July '08 filers

[Cham 3]

No movement at all this week so far. As a matter of fact, moved a bit backwards as a few new people signed up. What, USCIS folks started celebrating the Election day first thing Monday morning?

I hear ya, certainly seems to have slowed down a little in VSC this week

nothing with anywhere:((

Election week so maybe they wont WHO KNOWS with them!

[Naglfar 0]

No movement at all this week so far. As a matter of fact, moved a bit backwards as a few new people signed up. What, USCIS folks started celebrating the Election day first thing Monday morning?

I hear ya, certainly seems to have slowed down a little in VSC this week

nothing with anywhere:((

Election week so maybe they wont WHO KNOWS with them!

You wouldn't think Elections should have any affect on USCIS. Then again I don't think we should wait for 4+ months for someone to look at our files for whopping 20 minutes, but it IS happening, so...

[PB&JAM 1]

I have no hurry getting my noa2. we talked more about it today n my guy wants to make sure all his debts are paid off n save up a bit for when he moves here. so even after we get approved, he probly wont move here right away. will take the full 6 months to come here. so I may be looking at a full year. how do i deal with that? i'm angry n sad. i cant wait that long. i dont want to lose 6 months of our lives together over money! wat do i do? i just want to cry

Hi PB&JAM,

I know exactly how you feel as I am in the same situration almost. I came to England to be with my guy back in June of this year. Our plans had gotten so messed up before from a bad choice that he had made while in america and he wanted to fix it so brought me and my daughter here to be with him during the process.

Last week, he informs me that he isnt comeing home until his debts are paid in full. He owes his family quite a bit of money due to helping us out when I got here , finding a place to live etc. I just looked at him and didnt say a word but the tears instantly came because I thought to myself here we go again, another excuse! He then told me that he was planning on sending me home 2 weeks early so that he could give up the apartment, move in with his parents, get a second job and pay them off. He says he will then come home to me but it might be the entire 6 months before he can do this. I am so angry, upset, hurt and very defensive at this point.

The way I look at this is , we love each other, we have made a commitment to be as one for the rest of our lives. I dont need a piece of paper to tell me I am his wife cause I feel it in my heart. We call each other husband and wife and have for a long time. I always thought when you love someone you stick it out, you fight together to make ends meet you dont run away and do it on your own. I feel that money is coming between us and maybe it is cause in the long run he is missing the things he use to have , he says no but I see it everytime he sees his family get something new and he just cant afford it. Yes its been a struggle while I have been here and yes we have had days when food was a wonder how we gonna get it but we always do and we always make it. For me to be able to hold him and love him is worth more then any amount of money. I guess I am a fool to feel that way but after living my life with a abusive man , being with such a warm loving man is worth the world to me.

I have cried my eyes out for weeks now since he told me all of this and he says I dont understand and NO I dont understand. anyways he phoned the airlines and it is going to cost way to much to send me home so we are going with the original date of dec 1st. I will then return to america, stay with my daughter for a few weeks, find a full time job as the one I have there now is only part time but I cant raise my girls on that income alone. Then I will find a place for me and my girls and hope and pray that he loves me enough to return to me when he can. I have no other choice but to do this because he says he is doing this for my own good. Umm when did he get the right to decide what was for my own good? oh well life is life

So I do understand how you feel, I do feel the same way.. Money is more iimportant then me? Money is going to keep me and him apart but as he said its the best thing for me.

I hope your guy wakes up and realizes that there is other options and rushes home into your arms as soon as he can. My brit is to damn stubborn and cant see it , I told him to remember the pain of us being apart and to remember how it feels to look at me through a computer screen. I can only hope that he misses me so much that he will rush home then too.

God bless you

Chelle

Wow, your letter is very touching!! Some people have a sense of duty and commitment and think with their head more then their heart. i think your guy is looking at the big picture and looking for the long term good of your relationship, which isnt a bad thing. I think men have an extra burden to be the providers and it may embarrass them to move to get married and not be able to support their wife. i'm sure your guy adores you and is trying to make up for his mess. i know the anger!! i feel like my guy messed up...before he met me...and now i have to suffer for it. well, i have to accept him, the good and the bad. i encouraged my guy to do what he needs to do, stay and make money...it hurts him as much as me and we're not sure really what to do. on one hand, i think its practical and smart n i want him to stay there n get on his feet so we are prepared for a life together. one the other hand i think, its money, its not important. why lose 6 months of our lives together? So, not sure what will happen. He will probly do whatever i tell him to. (btw, I'M in charge on the finances when we get married! haha. we both agreed on that!).

