the states.” (ROLLED my eyes). At that point, an older white man walks up behind her whispers something in her ears and she got up and walked a way. I waved bye-bye to her. (YES I’M CRAZY). The older man may have been a supervisor and he could see that I was upset. He told me to smile and that we’re almost done. He says to me that my fiancé and I seem like a very loving couple and he said I should let him win sometimes when we play TIC-TAC-TOE…there was no way he could have know that unless he saw that through the cameras.. We were sitting in the 3 row all the way in the back and the security camera was right above our heads. So, you see they are watching you.

He says thank you and tells me to call my fiancé over and have a seat in the back, I give my fiancé a BIG kiss and told him to knock them out (people that were seated started to laugh). I didn’t even get a chance to sit down before he called me back to the window. He asked him 1 QUESTION….1 DAMN QUESTION…”Tell me about her son”…that was it. All the things we went over and I got 25 questions in ALL. I felt like I was the beneficiary. What a joke.

The couples that had interviews that day that I knew didn’t get approved.

Two of them had multiple K-1 filings by other women that were unknown to the USC. The other, was married and didn’t tell the USC. I was so upset about this. So, I spent one more night in Kingston with the ladies, because they needed some sort of support. I was just very SAD.

After we were given the pink slip my fiancé would not stop kissing me that people in the place started to laugh and say LET THE WOMAN TAKE A BREATH. Then he started to CRY. I was laughing (I know I’m terrible). The CO said welcome to America and that he wished us the best in life. He ran into 3 of his friends in the court yard who wanted for us to finish the interview. The were approved a hour or so before us. They were all jumping around like they were at a football game (I was so embarrassed). I was like be quiet before dem lack up wi baxide. Of course once we got outside the embassy they were running around like EDIOTS. Got to love them. Went to airpak paid $550/Jamaican…went to dinner then went to ASYLUM for ladies night (Tuesday). My fiancé was attached to me like SUPERGULE for the rest of the time I was in Jamaica.

I left a lot out. So, if you want more details PM me. Do not let the CO intimdate you. They’re working for the United States of American. Don’t let them phase you in anyway. If you don’t understand a question, tell them to please repeat it. The lady that interviewed me is a VET 25 plus years under her belt (so the younger guy says). I didn’t even FLICKER when she was raising her voice…. God Bless and I love each and everyone of you. Again, thanks for the support.

Called to pick up the VISA 3 days later…but didn’t until the 5th day (we were BUSY)………..haaaaaaaaaaa It was suppose to be a GREYGOOSE celebration, but it turned into Banana rum crème. Now, I’m hooked on it.

UNBELIEVABLE!!!

Seems like you were the one they interviewed and not your SO

[Forever Young 1]

CONGRATS AGAIN LAWNY!!

Bwoy, what a pissa cheek! I am so proud of you for keeping your head and letting her have it! Is what deh hell she tek dis ting fuh! DON'T EVER FORGET...SHE WORKS FOR YOU!!!!!! I would have been HEATED!!! How dare she! DYAM DISGUSTING HAN DYAM HOUTTA HORDA!!!

Hennyweh...moving on to more pleasant things...I am so happy that you both made it through alright!

Many blessings to you both and I wish you absolutely nothing but the BEST!!!!

Bless-ed,

Gill

P.S.- I would send a letter to the Ambassador and to Condie Rice's office!! Explaining to them that is it there policy to HARASS U.S. citizens at the Kingston Embassy and for a 25 year vet - she obvioulsy has a great deal to learn about the process and even more to learn about empathy and courtesy!

Don't let it slide...WRITE A LETTER!!!!

Edited July 7, 2008 by Forever Young

[BelwinMills 0]

Congrats Lawny I can't believe how rude that lady was. Your story was so great!! It brought me back to our interview. I was just imagining sitting there again. How is everything going?

[Marlita 0]

Whew!! Well after readng this ere i dont know if I am more scared than ever! That was a roller coaster ride. had to stop reading 3 times just to catch my breath. Thanks for this experience it really does help.

Were there really over 200 interviews that day? That is crazy. Mi tell yuh seh its wan exodus outta Jamaica. Now I am more nervous about the mister going the interview alone. He is very soft spoken and may get all tongue tied if someboday start yelling at him like this lady. I just dont know if I can afford to fly down there again plus for our anniversary

[foreverido 2]

WOW! What an experience.

[MSNELLY 0]

CONGRATS LAWNY

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

CONGRATS AGAIN LAWNY!!

Bwoy, what a pissa cheek! I am so proud of you for keeping your head and letting her have it! Is what deh hell she tek dis ting fuh! DON'T EVER FORGET...SHE WORKS FOR YOU!!!!!! I would have been HEATED!!! How dare she! DYAM DISGUSTING HAN DYAM HOUTTA HORDA!!!

Hennyweh...moving on to more pleasant things...I am so happy that you both made it through alright!

Many blessings to you both and I wish you absolutely nothing but the BEST!!!!

Bless-ed,

Gill

P.S.- I would send a letter to the Ambassador and to Condie Rice's office!! Explaining to them that is it there policy to HARASS U.S. citizens at the Kingston Embassy and for a 25 year vet - she obvioulsy has a great deal to learn about the process and even more to learn about empathy and courtesy!

Don't let it slide...WRITE A LETTER!!!!

Gill, I'm wayyyyyy ahead of yah...remember you taught me very well. Remember after the interview the lady asked me how the process was and I told her what could change the rudeness of the person that interviewed me.

