SAD SAD :(

[rebeccajo 14]

Your welcome. Some people on this sight have no sensitivity.

I don't know many CBP officers who, when interviewed for their position, were asked about their 'sensitivity' skills.

Blowing smoke up the OP's butt isn't sensitivity. It's irresponsible.

[sarko 0]

Thanks everybody for the answers and understanding where im coming from.

Ok, so yall are suggesting that I should stay in the US and find someone to sponsor us. She tried all her best, she called her mom, auties, uncles, cousins, .... even her adviser because she feels like me marrying her messed up my life.

We both 21 and not really mature thats why we are flipping up.

I cannot travel with my student visa because it is expired, where I'm from, students just get 3 months of student Visa, after the 3 months you visa expires but you are legal to stay in the US until you I20 expires and I should be taking a minimum of 12 credits. that's why I cannot go home

Thanks again

[pushbrk 12,898]

I don't understand why he can't travel if he's legal with a studant visa.

Divorce? If you really love her, don't do this. As said already it will just make things worse.

And... being upset with a bad situation is quite normal but saying something like "all American women fool people" is including your wife who you should LOVE. And more, by saying this it won't help at all.

Because when he re-enters the next time he knows he will likely be turned around if they question him about US family ties.

Right, as the husband of a USC, he's a foreigner with immigrant intent, student visa or not. Even if he's not turned around at the border, his passport will show he entered the USA after the marriage date on the marriage certificate he submits with his AOS application. As such the visa fraud would be exposed and consequences paid.

It's pretty easy to conclude that a sentence that includes "divorce" and "I can be free" indicates a lack of commitment to the spouse. At this point, I take it the "freedom" sought is the freedom to travel in case of an emergency.

I think the wise course is to risk that during the time from now until status is adjusted or at least advance parole is granted, the loss of travel without consequence. In hindsight, these issues are best thought through before decisions are made and actions taken with regard to marriage.

[Heliosphan 1]

Hello peeps !!

My story is really sad: My wife and I got married in March, we both are student. She is 6 month pregnant also. Since we do not make good money being students, we tried our best to ask her family for the Afidative of Support i864. Her Aunty asked me to fly to her place, I paid 800 $ in flight tickets in May. Since then she giving all sort of stories, I have an f1 visa, and I can not leave the country, I love my wife but I can't hurt myself being blocked in here, not being able to go back home whenever something bad happens. After 4 months, she just siad that she didn't do her taxes this year... I don't know what to do anymore.

Her aunty really hurt me, I paid 800 for the flight ticket, paid almost 400 for medicals, 4 months of anxiety. I'm confused, I just wanna give on everything.

The 2 solutions I have is:

Either do a divorce: don't get me wrong, I love my wifey but I would like to be able to go home and be free again. By doing a divorce I will be able to go home and renew my Student Visa and come back.

Either Asking her mom for the Affidative of Support: She only made 19000 $ last year because she was disabled.

Please let me know what do you think please. Thank you

If the mom made 19,000 for the year that's enough for you. (2 people) Your wife is a US Citizen so she doesn't have to be a dependent for the mom. Have the mom fill out the form for you.

Thank you, that's what I need not people judging me. Thanks again

Your welcome. Some people on this sight have no sensitivity.

Really, some people can just be really nasty for no reason.

[Nanusia & Lukaszek 0]

You have a wife, a baby on the way, and your main concern is going home & being "free"? I think you should have thought about that some 6 months ago.

Don't understand why you are attacking people here that are stating the obvious, divorcing is not solving any of your problems. Seems your main concern is a status in the country, not your wife or the baby on the way. Boy do you have some growing up to do... stuff college can't teach you.

Why you call American women fools is beyond me... didn't you marry one?

[anitacastillo 0]

We both 21 and not really mature thats why we are flipping up.

Thanks again

That says it all.

I hope that your wife gets her degree.

[sarko 0]

Again, I do not need you lecture ! mind your own business if you just want to lecture me and judge me. I do not need your advice at all cuz you don't know where what im saying. so chill out. Yes I wanna be free, and you do not know what Free means ! cuz let's say you go to Iraq, and not having any of your family around you, no friend... and that they say that you are stuck in there that you will not be able to comeback in the USA, what would you feel??? do you wanna be in a prison??

Who are you to tell me that I don't care about my wife and my future baby?? if I didn't mind I wouldn't try to find a solution. but again I love my wifey but I'm not ready to be locked in a country without any possibilities to visit my FAMILY whevever something happens or whenever I want! I'

thanks again

You have a wife, a baby on the way, and your main concern is going home & being "free"? I think you should have thought about that some 6 months ago.