I really hope your situation turns out well and I'm sure his sense of responsibility and duty are driving him to want to have a foundation for your family. You arent a fool to want him in your arms! you are a woman in love and deserve to be loved! I know he loves you...its just a complicated situation we are all in! being in love with someone so far away, then one person has to uproot and move across the world.

Best wishes to you. Try not to be too sad, we're in this together and one day...we will be with our loves. Take care and God bless! *hugs*

[jokalu 1]

looks like a dead week!!!! come on CSC move your a........, every single thing is a excuse for leave us in stand by!!!!!

[Cham 3]

I have no hurry getting my noa2. we talked more about it today n my guy wants to make sure all his debts are paid off n save up a bit for when he moves here. so even after we get approved, he probly wont move here right away. will take the full 6 months to come here. so I may be looking at a full year. how do i deal with that? i'm angry n sad. i cant wait that long. i dont want to lose 6 months of our lives together over money! wat do i do? i just want to cry

Hi PB&JAM,

I know exactly how you feel as I am in the same situration almost. I came to England to be with my guy back in June of this year. Our plans had gotten so messed up before from a bad choice that he had made while in america and he wanted to fix it so brought me and my daughter here to be with him during the process.

Last week, he informs me that he isnt comeing home until his debts are paid in full. He owes his family quite a bit of money due to helping us out when I got here , finding a place to live etc. I just looked at him and didnt say a word but the tears instantly came because I thought to myself here we go again, another excuse! He then told me that he was planning on sending me home 2 weeks early so that he could give up the apartment, move in with his parents, get a second job and pay them off. He says he will then come home to me but it might be the entire 6 months before he can do this. I am so angry, upset, hurt and very defensive at this point.

The way I look at this is , we love each other, we have made a commitment to be as one for the rest of our lives. I dont need a piece of paper to tell me I am his wife cause I feel it in my heart. We call each other husband and wife and have for a long time. I always thought when you love someone you stick it out, you fight together to make ends meet you dont run away and do it on your own. I feel that money is coming between us and maybe it is cause in the long run he is missing the things he use to have , he says no but I see it everytime he sees his family get something new and he just cant afford it. Yes its been a struggle while I have been here and yes we have had days when food was a wonder how we gonna get it but we always do and we always make it. For me to be able to hold him and love him is worth more then any amount of money. I guess I am a fool to feel that way but after living my life with a abusive man , being with such a warm loving man is worth the world to me.

I have cried my eyes out for weeks now since he told me all of this and he says I dont understand and NO I dont understand. anyways he phoned the airlines and it is going to cost way to much to send me home so we are going with the original date of dec 1st. I will then return to america, stay with my daughter for a few weeks, find a full time job as the one I have there now is only part time but I cant raise my girls on that income alone. Then I will find a place for me and my girls and hope and pray that he loves me enough to return to me when he can. I have no other choice but to do this because he says he is doing this for my own good. Umm when did he get the right to decide what was for my own good? oh well life is life

So I do understand how you feel, I do feel the same way.. Money is more iimportant then me? Money is going to keep me and him apart but as he said its the best thing for me.

I hope your guy wakes up and realizes that there is other options and rushes home into your arms as soon as he can. My brit is to damn stubborn and cant see it , I told him to remember the pain of us being apart and to remember how it feels to look at me through a computer screen. I can only hope that he misses me so much that he will rush home then too.

God bless you

Chelle

I am SO sorry about him doing this...I feel this way

YES he may owe money..BUT why did he not think about this BEFORE you all started the visa process????

HE can still pay off his debts IN AMERICA WITH YOU. To me it is an excuse. YOU are now number one in his life...NOT what he owes his parents or anyone else. This can all be done at home with you.

I will never get that. I hope BOTH of your men wake up and realize that THEY can do this IN AMERICA.