[*JG* 2]

Whew!! Well after readng this ere i dont know if I am more scared than ever! That was a roller coaster ride. had to stop reading 3 times just to catch my breath. Thanks for this experience it really does help.

Were there really over 200 interviews that day? That is crazy. Mi tell yuh seh its wan exodus outta Jamaica. Now I am more nervous about the mister going the interview alone. He is very soft spoken and may get all tongue tied if someboday start yelling at him like this lady. I just dont know if I can afford to fly down there again plus for our anniversary

No, no, no no, NO! Stop those thoughts right now. You are going to do exactly what I tell you to do right now.......what I told Gill and what I told Tre. You are going to pep talk that man of yours before the interview. You are going to quiz him over and over until he knows everything backwards and forwards. You are going to prep him with so much proofs, he is going to overwhelm them. You are going to build his confidence, even if you are pretending. In turn, this is going to build yours. Evan is going to walk in there like he owns the place. He will be fine.

Most importantly, in 9 days or whatever your timeline says, the two of you are going to reconnect and reassure each other.

STOP stressing about things before they even give you reason to stress over them. You can do this, Marlita. You have come so far. The wait has been hard; but it is not going to kill you. Just hang in there. We will talk you through it. We will pray for you. Please do not stress until you absolutely have to.

It's almost over.

And last; but not least, the approval rate on the Yardie thread has been very, very good as of late. We do know what we are doing and we seem to be getting better and better with time. You will benefit from that knowledge and experience. Trust us. Trust Evan. And most importantly, trust yourself!

[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

CONGRATULATIONS Trewlany and Marcel job well done.

Be Blessed

Roxcie

[typee0 0]

Congrats, Lawny

I applaud you for standing for what is rightfully yours. Never allow someone to intimidate you.

Marlita, Woman up so the job can get done. You have not come this far for nothing. Jomo girl, Good looking out.

Everyone Keep your head up. Look to the hills from whence cometh your help.

Health and Wellness to all, and may your lives be filled with vibrant colors.

[Marlita 0]

Whew!! Well after readng this ere i dont know if I am more scared than ever! That was a roller coaster ride. had to stop reading 3 times just to catch my breath. Thanks for this experience it really does help.

Were there really over 200 interviews that day? That is crazy. Mi tell yuh seh its wan exodus outta Jamaica. Now I am more nervous about the mister going the interview alone. He is very soft spoken and may get all tongue tied if someboday start yelling at him like this lady. I just dont know if I can afford to fly down there again plus for our anniversary

No, no, no no, NO! Stop those thoughts right now. You are going to do exactly what I tell you to do right now.......what I told Gill and what I told Tre. You are going to pep talk that man of yours before the interview. You are going to quiz him over and over until he knows everything backwards and forwards. You are going to prep him with so much proofs, he is going to overwhelm them. You are going to build his confidence, even if you are pretending. In turn, this is going to build yours. Evan is going to walk in there like he owns the place. He will be fine.

Most importantly, in 9 days or whatever your timeline says, the two of you are going to reconnect and reassure each other.

STOP stressing about things before they even give you reason to stress over them. You can do this, Marlita. You have come so far. The wait has been hard; but it is not going to kill you. Just hang in there. We will talk you through it. We will pray for you. Please do not stress until you absolutely have to.

It's almost over.

And last; but not least, the approval rate on the Yardie thread has been very, very good as of late. We do know what we are doing and we seem to be getting better and better with time. You will benefit from that knowledge and experience. Trust us. Trust Evan. And most importantly, trust yourself!

OMG! JG you made me cry reading this. I told you I was an emotional basket case today. And I just got done watching 3 hours of the friggin' Bachelor and LAWD GAWD!!! I was bawling the whole time she didnt choose the guy I wanted her to choose. You woulda swore the other man was my brother or something. So as I sit here snifflin and reading your message the tears came again.

MAN!! I don't know if this is what PMS is supposed to feel like but I know i dont like it.

Thank you thank you thank you! Those were some of the most sweetest nicest words I could possibly use right now.

Ok, time to woman up or at least sober up from all this wine I been drinking since leaving work.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

MARLITA (don't get me started)...

I listened to everything and did everything the LADIES here told me to do (EVERYTHING). Like I said, we were not the least bit stressed or worried or nervous. I don't know if it's because of our personalities, but we were joking from the time we got to the entrance until we left. YOUR HUSBAND WILL BE FINE. Like I said, the INTERVIEW was the easiest part of the PROCESS. If I had to do it again, I would not change a thing. I saw PLENTY of men who got through on their own. You could tell who had their paperwork in order and who did not. I spoke to a lot of people from the time you're in the courtyard until your called to the interview. A lot were nervous, but all I said to them was tell the truth, if you don't understand a question ask them to please repeat it and DON'T LET THEM RUSH YOU! Tell your hubby don't be intimidated by the CO or anyone else at the embassy (especially the rassclaat guards)...They eat, sleep and sh*t the same way you do everyday. Let me try and make you laugh, one the guards that was in Section A, girl his shoes, his shoes, everytime his took a step his shoes would squeek and I would crack the hell up. I have an infectious laugh, so when I laugh, people start to laugh. I could not wait to get out of Section A, so I would not hear his shoes make noise anymore...well, they switch post and he gets moved to Section C and I was dying again...but this time I was not the only laughing. Marcel kept on covering my mouth. So, girl no worries and keep the FAITH.