Don't understand why you are attacking people here that are stating the obvious, divorcing is not solving any of your problems. Seems your main concern is a status in the country, not your wife or the baby on the way. Boy do you have some growing up to do... stuff college can't teach you.

Why you call American women fools is beyond me... didn't you marry one?

[Ivy. 113]

Again, I do not need you lecture ! mind your own business if you just want to lecture me and judge me. I do not need your advice at all cuz you don't know where what im saying. so chill out. Yes I wanna be free, and you do not know what Free means ! cuz let's say you go to Iraq, and not having any of your family around you, no friend... and that they say that you are stuck in there that you will not be able to comeback in the USA, what would you feel??? do you wanna be in a prison??

With all due respect.... chill, man.

People here are trying to give you advice that will help you. Even if someone's words are a bit more harsh than they could be, they still have good intentions and want to show you your ideas are wrong.

You live in a country you compared to a prison, you chose to come here, you married a citizen of that country and your son will also be a citizen of that "prison". The way it seems now, you'll probably spend your life here, or one significant part of it anyway. You're saying American women "fool people", you're saying you want to divorce your wife and be free.. Yeah, you didn't explain how exactly you meant it, but if someone concludes what they did, can you really blame them? Don't be rude and say "you don't need advice at all" because that's simply a lie. You're here because you need advice. You have no idea what to do now and how complicated it is to marry a foreigner.. and you need all advice you can get.

Luckily, you came to the right place. This forum is full of people who have learned a lot about how USCIS works and listening to them and following the guides you can save a lot of time, money and effort.

The way I see it, you should be totally ok. You married a US citizen and you have the right to adjust your status from an alien into a legal resident. What you have to do is prove that the last time you entered USA on a non-immigrant visa (like your student visa) you didn't intend to become an immigrant. With your wifes pregnancy you can prove easily you were... well... caught by surprise with the pregnancy (my guess anyway) and you got married because of her pregnancy (pregnancy not being the only reason obviously but let's just say it sped up things).

The best to start is reading reading the FAQ's and Guides. You need to adjust your status and ask for a Green Card. Before you get a Green Card, you can't travel in and out of country freely unless you have AP (Advanced Parole).

Whatever you do, good luck to you. And congratulations on the wedding and the pregnancy.

[pushbrk 12,898]

Again, I do not need you lecture ! mind your own business if you just want to lecture me and judge me. I do not need your advice at all cuz you don't know where what im saying. so chill out. Yes I wanna be free, and you do not know what Free means ! cuz let's say you go to Iraq, and not having any of your family around you, no friend... and that they say that you are stuck in there that you will not be able to comeback in the USA, what would you feel??? do you wanna be in a prison??

With all due respect.... chill, man.

People here are trying to give you advice that will help you. Even if someone's words are a bit more harsh than they could be, they still have good intentions and want to show you your ideas are wrong.

You live in a country you compared to a prison, you chose to come here, you married a citizen of that country and your son will also be a citizen of that "prison". The way it seems now, you'll probably spend your life here, or one significant part of it anyway. You're saying American women "fool people", you're saying you want to divorce your wife and be free.. Yeah, you didn't explain how exactly you meant it, but if someone concludes what they did, can you really blame them? Don't be rude and say "you don't need advice at all" because that's simply a lie. You're here because you need advice. You have no idea what to do now and how complicated it is to marry a foreigner.. and you need all advice you can get.

Luckily, you came to the right place. This forum is full of people who have learned a lot about how USCIS works and listening to them and following the guides you can save a lot of time, money and effort.

The way I see it, you should be totally ok. You married a US citizen and you have the right to adjust your status from an alien into a legal resident. What you have to do is prove that the last time you entered USA on a non-immigrant visa (like your student visa) you didn't intend to become an immigrant. With your wifes pregnancy you can prove easily you were... well... caught by surprise with the pregnancy (my guess anyway) and you got married because of her pregnancy (pregnancy not being the only reason obviously but let's just say it sped up things).

The best to start is reading reading the FAQ's and Guides. You need to adjust your status and ask for a Green Card. Before you get a Green Card, you can't travel in and out of country freely unless you have AP (Advanced Parole).

Whatever you do, good luck to you. And congratulations on the wedding and the pregnancy.

You'll need to decide whether living in the USA with your wife and child is of more or less importance than a few months of inability to travel internationally. The best time to make this decision was more than six months ago.

If you leave the USA, you should expect a long drawn out process to return, if ever. A divorce will not change the difficulties you would face.

If you're man enough to say you don't need lectures from people trying to help you then you're man enough to make your decision and live with the result.