Kai would never do this to me. If he did I would be DEVESTATED! All they are doing is wasting months of time that was IMPORTANT and a number one priority to both of you. THEN they say OOPS i cant yet??

BS if you ask me, total BS and not fair. IF you love someone THAT much you will not make more heartache by staying behind when you can do it together in the same place.

SORRY I went off like that...just made me bawl my eyes out as I feel your pain! I been away from kai for 1.5 months and it KILLS ME. I could not imagine it longer if we did get the visa and he said 4 to 5 more months...OH HECK NO..

HUGS!!!!!

Meri and Kai

[jokalu 1]

I have no hurry getting my noa2. we talked more about it today n my guy wants to make sure all his debts are paid off n save up a bit for when he moves here. so even after we get approved, he probly wont move here right away. will take the full 6 months to come here. so I may be looking at a full year. how do i deal with that? i'm angry n sad. i cant wait that long. i dont want to lose 6 months of our lives together over money! wat do i do? i just want to cry

Hi PB&JAM,

I know exactly how you feel as I am in the same situration almost. I came to England to be with my guy back in June of this year. Our plans had gotten so messed up before from a bad choice that he had made while in america and he wanted to fix it so brought me and my daughter here to be with him during the process.

Last week, he informs me that he isnt comeing home until his debts are paid in full. He owes his family quite a bit of money due to helping us out when I got here , finding a place to live etc. I just looked at him and didnt say a word but the tears instantly came because I thought to myself here we go again, another excuse! He then told me that he was planning on sending me home 2 weeks early so that he could give up the apartment, move in with his parents, get a second job and pay them off. He says he will then come home to me but it might be the entire 6 months before he can do this. I am so angry, upset, hurt and very defensive at this point.

The way I look at this is , we love each other, we have made a commitment to be as one for the rest of our lives. I dont need a piece of paper to tell me I am his wife cause I feel it in my heart. We call each other husband and wife and have for a long time. I always thought when you love someone you stick it out, you fight together to make ends meet you dont run away and do it on your own. I feel that money is coming between us and maybe it is cause in the long run he is missing the things he use to have , he says no but I see it everytime he sees his family get something new and he just cant afford it. Yes its been a struggle while I have been here and yes we have had days when food was a wonder how we gonna get it but we always do and we always make it. For me to be able to hold him and love him is worth more then any amount of money. I guess I am a fool to feel that way but after living my life with a abusive man , being with such a warm loving man is worth the world to me.

I have cried my eyes out for weeks now since he told me all of this and he says I dont understand and NO I dont understand. anyways he phoned the airlines and it is going to cost way to much to send me home so we are going with the original date of dec 1st. I will then return to america, stay with my daughter for a few weeks, find a full time job as the one I have there now is only part time but I cant raise my girls on that income alone. Then I will find a place for me and my girls and hope and pray that he loves me enough to return to me when he can. I have no other choice but to do this because he says he is doing this for my own good. Umm when did he get the right to decide what was for my own good? oh well life is life

So I do understand how you feel, I do feel the same way.. Money is more iimportant then me? Money is going to keep me and him apart but as he said its the best thing for me.

I hope your guy wakes up and realizes that there is other options and rushes home into your arms as soon as he can. My brit is to damn stubborn and cant see it , I told him to remember the pain of us being apart and to remember how it feels to look at me through a computer screen. I can only hope that he misses me so much that he will rush home then too.

God bless you

Chelle

I am SO sorry about him doing this...I feel this way

YES he may owe money..BUT why did he not think about this BEFORE you all started the visa process????

HE can still pay off his debts IN AMERICA WITH YOU. To me it is an excuse. YOU are now number one in his life...NOT what he owes his parents or anyone else. This can all be done at home with you.

I will never get that. I hope BOTH of your men wake up and realize that THEY can do this IN AMERICA.

Kai would never do this to me. If he did I would be DEVESTATED! All they are doing is wasting months of time that was IMPORTANT and a number one priority to both of you. THEN they say OOPS i cant yet??

BS if you ask me, total BS and not fair. IF you love someone THAT much you will not make more heartache by staying behind when you can do it together in the same place.