[ronjie 0]

Sad Sad... i think that says it all........sorry, but when u have a child it's not all about your wants and needs anymore. talk about jail!! the baby is the one without any choices. you need to change your thinking pattern and start thinking about whats best for your family... slow down, take a deep breath and choose your move's wisely

[morocco4ever 63]

Perhaps you two should think seriously about adoption for this child. If you are not ready for a commitment, and your wife is not in a financial situation to support a child by herself, there are many people out there that can give the baby a really good life until you and your wife can achieve maturity and settle your immigration situation.

[JVKn'CVO 11]

If his visa expires in 2011, that is 3 years. Many things can change in 3 years, the wife could have a job by then, and be able to do the affidavit herself. Can't they wait a few years until their economic situation is better and then adjust? they have until the expiration of his visa to do so, right?

(I'm thinking out loud, corrections/ additional advice appreciated)

OP, I understand that it's really tough for you to be away from home for years, but I think if you wait it out and do things right, it will be worth it in the end. What if you are unable to renew your visa, and get caught in an inmigration tangle? you could be separated from your wife and son for years too.

Saludos,

Caro

[Ivy. 113]

If his visa expires in 2011, that is 3 years. Many things can change in 3 years, the wife could have a job by then, and be able to do the affidavit herself. Can't they wait a few years until their economic situation is better and then adjust? they have until the expiration of his visa to do so, right?

(I'm thinking out loud, corrections/ additional advice appreciated)

I'm no expert (far from it) but from what I understand he could do that if he stays in the US. If he leaves and wants to come back on a student visa, he'll have problems.

[pushbrk 12,898]

If his visa expires in 2011, that is 3 years. Many things can change in 3 years, the wife could have a job by then, and be able to do the affidavit herself. Can't they wait a few years until their economic situation is better and then adjust? they have until the expiration of his visa to do so, right?

(I'm thinking out loud, corrections/ additional advice appreciated)

I'm no expert (far from it) but from what I understand he could do that if he stays in the US. If he leaves and wants to come back on a student visa, he'll have problems.

That is correct because unless any future US entry will be with intent to immigrate. Your freedom to enter and re-enter goes away once you marry a US Citizen. You are then deemed to have immigrant intent (because you do) and that's not allowed when entering with a student visa.

The OP already understands that. It's why he started the thread and feels like he's being jailed inside the borders of the US until he completes AOS and has a green card.

[sarko 0]

Like I said ! don't lecture me, and stop BS me !!! cuz I can't sit here and listen to people that do not have nothing to do except bashing people.

pushbrk Yes I'm man enough to not want to be lectured and judged, and if you don't like that close the window or do not click on my thread ! it's too simple !

Again, I do not need you lecture ! mind your own business if you just want to lecture me and judge me. I do not need your advice at all cuz you don't know where what im saying. so chill out. Yes I wanna be free, and you do not know what Free means ! cuz let's say you go to Iraq, and not having any of your family around you, no friend... and that they say that you are stuck in there that you will not be able to comeback in the USA, what would you feel??? do you wanna be in a prison??

With all due respect.... chill, man.

People here are trying to give you advice that will help you. Even if someone's words are a bit more harsh than they could be, they still have good intentions and want to show you your ideas are wrong.

You live in a country you compared to a prison, you chose to come here, you married a citizen of that country and your son will also be a citizen of that "prison". The way it seems now, you'll probably spend your life here, or one significant part of it anyway. You're saying American women "fool people", you're saying you want to divorce your wife and be free.. Yeah, you didn't explain how exactly you meant it, but if someone concludes what they did, can you really blame them? Don't be rude and say "you don't need advice at all" because that's simply a lie. You're here because you need advice. You have no idea what to do now and how complicated it is to marry a foreigner.. and you need all advice you can get.

Luckily, you came to the right place. This forum is full of people who have learned a lot about how USCIS works and listening to them and following the guides you can save a lot of time, money and effort.

The way I see it, you should be totally ok. You married a US citizen and you have the right to adjust your status from an alien into a legal resident. What you have to do is prove that the last time you entered USA on a non-immigrant visa (like your student visa) you didn't intend to become an immigrant. With your wifes pregnancy you can prove easily you were... well... caught by surprise with the pregnancy (my guess anyway) and you got married because of her pregnancy (pregnancy not being the only reason obviously but let's just say it sped up things).

The best to start is reading reading the FAQ's and Guides. You need to adjust your status and ask for a Green Card. Before you get a Green Card, you can't travel in and out of country freely unless you have AP (Advanced Parole).

Whatever you do, good luck to you. And congratulations on the wedding and the pregnancy.

You'll need to decide whether living in the USA with your wife and child is of more or less importance than a few months of inability to travel internationally. The best time to make this decision was more than six months ago.

If you leave the USA, you should expect a long drawn out process to return, if ever. A divorce will not change the difficulties you would face.

If you're man enough to say you don't need lectures from people trying to help you then you're man enough to make your decision and live with the result.