SORRY I went off like that...just made me bawl my eyes out as I feel your pain! I been away from kai for 1.5 months and it KILLS ME. I could not imagine it longer if we did get the visa and he said 4 to 5 more months...OH HECK NO..

HUGS!!!!!

Meri and Kai

I agree whit you Meri, but my grandma says "the love is blind". so girls open your eyes, and find the true.... :yes

[Shannon ♥ Nick 0]

I have no hurry getting my noa2. we talked more about it today n my guy wants to make sure all his debts are paid off n save up a bit for when he moves here. so even after we get approved, he probly wont move here right away. will take the full 6 months to come here. so I may be looking at a full year. how do i deal with that? i'm angry n sad. i cant wait that long. i dont want to lose 6 months of our lives together over money! wat do i do? i just want to cry

Hi PB&JAM,

I know exactly how you feel as I am in the same situration almost. I came to England to be with my guy back in June of this year. Our plans had gotten so messed up before from a bad choice that he had made while in america and he wanted to fix it so brought me and my daughter here to be with him during the process.

Last week, he informs me that he isnt comeing home until his debts are paid in full. He owes his family quite a bit of money due to helping us out when I got here , finding a place to live etc. I just looked at him and didnt say a word but the tears instantly came because I thought to myself here we go again, another excuse! He then told me that he was planning on sending me home 2 weeks early so that he could give up the apartment, move in with his parents, get a second job and pay them off. He says he will then come home to me but it might be the entire 6 months before he can do this. I am so angry, upset, hurt and very defensive at this point.

The way I look at this is , we love each other, we have made a commitment to be as one for the rest of our lives. I dont need a piece of paper to tell me I am his wife cause I feel it in my heart. We call each other husband and wife and have for a long time. I always thought when you love someone you stick it out, you fight together to make ends meet you dont run away and do it on your own. I feel that money is coming between us and maybe it is cause in the long run he is missing the things he use to have , he says no but I see it everytime he sees his family get something new and he just cant afford it. Yes its been a struggle while I have been here and yes we have had days when food was a wonder how we gonna get it but we always do and we always make it. For me to be able to hold him and love him is worth more then any amount of money. I guess I am a fool to feel that way but after living my life with a abusive man , being with such a warm loving man is worth the world to me.

I have cried my eyes out for weeks now since he told me all of this and he says I dont understand and NO I dont understand. anyways he phoned the airlines and it is going to cost way to much to send me home so we are going with the original date of dec 1st. I will then return to america, stay with my daughter for a few weeks, find a full time job as the one I have there now is only part time but I cant raise my girls on that income alone. Then I will find a place for me and my girls and hope and pray that he loves me enough to return to me when he can. I have no other choice but to do this because he says he is doing this for my own good. Umm when did he get the right to decide what was for my own good? oh well life is life

So I do understand how you feel, I do feel the same way.. Money is more iimportant then me? Money is going to keep me and him apart but as he said its the best thing for me.

I hope your guy wakes up and realizes that there is other options and rushes home into your arms as soon as he can. My brit is to damn stubborn and cant see it , I told him to remember the pain of us being apart and to remember how it feels to look at me through a computer screen. I can only hope that he misses me so much that he will rush home then too.

God bless you

Chelle

I am SO sorry about him doing this...I feel this way

YES he may owe money..BUT why did he not think about this BEFORE you all started the visa process????

HE can still pay off his debts IN AMERICA WITH YOU. To me it is an excuse. YOU are now number one in his life...NOT what he owes his parents or anyone else. This can all be done at home with you.

I will never get that. I hope BOTH of your men wake up and realize that THEY can do this IN AMERICA.

Kai would never do this to me. If he did I would be DEVESTATED! All they are doing is wasting months of time that was IMPORTANT and a number one priority to both of you. THEN they say OOPS i cant yet??

BS if you ask me, total BS and not fair. IF you love someone THAT much you will not make more heartache by staying behind when you can do it together in the same place.

SORRY I went off like that...just made me bawl my eyes out as I feel your pain! I been away from kai for 1.5 months and it KILLS ME. I could not imagine it longer if we did get the visa and he said 4 to 5 more months...OH HECK NO..

HUGS!!!!!

Meri and Kai

I'm with ya on this one M, If I said that to Shan she'd be on the first plane over here to rip my testicles off, use em as ear plugs so she couldnt hear me screaming as she beat me with a VERY large stick

Edited November 5, 2008 by Shannon ♥ Nick

[Shannon ♥ Nick 0]

looks like a dead week!!!! come on CSC move your a........, every single thing is a excuse for leave us in stand by!!!!!

Maybe they're off to a slow start and by the end of the week all us July filers will be NOA'd ????? :whistle:

If they dont I'm gonna set Fluffy on em...................

Edited November 5, 2008 by Shannon ♥ Nick

[cdneh 3,112]

looks like a dead week!!!! come on CSC move your a........, every single thing is a excuse for leave us in stand by!!!!!

Maybe they're off to a slow start and by the end of the week all us July filers will be NOA'd ????? :whistle:

If they dont I'm gonna set Fluffy on em...................

Oh no!!! Not Fluffy!!

On second thought?

Do it.

[Cham 3]

looks like a dead week!!!! come on CSC move your a........, every single thing is a excuse for leave us in stand by!!!!!

Maybe they're off to a slow start and by the end of the week all us July filers will be NOA'd ????? :whistle:

If they dont I'm gonna set Fluffy on em...................

Oh no!!! Not Fluffy!!

On second thought?

Do it.

have you SEEEEENNNNNN fluffy *shivers*

Ya Kai said the same thing I would be over there ripping more then his TESTICLES hun LOL...the man would be a VERY stubby man when I got through ROFL!

Edited November 5, 2008 by Cham

[cdneh 3,112]

That's Fluffy? Skeery!

Even better.

Have a Nike moment...just do it

[Shannon ♥ Nick 0]

That's Fluffy? Skeery!

Even better.

Have a Nike moment...just do it

OK by popular demand if we get no NOA's this week Fluffy will be unleashed!! :devil:

Edited November 5, 2008 by Shannon ♥ Nick

[kiwiana 2]

hello guys.. im new to the site. i feel such a ***** for not discovering this site ahead of time... its such a helpful website particularly for those filing fiance visa etc. i have a fiance who live in the US. We have been together for 3 years and 7 mos now. hes visited the philippines almost every year since weve been together. the last time i saw him was last february 2008 and hes' planning to come home again this january 2009. cant wait!!!=)

anyways, he got his citizenship only this june 2008. Then he immediately filed for fiance fiance visa on july 2008. we id the research for about everything. but i did mostly of the research. Despite of our very busy schedules, finally, he was able to send the package last july 10, 2008. he did receive the NOA1 last august 1, 2008. Now, we are still waiting for the noa2.

i am just nervous about everything in this process. wheww!!!

count us in your prayers july filers!!!=) god bless us all.

Welcome!!!

[Ju&Ja 1]

OBAMA is president OMG I can stop to cry. I'm so proud of americans and of my man right now !!!!!!!

Maybe the officer got a day off today so then can go to vote

[Merry Ann's Mykul 0]

hello guys.. im new to the site. i feel such a ***** for not discovering this site ahead of time... its such a helpful website particularly for those filing fiance visa etc. i have a fiance who live in the US. We have been together for 3 years and 7 mos now. hes visited the philippines almost every year since weve been together. the last time i saw him was last february 2008 and hes' planning to come home again this january 2009. cant wait!!!=)

anyways, he got his citizenship only this june 2008. Then he immediately filed for fiance fiance visa on july 2008. we id the research for about everything. but i did mostly of the research. Despite of our very busy schedules, finally, he was able to send the package last july 10, 2008. he did receive the NOA1 last august 1, 2008. Now, we are still waiting for the noa2.

i am just nervous about everything in this process. wheww!!!

count us in your prayers july filers!!!=) god bless us all.

well welcome to VJ.... my fiance and i since been in VJ since August. i dont see much from PI. You and your fiance are ahead of us so just keep in touch if u want to ask something feel free. Honestly, he do more research than me....lol. Anyway there is no way to feel nervous coz after these process u will stay with him forever. Good luck and have a good journey.....